FabSwingers.com forum: Pushy people

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
25 weeks ago

North West

When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready.

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By *riel13Woman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

Pushy is a massive turn off... It can take me from, it's on to I'm off in a millisecond

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By *andadbodMan
25 weeks ago

Liverpool

can’t imagine anyone finding people being pushy a turn on really? Never come across it myself but I know the mrs had to put up with a lot of impatient guys messaging her.

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By *obilebottomMan
25 weeks ago

All over

I am pretty sure that would be the case for most people, no?

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
25 weeks ago

North West

"Pushy is a massive turn off... It can take me from, it's on to I'm off in a millisecond

Thankfully not encountered many pushy people on here

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
25 weeks ago

North West

"I am pretty sure that would be the case for most people, no? "

Yeah I'd imagine so. Just asking because the volume of pushy people on here seems high or so I've been told. Thankfully not encountered many.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
25 weeks ago

Cannock

Pushy = block

And those ones that are, like, three words, send, 3 words, send, 2 words, send...

Fucking write it all out and once for the love of god. Blowing up my phone isn't sexy!

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By *ngel7disguiseWoman
25 weeks ago

Loughborough

I hate pushy people in all aspects of life… with fab/sex etc it would absolutely be a turn off.

As somebody above said, who would find it a turn on?

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By * WillisMan
25 weeks ago

London

I like pushy people as my favourite pass time is going on swings in the park

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By *zChiefWoman
25 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

Yep ..pushy people make me uneasy.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
25 weeks ago

Cannock

"I like pushy people as my favourite pass time is going on swings in the park "

I was offered a swing in the park but it was raining.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
25 weeks ago

Voldsøy

Big turn off!

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

My profile is pretty clear.

Any attempt to bypass my preferences is classed as pushy and warrants a block.

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By * WillisMan
25 weeks ago

London

"I like pushy people as my favourite pass time is going on swings in the park

I was offered a swing in the park but it was raining."

That’s how I got into this lifestyle. My mate mentioned swinging and that it was the most fun you can have naked so I went to the local park stripped naked and sat on a swing expecting someone to push me. The screams and people running and covering their kids faces shook me to my core

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By *oughmanMan
25 weeks ago

Sunderland

No. I'm pretty layed back most of the time. Life at my own pace. Someone who's overly pushy is a big turn off.

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

MASSIVE turn-off. See also, thinking you're just being "persuasive".

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By * WillisMan
25 weeks ago

London

"MASSIVE turn-off. See also, thinking you're just being "persuasive". "

Oh go on you know you wanna

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By *bitofaslutWoman
25 weeks ago

Cannock

"I like pushy people as my favourite pass time is going on swings in the park

I was offered a swing in the park but it was raining.

This is what's great about fab. You can find people to scream at your naked body without ever leaving the house

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Only if im on dr dolittle with a pushmepullyou

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By *avexxMan
25 weeks ago

cheshire

pushy people.. can push off

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

"MASSIVE turn-off. See also, thinking you're just being "persuasive".

Oh go on you know you wanna

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By *luebell888Woman
25 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Pushy and controlling people really annoy me.

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By *ucka39Man
25 weeks ago

Newcastle

Off putting and luckily not faced it, everything always been on a mutual level

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By * WillisMan
25 weeks ago

London

"MASSIVE turn-off. See also, thinking you're just being "persuasive".

Oh go on you know you wanna

🤮"

😂😂😂

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By *riel13Woman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

"Pushy is a massive turn off... It can take me from, it's on to I'm off in a millisecond

Thankfully not encountered many pushy people on here "

Unfortunately I have 😕

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready. "

Absolutely. I wonder why they are pushing me to meet / video call so quickly. I've plenty of people I was happy to meet and then ended the connection because of that. It makes me feel overwhelmed and anxious.

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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It definitely puts me off and makes me think they wouldn't be very respectful in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Oh I love it when someone is pushy

It means I don’t have to think. Dont have to worry about standards. Or attraction. No need to think of witty conversation.

It’s a time saver really.

And time is money

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

Totally. It tends to lead to a block.

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By *WBiOnlyCoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

St Helens

Lol we had one guy round for a social. Was never going to go any further as he just wasn't for us but he decided to put the nail in the coffin by leaving us a verification where he said he enjoyed meeting us, but not having sex was a disappointment and WHEN (not IF?) we invite him round again he INSISTS Mrs be bent over waiting for him to make up for it. If he had been the sexiest man on the planet and we'd had a social that led to really good sex, we would have blocked him for that. Cannot stand pushiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready.

Second this.

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By *arleycplWoman
25 weeks ago

Leyburn

Massive turn off and hit the block button

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By *enelope2UWoman
25 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Pushy

Obligated

And those that can't accept no thanks

I don't need to tell you why....no thanks is enough

And if they clearly can't read a profile even more instant block

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
25 weeks ago

Brum

"Oh I love it when someone is pushy

It means I don’t have to think. Dont have to worry about standards. Or attraction. No need to think of witty conversation.

It’s a time saver really.

And time is money "

I agree with this to a certain extent.

If we’re talking, you like us, we like you and distance isn’t a huge issue then why not just meet for a quick in person chat?

