FabSwingers.com forum: How long does it take

By *B.. OP Woman
24 weeks ago

Wiltshire

…..after chatting with someone on here do you decide to take it to another messaging app or do you prefer to keep it on here? 📞💬

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By *eri24Woman
24 weeks ago

Bridgend

If I've met them, we get on and we're going to see each other regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

The day of a meet usually.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
24 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

I keep it on here

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Depends on the person. And what we’re like together. Could be hours, could be days, could be years.

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By *et and WillingCouple
24 weeks ago

Nuneaton

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By *et and WillingCouple
24 weeks ago

Nuneaton

After a few years on here now we thing we can spot the genuine people on here and can out the fakes, so after a few exchange of messages on here we usually move on to a message app x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
24 weeks ago

Central

I try to keep it here for as long as possible as it can suppress the demand for wank fodder

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By *each needs some creamWoman
24 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I keep it all on here, it can take several meetings over a few years before I agree to chat on a different app.

I don't understand why anyone would give out their contact details so early on. Especially with romance fraud on the increase.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

It varies.

Usually based on how well I feel we’ve connected.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
24 weeks ago

Brum

Keep it here.

If we meet, get along well and feel like we’re friends then we’ll give our numbers out.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I got a phone call over the weekend - it went to voicemail - with a woman asking me to add her to WhatsApp. No idea who it was. I’m guessing someone from here.

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By *illy IdolMan
24 weeks ago

Midlands

"Keep it here.

If we meet, get along well and feel like we’re friends then we’ll give our numbers out.

Seems wise🥹😂

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By *eliWoman
24 weeks ago

It varies a lot.

Most of the time I'll chat on here a bit, move to WA/Telegram and then maybe a couple of years after that consider meeting them.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
24 weeks ago

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I’m very wary of giving my details out and would keep things on here for as long as possible, at least until we’d been chatting for a while and a set date for a meet was in place (or had took place). In the past I’ve been asked for my number and have politely declined and it always turns out to be the right decision.

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By *midnight-Woman
24 weeks ago

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"I got a phone call over the weekend - it went to voicemail - with a woman asking me to add her to WhatsApp. No idea who it was. I’m guessing someone from here.

How would she have got your number

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By *midnight-Woman
24 weeks ago

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If it moves to telegram, without a meeting date, then it tends to fizzle out.

I'm crap at small talk and staying in touch

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"How would she have got your number

I’m assuming it was someone I’ve chatted with before.

But hey, maybe it was just spam! Spam with a sexy voice.

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By *he MinionMan
24 weeks ago

I tend to leave it up to them. If we are getting on and they want my number, so long as I think its going somewhere, they can have it

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
24 weeks ago

Reading

I don’t give out any information for how to get in contact with me outside of this place until the day of the meet. Or the day before at a push.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I don’t give out any information for how to get in contact with me outside of this place until the day of the meet. Or the day before at a push."

I do find it useful on the day of meeting up though. Like, I want to be able to text and say ‘I’m at the last table on the right’ or whatever.

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
24 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

I’ve only taken two from here onto another messaging platform, was chatting on here for about 6weeks or so

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
24 weeks ago

Reading

"I don’t give out any information for how to get in contact with me outside of this place until the day of the meet. Or the day before at a push.

I do find it useful on the day of meeting up though. Like, I want to be able to text and say ‘I’m at the last table on the right’ or whatever."

Absolutely. The day of the meet I’ll send it just so either of us can let the other know about traffic or work or whatever getting in the way of meeting on time. Or I HATE not knowing if we’re meeting outside or if they’ve gone in and sitting at the bar. Let me know these things.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
24 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

It's a good question. I have been speaking to people for ages and only on Fab, others for about a day then Telegram, then some more that tend to go back to Fab.

As you well know OP, I love a massive ramble and Voice Notes are truly fantastic which Fab doesn't offer. Added to memes/GIFs etc it makes Telegram a better experience all round.

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By *rHotNottsMan
24 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I dislike having private messages / details / photo sharing on here so ask to go to WhatsApp fairly quickly if I intend to carry on chatting or meeting.

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By *mf123Man
24 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I keep it here these days as iv no intent to follow thru with anything more than natterings

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By *NormalMan01Man
24 weeks ago

Harrogate

I prefer to keep it on here, tbh. I have once or twice took it outside of here. But if you’re asking OP, my number is: 07….

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By *NormalMan01Man
24 weeks ago

Harrogate

"How would she have got your number

I’m assuming it was someone I’ve chatted with before.

But hey, maybe it was just spam! Spam with a sexy voice."

It was probably AI spam… men, eh?!

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By *ray_BTWMan
24 weeks ago

Worcester

Depends on the vibe I'm picking up, if my spider sense tingles then yes.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
24 weeks ago

Castlebar

Once I've met them and want to keep chatting and meeting I'll go to telegram. For regular meets nd phine calls I'll add them on what's app.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
24 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

"I prefer to keep it on here, tbh. I have once or twice took it outside of here. But if you’re asking OP, my number is: 07…. "
why ask me if I want to be sent a video then?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"It was probably AI spam… men, eh?! "

AI spam with a sexy accent. Scarlett Johansson can spam me anytime.

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By *ealitybitesMan
24 weeks ago

Belfast

I haven't used messaging apps for anything fab related for a few years so I deleted them.

I still have WhatsApp but I don't give my number to anyone I haven't met at least a couple of times.

It says clearly on my profile that I have no interest in quick meets and anyone getting in touch has to be prepared to chat for quite a while but that means on here and nowhere else.

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By *eroLondonMan
24 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I don't decide. I've only ever moved over to WhatsApp and/or Telegram at ·their· behest, when ·they· were ready to do so. That could be several weeks or months after we first started chatting on Fab.

