FabSwingers.com forum: How do you know...

By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I don't. Soz, Midnight.

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

I never do.

Which is why I am the founder and Empress of the Friendzone.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
25 weeks ago

from mars

I don’t 😂 ….. even if they told me they was … don’t believe them 😀

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

On here, they are usually quite up front.

In person, I can't tell. Last time someone was flirting with me they had to announce "I'm flirting with you!" 😂 Found it quite effective.

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By *olarbear73Man
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

It’s only when they send me a pic with no knickers on that I believe they’re flirting with me

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Women aren’t often flirty with me so I can tell easily

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

Sometimes it's really, really obvious in an almost Carry On style. I don't really like that.

Most of the time I err on the side of caution until we've kissed and I think "oh maybe they're flirting with me".

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
25 weeks ago

Brum

What a happy coincidence.

I was actually thinking this myself.

It’s very difficult to gauge here, in person it’s more straightforward as people generally don’t flirt without some level of intent but if you’re talking about the forum I’ve found that it’s mostly just people that respond to similar personalities and that doesn’t always equate to physical desire.

If you’re a fun flirty type poster around the lounge I’ll usually engage.

If we’re talking privately and still flirting then it’s pretty certain the desire is physical.

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
25 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Never. They’d have to tell me outright and even then I probably wouldn’t believe them!!

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Sometimes it's really, really obvious in an almost Carry On style. I don't really like that.

Most of the time I err on the side of caution until we've kissed and I think "oh maybe they're flirting with me"."

Some people kiss you and they don’t even like you that way. The worst

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar

I can usually tell about 90% of the time...and I'll flirt back but I'm still very slow to take it further just in case im wrong.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
25 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

When the clothes come off 😂

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By *each needs some creamWoman
25 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

It's easy for me as no one would flirting with me.

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By *vaRoseWoman
25 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I don’t, unless it’s really blatant I remain fairly oblivious

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By *ornycougaWoman
25 weeks ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

"I don’t, unless it’s really blatant I remain fairly oblivious "

This. I'm terrible at reading the signs

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I don’t, unless it’s really blatant I remain fairly oblivious

This. I'm terrible at reading the signs"

TERRIBLE!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Central

I find men difficult, perhaps they are too concerned with causing potential upset now? My radar is poor.

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
25 weeks ago

shankill

Tbh a woman could say to me “I’m flat out flirting with you” and I’d still have a doubt in my mind as to whether or not she’s flirting.

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By *electableicecreamMan
25 weeks ago

The West

The only socially acceptable obvious flirting I'm confident in reading is arm touching. If I'm on a date or having a coffee with a woman and she starts reaching out and touching my arm I'll take that as an encouraging sign.

Other than that I have to idea how to read flirting and I've been told that in person I'm impossible to read. Could be ND brain or could be shyness. Probably both.

I've been jumped on enough times to know that I am missing signal's and not moving fast enough 😂

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"They’d have to tell me outright and even then I probably wouldn’t believe them!! "

Sometimes I try that and the poor woman I’m flirting with just stands there in a state of shock.

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"I don’t, unless it’s really blatant I remain fairly oblivious

This. I'm terrible at reading the signs"

Are you flirting with Eva

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"Tbh a woman could say to me “I’m flat out flirting with you” and I’d still have a doubt in my mind as to whether or not she’s flirting. "

Whenever anyone says that to me, I laugh and think ohhhh they are just being funny

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I’d have no idea.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
25 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

On here I get it but but IRL I’m clueless 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

I need someone to be very obvious and say outright. Otherwise I can twist literally anything they say or do to mean Just Friends.

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
25 weeks ago

shankill

"Tbh a woman could say to me “I’m flat out flirting with you” and I’d still have a doubt in my mind as to whether or not she’s flirting.

Whenever anyone says that to me, I laugh and think ohhhh they are just being funny

Nope I’ve had too many wrong calls in reading the signals that it’s gotten to the stage where they explicitly have to call it out

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
25 weeks ago

London

No idea honestly. Flirting or knowing if I’m being flirted with is not my forte.

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
25 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

I assume anyone being “flirty” is just playful banter… 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I don't have a clue?

A woman at the gym tells me all sorts and is a bit touchy with me? But part of me thinks she just has no filter🤣 she's a great mate so wouldn't want to ruin that.

I dont fair much better on here. The said person had to spell it out that they fancy me🤦‍♂️🤣

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
25 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"They’d have to tell me outright and even then I probably wouldn’t believe them!!

Sometimes I try that and the poor woman I’m flirting with just stands there in a state of shock.

Yep, that sounds about right for my reaction too!

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar

"The only socially acceptable obvious flirting I'm confident in reading is arm touching. If I'm on a date or having a coffee with a woman and she starts reaching out and touching my arm I'll take that as an encouraging sign.

