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I once got dumped and the reason was I was wonderful just not the right type of wonderful. It’s been years and I still sometimes think wtf is the wrong type of wonderful?! 
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world " How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " I'm quite used to it now ... Just going to keep my thoughts to myself from now on 🤣 | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. " I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them " Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like "Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field "Haha brilliant | |||
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"Tell me your thoughts OP? " I used to get not handle rejection well when I was younger. But now I just think, why waste my energy getting annoyed. So I just move on. Took me a long time to handle rejection well. | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field "Top trend that was. I enjoyed it. | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field
Top trend that was. I enjoyed it.
"Hated it. The only ones I got through were so London specific I didn’t understand half of them. Not a single mention of tractors | |||
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"Afternoon OP Rejection on fab should not be taken to heart I think. I only say this because it feels so detached from reality …. Where else are there thousands of guys vying for the attention of the handful (not quite I know but in comparison) of couples and ladies?? You can’t be for everyone …and the likelihood of finding someone who you are is small ….both being online / your message being seen before it’s lost in the masses / etc etc …. We just have to accept and enjoy the other parts …and if no rejection and something comes from it… what a bonus that is "I absolutely agree | |||
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!! Kidding. I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field
Top trend that was. I enjoyed it.
Hated it. The only ones I got through were so London specific I didn’t understand half of them. Not a single mention of tractors"Not gonna lie, that’s too bad | |||
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"Oh on here it doesn't bother me. I rarely send a first message or on the very rare occasion I have, we've met. Away from here it's harder, especially when moving to another platform for communication, all seems to be going well then nothing. That I find difficult as quite often there's no explanation " This ... | |||
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"In person or online…..I give it no thought after the initial “oh ok” moment. My expectations are that I’ll be rejected, so when I’m not, it’s a wonderful feeling. " Agree online, we don't give it a second thought. In person can be slightly more disappointing, but still fine. Best to say up front than waste anyone's time. What *is* more difficult to get our heads round though, is when a person or couple is initially keen, and then rejects us because they didn't read our profile to the end first  | |||
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. " Very this! | |||
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"I think everyone needs an approach to dealing with rejection when you join Fab: no one should feel rejection is inevitable or not shoot their shot because of fear, but you need to be realistic, given the numbers, distances, and the nature of attraction. The absolute worst people are those who feel an absolute entitlement to attention and sex, and deal with rejection like abusive babies. " I agree. A female friend was showing me the messages she gets when she rejected men. The entitlement is through the roof. Constant death threats and abuse. I just don't get it. Move on, don't start getting abusive. | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " I guess so? It's very easy to handle in here though? A 'Thanks but no' just gets a block and delete in return, so I get on with my day afterwards? Compare that to the ignorance and blanking you receive as a single guy in clubs, that's far harder to deal with....  | |||
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"I think everyone needs an approach to dealing with rejection when you join Fab: no one should feel rejection is inevitable or not shoot their shot because of fear, but you need to be realistic, given the numbers, distances, and the nature of attraction. The absolute worst people are those who feel an absolute entitlement to attention and sex, and deal with rejection like abusive babies. I agree. A female friend was showing me the messages she gets when she rejected men. The entitlement is through the roof. Constant death threats and abuse. I just don't get it. Move on, don't start getting abusive. " 100%, it's really simple to either not reply to a rejection or just say "OK" and move along. | |||
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. " This, 100%.... You can't get hurt by someone you don't know or you've never met | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " Rejection on here means little to me different strokes for different folks, if IRL a bit more difficult to take but having expectation that what ever the response shouldn’t change my mood, just try not to dwell | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " If it's rejection on here then it's pretty easy to handle, someone who knows nothing about me makes a judgement on what's on my profile and decides from that. Plus women have a lot of different choice on here. In real life it's not as easy but still not everyone can like you or be attracted to you just as I'm not attracted to every woman I see or speak to. | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " It's standard on here, don't take it to heart and move on. | |||
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. " Pretty much summed it up for me as well. It's actually spot on. I'm impressed 😂 | |||
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. " Half the time as you surely know , you just don’t get ‘rejected’. They just don’t bother getting back to you, I get some have lot of messages, but rude is rude for me. I out on it’s fine if I not for you delete the message and that do. The ones that do reply are usually meeting or rejecting like you say, I have zero issues with it at all, the funny thing is they weren’t on to some sort of sure thing and yeah a great bum or boobs rock but if you’re not attracted to them, you’d not have even given the chance to them to reject. Odd that people think because you messaged a faceless profile you be just saying yeah ok  . Always the gentleman is the way. I fo out bo problem at all, trouble is vanilla  | |||
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"For me. Either send , receive communication in one way or another on Fab. Then further messages. No reply . Move on . Keep trying . "Also to add . Exchange a few messages. Profile asks for info , move on to say another app. You send message. Ignored. This after say a week or more . Seen profile online also several times. 😤😤😤. But as my first post on this. Move on keep trying | |||
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