The only exception is when I've suggested to a forum dweller to share a weblink that ordinarily wouldn't be permitted on here or on the back of a forum game or to organise a coffee social.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
24 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"but I don't give my number to anyone I haven't met at least a couple of times.

This is the beauty of Telegram. No need to expose your number. Although that is something I have struggled to do 😂. But it's a burner number anyway.

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By *ealitybitesMan
24 weeks ago

Belfast

"but I don't give my number to anyone I haven't met at least a couple of times.

This is the beauty of Telegram. No need to expose your number. Although that is something I have struggled to do 😂. But it's a burner number anyway."

I've never used Telegram. I decided that I hadn't used any of the others for at least 3 or 4 years so it was pointless having them.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

I think you need to take the chat elsewhere in order to arrange a meet? Well it seems easier that way.

On the last occasion it happened the lady passed me her number. I'd probably still be getting lost in her inbox otherwise🤣

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
24 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"but I don't give my number to anyone I haven't met at least a couple of times.

This is the beauty of Telegram. No need to expose your number. Although that is something I have struggled to do 😂. But it's a burner number anyway.

I've never used Telegram. I decided that I hadn't used any of the others for at least 3 or 4 years so it was pointless having them.

I converted when I pulled down on the fab message screen once too often and lost the fucking lot. About an hour of my life I'll never get back. Plus voice votes make life so much easier. How could I not send a message in my best Welsh/Bangladeshi?

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By *each needs some creamWoman
24 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

It amazes me how often I am asked if I have a messaging app like telegram or WhatsApp, within a few messages. I have put it on my profile that I keep things on here, and will not give out my contact details.

Proof that lots of men don't read.

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By *ongandharderMan
24 weeks ago

Rotherham

Keep it on here

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By *NormalMan01Man
24 weeks ago

Harrogate

"It amazes me how often I am asked if I have a messaging app like telegram or WhatsApp, within a few messages. I have put it on my profile that I keep things on here, and will not give out my contact details.

Proof that lots of men don't read. "

Cool. But do you?

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By *ympho6969Woman
24 weeks ago

glasgow

I keep all communication on here til after a social.

Got tired of being pestered on kik. And I don't want 500 contacts named "name+fab) in my contacts.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
24 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"Depends on the person. And what we’re like together. Could be hours, could be days, could be years."

Same really. Some people we move onto messaging very quickly others we stick to talking here. I use telegram mostly as I am in event chats on there and use it for swinging only, but I will use WhatsApp if I trust someone or we are likely going to meet/have met.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
24 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

Tbh these days I only really want to take the chat off here if we are planning on meeting I have too many chats going because of events and it gets overwhelming. I don't always have the mental capacity for chatting all day every day and prefer to just reply to messages when it suits me.

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By *viatrixWoman
24 weeks ago

Redhill

I keep it on here… it is so much more likely that I will respond on here, because if I am here, I am present- reading and answering messages (that I am interested in)

Telegram I hate and find overwhelming. Whatsapp there is such a mishmash of stuff there, family, friends, work… any Fab stuff goes bottom of the pile really.

Snapchat I only use to chat to my sons when they won’t reply on Whatsapp

so no chance there.

Better keep it here.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
24 weeks ago

wonderland.

"…..after chatting with someone on here do you decide to take it to another messaging app or do you prefer to keep it on here? 📞💬

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we prefer to keep it to here. No reason to take it any where else.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
24 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Proof that lots of men don't read.

Cool. But do you? "

No I don't read, only the one brain cell and that's faulty.

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By *ellhungvweMan
24 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Prefer to keep it on here. I generally don’t see a need to move elsewhere.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
24 weeks ago

Naughty Lane

Depends on the person really...sometimes takes days,weeks...sometimes the same day😇🤭

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

Happy to move to WhatsApp when the conversation gets going. I don’t really have a problem sharing my number with people I’m hoping to meet for either social reasons or smooching reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

If we’re getting along I’m happy to move the chat over to Telegram quite quickly. I’m more likely to answer messages on there.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"If we’re getting along I’m happy to move the chat over to Telegram quite quickly. I’m more likely to answer messages on there. "

*cough*

Really?

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By *olarbear73Man
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

Only move to something else like Telegram if we’ve arranged to meet OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"If we’re getting along I’m happy to move the chat over to Telegram quite quickly. I’m more likely to answer messages on there.

*cough*

Really?

I forgot!

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
24 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I forgot!

You’re forgiven, seeing as it’s you. 😏

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By *eyond PurityCouple
24 weeks ago

Haydock

We try and get on Telegram as soon as possible - a 3/4 way conversation on here is impossible to build any heat.

Also feels like you've got someone’s attention on Telegram - on here, there’s too many messages to sift through for women so you’re bound to get lost.

We haven’t had a good flirt for a while on Telegram actually 🤔

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By *ife NinjaMan
24 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I send a face pic. Goes no further 💀🤓

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By *andSxxCouple
24 weeks ago

Birmingham

"…..after chatting with someone on here do you decide to take it to another messaging app or do you prefer to keep it on here? 📞💬

When we met them, everyone enjoyed the fun and we decided to meet regularly.

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By *hunky GentMan
24 weeks ago

Stamford

First thing first.......

Let's get a reply on here.

(One day it will happen).

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
24 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

I’ve already decided after they have asked me.

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By *oeBeansMan
24 weeks ago

Derby

I've never really given my number or Telegram out without them asking or generally they give it to me. I don't want to be presumptuous and look pushy by giving it to them straight away. If they like me enough, they'll give it to me

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
24 weeks ago

Cheshire

We like to keep it on here. No real need to move the same conversation to another platform.

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