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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out." I like this. I know someone really doesn’t like to be touched after an intense session, gets all hypersensitive and if you try to cuddle will just kick at you and say “get out”.  | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out." wham bam.. gone lol | |||
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"Sweat-drenched, relaxed and kissing - with very gentle kissing and stroking of the bits, haha …usually provokes another round of fun too "More fun is... more  | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out. I like this. I know someone really doesn’t like to be touched after an intense session, gets all hypersensitive and if you try to cuddle will just kick at you and say “get out”. "It's a fairly common experience! | |||
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"Hand me a towel then cwtch. Kisses, stroking each other, kissing, go again. Repeat. Maybe after the 3rd round crack open some snacks as well, then go again." Woah snacks ?? Where do we sign up | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰" Or in reality...this ☝️ | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰" The snacks !! That's twice.. define the nibbles? | |||
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"Say sorry, cry, burn the sheets, bleach the mess, delete all evidence from your phone and move house 🤷🏼♂️🤣" Hotels for the win Lol | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out. I like this. I know someone really doesn’t like to be touched after an intense session, gets all hypersensitive and if you try to cuddle will just kick at you and say “get out”.
It's a fairly common experience!"It’s usually the opposite and needy! Seriously though for people that do get hypersensitive after BDSM, I find just making sure they are comfortable with a pillow l, a duvet if they want that check if they want a drink and then after a little while just place a hand on them if they can bear that without moving it Slow slowly they come back and end up slowly moving into a spoon and stroking the hair or something. But you have to go at that pace after all it’s their needs not yours.! | |||
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"Hand me a towel then cwtch. Kisses, stroking each other, kissing, go again. Repeat. Maybe after the 3rd round crack open some snacks as well, then go again." My, aren't you greedy. Not a bad thing either. | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰" Perfect. | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰" You have me there with the snacks - mature cheddar cheese and nice crackers. We can keep going and snacking until you throw me out | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰 The snacks !! That's twice.. define the nibbles?" Can nibble anything 🤪😋😇 | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out. I like this. I know someone really doesn’t like to be touched after an intense session, gets all hypersensitive and if you try to cuddle will just kick at you and say “get out”.
It's a fairly common experience!
It’s usually the opposite and needy!
Seriously though for people that do get hypersensitive after BDSM, I find just making sure they are comfortable with a pillow l, a duvet if they want that check if they want a drink and then after a little while just place a hand on them if they can bear that without moving it Slow slowly they come back and end up slowly moving into a spoon and stroking the hair or something. But you have to go at that pace after all it’s their needs not yours.!
"Exactly this I always make sure to have bottled water, chocolate (their favourite type), soothing creams, arnica cream or tablets, and monitor them. Some need a cuddle and some need space. Normally i give them a shirt with my aftershave on it but that’s more for the days after. | |||
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"Snacks, chat, cuddle and generally go again 😇😈🥰 The snacks !! That's twice.. define the nibbles? Can nibble anything 🤪😋😇" Nom nom lol | |||
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"Them... Freshen up, Dress, Leave. Me... Freshen up, Strip bed, Cuppa. " Sounds like effort lol 😆 | |||
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"I mean I've been known to let people have a sleep before going again if it's late at night/overnight 🤭😇" Mhhahhahahh I like this .. repeat business | |||
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"I want cuddles, spooning, pillow talk,told I'm beautiful and round 2 or 3. I'm very needy" Always meet the ladies needs ! Love it | |||
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"Climbing out of the window as the hubby just got in from work drain pipes need to be stronger " Muahahahahhah I'd let him join in 😉 | |||
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"I’m a touchy feely person. I wanna be cuddled, touched, stroked, hair played with- all of it. Then pillow talk. I consider it part of sex. Like foreplay. I love the afterglow and love sharing it. If someone tried to leave before that I’d get a lasso and drag them back. " That sounds extra fun !!! | |||
