FabSwingers.com forum: How often does the conversation continue after you send a face pic?

By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Roughly how often does the conversation go on and how often does it stop dead? I guess I'm asking because I reckon I'm batting around 1 in 30 where it actually continues and a guy can develop a complex 😅

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

Oh 😳 I'm surprised at that Joe.

One guy deleted his profile after we sent face pictures but otherwise it usually progresses to a social, we don't send them unless we're pretty sure we're going to meet. Mind you we very rarely get to that stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

I think I've had 1 vanishing act, and I've done the vanishing act 2 times because I knew them from work, and I didn't know what to do.

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Seconds.....at best minutes 🤓

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Oh 😳 I'm surprised at that Joe.

I've always been in two minds whether to send it straight away or chat a bit before sending it so they can match the face to the personality. I have always sort of found the latter a tiny bit more successful

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By *eoBloomsMan
25 weeks ago

Springfield

Amazed by those stats as you're a handsome guy ! Presumably this is quite a few messages where you've had no prior contact (Forum, etc) ?

Personally happened very little but I send very few first messages with no previous interaction.

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By *ude LawMan
25 weeks ago

Harrogate

Chin up, JB. At least you've had at least 30 messages.

Some will fancy you, some won't. What will be, will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I usually send a face pic in a first message. And obviously nearly all of my messages are ignored.

But if someone sends one and I send one back (usually from the forums) the chat always continues.

I am not bothered anymore though whether people on fab can see the beauty in me- I don’t let it make me feel ugly. And I usually just focus on the fact that I have at least two people in my life that think I am attractive.

It used to make me feel ugly but fuck giving fab of all places that power over me.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

It’s probably 50/50.

And then I go off 50% of the ones that stick around because clearly they have no standards…

It’s a tightrope

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I usually send a face pic in a first message. And obviously nearly all of my messages are ignored.

But if someone sends one and I send one back (usually from the forums) the chat always continues.

It used to make me feel ugly but fuck giving fab of all places that power over me. "

🥰🥰🥰

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By *a LunaWoman
25 weeks ago

o o OO o o

This is why I like to swap pics ASAP.

Many a time I’ve been chatting to someone and they’re giving dark mysterious sexy vibes, and then when I finally get a pic they look like Clive from my local B&Q.

Nothing wrong with that, it’s my imaginations fault, but ya know, reach me before I get carried away.

But then I look like Susan Boyle, so who am I to moan.

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By *arialoueWoman
25 weeks ago

Doncaster

Mine usually die off well before it gets to face pic or meeting

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By *ibbleValleyFullSwapCouple
25 weeks ago

Your Hotlist

Great responses, no follow up, we must be mingers 🤣

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are. "

That's true, but then I really wonder what's in a face pic? It's a snapshot of a person as opposed to seeing how they really laugh and smile and other intricacies that lead to attraction 🤷‍♂️

I.e. I could just take a shit photo 😂

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By *ude LawMan
25 weeks ago

Harrogate

"Many a time I’ve been chatting to someone and they’re giving dark mysterious sexy vibes, and then when I finally get a pic they look like Clive from my local B&Q."

Clive and let Clive is what I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I usually send a face pic in a first message. And obviously nearly all of my messages are ignored.

But if someone sends one and I send one back (usually from the forums) the chat always continues.

It used to make me feel ugly but fuck giving fab of all places that power over me.

🥰🥰🥰

When you see my face you’ll want to taste the Pickle. I just have a feeling

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"This is why I like to swap pics ASAP.

Many a time I’ve been chatting to someone and they’re giving dark mysterious sexy vibes, and then when I finally get a pic they look like Clive from my local B&Q.

Nothing wrong with that, it’s my imaginations fault, but ya know, reach me before I get carried away.

But then I look like Susan Boyle, so who am I to moan."

The pics we swapped are awesome 😘🤓

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

I actually think conversation stops after face pics (for me) because the other person feels obligated to say something about my face. And I don’t think what my face looks like is interesting conversation 😬

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
25 weeks ago

Reading

A face pic had rarely put me off someone. If the conversation is going well then the picture just adds another detail.

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"I actually think conversation stops after face pics (for me) because the other person feels obligated to say something about my face. And I don’t think what my face looks like is interesting conversation 😬"

You've got nice bricks 🤓

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

Back when I was messaging and meeting I rarely shared a face pic unless we had already agreed to meet and it was only to identify each other in the coffee shop.

