FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys and messages to couples

By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

I wonder does everyone else get messages from single guys who completely ignore that it's a couples profile and just act like they are talking to the female half

It's completely disrespectful and this people never get a reply from us.

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

All the time, and they're usually grossly descriptive too with dick pics attached. It says in our profile that we consider this disrespectful to us as a couple, and any messages will be deleted without reply

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By *ery Norty but NiceMan
24 weeks ago

Felixstowe

I agree I try and be respectful and talk to the couple .

Be non pushy and polite x

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

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By *NormalMan01Man
24 weeks ago

Harrogate

"I wonder does everyone else get messages from single guys who completely ignore that it's a couples profile and just act like they are talking to the female half

It's completely disrespectful and this people never get a reply from us. "

Not everyone, no. Us single guys don’t and I’d hazard a guess single women don’t, either.

It’s easy to do, like you did your post, I guess?

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By *WANDTGCouple
24 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"All the time, and they're usually grossly descriptive too with dick pics attached. It says in our profile that we consider this disrespectful to us as a couple, and any messages will be deleted without reply "

I always reply "would you send that to you're mother ?"

So why are you sending it to us ?

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By *tu100Man
24 weeks ago

combe martin

I always message like I am chatting to both, no point ignoring one half of the couple at is rude and wont get you anywhere.

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

Yeah we make a point of saying don't act like you are just addressing one of us.

And then when you call them on it they sometimes get abusive. I did that the other day and the guy was like bro you take it up the shitter from your Mrs.

Before I could send my suitably scathing retort he blocked us. What a champion

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
24 weeks ago

Voldsøy

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like. "

This is what we do.

It's not always single guys, we get it from the male half of couples accounts too. And it's not always addressed to me (Mrs), as if Mr is not there. Sometimes, they're just *that* rude to not give af how they speak to other humans!

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By *arriedminxCouple
24 weeks ago

here

In all honesty it is a mixed bunch just like anything else on here.

We have a few which are just obscene which we laugh over.

We have some that seem to consider my husband non existent which we instantly delete or message and intentionally make a point of our mutual existence generally for a giggle.

And then we have the gentlemen who contact that in some way acknowledge us both.

It is part and parcel of being here, use it as a filter, if there no respect from the get go you know they aren’t going to be a fit for you as a couple.x

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

I always reply "would you send that to you're mother ?"

So why are you sending it to us ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

If im adressing a couples profile i always start with good morning or afternoon to you both. It shows im talking to both and not just one. And i dont have a dick pic my profile to send. A full nakid body shot then yes. But ive never been told off for sending that so must be ok.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
24 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I wonder does everyone else get messages from single guys who completely ignore that it's a couples profile and just act like they are talking to the female half

It's completely disrespectful and this people never get a reply from us. "

It’s an easy way to identify the dipshits and social inepts

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"I wonder does everyone else get messages from single guys who completely ignore that it's a couples profile and just act like they are talking to the female half

It's completely disrespectful and this people never get a reply from us. "

Unless you state otherwise I’m sure the single male will want to ask a particular question?

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

🤷‍♂️ is why I read the profile and address the message as though I’m talking to both of you as a couple.

But then I’m asking too much on here for simply saying read the profile.

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
24 weeks ago

Northampton

Be sure that even if you send the most polite message addressed to both of them you don't get a reply anyway because this site is so judgemental unfortunately...unless you don't look like Paul Newman. This is the sad reality.

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"I wonder does everyone else get messages from single guys who completely ignore that it's a couples profile and just act like they are talking to the female half

It's completely disrespectful and this people never get a reply from us.

Unless you state otherwise I’m sure the single male will want to ask a particular question? "

Asking a question isn't a problem.

The problem is just sending a message like he's speaking to the female half of a couple. It's a couples profile so in our view it's just ignorant and shows either that they can't read or that they are only interested on the basis of female half.

Tbh it's just rude really. Ignoring half of a couple.

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"Be sure that even if you send the most polite message addressed to both of them you don't get a reply anyway because this site is so judgemental unfortunately...unless you don't look like Paul Newman. This is the sad reality."

The thing is nobody owes you a reply. It's not nothing to do with being judgemental it's fine for people to have a type.

When I was on a single profile if I didn't get a reply just chalked it up to not being there type and left it at that. It's no deeper than that really.

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
24 weeks ago

Northampton

Sorry but don't agree with you. Good manners should be not an optional

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

We've had a few messages just solely speaking to me, even by just addressing me. It is rude to not acknowledge the other person.If you're messaging a couples profile you'd get a better chance of a message back if you address both.

Mrs

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"Sorry but don't agree with you. Good manners should be not an optional "

Ok so if a profile gets 100 messages a day half of which are one liners like hi nice tits then we owe every single one of them a response as it's 'good manners'?

I think not.

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By *oeBeansMan
24 weeks ago

Derby

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like. "

Don't be daft. That's far too logical.

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

Don't be daft. That's far too logical."

In theory that's great but sometimes you just don't have time to browse through everyone so we are potentially missing out on a chance to meet some great people we may not have seen otherwise.

I don't think it's really much to ask that people speak to a couple as a couple not as if it was a single female profile

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By *oeBeansMan
24 weeks ago

Derby

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

Don't be daft. That's far too logical.

In theory that's great but sometimes you just don't have time to browse through everyone so we are potentially missing out on a chance to meet some great people we may not have seen otherwise.

