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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ignorance........hate it.

People with delusions of grandeur.....thinking they are all that.

Bad manners........

Rudeness

tardyness

But basically im getting my thurday moan in now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with all of the above

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick

People that can't spell Thursday....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Deep breath*

Facebook style posts

People moaning they're either overweight or look "frumpy" on Fb and not do anything about it.

Kids like 13 years old calling me a "grunger" because I have long hair and a hoodie and a band top on. They have no clue what they're on about.

My stupid phone battery.

People who think I'm weird because I question things I see in the media.

Shorts and white socks pulled up. You really thought "Yes, I look awesome"? ha

I could go on but I wanna start reading the rum diary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People that can't spell Thursday.... "

Oh and the "spelling police"

especially at 1.30 am in the morning.

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Oh and the "spelling police"

especially at 1.30 am in the morning. "

You're nicked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Oh and the "spelling police"

especially at 1.30 am in the morning.

You're nicked. "

Why cant we have a "blowing raspberry smilie"

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Oh and the "spelling police"

especially at 1.30 am in the morning.

You're nicked.

Why cant we have a "blowing raspberry smilie" "

Perhaps we can make some suggestions to admin to add some smilies.

Would love a facepalm one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Oh and the "spelling police"

especially at 1.30 am in the morning.

You're nicked.

Why cant we have a "blowing raspberry smilie" "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men that can't make up their bloody minds !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Food shopping with an indecisive man really annoys me....."what do you want for dinner"...."I don't know" whilst standing there aimlessly arghh then I remember why I do it on my own. Although I do like the extra hands helping with the bags.

MissD x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men that can't make up their bloody minds !! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dickheads that hack computers and the tossers that create trojans. worms and viruses

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

being stuck at work while normal ppl sleep.

watching millions of bottles of stella trudle down a line. hate the stuff

ignorant ppl constantly moaning about bad spelling. if your so fecking smart lets compare wage slips an see who's really smart

right im shutting up haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignorance........hate it.

People with delusions of grandeur.....thinking they are all that.

Bad manners........

Rudeness

tardyness

But basically im getting my thurday moan in now.

"

The above and people who cancel with a stupid excuse (ie timewasters)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude people,smelly people who insist on sitting next to you and talking.

And my sons using every cup and glass in the cupboard instead of washing the first one they use!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Them damn foxes at the bottom of the garden, must remember to put her in her pen at night

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Racists and peados. Other than that nothing or no one bothers me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men that can't make up their bloody minds !! "

Women who can't make up there bloody minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goat hearders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term "I'm going to ruin you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idiot at work that puts the milk back in the freezer after I have got it out to defrost leaving us with no bloody milk in the morning

The idiot at work that keeps putting cans in the freezer

I aint saying no more as its my day off and I want to chill and breathe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that can't spell Thursday.... "

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"People that can't spell Thursday.... "

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus - you scared the crap out of me then!!!

Thought I'd slept all the way through Wednesday!!

And I wasn't even drinking last night!!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Thumb rings, don't know why just really dislike them.

R&B

Soaps.

Mainstream media

Toffs

Scarfers

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who". "

Pendants....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who". "

Err..do you mean pedants..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rude people,smelly people who insist on sitting next to you and talking.

And my sons using every cup and glass in the cupboard instead of washing the first one they use!"

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

People who spit (and no, not cum, you dirty perverts!). - People that actually hock up their phlegm and spit all over the fucking pavement, it's disgusting.

- Amy. x

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who". "

Quite acceptable grammatically:

Today's topic is who versus that.

Lesley called in with this question:

My pet peeve is who versus that, as in “You know Bob, he's the guy that sold me my car.” It drives me nuts. Or am I mistaken and it's just become part of the new English verbiage in the evolution of the language?

I kind of talked about this question in episode 7, but other people have also asked the same thing recently, including Corinne, so I thought it would be worth going into a little further.

The quick and dirty answer is that you use whowhen you are talking about a person and that when you are talking about an object. Stick with that rule and you'll be safe.

That as a Pronoun

But, of course, it is also more complicated than that. The who-goes-with-people rule is the conventional wisdom (1,2), but, on the other hand, I did find a credible reference that says otherwise. I was shocked to see that my American Heritage Dictionary says,

It is entirely acceptable to write either the man that wanted to talk to you, or the man who wanted to talk to you (3). [emphasis added]

Wow. So I dug around some more and found that there is a long history of writers using that as a relative pronoun when writing about people. Chaucer did it, for example (4).