In my very early days here when I did exchange pics a few times I can only remember one conversation ending as soon as I sent mine so I always assumed she knew me but I didn't recognise her from the pic she sent me.

I don't remember it happening at any other time.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

I.e. I could just take a shit photo 😂"

This is so true. I was talking to my partner about this yesterday because I hate my smile but I only see it in pictures. Usually women cite it as their favourite thing about me or most attractive thing. And it was pointed out that in a picture you’re only getting a snapshot of that, you don’t see the whole thing.

Basically you’re right- pictures don’t highlight how someone is when moving candidly in different lights etc.

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"I think I've had 1 vanishing act, and I've done the vanishing act 2 times because I knew them from work, and I didn't know what to do. "

Ahhh that makes sense, but in general the conversation has continued even if it hasn't led to a meet? I think only having 1 is good going!

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are. "

I agree, fuck those people. I don't have a 100% success rate, you always roll the dice on someone's else's attraction to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I disagree. I could talk loads about your face. But I think you’d hate it

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By *midnight-Woman
25 weeks ago

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Ohhh I know I know.. do two - one with a paper bag and sharpie smilie face and then the second one is your normal face

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

I agree, fuck those people. I don't have a 100% success rate, you always roll the dice on someone's else's attraction to you. "

My favourite abba song is take a chance on me.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Chichester

Prob 50/50

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By *aptainjack999Man
25 weeks ago

wigan

Yeah had a few blocks after the face pic haha but ay well what can you do. People take this place to seriously. The women can picky cause there outnumbered 100:1

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

Count me in the surprised group, Joe… you’re very handsome 😍

I tend to send a very everyday photo because one thing is dressing up and making faces/pouts (I don’t, teasing!

) so they see what I really look like 😂😂 always with glasses because I wear them and am hopeless without them. Photo tends to go down well usually.

I’ve had a couple of very uncomfortable instances at 2 social meets where the guys were expecting someone not different from the race they were, and not with an accent, but that is a different matter and I now make it clear that I am -not- from here and I -have- a foreign accent!

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By *uilleogMan
25 weeks ago

london

Not very long, usually. I’ve started sending them in first message, to save time/hassle. I’ve had a few where they’ve said “ooh, handsome” (it’s subjective, I guess, I’m 55, but wasn’t George Clooney at 25, much less now). And then ended up ghosting me anyways. I’ve had a few where I got past the picture stage, and AGAIN they end up ghosting. But the male/female ratio here is ridiculous, so I understand that mostly they’ve just got a better offer. 🤔

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By *uchessdoeWoman
25 weeks ago

Northampton

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

I agree, fuck those people. I don't have a 100% success rate, you always roll the dice on someone's else's attraction to you.

My favourite abba song is take a chance on me. "

🎶 If you change your mind, I'm the first in line 🎶

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By *ony MannMan
25 weeks ago

South Newton

Many requests for pictures and so few offers. I was taught to offer before asking. Of course there is no way to know that the pic is them.

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By *i_alternative_coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

cradley

Has happened a few times or had things like sorry we don't like beards (which is valid but literally have public photos showing) it's sometimes laziness where people don't read anything on a profile before jumping in with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

I agree, fuck those people. I don't have a 100% success rate, you always roll the dice on someone's else's attraction to you.

My favourite abba song is take a chance on me.

🎶 If you change your mind, I'm the first in line 🎶"

Yep

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I normally get a 'you look older'. Well yeah, I'm fucking 52! 😬🤓

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Amazed by those stats as you're a handsome guy ! Presumably this is quite a few messages where you've had no prior contact (Forum, etc) ?

Personally happened very little but I send very few first messages with no previous interaction."

I appreciate that! Yeah, I suppose a lot of them have come from the forums or people who have searched locally and want a face pic in the first few messages or I feel obligated to send one.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
25 weeks ago

North West

50/50 for me. Get called handsome etc on the one hand, ghosted and if really polite just a you're not our type but good luck comments on the other. All depends. I know I'm not everyone's types. So yeah doesn't bother me.

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By *tagge_fyxeCouple
25 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Twice so far but that’s ok - I’m not everyone’s cup of tea same as everyone isn’t mine.

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

I’d say 50/50, but I can’t please everyone

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By *illy IdolMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

It's happened a fair few times, but I just put it down to my good looks being too intimidating

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I haven’t noticed that sharing a face pic really makes a difference. There’s either some conversational chemistry or there isn’t.

