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By *obilebottom OP   Man
24 weeks ago

All over

Is it the hardest word? Was it hard or easy for you if you had to say it? Are you in a situation that you want to but can't for whatever reason?. Just off the phone to a friend who is struggling with that decision. It was also hard for me to advise as I don't believe I should. In the end it has to be their decision.

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By *ildTimes.Man
24 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam


"Is it the hardest word? Was it hard or easy for you if you had to say it? Are you in a situation that you want to but can't for whatever reason?. Just off the phone to a friend who is struggling with that decision. It was also hard for me to advise as I don't believe I should. In the end it has to be their decision. "

Did you say Goodbye to your friend at the end of the call? 🥪

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
24 weeks ago

All over


"Is it the hardest word? Was it hard or easy for you if you had to say it? Are you in a situation that you want to but can't for whatever reason?. Just off the phone to a friend who is struggling with that decision. It was also hard for me to advise as I don't believe I should. In the end it has to be their decision.

Did you say Goodbye to your friend at the end of the call? 🥪"

If that is significantly important to you, no I did't as we are speaking later again. It's most likely to say goodnight though then.

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By *inxy777Woman
24 weeks ago

essex

I think it’s the hardest word, as been said in not happy circumstances in my life x.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
24 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I'm terrible at ending things, I'm too nice and I hate conflict which people can take advantage of. Trying to better at saying bye!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
24 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Depends on the situation but I find it hard

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By *inkShyWoman
24 weeks ago

near Windsor

Old me would have struggled to say goodbye and walk away, from a fear of being alone etc. But when I did say goodbye, the immense sense of relief after has given me the gumption to always do what I need to do, to keep myself happy and safe, and if that is a goodbye (in any sense of the word!) then I find it easy.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
24 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"Is it the hardest word? Was it hard or easy for you if you had to say it? Are you in a situation that you want to but can't for whatever reason?. Just off the phone to a friend who is struggling with that decision. It was also hard for me to advise as I don't believe I should. In the end it has to be their decision. "

I think you are ok to offer an opinion if you’ve been asked too OP.

It may be that your friend wants to have your opinion just to reflect that they have looked at all the angles and as a friend they feel you will be honest with them, even if it might not be what they wanted to hear.

Ultimately, as you say, it has to be their decision, but doesn’t mean your opinion is not valuable to them in arriving at a decision.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

I can very easily walk away from bad or poor relationships without saying goodbye.

There are certain circumstances where I think being able to say goodbye is important if at all possible.

If your friend was on fab people would be telling them to say goodbye with little or no knowledge of their circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I've found it incredibly hard in the past, even when a relationship or friendship has been unfulfilling for a long time. That person has been an intrinsic part of your life, for better or worse, and envisioning life without them can feel daunting. The only time I found it easy was when an ex tried to physically harm me and self-preservation took over.

But in every other case, even when I knew deep down it was the right choice, it still felt like a loss. I think you’re absolutely right not to advise as saying goodbye is something only a person can do when they’re ready. No one else can tell them when that moment is. That said, I’ve found that once the decision is made and the initial pain fades, there’s often a sense of relief and clarity. It doesn’t make it easier at the time, but it does mean that goodbye isn’t the end, just a shift toward something different.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

I thought sorry was. That’s what the song said and there can’t be two hardest words. And songs don’t lie. Neither does Sir Elton. Or Blue.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

If we’re talking relationships…..I’m brutal and cold.

Once I’ve made the decision, I’ll say bye and sever all contact at that point.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
24 weeks ago

Ipswich


"Is it the hardest word? Was it hard or easy for you if you had to say it? Are you in a situation that you want to but can't for whatever reason?. Just off the phone to a friend who is struggling with that decision. It was also hard for me to advise as I don't believe I should. In the end it has to be their decision. "

We all have to make decisions in our lives some good some bad sometimes it’s better to walk away for whatever reasons

Lament on all the good times to come not what’s in the past

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By *usty kayWoman
24 weeks ago

Burnham on Sea

Goodbye is the thing I'm struggling with most. I find it very difficult to let go of anyone I care about, I have a tenancy to wait until they make the decision.

Even after being pushed until there's no other real choice I try to hold on.