So, it's more of a gray area than some people think, and if you have strong feelings about it, you could make an argument for using that when you're talking about people. But my guess is that most people who use who and thatinterchangeably do it because they don't know the difference. I don't consider myself a grammar snob-–this is “quick and dirty” grammar, after all-–but in this case, I have to take the side of the people who prefer the strict rule. To me, using that when you are talking about a person makes them seem less than human. I always think of my friend who would only refer to his new stepmother as the woman that married my father. He was clearly trying to indicate his animosity and you wouldn't want to do that accidentally.

Strange Exceptions

Finally, even if you accept the conventional wisdom, there are some gray areas and strange exceptions. For example, what do you do when you are talking about something animate that isn't human? That's a gray area, and it can actually go either way. I would never refer to my dog as anything less than who, but my fish could probably be a that.

One strange exception is that you can use whose, which is the possessive form of who, to refer to both people and things (5,6,7,8) because English doesn't have a possessive form of that. So it's fine to say, "The desk whose top is cluttered with grammar books," even though it is obviously ridiculous to say, "The desk who is made of cherry wood."

So now you understand the details, but you can also remember the quick and dirty rule that who goes with people and that goes with things.

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

Quite acceptable grammatically:

Today's topic is who versus that.

Lesley called in with this question:

My pet peeve is who versus that, as in “You know Bob, he's the guy that sold me my car.” It drives me nuts. Or am I mistaken and it's just become part of the new English verbiage in the evolution of the language?

I kind of talked about this question in episode 7, but other people have also asked the same thing recently, including Corinne, so I thought it would be worth going into a little further.

The quick and dirty answer is that you use whowhen you are talking about a person and that when you are talking about an object. Stick with that rule and you'll be safe.

That as a Pronoun

But, of course, it is also more complicated than that. The who-goes-with-people rule is the conventional wisdom (1,2), but, on the other hand, I did find a credible reference that says otherwise. I was shocked to see that my American Heritage Dictionary says,

It is entirely acceptable to write either the man that wanted to talk to you, or the man who wanted to talk to you (3). [emphasis added]

Wow. So I dug around some more and found that there is a long history of writers using that as a relative pronoun when writing about people. Chaucer did it, for example (4).

So, it's more of a gray area than some people think, and if you have strong feelings about it, you could make an argument for using that when you're talking about people. But my guess is that most people who use who and thatinterchangeably do it because they don't know the difference. I don't consider myself a grammar snob-–this is “quick and dirty” grammar, after all-–but in this case, I have to take the side of the people who prefer the strict rule. To me, using that when you are talking about a person makes them seem less than human. I always think of my friend who would only refer to his new stepmother as the woman that married my father. He was clearly trying to indicate his animosity and you wouldn't want to do that accidentally.

Strange Exceptions

Finally, even if you accept the conventional wisdom, there are some gray areas and strange exceptions. For example, what do you do when you are talking about something animate that isn't human? That's a gray area, and it can actually go either way. I would never refer to my dog as anything less than who, but my fish could probably be a that.

One strange exception is that you can use whose, which is the possessive form of who, to refer to both people and things (5,6,7,8) because English doesn't have a possessive form of that. So it's fine to say, "The desk whose top is cluttered with grammar books," even though it is obviously ridiculous to say, "The desk who is made of cherry wood."

So now you understand the details, but you can also remember the quick and dirty rule that who goes with people and that goes with things."

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

TIMEWASTERS

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By *BC TWOCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Leicester / Birmingham /Bucks


"Ignorance........hate it.

People with delusions of grandeur.....thinking they are all that.

Bad manners........

Rudeness

tardyness

But basically im getting my thurday moan in now.

"

people who moan about rude behavious

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

'What gets your "goat"?'

Well I'm glad you asked Peaches my sweet.

It's that fucking Troll that lives under the bridge! Every bastard day I send my goats over the bridge to eat the grass on the other side, they go trip, trap, trip, trap on their way and that mardy arse Troll is all up in their faces giving it "Who's that tripping over my bridge?" and shit. Then he eats them.

I have a plan though. I will send three goats over at various sizes and the biggest will come last and fuck that Troll's shit up for good! FUCK YEAH!!!

RANT OVER!

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By *ontystashMan
over a year ago

Manchester

People without manners does not take a min to say thks or no thks

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"People that can't spell Thursday.... "

I actually roared with laughter at one of your typos the other day. I thought it would be a twattish thing to pick you up on though, so I chose to ignore it.

I realise twattish isn't a proper word. It is a very good descriptor though.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Oooh and when on our phones scrolling through forums and members copy or reply with entire long quotes. Sorry it's awkward and often hit home button or similar

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

Quite acceptable grammatically:

Today's topic is who versus that.

