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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After reading through some of last nights prose I wondered do any of you hold grudges, or are you grown up enough to deal with any problems there and then?

Apart from wishing ill will of a boss of mine from about 20 years ago I cannot think of time when I have not dealt with a problem head on, never been one to let things fester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said...

if honest, I used to......

now I defo don't.. wasted too many minutes I won't get back...

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby

Yep !!!!!

firm believer in "you reap what you sow "....

I'll do the forgive...but never the forget.

So i guess, i can hold a grudge easily...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't hold grudges, but don't forget lol! Life is too short and holding grudges just drags you down, so I learn from it and move on.........!

However, if anyone ever hurt my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mind ya....... move my magazines that are for decorative purposes and I will rip yur hands off and ram them anally and welcome them back orally.........

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Some people in life cause so much emotional pain it's difficult to forgive, but, as difficult as it is to forgive, it's always best to move on, allowing bitterness / anger to eat away inside in not healthy, no one's life should be ruined due to the fault of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't hold grudges, but don't forget lol! Life is too short and holding grudges just drags you down, so I learn from it and move on.........!

However, if anyone ever hurt my kids "

agree with you there, especially about hurting ones kids, so in my defence the twat-in-law deserved every punch I threw at him for hurting my daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could be a bitch and horrid about some people i have known .

But its wasted energy.

What goes around, comes around . is my motto.

Those who have shat on me now find things aint so rosey.

And all done by their own doing and not mine.

that is reward enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can hold a grudge for a very long time but i dont forget and i dont really forgive! i just go away from anyone i may bear a grudge against but have a swipe when the opportunity arises!! luckily there only been a few occassions in life where it has happened xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get pissed off very easily but forget about it just as easily and move on.

I never hold grudges - whats the point? The only person it really ends up hurting is yourself anyway so why would I want to hurt myself. Leave others to try and do that if thats what they take pleasure in. Mind when I get angry I am a tornado and then calm ..............

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

Ones you have had your say and got it off your chest you can move on.

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By *riendlyfunfemWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Lifes too short, but that deosn't say I don't get mad, though I have to say I have my angry moment them I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold a grudge for life. It's not as if I think about the person or wish them ill I just cut them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hold a grudge for life. It's not as if I think about the person or wish them ill I just cut them off.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

only one i held a grudge with was an old boss in the garage

2years after i left tipped off the vat and mot people to his fidles hehe

they went back years on his fidled vat

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

lol youll all say ya forgive n forget as we are just into a new year.......give it til next week and im sure some knives will be out...ooooooooooooh im sooooooooooo cynical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know sometimes in life you have to stand your ground, otherwise sadly in this day and age you will get walked over. I hate bad feeling but it seems to be the way of the world these days. Wouldn't it be great if we all had a little more tolerance of others and make the world a slightly happier place to live ............. *sighs* xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wassa grudge then???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mind ya....... move my magazines that are for decorative purposes and I will rip yur hands off and ram them anally and welcome them back orally......... "

Oh ... View ! Thanks for the advice. When can I move your mags ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wassa grudge then??? "

It's a bit nasty furry thing ..... or is that a grinch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do for a cpl a weeks then forgive

but never forget xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I say I don't hold grudges I would be lying.

However, I would rather walk away with my head held high instead of fight till death, if you know what I mean.

When I don't like someone, that person will know, as I make sure he/she knows!

Kind of put me in an awkard situation at work, as I am supposed to get on with everyone. Yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose it depends on the type of damage done...

my ex met a guy on her hols in 2004, she decided to up root and move to be with him in devon. 300+ miles away from me, her going i didn't mind, but we had a 4 year old son, who was my life. i brought him up whilst she hit the bars and clubs, hence our break up in the 1st place... my son was moved to a place 5 hours from all his family he grew to know, both sets of grand parents etc.... i dont get to take him/pick up from school no more, i dont see him 32 weeks of the year because his mum decided only her needs in the equation mattered! i drive to see him once a month, costs me a fortune, but my boy is worth that and more, much more.... so my feelings to her...... short rope, tall tree. nothing will ever change that! bit of a rant, but some grudges wont budge for some peeps, and one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mind ya....... move my magazines that are for decorative purposes and I will rip yur hands off and ram them anally and welcome them back orally.........