Coyote (remember her?) taught me to send little five or 10-second videos instead of photos. Seeing someone move makes a difference, I think.

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Chin up, JB. At least you've had at least 30 messages.

Some will fancy you, some won't. What will be, will be."

Yeah, I suppose getting messages is an achievement in and if itself! When it doesn't lead to anything, you can start questioning things 😅

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

"I think I've had 1 vanishing act, and I've done the vanishing act 2 times because I knew them from work, and I didn't know what to do.

Ahhh that makes sense, but in general the conversation has continued even if it hasn't led to a meet? I think only having 1 is good going!"

In general until it eventually fizzles out naturally. But I think also, men are less fussy than women (not all men!) and they could overlook a less fortunate face because they like the boobs/butt/legs! x

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By *rHotNottsMan
25 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I can remember that kind of exchange in the early days of using FAB, but I do things very differently now, No rush , get to know people, add each other as friends (most have face pics there) before talking about meeting, let things progress organically and avoid those awkward conversations altogether.

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By *eliWoman
25 weeks ago

It's never happened to me. That's not because my face is beautiful, far from it. It's more... I tend to talk to people but not in an I'm seeing if we might fuck way.

My face is good enough for friendship, definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I don’t believe this. I’ve seen your face and it’s definitely kiss and sit worthy.

It’s not happened to me but that’s because I’m a woman on fab. My face is average at best but I’ll be told I’m the most beautiful woman on fab. (Until I reject them and then I’m an ugly fat slag of course 😎)

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"I usually send a face pic in a first message. And obviously nearly all of my messages are ignored.

But if someone sends one and I send one back (usually from the forums) the chat always continues.

It used to make me feel ugly but fuck giving fab of all places that power over me. "

That's beautiful, man ♥️

I think it is easy to let it get to you but having those people in your life makes it easier not to worry about it

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By *elloWoman
25 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I've never requested a face photo but get sent them, I never know how to respond to face pics so I don't really like to comment on how they look.

They might be the most gorgeous looking person ever but when we meet there could be no chemistry, the best sexual partners I've had have all not been my type looks wise.

So if I'm messaging someone and they send a face photo and then the messages start to trail off it's because something else has caught my attention or I simply forgot who I was messaging.

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By *uacksplat.Woman
25 weeks ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

probably 50/50.

i know im not for everyone, and vice versa, so it doesn't usually upset me.

for everyone 1 that finds my mug revolting, there will be someone else who doesn't. and that's where the conversation will bloom

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
25 weeks ago

Staines

3/4 I get blocked after sending a mug shot. Not even " sorry but bear is not for us" . Just blocked

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By *ondonConfidentialMan
25 weeks ago

Chelmsford

With couples - 99/100.

With women - marginally better 98/100 :P The remaining 2 log off for months :P

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By *exxyyDy11Man
25 weeks ago

North West

"Yeah had a few blocks after the face pic haha but ay well what can you do. People take this place to seriously. The women can picky cause there outnumbered 100:1 "

Seriously?? Blocked after sending a face pic? That seems a bit harsh.

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By *ou only live onceMan
25 weeks ago

London

Hmmm, that is tough, even though I'm sure it's nothing like a 1/30 conversion! Definitely no need for any complexes though, Joe.

People of Fab don't seem to mind my face, but I send very few messages so I must just be getting lucky. I clearly have many other ways to put people off, though!

😂

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"It’s probably 50/50.

And then I go off 50% of the ones that stick around because clearly they have no standards…

It’s a tightrope

I love that self deprecation

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Usually 0.045seconds.

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By *arriedminxCouple
25 weeks ago

here

"This is why I much prefer swiping apps. At least I know the facial attraction already exists.

Also fuck the people that don’t see how attractive you are.

I.e. I could just take a shit photo 😂"

This! Some people just don’t photograph well. If I like the person enough to be talking to them a while I’ll make judgment when we meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I haven't done this in ages so I'm not sure about the percentages but it's definitely happened that I've had a few 'thanks but no thanks' responses in my time. It's fine - I'm fairly average-looking, there are a lot of men on the site for women to choose from. I'm not for everyone.

Luckily I am OK for some people - someone even called me handsome recently. So I try not to let rejections of my face bother me.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
25 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

My profile pic IS my face, so I can't tell whether when people don't reply it is because of my face, body, profile, or message 😁

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By *tandardIssueNerdMan
25 weeks ago

Telford

Definitely more often than not it will grind the conversation to a halt 😅

I've also had it when I've attached a face pic in the initial message (after they requested it on their profile) and have been blocked straight away.

