FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it so hard to get back to it

By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 days ago

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Why is it so hard to get back to how good you looked at a previous time?

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By *iker JackMan
3 days ago

Wolverhampton

In what regard?

Weight or looks or hair or just everything or something else

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 days ago

Manchester (she/her)

Age comes for us all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 days ago

East Sussex

"Age comes for us all"

Tell me about it!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 days ago

Carlisle usually

Because you're comparing yourself to something that you're not any more.

Fuck what was. Embrace what is.

I'd do you Pickle 💚

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By *oopy FroodMan
3 days ago

Orbiting Planet Rupert

The trick is to look shitter before than you do now

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 days ago

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"Because you're comparing yourself to something that you're not any more.

Fuck what was. Embrace what is.

I'd do you Pickle 💚"

This is beautifully put. 💛

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 days ago

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"The trick is to look shitter before than you do now "
😂😂😂😂

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 days ago

North West

Gravity. What a downer

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By *ife NinjaMan
3 days ago

Dunfermline

"Why is it so hard to get back to how good you looked at a previous time?"

Christ......50 odd years of aging, nothing is getting better

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 days ago

The Continental

Embrace what you are now.

Simple.

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By *vermyshoulderyoushallgoMan
3 days ago

Manchester

Alcohol

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By *emorefridaCouple
3 days ago

La la land

Because you're looking through rose tinted glasses, or at least I do this. I wish I looked like I did x years ago, when in reality I was slimmer because of stress, and wasn't actually healthy. Or my absolute favourite I was loads slimmer 5 years ago, then got shown a picture of myself and was completely wrong.

Somethings we can change but others like age, is a lot more difficult

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By *oeBeansMan
3 days ago

Derby

Mate, I deleted so many of my photos that I only had a few left when I returned. When trying to recreate some of my older ones, I realised I looked like absolute shit

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 days ago

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"Mate, I deleted so many of my photos that I only had a few left when I returned. When trying to recreate some of my older ones, I realised I looked like absolute shit

If you think you look like shit what hope do I have😂 🫃🏾

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By *929Man
3 days ago

bedlington

Body just don’t respond like it used to as we get older mate

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By *oeBeansMan
3 days ago

Derby

"Mate, I deleted so many of my photos that I only had a few left when I returned. When trying to recreate some of my older ones, I realised I looked like absolute shit

If you think you look like shit what hope do I have😂 🫃🏾"

You look incredible. You're funny AND facially attractive, you're good bro! ♥️

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By *a LunaWoman
3 days ago

South Wales

As you get older your eyesight is not as sharp as it was, so when you look in the mirror you look like you’re in soft focus.

That helps. A lot!

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By *dam1971Man
3 days ago

Bedford

"As you get older your eyesight is not as sharp as it was, so when you look in the mirror you look like you’re in soft focus.

That helps. A lot! "

I smeared Vaseline on the mirror just to help myself with this

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
3 days ago

Chichester

"Age comes for us all"

I stand by surgery / treatments and fitness

the great counter to aging

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
3 days ago

Oldham

"Why is it so hard to get back to how good you looked at a previous time?"

But did we ever look good?…. Really?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
3 days ago

North West

"Body just don’t respond like it used to as we get older mate"

That is why you adapt mate. I used to do weights. Now I'm mostly into calisthenics, cardio and stretching and it has worked wonders on the body.

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By *oeBeansMan
3 days ago

Derby

"Body just don’t respond like it used to as we get older mate

That is why you adapt mate. I used to do weights. Now I'm mostly into calisthenics, cardio and stretching and it has worked wonders on the body. "

Nah stretching is boring AF. Just load the bar and lift the bar 💪💪💪

God my back hurts so much...

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By *bitofaslutTV/TS
3 days ago

Cannock

I look loads better now than I did a couple of years ago.

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By *ildTimes.Man
3 days ago

Colchester/London

Can't say I've noticed 🥪

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 days ago

North West

"Why is it so hard to get back to how good you looked at a previous time?