Our only ongoing sexual connection from fab came from a forum conversation with a couple and we’d met in two weeks for a drink together then arranged a more intimate date after that.

The fact is that the vast majority of fab people are just dreamers.

If you want an internet pen pal then fine, just say that.

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By *eoBloomsMan
25 weeks ago

Springfield

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready.

It's good to hear that perspective. If I feel I've got enough common ground with someone I do like to meet in person reasonably soon if possible, and usually I suggest this. I guess that can seem pushy to some people which I would regret.🤷‍♂️

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By *lusherCouple
25 weeks ago

bodmin

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready. "

Where is the line between keen and push?

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By *eyeYCouple
25 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Totally! A recent one was 17 messages within 12 hours culminating in ,oh my good, we're within a mile of each other, what road do you live on?"

Errr no thanks!! Block! 🤯

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By *heirry84Man
25 weeks ago

Mids

I love pushy people! Nothing turns me on more than someone demanding a reply or them messaging me 12 times to my 1. Makes me feel loved and also shows me they are willing to put me over everything else....

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By *eoBloomsMan
25 weeks ago

Springfield

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready.

Where is the line between keen and push? "

Interesting question. I'd saying asking to meet is keen, repeatedly asking if someone has said no or not answered is pushy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

It’s horrendous but the good old block button does the trick

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By *edSirenWoman
25 weeks ago

magic mountain

I think there’s a balance to be found here.

If a connection is formed and they’re expressing they really want to see me… a little eagerness is fine. But even then, if they become too aggressive with it, (eg messaging multiple times when I’ve not replied, taking on a petulant child attitude, ignoring my boundaries etc), then it will turn me colder than an artic shower. All about the respect, and remembering you are chatting to a human being, not a bloody username.

The problem is too many people don’t read the room. And worse, they’re rude and entitled because of their misconception and selfishness. Stick to your boundaries, their behaviour is a reflection of their shitty selves. Fuck them (or in this case… maybe not 😂)

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

I think there's a difference between pushy and being interested. I like to feel actively interested in/desired. Like someone is quite keen to meet me.

Sometimes people can worry that expressing an interest/suggesting things (not a sex fucket list) is pushy and doing that? It's not - it might be seen as that if you're not compatible.

For the most part I've not really encountered pushy people - I make it very clear I'm a slow burner but once I'm there? 🔥

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
25 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

Define pushy?

As a guy (this is true amid all the rumours) , I’m now no longer sure how pushy is perceived. Do I wait three days to not spear needy/pushy/stalking or is that now showing her I’m ghosting her or not interested in this fast moving world of immediate communication.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
25 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Nothing is more of a turn off that pushy people.

A couples messaged late lastnight. I (Mrs) read the message and didn't reply for 5 minutes, then you get a second message like a toddler having a tantrum. Do people really think acting that way will work out for them?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
25 weeks ago

London

I just ignore them

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By *a LunaWoman
25 weeks ago

o o OO o o

Pushy, needy, overly keen - it all puts me off.

I like a bit of disinterested aloofness in my men.

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By *eoBloomsMan
25 weeks ago

Springfield

"Pushy, needy, overly keen - it all puts me off.

I like a bit of disinterested aloofness in my men. "

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By *bi HaiveMan
25 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Pushy is a very useful filter. 🤷‍♂️

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By *WBiOnlyCoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

St Helens

"When someone is pushy does it turn you off? It does me... I like to go things at my own pace and will meet when I feel ready.

Where is the line between keen and push? "

In n opinion, asking someone if they're free, amidst ongoing conversation, and accepting the answer and resuming normal conversation once or twice a week is keen. Could maybe even go to three times a week and still just be seen as "keen".

Begging, trying to convince you to change your mind, asking every single day amidst multiple unread/unanswered and/or trying to elicit wank material/talk is pushy and desperate.

My opinion only of course. Mrs x

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By *WBiOnlyCoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

St Helens

"Pushy, needy, overly keen - it all puts me off.

I like a bit of disinterested aloofness in my men. "

Absolutely. We are far FAR more likely to engage in play with someone who isn't interested in the end result than we are with someone who is chomping at the bit and desperate for things to be sexual as soon as possible.

It really makes me laugh actually, some men must have wanked themselves blind and stupid because all they have to do is say less words, particularly if you're at our place. If we've invited someone round it's because we think that there is a reasonable chance of things progressing. At the point they turn up, if we have ended up deciding we don't want anything sexual with them, it is 100% of the time because they turn up stinking like something that's been decomposing for weeks, or they proceed to permanently ruin any chance of us ever speaking to them again just by talking, and if they had left out 75% of the shit they did say (ie, constant attempts to suddenly change the conversation to a highly sexual one, talking completely unnecessary made up bollocks that they'vr invented about themselves and telling bad lies that give us second hand embarrassment for you) we would almost definitely have taken things forward.

They get past the hard part of talking online, made even harder if you are a single unverified man, only to talk themselves straight back out of any possibility of getting what they wanted.

It's like they want to do Fab on expert difficulty settings. It's giving guitar hero Dragon force on expert mode.

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