Other than that I have to idea how to read flirting and I've been told that in person I'm impossible to read. Could be ND brain or could be shyness. Probably both.

I've been jumped on enough times to know that I am missing signal's and not moving fast enough 😂"

Definitely ND brain I think. I have to tell Mr when someone is interested in him....but he can sometimes see if someone is interested in me. I do find ND people don't give off any signals at all. And have to actually say it 🤣

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

When they ask to meet. Until then, I'd just put it down to a bit of friendly faux flirting.

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By *urvyownedsubCouple
25 weeks ago

Rochdale

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

I don't. Ever.

I never seem to pick up on either the subtle flirting or blatant flirting

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By *elboy1957Man
25 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

Can usually tell by the look in their eyes and how they keep touching you

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By *ngel7disguiseWoman
25 weeks ago

Loughborough

I’m hopeless at flirting, I’ve had people ask me if I am, and usually I’m just being friendly.

I also have no idea if someone is flirting with me… I just think they’re being friendly.

Having ADHD, you need to tell me 😂

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By *B..Woman
25 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Sometimes in person I can tell, over messages unless they put it out there I’m terrible, I’m a crap message writer myself so I doubt they would even notice

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

It's in their eyes.

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
25 weeks ago

Reading

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

Not a feckin clue. Ask me about Margo's first visit.

I'm also shit at flirting.

#hasze

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By *ildTimes.Man
25 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Dunno, Maybe check the other 20 threads on the same thing 🤷🏻‍♂️ 🥪

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By *NormalMan01Man
25 weeks ago

Harrogate

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

Ask them.

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By *al kalMan
25 weeks ago

London

A light and/or inconspicuous touch might a give away.

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Getting caught in a stare and looking away sheepish

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By *ynamicnatureMan
25 weeks ago

Doncaster

Face to face, she would have to ask for my wallet, take the condom out and ask, "would you like to use this on me?"

Online, it's a lot harder,😅

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By *ischiefmanaged90Man
25 weeks ago

Blackpool

Can see it when it's happening with others but oblivious when it's actually happening to me.

You could have a light on your head saying im flirting with you and I'd somehow still miss it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

When I was younger it was easy. Now I tend to assume everyone is being friendly looking for an opportunity to help me across the road.

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By *ray_BTWMan
25 weeks ago

Worcester

In person, the obvious body language, eye contact and being touchy feely usually gives the game away.

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Soho

They usually tell me upfront about their designs, at best. Otherwise it's the nuances in their messages that lead me to suspect, at worst.

Women are exemplary when it comes to admitting their 'poor' skills at flirting even though they excel at it without even knowing it.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
25 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Like everyone else seems to, I have no clue, the only advice I know comes from The Streets

I saw this thing on ITV the other week,

Said, that if she played with her hair, she's probably keen

She's playin with her hair, well regularly,

So I reckon I could well be in.

Doesn't work over text though.

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By *oeBeansMan
25 weeks ago

Derby

I'm not really too sure to be honest but it's kind of why I don't be flirty in a friendly or funny way because I don't want to send mixed signals if I don't fancy them in that way. When I flirt, I flirt with intent!

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I'm really bad. I just think a person is being friendly or kind towards me and nothing more.

I need to be sat down and told as being subtle goes over my head. 😊

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I actually find this really difficult. On here it's difficult to differentiate between friendly banter and flirting. IRL I find it equally difficult to be honest.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

I recognize it much more easily if I'm also feeling it.

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"I'm not really too sure to be honest but it's kind of why I don't be flirty in a friendly or funny way because I don't want to send mixed signals if I don't fancy them in that way. When I flirt, I flirt with intent!

What does it mean when you buy cherry pie for someone

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By *oeBeansMan
25 weeks ago

Derby

What does it mean when you buy cherry pie for someone

It means you can eat it... Just off my body

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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What does it mean when you buy cherry pie for someone

It means you can eat it... Just off my body

Oh yah, that sounds matey 😆

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By *oeBeansMan
25 weeks ago

Derby

What does it mean when you buy cherry pie for someone

It means you can eat it... Just off my body

Oh yah, that sounds matey 😆"

Are they even friends if you don't eat food off their naked bodies? 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I say a prayer with every heartbeat..

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By *oughmanMan
25 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don't. I am completely oblivious. It's been pointed out to me weeks/months after the fact. "You know she was flirting with you, right?" My response "was she?". I felt sorry for her because of my utter cluelessness.

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By *oughmanMan
25 weeks ago

Sunderland

I will point out I'm not much different now.