Lesley called in with this question:

My pet peeve is who versus that, as in “You know Bob, he's the guy that sold me my car.” It drives me nuts. Or am I mistaken and it's just become part of the new English verbiage in the evolution of the language?

I kind of talked about this question in episode 7, but other people have also asked the same thing recently, including Corinne, so I thought it would be worth going into a little further.

The quick and dirty answer is that you use whowhen you are talking about a person and that when you are talking about an object. Stick with that rule and you'll be safe.

That as a Pronoun

But, of course, it is also more complicated than that. The who-goes-with-people rule is the conventional wisdom (1,2), but, on the other hand, I did find a credible reference that says otherwise. I was shocked to see that my American Heritage Dictionary says,

It is entirely acceptable to write either the man that wanted to talk to you, or the man who wanted to talk to you (3). [emphasis added]

Wow. So I dug around some more and found that there is a long history of writers using that as a relative pronoun when writing about people. Chaucer did it, for example (4).

So, it's more of a gray area than some people think, and if you have strong feelings about it, you could make an argument for using that when you're talking about people. But my guess is that most people who use who and thatinterchangeably do it because they don't know the difference. I don't consider myself a grammar snob-–this is “quick and dirty” grammar, after all-–but in this case, I have to take the side of the people who prefer the strict rule. To me, using that when you are talking about a person makes them seem less than human. I always think of my friend who would only refer to his new stepmother as the woman that married my father. He was clearly trying to indicate his animosity and you wouldn't want to do that accidentally.

Strange Exceptions

Finally, even if you accept the conventional wisdom, there are some gray areas and strange exceptions. For example, what do you do when you are talking about something animate that isn't human? That's a gray area, and it can actually go either way. I would never refer to my dog as anything less than who, but my fish could probably be a that.

One strange exception is that you can use whose, which is the possessive form of who, to refer to both people and things (5,6,7,8) because English doesn't have a possessive form of that. So it's fine to say, "The desk whose top is cluttered with grammar books," even though it is obviously ridiculous to say, "The desk who is made of cherry wood."

So now you understand the details, but you can also remember the quick and dirty rule that who goes with people and that goes with things. "

you do know stress can kill don't you........fuck me !!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Oooh and when on our phones scrolling through forums and members copy or reply with entire long quotes. Sorry it's awkward and often hit home button or similar "

oops

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By *lyce and Mister MCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"People who spit (and no, not cum, you dirty perverts!). - People that actually hock up their phlegm and spit all over the fucking pavement, it's disgusting.

- Amy. x"

With u there rank!

Ignorance, bad manners and upthemself-ness as well as people who cannot see 2 sides to an argument lol

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By *kywatcherMan
over a year ago

Southwick


"People that can't spell Thursday....

I actually roared with laughter at one of your typos the other day. I thought it would be a twattish thing to pick you up on though, so I chose to ignore it.

I realise twattish isn't a proper word. It is a very good descriptor though. "

Wish you had picked me up so that I could have had a good laugh at a typo rather than something that you mention at a later date that you can't back up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who is adamant that we haven't me yet I know we have, I remember where we met and used the note facility to remind me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im at work on thurs so can book an early slot????

Soooo many things get my goat lol...infact dont get me started or i will be here till thurs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humans, seaguls, dogs and a variety of insects.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"People that can't spell Thursday....

I actually roared with laughter at one of your typos the other day. I thought it would be a twattish thing to pick you up on though, so I chose to ignore it.

I realise twattish isn't a proper word. It is a very good descriptor though.

Wish you had picked me up so that I could have had a good laugh at a typo rather than something that you mention at a later date that you can't back up. "

That was a mouthful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prudes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People driving in the middle lane of the motorway with no other cars anywhere near them!

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Women that put age range 18yr to 99yr and when you contact them your told your to old

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Anyone that thinks its bad manners to not reply to a message!!!

Aaaaarrrrggghhhhhhh!!! Lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh and when on our phones scrolling through forums and members copy or reply with entire long quotes. Sorry it's awkward and often hit home button or similar "

I was just about to say the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People driving in the middle lane of the motorway with no other cars anywhere near them!"

Men who say 'the wife'

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester


"oops "

Easy enough to delete what's not required look.

Might just be the OCD on our part.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Facebook style status updates....on here.

Supermarkets on weekends.

Actually, supermarkets in general, just a carnival of stupid.

People who act like authorities on things they have no clue about.

Sweeping generalisations.

And i'm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushy people

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By *ild imaginationMan
over a year ago

Basildon


"Ignorance........hate it.