You are doing the right thing by your friend. My husband wants nothing more than to tell me to walk away from someone right now but instead he is just being very supportive of how I want to deal with it because he knows if I don't it will be harder in the long run. I don't know how he does it but he knows me better than myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago


"I thought sorry was. That’s what the song said and there can’t be two hardest words. And songs don’t lie. Neither does Sir Elton. Or Blue. "

Beat me to it🤦‍♂️🤣

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
24 weeks ago

rochdale

I've said goodbye to old friends who's socio-political views have made me feel unsafe & unwelcome around them.

It hurt at the time, it still hurts now. Because of that choice I've lost contact with most of that friendship group, as I truly believe I won't recieve any support for my upset & so walked away.

Was it the right decision?

Felt so at the time, now I'm not so sure.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
24 weeks ago

Castlebar

Even when you know you have to for your own sanity..it's still the hardest especially when you know you'll most likely never see that person again. Much easier to say sorry I think. I don't have a problem with that.

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By *obilebottom OP   Man
24 weeks ago

All over

Thanks for all your posts and sharing your experiences snd thoughts.

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By *ynamicnatureMan
24 weeks ago

Doncaster


"I've found it incredibly hard in the past, even when a relationship or friendship has been unfulfilling for a long time. That person has been an intrinsic part of your life, for better or worse, and envisioning life without them can feel daunting. The only time I found it easy was when an ex tried to physically harm me and self-preservation took over.

But in every other case, even when I knew deep down it was the right choice, it still felt like a loss. I think you’re absolutely right not to advise as saying goodbye is something only a person can do when they’re ready. No one else can tell them when that moment is. That said, I’ve found that once the decision is made and the initial pain fades, there’s often a sense of relief and clarity. It doesn’t make it easier at the time, but it does mean that goodbye isn’t the end, just a shift toward something different."

Well bloody said Nell,

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By *exyScientistsCouple
24 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Goodbye is the thing I'm struggling with most. I find it very difficult to let go of anyone I care about, I have a tenancy to wait until they make the decision.

Even after being pushed until there's no other real choice I try to hold on.

You are doing the right thing by your friend. My husband wants nothing more than to tell me to walk away from someone right now but instead he is just being very supportive of how I want to deal with it because he knows if I don't it will be harder in the long run. I don't know how he does it but he knows me better than myself. "

Had exactly this. But sometimes waiting for the other person to do it makes it worse...drags it out unnecessarily when you know it's going to happen. You have to do it for yourself and whenever it happens it won't make it easier. You can be the brave one. Make the choice for you and your welfare when the other person won't. And you might always think "what if..." but ultimately in your heart you will know.

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By *usty kayWoman
24 weeks ago

Burnham on Sea


"Goodbye is the thing I'm struggling with most. I find it very difficult to let go of anyone I care about, I have a tenancy to wait until they make the decision.

Even after being pushed until there's no other real choice I try to hold on.

You are doing the right thing by your friend. My husband wants nothing more than to tell me to walk away from someone right now but instead he is just being very supportive of how I want to deal with it because he knows if I don't it will be harder in the long run. I don't know how he does it but he knows me better than myself.

Had exactly this. But sometimes waiting for the other person to do it makes it worse...drags it out unnecessarily when you know it's going to happen. You have to do it for yourself and whenever it happens it won't make it easier. You can be the brave one. Make the choice for you and your welfare when the other person won't. And you might always think "what if..." but ultimately in your heart you will know. "

I am really trying this time. I didn't get pulled back into sex when he asked last night so that's major progress. I know it's coming and I really wish I had the strength to be the one to do it

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By *exyScientistsCouple
24 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Goodbye is the thing I'm struggling with most. I find it very difficult to let go of anyone I care about, I have a tenancy to wait until they make the decision.

Even after being pushed until there's no other real choice I try to hold on.

You are doing the right thing by your friend. My husband wants nothing more than to tell me to walk away from someone right now but instead he is just being very supportive of how I want to deal with it because he knows if I don't it will be harder in the long run. I don't know how he does it but he knows me better than myself.

Had exactly this. But sometimes waiting for the other person to do it makes it worse...drags it out unnecessarily when you know it's going to happen. You have to do it for yourself and whenever it happens it won't make it easier. You can be the brave one. Make the choice for you and your welfare when the other person won't. And you might always think "what if..." but ultimately in your heart you will know.

I am really trying this time. I didn't get pulled back into sex when he asked last night so that's major progress. I know it's coming and I really wish I had the strength to be the one to do it"

💔

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By *ustAnotherMan
24 weeks ago

Midlands

Everyone knows the hardest word is "moist"

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