Oh ... View ! Thanks for the advice. When can I move your mags ?? "

Granny .... yu can move anything of mine anytime ya want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"suppose it depends on the type of damage done...

my ex met a guy on her hols in 2004, she decided to up root and move to be with him in devon. 300+ miles away from me, her going i didn't mind, but we had a 4 year old son, who was my life. i brought him up whilst she hit the bars and clubs, hence our break up in the 1st place... my son was moved to a place 5 hours from all his family he grew to know, both sets of grand parents etc.... i dont get to take him/pick up from school no more, i dont see him 32 weeks of the year because his mum decided only her needs in the equation mattered! i drive to see him once a month, costs me a fortune, but my boy is worth that and more, much more.... so my feelings to her...... short rope, tall tree. nothing will ever change that! bit of a rant, but some grudges wont budge for some peeps, and one of them. "

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It's unfortunate you are in this situation, and I share your pain.

I doubt if I am able to forgive or forget the way my late partner's family treated him and me after his death.

However, I managed to move on, and put that behind me.

I wish the situation will improve for you in the future!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"suppose it depends on the type of damage done...

my ex met a guy on her hols in 2004, she decided to up root and move to be with him in devon. 300+ miles away from me, her going i didn't mind, but we had a 4 year old son, who was my life. i brought him up whilst she hit the bars and clubs, hence our break up in the 1st place... my son was moved to a place 5 hours from all his family he grew to know, both sets of grand parents etc.... i dont get to take him/pick up from school no more, i dont see him 32 weeks of the year because his mum decided only her needs in the equation mattered! i drive to see him once a month, costs me a fortune, but my boy is worth that and more, much more.... so my feelings to her...... short rope, tall tree. nothing will ever change that! bit of a rant, but some grudges wont budge for some peeps, and one of them. "

well done dude and yur son will remember for sure........ there are too many dads etc who don't do what you do..

total respect and hope it improves for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats wat i dislike about when ppl

split..its the kids thats gotta pay

for it..mav babes sending u ((HUGS))

but kids grow up an want 2 know about

things when they were younger xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry for the loss and the insensitivity u experienced hun....

tho i doubt i will ever forgive my sons mother for her selfish actions....!

i'm not the only guy in this situation, and i feel the fact women are allowed to do this legally is an absolute joke in this country, if they was being abused by their fella fully understandable, but other than that... KIDKNAP in my eyes..

enuff of that tho.. hope u ok. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thx for tht my friend. kind words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pearl hun keep smiling ur the

bigger person hun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry for the loss and the insensitivity u experienced hun....

tho i doubt i will ever forgive my sons mother for her selfish actions....!

i'm not the only guy in this situation, and i feel the fact women are allowed to do this legally is an absolute joke in this country, if they was being abused by their fella fully understandable, but other than that... KIDKNAP in my eyes..

enuff of that tho.. hope u ok. x"

Yeah .......enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely. beyond doubt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a nice place to be. and if i could afford the fuel to get to that planet, i'd be on it for sure haha..

but a nice and should be scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"suppose it depends on the type of damage done...

my ex met a guy on her hols in 2004, she decided to up root and move to be with him in devon. 300+ miles away from me, her going i didn't mind, but we had a 4 year old son, who was my life. i brought him up whilst she hit the bars and clubs, hence our break up in the 1st place... my son was moved to a place 5 hours from all his family he grew to know, both sets of grand parents etc.... i dont get to take him/pick up from school no more, i dont see him 32 weeks of the year because his mum decided only her needs in the equation mattered! i drive to see him once a month, costs me a fortune, but my boy is worth that and more, much more.... so my feelings to her...... short rope, tall tree. nothing will ever change that! bit of a rant, but some grudges wont budge for some peeps, and one of them.

well done dude and yur son will remember for sure........ there are too many dads etc who don't do what you do..

total respect and hope it improves for you."
I second that! When I split I wanted to move miles away but my children needed to be in contact with their dad and he them. In the end we're four miles apart and are great friends and most importantly happy and loved kids. Your son will know you kept in touch and love him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

boss!"

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By *ary and BejesusCouple
over a year ago

Ye Olde Stable

Never forgive or forget....and I can wait years to see the persons downfall.

Although it would have to be something really awful to get on my hit list.

Mary.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont wish for it

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

when I am angry I go from 0-900000 miles up in the stratosphere

But I am down and calm equally quickly and things are forgiven asap

My husband used to hold grudges for months, I cant be bothered frankly

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Well for me personally you have to do something really bad to get on my shit list but once on it look out cos bad stuff is gonna happen.

I once had a lad rob my car after i gave him a lift so i waited for him to come out of prison (lots of previous) then when i next heard he was selling something he stole i got someone to ask to see the items and i arranged for the local cops to show up at the same time.

As the cops took him away i stood and waved so he knew it was me who shopped him. lol he got 5 years for that.

Steve

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Forgot to say i dont get mad i get even

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

zoe for number 10!!!

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby


"Forgot to say i dont get mad i get even

Steve "

That sounds suspiciously like holding a grudge...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not smart enough to holde a grudge, I keep dropping it.

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