But did we ever look good?…. Really? "

Not me, no

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By *asterfulsoulMan
3 days ago

Manchester

It's all in the haircut 😎

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
3 days ago

Manchester

When I was younger I was prettier and (slightly) slimmer but I had zero confidence, I would try to blend into the background and used to wear clothes that would hide my body as I didn't feel like I was a sexy person or desirable.

I'm older now and my body and face has changed, but I am so much more confident than I was in my 20s and I feel I like I look 100x better in photos because of how I present and feel about myself. I wear what I want and what makes me feel good. I am not ashamed of my sexuality because I don't look a certain way. If I feel good in myself I will take photos for me, if others don't like it I don't care. I think caring less about what other people think set my free of some of my insecurities I had when I was younger.

I guess my point is, your body changes as you age but looking good is about so much more than your physical body. It's also about how you feel about yourself and how you carry yourself. If you feel good and feel confident that shines through.

I am not happy with a lot of things about how I look but I've learned to accept myself as I am because life is too short to beat myself up about how I look for the rest of it.

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By *avexxMan
3 days ago

cheshire

"When I was younger I was prettier and (slightly) slimmer but I had zero confidence, I would try to blend into the background and used to wear clothes that would hide my body as I didn't feel like I was a sexy person or desirable.

I am not happy with a lot of things about how I look but I've learned to accept myself as I am because life is too short to beat myself up about how I look for the rest of it. "
... i agree

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 days ago

North West

"It's all in the haircut 😎"

Based on that, Pickle is a peng ting

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By *zeroMan
3 days ago

Glasgow

Looking is one thing. Feeling like how you used to is harder personally.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
3 days ago

Essex

Don’t look in the mirror - look in your heart.

A good person will always be more attractive. To me anyway.

Besides …

Shut up. You’re hot 🤣

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By *avexxMan
3 days ago

cheshire

"Don’t look in the mirror - look in your heart.

A good person will always be more attractive. To me anyway.

Besides …

Shut up. You’re hot 🤣"
... thanks misty

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 days ago

North West

"Looking is one thing. Feeling like how you used to is harder personally."

Oh don't. I'm never going to feel like the old me again

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 days ago

London

"Mate, I deleted so many of my photos that I only had a few left when I returned. When trying to recreate some of my older ones, I realised I looked like absolute shit

Never delete! I'll certainly not be taking any topless pics for a VERY long time...!

😂

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

I hear ya.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
3 days ago

Heathrow

Mr P.

You don't have to have that body when you was 19 but you can still feel amazing and confident now with some subtle changes.

Eat whole foods, fast and walk on a daily basis.

Ping me if you need more info.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 days ago

Central

We evolve and become a different self, as we mature. It may be that we want to pursue fool's gold, that deceives us, by thinking that we can have the past again.

Better to be looking for your best health and to care for who you're becoming. Your qualities today are likely better in some ways, from the earlier you.

We can only decide for ourselves how we can be and wish to enhance what we have. Our body goes through definite stages of development and we can appreciate and mourn what we've had but it's going to be better to not try to be rigid, when we've progressed.

It's good to retain and develop your muscle mass, as you age, as it will typically be in decline, as you age.

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By *abby N IanCouple
1 day ago

Willenhall

This forum definately hit me. As I'm getting older I am struggling more with my confidence and hence struggling to approach new ppl, especially in the clubs.

Actually I'm wondering if this new event Xtasia have asked me and my husband to host stating 'we are a perfect fit' would help anyone. It's going to be aimed at building ppls confidence and helping ppl meet and interact with new ppl that believe they have imperfections. I believe nobody is perfect and we should all embrace all the positives things we have to offer xx

Interesting read on this forum.

The event happening at Xtasia on Saturday 8th March called Perfect Imperfections.

You should check it out.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/1678402

Hopefully see some of you there x

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