That tends to cheer up my day!

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I've already won them over with my charm and wit by the time they see my face. Then it's too late to back out

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By *orphia2003Woman
25 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I never send one, given I have loads on my public pics.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
25 weeks ago

Voldsøy

I don't think it has yet, not that I've sent it to many people. I'm always, ALWAYS surprised when they don't run off after seeing my mug though! The trick is to hook them with your charm first 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I reckon around 80% of the time, my convo’s carry on after they’ve seen me.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've already won them over with my charm and wit by the time they see my face. Then it's too late to back out

Oh and tits. That helps to distract them.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Depends. There is a real element of trust surrounding it for me. I've sent some in the passed and people stopped taking.

It takes a lot to send a face pic for privacy reasons. At the very least a bit interested message back would be fair.

That is why I prefer using snap or telegram to send one.

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"This is why I like to swap pics ASAP.

Many a time I’ve been chatting to someone and they’re giving dark mysterious sexy vibes, and then when I finally get a pic they look like Clive from my local B&Q.

Nothing wrong with that, it’s my imaginations fault, but ya know, reach me before I get carried away.

But then I look like Susan Boyle, so who am I to moan."

I think that's why I've sent the pic straight away too. I've always felt like people look at my pics and expect a 10/10 and then get disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"It's never happened to me. That's not because my face is beautiful, far from it. It's more... I tend to talk to people but not in an I'm seeing if we might fuck way.

My face is good enough for friendship, definitely.

Same as Meli.

It'll be my sparkling personality that puts them off a couple of days later.

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Great responses, no follow up, we must be mingers 🤣"

It's easy to think like that, right? 😂

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

It's always that thing where you say something nice about their face and you think they feel obligated to say something nice back 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"I've already won them over with my charm and wit by the time they see my face. Then it's too late to back out

Oh and tits. That helps to distract them. "
it’s never too late

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
25 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Weird one here, my face is oddly photogenic and so I have to send pics that are advertised but where I don’t look too pretty, cos I couldn’t bear to see the crushing disappointment when we met irl

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've got face pics on my profile. Lots of them.

I guess the equivalent with me is when I make it clear the don't accommodate thing is accurate and that they have to worry about their neighbours seeing me calling on them. Messages usually dry up after that has sunk in.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
25 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

"Weird one here, my face is oddly photogenic and so I have to send pics that are advertised but where I don’t look too pretty, cos I couldn’t bear to see the crushing disappointment when we met irl

Acceptable not advertised, sorry

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By *weetiepie99Woman
25 weeks ago

cardiff

I think it's only happened once where I sent it actually to a forum user, I think he's hot!! It sort of stopped after that as the distance was the issue apparently

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By *ife NinjaMan
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Acceptable not advertised, sorry"

I'll risk it 🤓

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

This face always puts them off 🤣😂, but least the mother thinks I'm beautiful lol or she did as she's passed in now 😂

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By *ecky and justCouple
25 weeks ago

Godalming

For us.. probably about 50/50

We’ve had some that are surprised that I have a shaved head, even though we put it in our profile..

But, we’re not fussed. There are always others that will like you.

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Back when I was messaging and meeting I rarely shared a face pic unless we had already agreed to meet and it was only to identify each other in the coffee shop.

I don't remember it happening at any other time. "

That's really interesting. So what would you do if they asked for a face pic pretty early on in the conversation?

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

"Back when I was messaging and meeting I rarely shared a face pic unless we had already agreed to meet and it was only to identify each other in the coffee shop.

I don't remember it happening at any other time.

That's really interesting. So what would you do if they asked for a face pic pretty early on in the conversation?"

I honestly wouldn't send one. I have chatted to people for weeks or months before agreeing to meet for coffee and in at least half a dozen occasions haven't exchanged face pics at all and just texted beforehand to say what car we are driving or what we are wearing.

Some people might assume that means I'm not fussy but the opposite is true. I'm extremely picky but I don't meet people with the expectation of having sex with them and very often I know before meeting them that we aren't sexually compatible but they seem like good people and worth meeting just as friends.

I can't judge attraction on a 2D image so I won't use that option and on the few occasions I have shared a pic with someone, a couple of those people have passed my pics along to others in chat groups so that's another reason I refuse to give a random stranger my pic.