People with delusions of grandeur.....thinking they are all that.

Bad manners........

Rudeness

tardyness

But basically im getting my thurday moan in now.

I'm with you on that. a few people like that

"

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By *ild imaginationMan
over a year ago

Basildon


"Anyone that thinks its bad manners to not reply to a message!!!

Aaaaarrrrggghhhhhhh!!! Lol xx "
not only is it BAD manners its just plain RUDE.. especially when its a complementary message but if its a nasty one fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goats!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People on the freeways that don't use turn signals and just weave in and out of traffic like they own the roads. There's also the flaming retards that have to speed up and not let you over in the lane infront of them. Then when you do get in that lane, they switch over to the lane you just left. That never fails to make my blood boil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Food shopping with an indecisive man really annoys me....."what do you want for dinner"...."I don't know"

MissD x"

Indecisive or perhaps just not so fussy about what is cooked ?

As someone said, being completely blank in his mind is a perfectly OK state for a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorant people and people not listening to me!

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

goat rustlers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who reply to a message with the words "yh bbe"

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"White people"

Eh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"White people

Eh?!"

They do my head in at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone that thinks its bad manners to not reply to a message!!!

Aaaaarrrrggghhhhhhh!!! Lol xx not only is it BAD manners its just plain RUDE.. especially when its a complementary message but if its a nasty one fair enough"

To me that comes under the ops "people with grandier who think they are all that" part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very long list! Shall compile it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very long list! Shall compile it "

We may need the condensed Reader's Digest version.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Anyone that thinks its bad manners to not reply to a message!!!

Aaaaarrrrggghhhhhhh!!! Lol xx not only is it BAD manners its just plain RUDE.. especially when its a complementary message but if its a nasty one fair enough"

It's neither. If I get a complimentary message saying 'nice tits' and reply saying thanks, that gets translated to 'let's start a lengthy conversation even though I'm nothing like what you are looking for and live 400 miles away'

So I try to be polite and explain why I appreciate the compliment but won't be chatting any more then I get called rude. Check out the site FAQ section. It clearly states its not rude not to send a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who say "bokkle" and "likkle" !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adverts asking for money donations.

Always seem to come on a lot at teatime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok where was I:

Liars

Cheats

Two faced people

Deceit

Barefaced lies

Cowards

Heartless people

Selfish people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curry!

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Adverts asking for money donations.

Always seem to come on a lot at teatime "

Well yeah, showing you images of starving children while you tuck into your dinner in an attempt to make you feel guilty so you'll donate. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Adverts asking for money donations.

Always seem to come on a lot at teatime

Well yeah, showing you images of starving children while you tuck into your dinner in an attempt to make you feel guilty so you'll donate. x"

They're swines for that.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"White people

Eh?!

They do my head in at times "

Anything in particular? Obviously not judging, just curious. I feel such a thing needs to be elaborated on, haha. You are of course free to decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"White people

Eh?!

They do my head in at times

Anything in particular? Obviously not judging, just curious. I feel such a thing needs to be elaborated on, haha. You are of course free to decline."

Take your pick. Anything and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who take pics in the mirror (there's a timer on most phones) and leave the flash on.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

Err..do you mean pedants.. "

No, I meant pendants ... medallions too, as a matter of fact.

Pedants, on the other hand, are an endless source of amusement - so I sort of tolerate them.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

Quite acceptable grammatically:

Today's topic is who versus that.

Lesley called in with this question:

My pet peeve is who versus that, as in “You know Bob, he's the guy that sold me my car.” It drives me nuts. Or am I mistaken and it's just become part of the new English verbiage in the evolution of the language?

I kind of talked about this question in episode 7, but other people have also asked the same thing recently, including Corinne, so I thought it would be worth going into a little further.

The quick and dirty answer is that you use whowhen you are talking about a person and that when you are talking about an object. Stick with that rule and you'll be safe.

That as a Pronoun

But, of course, it is also more complicated than that. The who-goes-with-people rule is the conventional wisdom (1,2), but, on the other hand, I did find a credible reference that says otherwise. I was shocked to see that my American Heritage Dictionary says,

It is entirely acceptable to write either the man that wanted to talk to you, or the man who wanted to talk to you (3). [emphasis added]

Wow. So I dug around some more and found that there is a long history of writers using that as a relative pronoun when writing about people. Chaucer did it, for example (4).