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"Usually sweaty cuddles facing each other. Laughs and chats for a few minutes till it all starts again. Then a fag and coffee.and back to bed.😈 Might even fit in a chicken roll in a full day session.🤣🖤" Full roast on a Sunday or just the split roast ? | |||
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"Climbing out of the window as the hubby just got in from work drain pipes need to be stronger Muahahahahhah I'd let him join in 😉" i dont share my food | |||
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"I want to press most of my body against theirs and have them either cuddle me or stroke my skin. We talk. I need it. It can't be shortened or skipped. " Those bliss moments... | |||
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"Climbing out of the window as the hubby just got in from work drain pipes need to be stronger Muahahahahhah I'd let him join in 😉i dont share my food" Sharing is caring lol 😆 | |||
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"Climbing out of the window as the hubby just got in from work drain pipes need to be stronger Muahahahahhah I'd let him join in 😉i dont share my food Sharing is caring lol 😆" im not the caring kind | |||
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"Another round usually." Was there a need to stop ?   | |||
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"Cuddle up, waffle, tracing fingers over skin or sometimes a massage if they have tired muscles. Then kick them out and sleep in peace 💜" Sleepily slumber all fuzzy and biss ! | |||
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"I don't really want/need any aftercare. I think I am broken." You want what you want. Don't let others define you !! You got this | |||
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"Usually sweaty cuddles facing each other. Laughs and chats for a few minutes till it all starts again. Then a fag and coffee.and back to bed.😈 Might even fit in a chicken roll in a full day session.🤣🖤" 🤣🤣 the chicken roll was good energy to go again 😋 No sleep with you, just 10mins rest for a coffee 😆 | |||
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"I'll go for a shower and leave.. or they better leave while I'm in the shower. Thank you, now please go. "Functional.. we all got things to do | |||
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"I usually chuck them a toilet roll and pretend I've fallen asleep until they've left, unless they make me a Sammich then I might say bye at the door..🥪" Depends on the sandwich right... right . RIGHT ? I prefer human ones.. *snigger* | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out." This without the high five | |||
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"Wet wipe, high five, find your clothes and get out. This without the high five " Too much ? Or not enough  | |||
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"Talking, touching, snogging." Yummy yum | |||
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"I'll go for a shower and leave.. or they better leave while I'm in the shower. Thank you, now please go.
Functional.. we all got things to do "Exactly, they've shared my personal space for hours, I don't need a follow up conversation about how good it was, get gone 🤷♀️ | |||
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"Hand me a towel then cwtch. Kisses, stroking each other, kissing, go again. Repeat. Maybe after the 3rd round crack open some snacks as well, then go again." Needy! 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️ | |||
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"Depends on who I'm with. From freshen up, kiss goodbye and leave, to spend night cwtching, chilling out, chatting, snoozing and several more rounds of fun. " Nudge over. | |||
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"Depends on who I'm with. From freshen up, kiss goodbye and leave, to spend night cwtching, chilling out, chatting, snoozing and several more rounds of fun. " Same x | |||
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"Depends on who I'm with. From freshen up, kiss goodbye and leave, to spend night cwtching, chilling out, chatting, snoozing and several more rounds of fun. Nudge over. "No, he is my cwtch buddy and I'm not sharing. | |||
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"I get the idea of aftercare in BDSM relationships as physical welfare is paramount but otherwise it seems a little patronising. With some people it's enjoyable to hang out after fuckery, with others it's OK to make a polite exit. Either option I don't see as a form of 'care'." I don’t really do BDSM at all, but for me it is super important to have some sort of “debriefing”, like a cuddle, a chat about stuff, and more importantly, once the meet is over, I like to keep communication and chat about what happened and what we enjoyed the most, etc. Sometimes after a first meet I haven’t got any of this so now I am extremely selective on who I meet because this “aftercare” or “debriefing” is really important to me and part of the whole experience. | |||
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"Depends on who I'm with. From freshen up, kiss goodbye and leave, to spend night cwtching, chilling out, chatting, snoozing and several more rounds of fun. Nudge over.