I don't have any issue with someone ending the conversation when I tell them I don't exchange pics because that is their perogative.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

To be fair the conversation usually dies well before that point I am a bit of a boring cunt haha

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By *ympho6969Woman
25 weeks ago

glasgow

Almost every time. I'm by no means a 10, and I am aware of that. Genuinely thought I'd get more rejections if I'm totally honest.

But they still want to talk.

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
25 weeks ago

Hounslow

We understand the we're not for everyone and everyone isn't for us. People naturally want to see who they're talking too. If there isn't an attraction people should just be honest. The block button is there for a reason and should be used to stop people who you have no intention of meeting messaging you.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
25 weeks ago

North West

Here's a question for people on here. Have you ever been rejected when posting a face pic and later on, the same person who rejected you has sent you a message showing their interest again?

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

I've been ghosted by someone 1 day before meeting, then received a message on here a month later telling me he'd love to get to know me etc. I blocked him, then sent a photo of Casper on whatsapp and blocked there. I like to think he is still confused to this day 😅

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By *oeBeans OP Man
25 weeks ago

Derby

"Here's a question for people on here. Have you ever been rejected when posting a face pic and later on, the same person who rejected you has sent you a message showing their interest again? "

This has actually happened to me! And then they ask for a face pic again

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
25 weeks ago

In fair Verona.

I’m sorry if I’m out of their league, it’s not my fault if they believe they don’t stand a chance, but I’ve been blanked a couple of times when I send a face photo, it’s par for the course online.

That’s why I like to jump out from behind bins when I see hot chics.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I’ve had this a couple times. Sent a face pic and been blocked! I didn’t think I was that bad looking… now I feel like Quasimodo!

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By *midnight-Woman
25 weeks ago

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"Here's a question for people on here. Have you ever been rejected when posting a face pic and later on, the same person who rejected you has sent you a message showing their interest again? "

You said you wouldn't keep bringing that up

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By *orbidden eastMan
25 weeks ago

london dodging electric bikes

It happens quite a few times, but luckily its being a polite no thank you

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By *oPantsJustVibesMan
25 weeks ago

Thailand

About 50% of the time I don’t get responses after a face pic lol. I don’t think I’m a bad looking guy, I keep myself well groomed but I’m also no model or channing Tatum lol.

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By *inkShyWoman
25 weeks ago

near Windsor

"About 50% of the time I don’t get responses after a face pic lol. I don’t think I’m a bad looking guy, I keep myself well groomed but I’m also no model or channing Tatum lol."

Channing Tatum isn't all that 🤣 we only like him when he is Magic Mike

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By *es not the MessiahMan
25 weeks ago

3rd rock from the sun

Never

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By *exxyyDy11Man
25 weeks ago

North West

"Here's a question for people on here. Have you ever been rejected when posting a face pic and later on, the same person who rejected you has sent you a message showing their interest again?

You said you wouldn't keep bringing that up

Traumatic experience alright 😔

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By *r.ZeusMan
25 weeks ago

Basgiath War College

Majority have ended for me. Time to get the paper bag 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I think my face photos may get me the message in the first place. ..however if I don't reply within a light speed time frame, sometimes I'll get called arrogant..( tends to be a conversation killer that accusation..)

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By *atte Lover 82Man
25 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Don't usually get that far in the first place. So sometimes I put it on my profile if I'm feeling brave

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By *ora the explorerWoman
25 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d rather see it with the first message tbh. I don’t really open the ones without them. If I ever sent a message with a view to meeting

Someone I’d send mine.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
25 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’d rather see it with the first message tbh. I don’t really open the ones without them. If I ever sent a message with a view to meeting

Someone I’d send mine. "

Sorry I didn’t read the op

. I only read a few comments. I really must read the op!

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By *interfoxWoman
25 weeks ago

maesteg

Pretty often for me haha

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By *ad NannaWoman
25 weeks ago

East London

Every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

It's happened a few times. It's life.

I see it as another way of filtering out the ones I won't be compatible with.

I've stopped conversation after seeing a couple of people's photos before myself. Some I recognised, some the facial attraction just wasn't there. 🤷‍♀️

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By *cLovin2Man
25 weeks ago

London

"I think I've had 1 vanishing act, and I've done the vanishing act 2 times because I knew them from work, and I didn't know what to do. "

Don't worry I wanked over your picture anyways, I didn't tell everyone either or did I? 🤨

(I'm just pulling your leg) I don't know you.