I don't think it's really much to ask that people speak to a couple as a couple not as if it was a single female profile "

So it's everyone else that has to make the effort to browse in order to message you? You could equally be missing out on guys you like because of their messages get drowned in the crap.

For what it's worth, I agree on speaking to you as a couple. But taking Fab into your own hands isn't the worst advice either

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

Don't be daft. That's far too logical.

In theory that's great but sometimes you just don't have time to browse through everyone so we are potentially missing out on a chance to meet some great people we may not have seen otherwise.

I don't think it's really much to ask that people speak to a couple as a couple not as if it was a single female profile

So it's everyone else that has to make the effort to browse in order to message you? You could equally be missing out on guys you like because of their messages get drowned in the crap.

For what it's worth, I agree on speaking to you as a couple. But taking Fab into your own hands isn't the worst advice either

I don't think that's what I said really.

I'm sure you don't have the time to constantly browse fab and if you potentially missed out on a good match due to message filters it would be a bit of a missed opportunity.

We have no problems with single guys messaging us. At all. It's just how the message is framed that's the issue tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Sorry but don't agree with you. Good manners should be not an optional "

We have 89 messages in our inbox right now.. and you think we have to reply to all of them????

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Nope , if l do send a couple a message it always starts with " Hello you 2 "...it's called respect.

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By *lym4realCouple
24 weeks ago

plymouth

Yep we do and we just delete/block now though and just weird really though as you are messaging 2 people so ? and just ignorance or being ignorant really ?

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By *oeBeansMan
24 weeks ago

Derby

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

Don't be daft. That's far too logical.

In theory that's great but sometimes you just don't have time to browse through everyone so we are potentially missing out on a chance to meet some great people we may not have seen otherwise.

I don't think it's really much to ask that people speak to a couple as a couple not as if it was a single female profile

So it's everyone else that has to make the effort to browse in order to message you? You could equally be missing out on guys you like because of their messages get drowned in the crap.

For what it's worth, I agree on speaking to you as a couple. But taking Fab into your own hands isn't the worst advice either

I don't think that's what I said really.

I'm sure you don't have the time to constantly browse fab and if you potentially missed out on a good match due to message filters it would be a bit of a missed opportunity.

We have no problems with single guys messaging us. At all. It's just how the message is framed that's the issue tbh

But you can't change how the message is framed, you're going to get them regardless and it's clearly giving your grief considering you created a thread about it. The general advice for Fab given is that if you don't like how something is going, do something about it 🤷‍♂️

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
24 weeks ago

South Wales

We get messages sometimes addressing both of us which is nice but sometimes just me (H) which is also understandable as there are only pics of me on there and it stands to reason I run the account.

If it bothered us we would filter single guys but as a rule I only read and respond to profiles I like the look of and always check they’re looking for couples and that they have realised it’s a couples account. Xx

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"Sorry but don't agree with you. Good manners should be not an optional

We have 89 messages in our inbox right now.. and you think we have to reply to all of them???? "

This. Exactly this.

We have 46 at the mo and that's after I cleared a load of them. No one has the time to reply to every single message.

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
24 weeks ago

Durham

"Sorry but don't agree with you. Good manners should be not an optional "

Which is the better version of "good manners" though?

Ignoring a couples stated wishes and chancing your luck anyway, or the couple not replying to you because you showed disrespect and aren't what they're looking for.....

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By *exxyyDy11Man
24 weeks ago

North West

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By *exxyyDy11Man
24 weeks ago

North West

Sorry I disagree with the user above who mentioned "manners is not optional". Manners cost nothing and would put you in a much better position than someone who was extremely rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Set filters to not looking for single guys. Browse and message the ones you like.

Don't be daft. That's far too logical.

In theory that's great but sometimes you just don't have time to browse through everyone so we are potentially missing out on a chance to meet some great people we may not have seen otherwise.

I don't think it's really much to ask that people speak to a couple as a couple not as if it was a single female profile "

I’m not saying it’s too much to ask for people to be polite and address you as a pair. I’m advising you to take a proactive approach to find what you’re looking for.

If you have time to read messages you can reallocate some of that time to send them.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
24 weeks ago

Staffordshire

All the time, luckily my hubby is first line of defence for our inbox for these messages

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By *i_alternative_couple OP Couple
24 weeks ago

cradley

"All the time, luckily my hubby is first line of defence for our inbox for these messages"

Yeah same for us I sort of fend these messages off.

It can get quite overwhelming the volume of messages coming in

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By *eroLondonMan
24 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I shall tell you what is disrespectful - couples who employ deceit and subterfuge when chatting to single men. Single men who, with all the best and honourable intentions, have no inkling with whom they are chatting to - because the "M" and the "F" will interchange mid-conversation without letting the single man know. When the "F" becomes overly enraptured by the single man, leading the "M" to login and pretend it's the "F", before jealously prevails and they end up arguing between themselves.

That's why I only chat to carefully curated calibre of couples that have earned my trust.

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By *usty kayWoman
24 weeks ago

Burnham on Sea

I'm having the complete opposite. This is my singles profile. It was changed to a couples profile a few weeks ago by admin and despite me changing the main line to it being a singles profile guys keep addressing the 2 of us. It's really frustrating having to keep repeating that if they want to talk to my husband they'll have to go find our other profile.

Poor men can't win either way

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