So, it's more of a gray area than some people think, and if you have strong feelings about it, you could make an argument for using that when you're talking about people. But my guess is that most people who use who and thatinterchangeably do it because they don't know the difference. I don't consider myself a grammar snob-–this is “quick and dirty” grammar, after all-–but in this case, I have to take the side of the people who prefer the strict rule. To me, using that when you are talking about a person makes them seem less than human. I always think of my friend who would only refer to his new stepmother as the woman that married my father. He was clearly trying to indicate his animosity and you wouldn't want to do that accidentally.

Strange Exceptions

Finally, even if you accept the conventional wisdom, there are some gray areas and strange exceptions. For example, what do you do when you are talking about something animate that isn't human? That's a gray area, and it can actually go either way. I would never refer to my dog as anything less than who, but my fish could probably be a that.

One strange exception is that you can use whose, which is the possessive form of who, to refer to both people and things (5,6,7,8) because English doesn't have a possessive form of that. So it's fine to say, "The desk whose top is cluttered with grammar books," even though it is obviously ridiculous to say, "The desk who is made of cherry wood."

So now you understand the details, but you can also remember the quick and dirty rule that who goes with people and that goes with things. "

Personally, I'd never trust any dictionary that spells colour or humour without the "u" - that and anyone called Geoffrey.

As for the other example, it's sort of given that an animal can't spell Thursday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with numerous people who think nothing of saying to the customer "what was your name again?" It drives me loopy. It is their name. Is is is is is!!!

Rude people. Inconsiderate people and people with no manners. Grrrr

And people who don't indicate at roundabout.

Oh sod it, people in general lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

BBW threads that mostly lead to disingenuous comments about slim ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH sometimes and I know I get his. Also, people who dont indicate when at a school crossing site with crossing officer in attendance. grrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rudeness- no need for it!

Spitting

Text speak

Queue jumpers

Arrogance

Bullying

Could go on but I won't bore you.

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

Apparently being too old for a social lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be easier for me to say what doesn't get my goat today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who have a problem take no action to resolve or change it then expect me to listen to them moaning about it.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Hypocrisy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently being too old for a social lol "

Say what? Didn't know there was an age limit on socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trolls ............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sitting next to men on trains or buses and they sit with their legs wide open taking up part of my seat and my leg room, ffs guys shut your dam legs i know you can ive seen others with their legs shut, youve only paid for one seat!!

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Euphemistic people.

.. I was going to say "mealy-mouthed people", but I thought that might sound a bit harsh.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Trolls ............ "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who". "

is that hanging pendants, or pedants?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"People on the freeways that don't use turn signals and just weave in and out of traffic like they own the roads. There's also the flaming retards that have to speed up and not let you over in the lane infront of them. Then when you do get in that lane, they switch over to the lane you just left. That never fails to make my blood boil."

people who use 'Americanisms'..

'freeways' my buttocks..

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


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people who use 'Americanisms'..

'freeways' my buttocks.."

Nothing particularly wrong with the use of freeway. It is the same as a highway or an expressway. Interchangeable.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"People that can't spell Thursday....

Pendants ... and people who write "that" in place of "who".

is that hanging pendants, or pedants?"

Is there an echo in here?

Yes, the hanging type ... like medallions - and no, I like pedants ... they're fun to play with.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


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people who use 'Americanisms'..

'freeways' my buttocks..

Nothing particularly wrong with the use of freeway. It is the same as a highway or an expressway. Interchangeable."

and an Autobahn too..

but not in this country, over her its a motorway..

or if its the M25 a car park..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

religion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'gawjus'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Amaze-balls" or anything spewed from the hellish nightmare that is TOWIE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol!

No respectable adult should use this acronym. Especially when Texting for a potential meet.

"lol. I like your profile.lol"

Idiots.

Or even worse when some one says

"i just loled"!

Henry Higgins was spot on.

Oh why can't the English teach their children how to speak?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Too many things to list....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men that can't make up their bloody minds !! "

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"'What gets your "goat"?'

Well I'm glad you asked Peaches my sweet.

It's that fucking Troll that lives under the bridge! Every bastard day I send my goats over the bridge to eat the grass on the other side, they go trip, trap, trip, trap on their way and that mardy arse Troll is all up in their faces giving it "Who's that tripping over my bridge?" and shit. Then he eats them.

I have a plan though. I will send three goats over at various sizes and the biggest will come last and fuck that Troll's shit up for good! FUCK YEAH!!!

RANT OVER!"

That made me laugh

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


""Amaze-balls" or anything spewed from the hellish nightmare that is TOWIE"

Yes!! I saw a tshirt in the children's section in tesco the other day with 'totes amaze' on the front. I was tempted to buy it just so I could either cut it into tiny pieces or set fire to it to make sure it was never worn!! X

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