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By *cLovin2Man
25 weeks ago

London

"Count me in the surprised group, Joe… you’re very handsome 😍

I tend to send a very everyday photo because one thing is dressing up and making faces/pouts (I don’t, teasing!

) so they see what I really look like 😂😂 always with glasses because I wear them and am hopeless without them. Photo tends to go down well usually.

Don't you just hate a woman saying oh god during sex in an accent different to yours

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By *iddle ManMan
25 weeks ago

Walsall

It can vary, I've been blocked afterwards, or I've arranged to meet. It's seems a lottery. Then again the whole site is just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Most of the time the conversation continues after sending a face pic. I find the my success rate is a little lower when it comes to couples. It’s harder to trying to get two people to find you attractive at the same time.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
25 weeks ago

North West

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

I don't understand cricket so unsure if 1 in 30 is a good batting average.

But we rarely send face pics, other than for FPF occasionally or to people we already connected with. We've had a fair few scarper after first seeing our mushes but even more who'd leg it (pun intended) after realising I'm disabled.

It's just...... Modern life.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"Most of the time the conversation continues after sending a face pic. I find the my success rate is a little lower when it comes to couples. It’s harder to trying to get two people to find you attractive at the same time. "

*Everyone* finds you attractive though, surely?

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

"Count me in the surprised group, Joe… you’re very handsome 😍

I tend to send a very everyday photo because one thing is dressing up and making faces/pouts (I don’t, teasing!

) so they see what I really look like 😂😂 always with glasses because I wear them and am hopeless without them. Photo tends to go down well usually.

Don't you just hate a woman saying oh god during sex in an accent different to yours

I don’t say Oh God. That would be blasphemous.

And fucking boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

JB this surprises me ,you have a handsome face!

As far as I know no one has felt sick from looking at my face, it's usually my personality that puts them off🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

*Everyone* finds you attractive though, surely?

Apparently people have standards.

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By *entleman JayMan
25 weeks ago

Wakefield

It happens. Just get them face pictures send early. Can save lots of embarrassment on both sides.

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By *ruceyyMan
25 weeks ago

London

Honestly, most people fucking love me.

But sometimes people just don't see true beauty. Don't feel hurt by those people, feel sorry.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Don't forget OP that it can be because the other person may see you as 'out of their league' I don't believe in leagues personally, but some people will feel intimidated and end the chat there and then.

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By *ruceyyMan
25 weeks ago

London

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Yeah that's what happens to me

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By *oyalman73Man
25 weeks ago

LEIC

Meet at my country pub for drink or coffee maybe more LE12

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Yeah that's what happens to me "

I think you're in a league of your own Brucey

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
25 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

"It happens quite a few times, but luckily its being a polite no thank you

I thought of you when I read this thread 😂😂

Have never requested a face pic or had someone show disinterest after seeing my face pic 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not particularly pretty… I’m Just a female on a website of horny men that will go after anything they can 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

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By *LiamMan
25 weeks ago

Midlands

It's a 50/50 chance I reckon

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By *hegreatcornholioMan
25 weeks ago

Redditch

Usually ends with not my type!

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By *reachersdaughterWoman
25 weeks ago

Someplace

Happened to me once, felt kinda shitty cos the guy was super hot lol

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Yeah that's what happens to me "

I want to see a face photo, Bruceyy plzthks

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Happened to me once, felt kinda shitty cos the guy was super hot lol"

I didn't mean to cause offence. I was just a little too old for you I thought 😉

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By *ruceyyMan
25 weeks ago

London

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Yeah that's what happens to me

I want to see a face photo, Bruceyy plzthks"

She's a fan everyone, told ya!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Central

"Oh 😳 I'm surprised at that Joe.

I think now you're back with us, it could be a good time for you to do a proper test and then to evaluate your results

I mostly get to swapping fairly late in the getting to know each other process. It mostly works and we go on to meet. I've sensed what I thought was a cooling once or twice but inevitably here, there's a fairly high attrition rate

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By *eroLondonMan
25 weeks ago

Soho

I rarely message outside of the fora and even so I •never• attach a photograph of my face, unless it's a forum game or challenge.

Most conversations are instigated by the other person...and they rarely send a photo with the opening message.

I've never offered or asked for a face photo, sometimes leaving the other person quite discombobulated because they're so used to other men making demands or coaxing them to swap pictures of faces and intimate parts so soon and so quickly. The truth is that I'm just too insouciant to be fussed either way.