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By *ongandharderMan
25 weeks ago

Rotherham

I don't

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By *atte Lover 82Man
25 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Completely oblivious to this always have been always willing be 🤣

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By *anonfire96Man
25 weeks ago

Mansfield

Absolutely useless at reading other people's internet, maybe 40 years of marriage had something to do with it.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They'd have to slap me around the face with a wet haddock 🤣🤣

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By *mf123Man
25 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They'd have to slap me around the face with a wet haddock 🤣🤣"
thats some strange flirting they do down south

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By *es not the MessiahMan
25 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

I don't

I'm crap at spotting it

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
25 weeks ago

Brum

They change their location to a place you’re going to visit for a week in April…

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They'd have to slap me around the face with a wet haddock 🤣🤣thats some strange flirting they do down south

What can I say we're a fishy lot 🤣

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By *ucka39Man
25 weeks ago

Newcastle

When they send you butterfly kisses

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
25 weeks ago

your head

Not a clue. They have to physically tell me, I'm crap at picking up on it otherwise.

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

"Dunno, Maybe check the other 20 threads on the same thing 🤷🏻‍♂️ 🥪"

This is flirting.

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I'm terrible at this. I wish they'd just stick their boob in my face 🤓

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
25 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

Nobody flirts with me, people are just friendly aren’t they?

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By *aFemmeCoquetteWoman
25 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

If ypu figure out the secret of working it out let me know cause I'm clueless, pretty much need to tell me bluntly 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I never do I literally need to be told bluntly otherwise I just assume that person is just being friendly or polite

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By *ubikslongswordMan
25 weeks ago

Rubiksville

When you find out can you let me know please?

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Nobody flirts with me, people are just friendly aren’t they? "

Hey, how you doin'

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Eye contact, a cheeky smile. Touching. Or more to the point finding excuses to touch. Laughing. Moving closer. Mirroring body language. A comment a shade more cheeky than needs be.

Nah - it’s really really hard to tell.

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"They change their location to a place you’re going to visit for a week in April…"

Wait what

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By *allnHandsome12Man
25 weeks ago

Teesside

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

No idea, and even worse, I don’t know how to flirt!

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They'd have to slap me around the face with a wet haddock 🤣🤣thats some strange flirting they do down south

Standard for ooop North!!

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By *ros40Man
25 weeks ago

Bedford

I've a 100% success rate on not having a clue

Those that I thought were,weren't

One of the reasons I'm on here

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
25 weeks ago

from mars

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
25 weeks ago

from mars

Just message if you do 😉👅

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
25 weeks ago

Staffordshire

They would need to rub their body on mine, think then I'd know

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By *lassy2Couple
25 weeks ago

sutton Coldfield

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

I genuinely don’t have a clue, married for nearly 30 years & my wife initially asked me out for a drink, it was the third date before I realised what was happening - you could say I’m a bit slow

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
25 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They'd have to slap me around the face with a wet haddock 🤣🤣thats some strange flirting they do down south

Standard for ooop North!! "

I must be an honorary northerner 🤣🤣

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By *entleman JayMan
25 weeks ago

Wakefield

I don’t think I’d know either.

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
25 weeks ago

Watermouth

If you think he is do it back.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

How are people so clueless? Or is this the cutsie answer!? Damn. I'm doing fab wrong!!

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By *midnight- OP Woman
25 weeks ago

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"How are people so clueless? Or is this the cutsie answer!? Damn. I'm doing fab wrong!!"

How do you know 🤔🤔🤔

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Fuck knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"How are people so clueless? Or is this the cutsie answer!? Damn. I'm doing fab wrong!!

How do you know 🤔🤔🤔"

They have a look in their eye. If you're intuitive you can pick it up easily. I'm obviously talking proper flirting not chatting on here. That isn't flirting.

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By *ooBulMan
25 weeks ago

SNottingham

They punch you in the arm, pull your hair & tweak your nipples cos they like you!!!

If they are flirting they rub themselves up & down you leg like a Fergie video (that's the pop star not the red faced & red nosed angry one that threw a tea cup & kicked a football boot at a player.)

Friends tend to be more matey. From a stranger view point it's a bit hit & miss. Depends if you regularly see them I suppose but it's not prescriptive...

If they do the virtual stirring the cauldron in front of you, then they're definitely taking the piss & trying to wind you up intentionally!!! Body posture I guess? Smiling face? Dunno after that....

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By *ansoffateMan
25 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Predatorial glare, playful giggle when I am caught between the headlights, the single eye-brow raise. The closing of the gap.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
25 weeks ago

North West

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

I don't know. I just don't know. It feels like you're flirting with me here now

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By *NormalMan01Man
25 weeks ago

Harrogate

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

I’ve heard, if a woman fancies you, their profile picture is of them in red lingerie.

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By *inxy777Woman
25 weeks ago

essex

🤷‍♀️ no idea. X

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Today I asked somebody in another thread, “Are you flirting with me?”. It turns out he wasn't

But then, he started flirting for real

Sometimes all you have to do is ask

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By *ruceyyMan
25 weeks ago

London

"... If someone is flirting with you

Or just being funny / matey ??

They say, no but for real I would love to have sex with you.

That's what I do anyway

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