FabSwingers.com forum: Couples seeking single femmes

By *ea monkey OP Man
2 days ago

Manchester (he/him)

How do you go about finding them and how do you remove your couples privilege and make sure that you’re behaving ethically?

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
2 days ago

Ends

Godspeed

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 days ago

Reading

Based on my experience they send women like me messages that say 'Hey x'

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By *viatrixWoman
2 days ago

Redhill

The ones I’ve met and had sex with- it is usually the woman contacting me. Then we all chat, have a social, move on to the sexy bits.

I’ve been lucky to have met incredible, gorgeous couple and have had amazing times with.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
2 days ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve either reached out to them with no expectations or they’ve contacted us.

We don’t treat them as a sex toy and build up a connection as a 3 (think it’s important they get a flavour of us both)

We find out more about a person talking about normal life than sex chat.

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By *ea monkey OP Man
2 days ago

Manchester (he/him)

Anyone?

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
2 days ago

North West

"Anyone? "

Bueller?

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By *viatrixWoman
2 days ago

Redhill

Lol, are we not answering correctly?

Many of us meet alone but are partnered up- so understand the feelings of being in a couple etc.

I suppose that is what a social is for. Asking questions as in are there any boundaries that should not be crossed, any scenarios that they would not enjoy, make them uncomfortable, etc?

I would not meet with a couple for their first time swinging, for example. It could go really well or REALLY bad. We don’t know how they would react once the fantasy becomes a reality. I’ve only met couples who are far more experienced than me and that has resulted in great experiences. 🤷‍♀️

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
2 days ago

your head

Talk to and treat them like humans and equals.

Not sending messages like "it's my hubby's birthday and I want to arrange a 'gift' for him" or just wanting them to put on a show.

(Part of a couple)

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By *midnight-Woman
1 day ago

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What do you mean by this bit: how do you remove your couples privilege and make sure that you’re behaving ethically?

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
5 hours ago

North West

Stepping into the swinging world can feel pretty intimidating. What happens if our partner likes sex with someone else more? And what about jealousy?

What most couples decide is the best solution is to find a bisexual woman to have sex with both members of the couple. After all, if you’re both having sex with the same person, then nobody will be jealous, right?

And femme-femme bisexuality is considered hot and socially acceptable.

It's so often all about fantasy fulfillment of the couple with zero thoughts to the needs and wants of the solo woman. It's all about his fantasy of being the stud satisfying two women, his chance to watch some real life porn, her opportunity to explore her bisexuality. It privileges the existing relationship and gives little consideration to the 'unicorn'.

Behaving ethically might start by approaching from the point of view of what she's looking and hoping for, rather than treating her as a fantasy dispenser. Avoiding approaching with the opening gambit of the two femmes playing to start with and him joining after. Treating her as a human and as an equal.

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