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By *midnight- OP Woman
3 days ago

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Do you ever get a 'spidey sense' ...a feeling that something is off / wrong?

It's sometimes referred to as a 'sixth sense' or a 'gut feeling'

... Has it ever been wrong?? How did it play out?

(PS, it's just a thread topic, all is good in my world)

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
3 days ago

furnace

Haven’t we all

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 days ago

Cheltenham

I have learnt to trust my judgment - if my gut tells me something is not quite right then there is a higher than normal probability something will go wrong.

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By *opeyXWoman
3 days ago

Dun Dee

Yeah it's a gut feeling, though I sometimes give things the benefit of the doubt incase I'm overthinking things, it's never been wrong yet.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
3 days ago

North Yorkshire

Yes, and I've been wrong about the reason behind why something felt off as often as I've been right.

It's easy to layer incorrect assumptions onto that feeling of uneasiness.

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By *urvyBunnyWoman
3 days ago

Suffolk

All the time and I need to learn to trust it more often.

The most significant one was in an old job, there was this woman I worked with who everyone adored, but I just didn't like her, I don't know what it was, but I felt like something was really off about her behaviour and attitude. She picked up on this and would try and do little things to inconvenience/bother me. I told my colleagues that I wasn't fond of her and couldn't place it, fast forward a few months and it turns out she was extremely toxic, a thief and tried to turn everyone against eachother.

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

What people call instinct or gut feeling is very often just confirmation bias. I pay attention but remain open to other feelings and the frequent chance I'm wrong.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 days ago

The Continental

I’ve not got much of one, so I have a few fails to go with the successes.

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By *midnight- OP Woman
3 days ago

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"Yes, and I've been wrong about the reason behind why something felt off as often as I've been right.

It's easy to layer incorrect assumptions onto that feeling of uneasiness. "

Sometimes I think we try to make the narrative fit... Maybe it's a mask for our choice's that are difficult to own

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By *nya NeesWoman
3 days ago

Brum

I always trust my gut

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 days ago

The Continental

I can’t always trust my guts.

There’s was that one time………I only refer to it as the great sharting poonami…………

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

"I can’t always trust my guts.

There’s was that one time………I only refer to it as the great sharting poonami…………

TMI John 🤣

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By *ellinever70Woman
3 days ago

Ayrshire

"What people call instinct or gut feeling is very often just confirmation bias. I pay attention but remain open to other feelings and the frequent chance I'm wrong."

I think it's our brain quickly computing info we have about someone and checking it against previous personal experience. If things seem off, the 'gut feeling ' is some kind of anxiety as a result of what our head is telling us

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 days ago

Reading

Sometimes it's just apprehension but other times it's definitely my subconscious picking up on things.

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By *ackformore100Man
3 days ago

Tin town

"Do you ever get a 'spidey sense' ...a feeling that something is off / wrong?

It's sometimes referred to as a 'sixth sense' or a 'gut feeling'

... Has it ever been wrong?? How did it play out?

(PS, it's just a thread topic, all is good in my world)"

Or is it?

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

"What people call instinct or gut feeling is very often just confirmation bias. I pay attention but remain open to other feelings and the frequent chance I'm wrong.

Definitely the brain doing hyper speed calculations but that can only be based on the info it holds. If a certain smell or sound reminds my brain of a previous bad experience then its going to send out sub conscious warnings, but the current scenario may be completely different from that past experience.

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By *uacksplat.Woman
3 days ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

yep. Px

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By *parkle1974Woman
3 days ago

Leeds

Absolutely and usually I'm spot on. In a situation at the minute where it's off the chart...if I'm right then there will be hell to pay

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 days ago

couple, us we him her.

"Do you ever get a 'spidey sense' ...a feeling that something is off / wrong?

It's sometimes referred to as a 'sixth sense' or a 'gut feeling'

... Has it ever been wrong?? How did it play out?

(PS, it's just a thread topic, all is good in my world)"

As someone who is definitely in the "glass is half empty" camp I always see threat and negativity all the time.

Some I'm constantly in fight or flight mode.

So yes my Spidey sense is always tingling.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 days ago

Castlebar

Yes absolutely.

Ignored it too many times and realised maybe too late...

I let myself be persuaded that my gut was wrong, over and over. I guess I didn't have that trust in myself but now I know that I absolutely can trust myself and I was 100% right all along. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but more importantly I've learnt a valuable lesson about myself and how other people can influence me if I chose to let them.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
3 days ago

cardiff

Yes, and I was right, but in denial

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By *orthern StarsCouple
3 days ago

Durham

Yes, I often have. Gut instinct about something and it's right about 99.999% of the time.

Ignore at my own peril!

Ruby

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
3 days ago

M20

Had an experience as a child which made me trust my instincts. A friend and I were walking on a path under a huge cedar tree near my house one night. The hairs on my neck stood up like a startled cat and I shouted “RUN”. We ran. A second later a bough made a mighty crack and fell in to the path behind us. We would have been right underneath it. It was very scary for us both but I’ve never ignored my instincts since. Spidey sense is very real, I suspect many just learn not to listen. Teach your kids to listen and trust themselves.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
3 days ago

Ends

Yeah. I trust it.