I'm a slow burn and I'll chat for weeks and weeks and months until photographs are exchanged – by which time so much chemistry has been established that the conversation often continues for a long while after that. If it fizzles out then it's probably down to practical things such as distance or logistics etc.

Have I ever been rejected on the basis of my face photo? Absolutely. I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

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By *viatrixWoman
25 weeks ago

Redhill

"So you message someone or someone messages you. You get along pretty well and then comes the time when you send a face pic.

Yeah that's what happens to me

I want to see a face photo, Bruceyy plzthks

She's a fan everyone, told ya!"

Well, I haven’t run for the hills…. Yet.

🏃🏻‍♀️

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By *eyond PurityCouple
25 weeks ago

Lincs

The good thing about being in a couple is when we get turned down, we can just think it’s each other that’s the problem and not ourself

We have been turned down and we’ve turned people down - we tend to swop pics early on, as it’s worse when you get completely invested and then there’s no facial attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I usually exchange early doors and saves the whole thing really, and just say get back if interested.

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By *TWboyMan
25 weeks ago

kings Lynn

"I've never requested a face photo but get sent them, I never know how to respond to face pics so I don't really like to comment on how they look.

They might be the most gorgeous looking person ever but when we meet there could be no chemistry, the best sexual partners I've had have all not been my type looks wise.

So if I'm messaging someone and they send a face photo and then the messages start to trail off it's because something else has caught my attention or I simply forgot who I was messaging."

This is so true !!

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By *TWboyMan
25 weeks ago

kings Lynn

"The good thing about being in a couple is when we get turned down, we can just think it’s each other that’s the problem and not ourself

We have been turned down and we’ve turned people down - we tend to swop pics early on, as it’s worse when you get completely invested and then there’s no facial attraction.

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

One week ago

We were chatting

Good vibe

Not looking for a meet

Just a nice conversation

Asked me for a face pic

Then a cruel “Not for Me” plus the inevitable “Happy Fabbing” (how I hate that sentence)

And blocked me

THE END

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
25 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"One week ago

We were chatting

Good vibe

Not looking for a meet

Just a nice conversation

Asked me for a face pic

Then a cruel “Not for Me” plus the inevitable “Happy Fabbing” (how I hate that sentence)

And blocked me

THE END

The pair of classics "not for me, but happy fabbing" think we've all been there 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"One week ago

We were chatting

Good vibe

Not looking for a meet

Just a nice conversation

Asked me for a face pic

Then a cruel “Not for Me” plus the inevitable “Happy Fabbing” (how I hate that sentence)

And blocked me

THE END

Ben on the receiving end of that kind of treatment too. Confidence takes a beating quickly x

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By *NormalMan01Man
25 weeks ago

Harrogate

Depends on various things.

How interested the other party is and how nice they are 😂😂

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By *illie fitMan
25 weeks ago

Bournemouth

After sending a face pic I normally get the response “not for me”

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
25 weeks ago

London

I’m more on „Not the type I usually go for but I’d still fuck you regardless” end receiver.

Shrug.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

For me facial attraction is more important than bodily attraction (I say this in my profile). Early face pics are important because I know I won’t meet if the face doesn’t fit. I’m not going to change my view because of a sparkling personality. Yes personality comes over a gorgeous face when it is a relationship being considered but swinging is different. I’m not looking for a relationship.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
25 weeks ago

Castlebar

I don't ask for them. I prefer to meet in person. I do judge on face pics but I can be wrong. I find that I can be attracted to people that I know I would never have met if I'd been sent a face pic first. If someone sends me one I will send one back and if they say not my type then I've not wasted their time or mine.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
25 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We will attached face pics if we message, so sometimes the conversation doesn't start. Which is fine, we believe attrwction is a key part of how we enjoy the lifestyle

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
25 weeks ago

Portstewart

Probably 97% of the time after someone sends us a face pic and we return one

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By *enelope2UWoman
25 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Usually continues but I guess most are married cheating so they are just keyboard typist and never actually show up to see one another in person...

Even video chat still doesn't change the in person ratio it's probably 98% never show up and 98% wanting an unpaid service worker

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"A face pic had rarely put me off someone. If the conversation is going well then the picture just adds another detail. "

What a lovely lady love that

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By *reative-mindMan
25 weeks ago

exeter

Almost never....

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