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By (user no longer on site) OP   
24 weeks ago

I hereby serve my notice on officially retiring from the forums

I am an often returner over the years and over the last few months have been struggling.

Allowing the opinions of others to affect me, most of which I’ll never meet or them want to meet me and I have also compromised when meeting people. Not in a negative way but chasing when there’s nothing to chase

It is easy to blame the site or the people on it but the only person I can blame is ME and that makes me rethink everything

So rather than leave the site I am retiring from the forums, I may still read them but no longer create posts or interact

I genuinely wish you all the happiness you can find, don’t let the opinions of others detract from who you really are and most importantly be happy

Remember you are good enough

🫡

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By *r Bond.Man
24 weeks ago

Moving Around the Midlands

What’s going on this week

First sprout unlos and now Jack quitting the forums!!

I managed to speak to sprout before he deleted his telegram and he admitted he was struggling with life in general.

I hope you are in a better place after your decision OP. With 35,000 people online fab can be a lonely place. Here if you need a chat.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
24 weeks ago

Leeds

Thanks for letting us know Biker Jack. I will miss your posts.

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By *lan157Man
24 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

You make some good points OP. Especially with reference to chasing where there is nothing to chase.

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By *rHotNottsMan
24 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You should at least throw a waffle party or a jazz egg buffet. People could bring quotes of your favourite sayings or something and have a little dance and then you could go…..

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By *obilebottomMan
24 weeks ago

All over

Wishing you all the best Jack and make sure you take care and do whatever is best for you.

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By *a LunaWoman
24 weeks ago

o o OO o o

I’ll miss reading you, but I understand.

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By *illy IdolMan
24 weeks ago

Midlands

Hit the road, Jack... Take care buddy❤️

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Hope you feel more like yourself soon x

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By *midnight-Woman
24 weeks ago

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Allowing the opinions of others to affect me, most of which I’ll never meet or them want to meet me and I have also compromised when meeting people. Not in a negative way but chasing when there’s nothing to chase

It is easy to blame the site or the people on it but the only person I can blame is ME and that makes me rethink everything "

Around 80% of communication is non-written -so basically on the forum we lose essential clues such as; body language, gestures, facial expressions, and voice.

Its easy to read significance and meaning into the words we read - but we have a choice and the power to decide how to to respond or react

.... ultimately the person most impacted by your reaction is you. Why let yourself be triggered, especially if you'll never spend time with these people.

Walk away for a bit, reason it out... maybe that person poorly expressed themselves, maybe you overread and gave it the wrong significance, maybe they are looking to get a reaction, maybe they just have a different learned experience to you.

Can you flip it positively. Do you even need to respond?

Breath it out... it's just words, on the internet, quickly replaced and long forgotten by most

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By *eoBloomsMan
24 weeks ago

Springfield

Take care Jack 🙂

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
24 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"

Allowing the opinions of others to affect me, most of which I’ll never meet or them want to meet me and I have also compromised when meeting people. Not in a negative way but chasing when there’s nothing to chase

It is easy to blame the site or the people on it but the only person I can blame is ME and that makes me rethink everything

Around 80% of communication is non-written -so basically on the forum we lose essential clues such as; body language, gestures, facial expressions, and voice.

Its easy to read significance and meaning into the words we read - but we have a choice and the power to decide how to to respond or react

.... ultimately the person most impacted by your reaction is you. Why let yourself be triggered, especially if you'll never spend time with these people.

Walk away for a bit, reason it out... maybe that person poorly expressed themselves, maybe you overread and gave it the wrong significance, maybe they are looking to get a reaction, maybe they just have a different learned experience to you.

Can you flip it positively. Do you even need to respond?

Breath it out... it's just words, on the internet, quickly replaced and long forgotten by most "

What I was thinking but wouldn't have articulated quite as well.

Good luck out there.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
24 weeks ago

London

I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts but I understand your point. Hope things get better for you Jack

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By *oodmessMan
24 weeks ago

yumsville


"I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts but I understand your point. Hope things get better for you Jack"

Same. I don't comment on half the threads on here (I suspect like most), it doesn't mean what people contribute isn't decent... good, bad or other. It's understandable if you need space, everyone does at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Get on that sickle and ride off into the sunset

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I hope you feel better for it, and maybe in time, you'll feel you can return.

I've always enjoyed your posts

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
24 weeks ago

North West

I also enjoy your posts. I think Midnight said it the best.

I hope things feel brighter again soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Much love Jack. Valued contributor

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By *2000ManMan
24 weeks ago

Worthing

See you in the forums next week op!

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