FabSwingers.com forum: When a conversation starts to feel dry. Do you try to restart it or just let it run its course?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
25 weeks ago

North West

Directed towards no one in particular, just in general. I usually try to restart the convo if it feels dry and going nowhere. But if it starts to get dry again, I just let it run its course.

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By *ischiefmanaged90Man
25 weeks ago

Blackpool

I just let it run its course, can't always be compatible with someone and better that than to try force the issue. You know if the connection is there or not

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

Depends on how much I enjoyed the original conversation or how into the person I already am.

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so if a conversation starts to go dry I just let it fizzle out.

I've carried enough conversations over the years so if they aren't feeling it enough to make an effort I'm not going to either.

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

It all depends on what the conversation was like, but if I want it to continue, I give the other person some time and space and then message asking if they want to continue it.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
25 weeks ago

Wirral

I do tend to match energy - if I can't keep a conversation going then I let it fade out rather than drag it out on my own.

There are other great conversations that just come to a natural conclusion and I will pop a "how's it going" type message to people I've enjoyed chatting with.

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By *B..Woman
25 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I usually let it run its course, I’m crap at messaging, would prefer an actual conversation to get a feel for someone and then that could ignite the messaging

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Sometimes I get a bit frustrated with the need to constantly keep chat going. I think the best friendships are the ones where it’s okay to let a conversation end. Another one will come along when it’s ready.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
25 weeks ago

Brum

We don’t like conversations when people feel the need for almost daily contact. It’s monotonous.

If we’re meeting then we are pretty responsive on the approach.

I don’t care what you got up to last weekend or what you’re cooking tonight and yes, we’re fine.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

Let it go. When there is a really good match the conversation just flows.

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By *es not the MessiahMan
25 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Cut and run.

No point carrying on

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I never force anything in a conversation. I like things to flow and I enjoy the to and fro that feels natural and wanted. If it frizzles out, I'll leave it frazzled. 🙂

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Some come, some go, some fade then come back. Then fade again. Returning to Fab chat. Ones that are meant to be and you wish to meet in any capacity tend to stay, where there is chemistry and humour. I think that is the bond. If both of those aren't present they will fade.

I am truly blessed at the moment because of the hotness and hilarity of those that haven't faded that I talk to. Some amazingly funny people out there that brighten my day.

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Soho

If the conversation is passive, as in they're not asking me anything or the chat is non-reciprocal, then I let it fizzle out.

It really does depend though and I have to guage the demeanour of that person to see if they are shy or (like me) a slow burn. I've had a few occasions where women have told me I'm not assertive enough and that I give up too quickly and that I need to persevere. That's all very well, and I'm happy to do so, but I won't be putting in ALL the effort.

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

It depends on the person I'm talking with, but most of my chats are insane/bonkers to start with, and if they don't run then it normally flows.

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By *midnight-Woman
25 weeks ago

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I like dipping in and out - i find it draining to make conversation every day, plus you know working FT, hobbies, friends + family life ... there's not much free time left and I really don't want to engage in war +peace and heavy convo when I'm trying to relax!

Make me laugh, tell me a joke, send me a meme if you were thinking of me... Let it ebb and flow

If a date is in the diary you can expect more engagement

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By *uriousscouserWoman
25 weeks ago

Wirral

"I like dipping in and out - i find it draining to make conversation every day, plus you know working FT, hobbies, friends + family life ... there's not much free time left and I really don't want to engage in war +peace and heavy convo when I'm trying to relax!

Make me laugh, tell me a joke, send me a meme if you were thinking of me... Let it ebb and flow

If a date is in the diary you can expect more engagement

Memes are always great. Sadly I tend to get a lot of "saw this and thought of you" with the most unhinged shite imaginable attached - why exactly does that make someone think of me?

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By *estructionDollyWoman
25 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"Depends on how much I enjoyed the original conversation or how into the person I already am. "

This pretty much! I don't think you need to have a constant stream of conversation going all the time, but if I try and reignite a convo and they're giving me nothing back then I let it die.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Directed towards no one in particular, just in general. I usually try to restart the convo if it feels dry and going nowhere. But if it starts to get dry again, I just let it run its course. "

I like catching up, especially if I get on with that person, life gets busy... I'm not going to hound people for a reply..

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By *i_alternative_coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

cradley

If we are asking questions and the other party are just giving dead one words answers etc then I think it's ran it's course and don't try to restart tbh

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By *atte Lover 82Man
25 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

If it starts to go dry I may try and restart at another time even if it's not right away. People have lives and life get busy etc or someone else may peak their interest that bit more at that time. That's just fab.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
25 weeks ago

London

Let it run its course. There is obviously a reason why it’s happening.

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

If someone keeps forgetting to reply my brain switches off.

It would depend on who they are and how well I know them as to whether I try to resurrect a conversation.

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By *rHotNottsMan
25 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

So if I’m really into the person physically, then I will let it taper off & do a social, people are often very different in person. Some women are absolutely amazing in person, but just don’t have the time or energy for messaging.

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By *un Times 1Man
25 weeks ago

coventry

"I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so if a conversation starts to go dry I just let it fizzle out.

I've carried enough conversations over the years so if they aren't feeling it enough to make an effort I'm not going to either. "

Totally agree.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
25 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I don’t mind a couple of messages where I’m doing the lifting to help the conversation to flow but after that I’ll stop trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I’m not going to force something. If a conversation isn’t flowing naturally and I feel like I’m doing all the work to keep it going, I’ll just let it die.

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
25 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

"I’m not going to force something. If a conversation isn’t flowing naturally and I feel like I’m doing all the work to keep it going, I’ll just let it die.

Can I be the one to say - I’d love to make yours wet!….

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Depends on if I like the person really.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

Stockport

Not the right words , but if you have to put any effort in , then you're putting too much effort in

Things should flow , and not be hard work

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By *P_80Man
25 weeks ago

Waterford

For me, if a conversation feels like it has to be dragged after a couple of weeks or so, then we probably won't have much fun if we met.

So I just let it go.

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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Generally I let it die off, especially if it starts feeling like I'm pulling teeth.

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By *r TriomanMan
25 weeks ago

Malmesbury

It normally starts with me sending two to three paragraphs as an introduction; if I get a reply, it'll be a sentence or two, I reply with two to three sentences, I get a sentence back, I reply with two to three sentences, they reply with "lol"; it's at this point that I normally sense that it's not going anywhere and I move on however, on the very rare occasion that I'm still feeling a spark, I persevere and sometimes manage to arrange a meeting.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
25 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

I’m a man. I’m used to carrying the entire conversation 🤨

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
25 weeks ago

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If I’m really into the person, I’ll attempt a re-start but if they don’t reciprocate, then I’ll leave it. If I’m unsure or not that fussed on them to begin with, I would just leave it.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"It normally starts with me sending two to three paragraphs as an introduction; if I get a reply, it'll be a sentence or two, I reply with two to three sentences, I get a sentence back, I reply with two to three sentences, they reply with "lol"; it's at this point that I normally sense that it's not going anywhere and I move on however, on the very rare occasion that I'm still feeling a spark, I persevere and sometimes manage to arrange a meeting."

Haha the old emoji escape clause. Brilliant. 😂

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By *ondonscorpioMan
25 weeks ago

London

I believe we can each feel it instinctively! We may benefit from stepping back for a short period to allow our intuition to provide us with the answer “restart” or “let it run its course”

Some may be worth it, others may not be!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
25 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Let it run its course

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