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By *exyman2023l OP   Man
7 days ago

ln

Hi friends I’m looking for advice on a serious and sensitive subject. If you suspect you have been sexually abused what do you do and how would you be taken seriously?

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By *inkShyWoman
7 days ago

near Windsor

You go to the police.

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By *he ShivsCouple
7 days ago

Fife

Report it to the police.

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By *ou only live onceMan
7 days ago

London

Sorry to hear that, OP. I'll add another plea to report it to the police.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
7 days ago

your head

Hi OP,

Ideally, report to the police but understandably not everyone is ready to do that straight away or ever. Do you have someone you trust that you can talk to and that can be around to support you through this?

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By *naswingdressWoman
7 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

In addition to the above, see if you can talk to someone. Make sure you're ok in yourself.

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By *exyman2023l OP   Man
7 days ago

ln


"In addition to the above, see if you can talk to someone. Make sure you're ok in yourself. "

I believe this happened several times, I’m ok in myself, the last time it happened was a week ago, I did take pics of the marks and bruises when I came round. What I find difficult to understand and is that the person I believe to have done this is the person I love and the one that is supposed to love me.

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By *elix SightedMan
7 days ago

Cloud 8

I know this sounds a bit clinical, but the quicker after a suspected assault you report it to the police, the better the evidence they can recover from you.

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By *eoBloomsMan
7 days ago

Springfield


"I know this sounds a bit clinical, but the quicker after a suspected assault you report it to the police, the better the evidence they can recover from you."

Not clinical Felix, very important point

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 days ago

North West

Like others have said the police are the best bet. Or... if you don't feel comfortable reporting to the police just yet. Contact a charity or a support line.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
7 days ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"In addition to the above, see if you can talk to someone. Make sure you're ok in yourself.

I believe this happened several times, I’m ok in myself, the last time it happened was a week ago, I did take pics of the marks and bruises when I came round. What I find difficult to understand and is that the person I believe to have done this is the person I love and the one that is supposed to love me. "

" Coming around" suggests Dr*gging in which case, as others have said, please go to the police. My in box is always open if you need a chat

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By *exyman2023l OP   Man
7 days ago

ln


"Like others have said the police are the best bet. Or... if you don't feel comfortable reporting to the police just yet. Contact a charity or a support line. "

A charity sounds a good starting point, I didn’t know this was available thank you for the advice everyone. I feel like I’ve done something wrong and it’s hard to accept

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
7 days ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"Like others have said the police are the best bet. Or... if you don't feel comfortable reporting to the police just yet. Contact a charity or a support line.

A charity sounds a good starting point, I didn’t know this was available thank you for the advice everyone. I feel like I’ve done something wrong and it’s hard to accept "

The only person who has done something wrong is your abuser .. sending hugs and strength xx

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 days ago

North West


"Like others have said the police are the best bet. Or... if you don't feel comfortable reporting to the police just yet. Contact a charity or a support line.

A charity sounds a good starting point, I didn’t know this was available thank you for the advice everyone. I feel like I’ve done something wrong and it’s hard to accept "

You are very welcome. There's plenty of charity. And you did nothing wrong mate it isn't your fault okay.

I can't DM due to filters. But I'm sure one of the lovely ladies on here can DM you and help you with any charities or support networks who deal with SA.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
7 days ago

your head


"Like others have said the police are the best bet. Or... if you don't feel comfortable reporting to the police just yet. Contact a charity or a support line.

A charity sounds a good starting point, I didn’t know this was available thank you for the advice everyone. I feel like I’ve done something wrong and it’s hard to accept "

You haven't done anything wrong, it may be hard to shake that feeling but this isn't your fault. Try to be kind to yourself ❤️

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
7 days ago

Swansea

Hi OP,

I remember your previous thread regarding relocation advice.

I do believe that speaking to a charity (plenty available via Google search) will get you the help and support required to get through all of this. You have a great deal to process, which must feel overwhelming. So please do connect with the support services available to you to put in place the help you need.

Well done on reaching out to us. We're all here to support you whenever you need it.

Big hugs

Mrs

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By *untimes wantedMan
7 days ago

Huddersfield

There are various options open to you.

Report it to the police.

Some substances only stay in the body a short time so the sooner you go the quicker they can take samples.

Men can also use Clares law to request a disclosure of someones past to see if the person you suspect has a history of doing it to someone else.

There is also various helplines for men.

The NHS site give advice who you can contact.

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/

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By *ad.BearMan
7 days ago

Wakefield


"A charity sounds a good starting point, I didn’t know this was available thank you for the advice everyone. I feel like I’ve done something wrong and it’s hard to accept "

You have not done anything wrong and you need support to deal with this. If you are not ready to report it to the police, you can speak these wonderful people.

https://247sexualabusesupport.org./uk/

They are available 24/7. There is a free-phone number and a free online chat service.

Please do not go through this on your own. Even if you are not sure where to start or what to say, they will never think you are wasting their time and they will never judge you.

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