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Men - another question if I may

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts

If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

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By *929Man
7 days ago

bedlington

I’d rather just not be with that person any more that expect them to do it if didn’t enjoy it

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By *ymClassDropoutMan
7 days ago

Berkshire

I’d rather she didn’t do it if only doing it to please me and was getting absolutely zero out of it herself.

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By *iscretionalways99Man
7 days ago

Middleton St George

Personally, I’d only really want them to do it if they enjoyed it

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
7 days ago

in Lancashire

Giving is as much of a pleasure as receiving but respect that's not how all feel, tbh something done reluctantly is an absolute turn off..

Communication etc as ever is so important..

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 days ago

Belfast

I've never asked or expected anyone to take one for the team or just for my pleasure.

I even say on my profile that everything must be mutual and it's as much about them exploring their desires as it is about me and mine.

I'd prefer they didn't do something if they weren't really into it.

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By *iker JackMan
7 days ago

Wolverhampton

I don’t want anyone to do anything they don’t enjoy or want to do and vice versa

There are many many other ways of getting enjoyment than just one thing

Yes you need sexual compatibility but I have always said if you’re compatible with everything one person is probably trying to please the other

And you know if someone really isn’t in to something

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
7 days ago

The Continental

I’m not enjoying it if I get a sense she isn’t.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts

I agree with all the above. Just wondered from a male perspective. I’d hate it if someone was doing something they didn’t want to just to please me. That wouldn’t do anything for me at all to be honest.

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By *enelope2UWoman
7 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Proudest group of forum guys I've had the pleasure of reading... Thanks for restoring some faith

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By *iker JackMan
7 days ago

Wolverhampton

It’s the same theory as a man giving a woman oral if he wasn’t in to it

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By *tudgboy1981Man
7 days ago

Wigan

I’d much rather lick her pussy than get a blow anyway so if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t have to

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 days ago

North West

If she didn't like doing it or enjoy doing it. I'd rather her not do it. We are both there to enjoy ourselves not just for my pleasure but hers also.

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’d much rather lick her pussy than get a blow anyway so if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t have to "

I know she wouldn’t have to. I just wondered if it would make a massive difference.

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By *tudgboy1981Man
7 days ago

Wigan


"I’d much rather lick her pussy than get a blow anyway so if she didn’t like it she wouldn’t have to

I know she wouldn’t have to. I just wondered if it would make a massive difference. "

No as long as she was happy is all that matters

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By *ilgrim67Man
7 days ago

Hornchurch

It's definitely all about mutual pleasure. It's difficult to enjoy something when the giver isn't. Ilove giving.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
7 days ago

Wales/ All over UK


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

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I generally don’t enjoy blowjobs unless the person giving it is really into it, so I’d absolutely rather go without than have one as a favour

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By *anonfire96Man
7 days ago

Mansfield

If the giver isn't really into it you can always tell, and it makes it less enjoyable, plus I would never force anyone to do what they didn't want. My last meet wouldn't let me use my fingers , one of my favourite things to do. But we always had an amazing night.

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By *ony MannMan
7 days ago

Lagos, Portugal// Andover


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

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It makes a big difference, how can I enjoy anything while I'm thinking, she is only doing this for me.

It's a compliment, but I rather we got on with what we both enjoy.

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By *uzzleMan
7 days ago

Hastings

I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
7 days ago

Wales/ All over UK


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality! "

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once….

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By (user no longer on site)
7 days ago

No

I've broken off with a few who werent particular good - it felt they did it because it was expected

No fun for either side

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By *rHotNottsMan
7 days ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn’t. I think in a normal relationship I would say don’t bother, there are plenty of other ways to get pleasure from each other.

But in another dynamic I might / we might take a lot of pleasure from making her do things she really doesn’t enjoy

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By *ancelot1633Man
7 days ago

weybridge

Agree with most answers. If she doesn’t like it I don’t want her to do it. Her pleasure turns me on more than anything

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once…. "

It’s good to hear different views though. I suppose those who use a glory hole aren’t too bothered either.

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By *oopy FroodMan
7 days ago

Orbiting Planet Rupert

No because I'm not a fan of recieving them anyway

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By *oughmanMan
7 days ago

Sunderland

If they didn't like doing it I doubt I would enjoy it. Mostly I would have a feeling of guilt. It's like forcing someone to do something they don't want to, if that makes sense. Even if it's their choice to try and please you.

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By *he Lollipop ManMan
7 days ago

Truro


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once….

It’s good to hear different views though. I suppose those who use a glory hole aren’t too bothered either. "

Not really - I assume people on both sides of the hole are doing it for kicks!

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once….

It’s good to hear different views though. I suppose those who use a glory hole aren’t too bothered either.

Not really - I assume people on both sides of the hole are doing it for kicks!"

Yeah that’s true actually!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
7 days ago

Uttoxeter


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

"

If they were indifferent or ambivalent to doing something that gave pleasure I’d be grateful. However if I discovered they were doing something they really didn’t like doing…. I’d want them to stop. Empathy versus a complete indifference to others feelings (and being able to take pleasure in it) is verging on psychopathy…

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By *allipygousMan
7 days ago

Leicester


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

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Assuming they weren't any good because they didn't enjoy it then I'd tell them not to bother. For a casual hookup that's OK, for a longterm relationship, not ok.

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By *rafter69Man
7 days ago

upminster

If they didnt want to do it it dont bother me. I would rather her do something that she wants and likes doing-much more sexy than a half arsed blow job

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By (user no longer on site)
7 days ago


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once….

It’s good to hear different views though. I suppose those who use a glory hole aren’t too bothered either.

Not really - I assume people on both sides of the hole are doing it for kicks!

Yeah that’s true actually!"

Are you a fan of

Glory holes?

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By *ora the explorer OP   Woman
7 days ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'd let them get on with it. To me its essential a woman gives a BJ, if not time to move on.

I don't particularly like licking a girl out but I do because they get pleasure from it.

So its equality!

I hear the sound of many block buttons being pressed at once….

It’s good to hear different views though. I suppose those who use a glory hole aren’t too bothered either.

Not really - I assume people on both sides of the hole are doing it for kicks!

Yeah that’s true actually!

Are you a fan of

Glory holes?"

God no

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By *reddie DerbysMan
7 days ago

matlock


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

"

Wife was horrendous at them 20 yrs ago and could tell she hated doing them so I told her never to bother. Not had one in 20 yrs hahah I don’t miss it as I’ve forgotten what a good actually feels like

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 days ago

A den in the Glen

If they didn't enjoy giving I wouldn't want one off them in the first place.

Not to be too controversial, I find that quite a few women don't give a good one anyway, believing that bobbing up and down is enough.

Those that are 'adequate' or below will often find themselves being hit on the top of the head with my penis. At a rate of 120 thwacks per minute.

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By *urry BlokeMan
7 days ago

Stalybridge


"If she/he really didn’t like giving blow jobs but they did it just to please you would you still enjoy it as much? Would you tell them not to bother or to just go carry on?

Does it make a difference to you if the giver is really into it?

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It would bother me

I find it very much a turn if they cum when they sense I am 'nearly there'

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By *rT25Man
7 days ago

South Yorkshire

For me I'm more of a giver anyway, so I would never expect a BJ or ask for one.

I'm not going to say no though if she really wants to give one.

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