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 days ago

Forest of Dean

Yes, and I’ve regretted the times I’ve ignored it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 days ago

East Sussex

Yes I have had that feeling and sometimes it's right but sometimes it's wrong.

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

It would be interesting to see research on the decision making outcomes of those who rely on instinct/gut feeling and those who lean on more a more considered and rational process. My guess is the latter group would make consistently better life decisions, but that's just a gut feeling.

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By *ustful_LionessWoman
3 days ago

Heaven-sent

"Do you ever get a 'spidey sense' ...a feeling that something is off / wrong?

It's sometimes referred to as a 'sixth sense' or a 'gut feeling'

... Has it ever been wrong?? How did it play out?

(PS, it's just a thread topic, all is good in my world)"

Yes absolutely, I’ve had ‘spidey senses’ over quite a lot to be honest, I’d say it’s right most of the time. I previously would brush it off however now I listen to my gut instinct no matter what.

However that instinct also goes both ways, those moments you just know things are a positive and you’re making the right decision.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
3 days ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd be amazed if anyone hasn't.

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By *ony MannMan
3 days ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I never go near a cliff edge when the wind is blowing, I just know a gust will catch be and its a long way down.

I know the fall will nor kill me, but I have a very solid feeling that the sudden stop at the bottom will hurt. So I go with my 🕷 sense and hold on to a nylon rope all the way down.

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By *r TriomanMan
3 days ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I do from time to time; I do listen to my gut but I also tend to ignore it; several trips to A&E are testimony to that.

Also, I heard the guy being a persons second brain.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

Definitely.

I’m often proved right but do occasionally get it wrong, overthinking is a common practice in my head.

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By *iss KinkWoman
3 days ago

North West

Yes I do

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
3 days ago

Swansea

Studies have shown that judges are more likely to grant parole after dinner than before. An explanation for this is that the mild feeling of discomfort created by a brain in response to the threat of low blood glucose gets interpreted as a negative feeling about someone.

Given the above, I'm inclined to distrust gut feelings. I'm certainly inclined to distrust my wife's gut feelings. As a self confessed sufferer of getting hangry, we are both well aware that her views about any given situation can be heavily influenced by how long ago she ate. I suspect the effect, while less obvious in me, is equally strong.

Our feelings are influenced by so many things, chemical compounds like alcohol and caffeine are well known but there are many more. Then there are our hormones and a whole host of internal controls like blood sugar. All of these affect us mentally in an ever changing complex pattern. I think believing that any of this mess creates something approximating a "sense" is highly unlikely given the evidence to the contrary.

These threads do pop up a great deal though and will always have a long list of 20/20 hindsight where people will claim to have known things all along but remain unable to explain why, knowing what they did, they allowed themselves to be fooled.

Me? I'm as thick as a plank so prefer evidence as my feelings are not too be trusted.

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By *oughmanMan
3 days ago

Sunderland

Yeah, I've had that feeling multiple times and I'm usually right. Not here though, not yet.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
3 days ago

M20

"It would be interesting to see research on the decision making outcomes of those who rely on instinct/gut feeling and those who lean on more a more considered and rational process. My guess is the latter group would make consistently better life decisions, but that's just a gut feeling.

You may have touched on something really interesting here. We may be looking at intellectual quotient vs emotional quotient. They are not exclusive. I’m very much logical and rational but still have great faith in my instincts. I score slightly higher in IQ than EQ.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
3 days ago

M20

It’s worth mentioning that experiments repeated over and over show that some of us know when someone is looking at us from behind and even at a distance.

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

"It’s worth mentioning that experiments repeated over and over show that some of us know when someone is looking at us from behind and even at a distance."

There must be a wide range of instincts which we evolved over a long period to recognise possible dangers. I'm not sure how many of those are applicable in a modern environment of so much random information and stimuli.🤷‍♂️

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 days ago

little house on the praire

My gut instinct is very good. Sometimes I just get a feeling about someone when they haven't done anything wrong

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 days ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

What we like to call intuition is more likely our subconscious brain picking up clues and evidence we have not consciously processed.

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By *eoBloomsMan
3 days ago

Springfield

"What we like to call intuition is more likely our subconscious brain picking up clues and evidence we have not consciously processed. "

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
3 days ago

M20

"It’s worth mentioning that experiments repeated over and over show that some of us know when someone is looking at us from behind and even at a distance.

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By *egasus NobMan
3 days ago

Wandsworth

More of women trait

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By *ooBulMan
3 days ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

When you do martial arts/meditation/Qigong alot you start to develop that spidey sense feeling...

Sometimes I get a funny feeling someone is there walking behind me when I'm walking out & about & when I turn round they are. It's a spooky feeling!!!

Perhaps it's something from hunter gatherer days?

I remember doing a meditation once, eyes closed. My teacher told me to imagine I was standing on grass. I got so into it I felt the cold, cool grass on a warm day in a breeze. I've held a circle pose with my arms like you are holding a cauldron. That was spooky - I felt like I was holding a solid object. Like hugging a chunky tree.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
3 days ago

little house on the praire

Tell you what I always do. Sitting on my phone or watching television and look put the window and someone is walking by

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