No, he is my cwtch buddy and I'm not sharing. "Pfffft. I know where I'm not wanted. I'll get me coat  | |||
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"I get the idea of aftercare in BDSM relationships as physical welfare is paramount but otherwise it seems a little patronising. With some people it's enjoyable to hang out after fuckery, with others it's OK to make a polite exit. Either option I don't see as a form of 'care'. I don’t really do BDSM at all, but for me it is super important to have some sort of “debriefing”, like a cuddle, a chat about stuff, and more importantly, once the meet is over, I like to keep communication and chat about what happened and what we enjoyed the most, etc. Sometimes after a first meet I haven’t got any of this so now I am extremely selective on who I meet because this “aftercare” or “debriefing” is really important to me and part of the whole experience. " I enjoy and appreciate all that too but I guess I'd define it as communication rather than care ? Also if someone wasn't interested in that I wouldn't feel uncared for or unappreciated. | |||
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"I get the idea of aftercare in BDSM relationships as physical welfare is paramount but otherwise it seems a little patronising. With some people it's enjoyable to hang out after fuckery, with others it's OK to make a polite exit. Either option I don't see as a form of 'care'. I don’t really do BDSM at all, but for me it is super important to have some sort of “debriefing”, like a cuddle, a chat about stuff, and more importantly, once the meet is over, I like to keep communication and chat about what happened and what we enjoyed the most, etc. Sometimes after a first meet I haven’t got any of this so now I am extremely selective on who I meet because this “aftercare” or “debriefing” is really important to me and part of the whole experience. I enjoy and appreciate all that too but I guess I'd define it as communication rather than care ? Also if someone wasn't interested in that I wouldn't feel uncared for or unappreciated. " I think it’s the same & just what most of us would see as being a ‘normal’ decent person, making sure your lover is okay, coming down together in a way that meets both your needs. Some people just prefer to give things labels and make it a separate explicit thing.. I guess if you’re sleeping with people you don’t know very well and I’ve had some bad experiencesthen it’s a different matter | |||
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"Playtime. Playtime is great isn't it? Lots of lovely fun play on a playdate, playing in a playful way. Aftercare wise... I think the ideal is whatever works between two people isn't it? Someone's not a dick if they don't want to provide aftercare, someone isn't needy if they do want it. You're just not compatible In an ideal world, I like a nice message after. When we're taking a break from all the naughty play - lots of laughter, gentle kisses, lazy stroking, conversation about everything and nothing. Pillow talk in the postcoital glow way. Oh and water. Fruit juice/smoothies. I get so dehydrated gushing over people. Woe is me. " Hydration is important. I hear you | |||
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"I get the idea of aftercare in BDSM relationships as physical welfare is paramount but otherwise it seems a little patronising. With some people it's enjoyable to hang out after fuckery, with others it's OK to make a polite exit. Either option I don't see as a form of 'care'." That's cool, as the question is open , I expected a whole range of.answers. | |||
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"I get the idea of aftercare in BDSM relationships as physical welfare is paramount but otherwise it seems a little patronising. With some people it's enjoyable to hang out after fuckery, with others it's OK to make a polite exit. Either option I don't see as a form of 'care'. I don’t really do BDSM at all, but for me it is super important to have some sort of “debriefing”, like a cuddle, a chat about stuff, and more importantly, once the meet is over, I like to keep communication and chat about what happened and what we enjoyed the most, etc. Sometimes after a first meet I haven’t got any of this so now I am extremely selective on who I meet because this “aftercare” or “debriefing” is really important to me and part of the whole experience. " Ya, got to know somethings !  | |||
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"At the very minimum I want a cuddle and conversation, not someone who wants to dive out the door the minute they've come. It's why I like building a connection and being friends with the people I have sex with rather than one offs. BDSM aftercare is more full on, depending on the scene and the state I'm in after. " Context matters !! | |||
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"Chatting, laughter, clothes back on, goodbye kisses then when it's just us, sometimes get out the tub of sudocreme...that's a sign of a very good night! Can't be doing with a tender fanny. Ruby " Sometimes simple is best ! 👌 | |||
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"I’ve had couples that want to take me out for dinner. " Noms... I normal am the dinner | |||
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"Cuddles and kisses, affirmations, talking, spooning that leads to more, and sleep." Cozy nice.. yum yum | |||
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