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"One pic, where you look miserable, one sentence on your profile…. Come on, it’s hardly going to set the world alight is it? Add more pics, write about what you like and are offering… " Yes. I know nothing about you other than your face (you look fine, but yes, not particularly happy). Also be aware that many people, particularly women, hide their views. You won't see that I've looked at you, even though I have. (I can't speak for other women, but I hide my views because guys often think a view means a shag. A view can mean as little as I jabbed the screen while trying not to drop my phone) | |||
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"Hi All... ...added a some pics & a Brief bio, kept it lean, so it adds a bit of mystery & didn’t want to add my life story." You really haven't done your profile any favours: "some pics"...where?? "brief bio"...where?? You have no bio whatsoever. You have to pique someone's interest to offer any mystery or any air of mystique. In regards to your "life story" what are you injecting into your profile to showcase yourself? How do you stand out from the rest of the men? What makes you unique? "I’ve messaged about 10 Single women’s profiles, each with a differing Message, so the effort had been made. Yet Not one of them has looked at my profile..." Oh, I can assure you that they looked at your profile. Take the radio silence as a form of feedback. "My profile is not at the bad end of town..." With respect, I would obliterate it and start all over again, at best; redux it, at worst. "How does anyone meet anyone, how does someone get Verified if every Woman will only meet Verified Men." The odds are stacked against you: there are far more singleton men trawling this site than women (and couples). Your message will be one of hundreds in their inbox and most women typically look at the profile first before even opening the message itself...assuming they feel inclined to do so, let alone reply. I would suggest that you attend a few Fab organised socials. It's a brilliant way to meet people, imbibe and network. It's also a humbling method to get some verifications on the back of that events. Good luck! | |||
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"Your shop window has currently got its curtains closed! Your bio tells absolutely nothing about you and one pic, you could have at least smiled. As your profile stands right now it just shows disinterest and no effort" The shop window currently has a cardboard sign up saying "I'm thinking about becoming a shop" Optician? Greengrocer? Books? No one knows. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials " 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. " I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. " I'm not the one who suggested it, but one of the reasons it's suggested is that it's a lower bar to meeting. A lot of women are suspicious of meeting a guy one on one. Might it be a waste of time? What if he's a weirdo? What if he pressures her? If she happens to be in a club or a social, the odds are very high that she'll at least say hello to you. Behave like a vaguely functioning polite human being and you get a verification. Something a lot of men say is impossible to get. Is it possible to meet without clubs and socials? Yes. Of course it is. But it's much, much harder. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. I'm not the one who suggested it, but one of the reasons it's suggested is that it's a lower bar to meeting. A lot of women are suspicious of meeting a guy one on one. Might it be a waste of time? What if he's a weirdo? What if he pressures her? If she happens to be in a club or a social, the odds are very high that she'll at least say hello to you. Behave like a vaguely functioning polite human being and you get a verification. Something a lot of men say is impossible to get. Is it possible to meet without clubs and socials? Yes. Of course it is. But it's much, much harder." Apologies for saying about clubs and socials. I , like yourself are on forums and post . One thing see a lot . When a male asks about profile getting meets. Apart from sort out profile is going to clubs or social's. I admit being single male my age . Even more difficult . I am getting interest though . Messages . Will I get to meet . Who know’s ? . | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. " My nearest club is an hour and a half down the motorway. And I don't drive. My favourite club is 3 hours drive away from me. If you want to go experience a thing then you can organise it. If you don't want to, you'll find excuses. Yes, as a female I don't have any issues getting in whenever. But most clubs will have guestlists you can ask to be on to avoid a wasted journey for a particular evening or event, or newbie specific nights so people can go just to see what it's like. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. I'm not the one who suggested it, but one of the reasons it's suggested is that it's a lower bar to meeting. A lot of women are suspicious of meeting a guy one on one. Might it be a waste of time? What if he's a weirdo? What if he pressures her? If she happens to be in a club or a social, the odds are very high that she'll at least say hello to you. Behave like a vaguely functioning polite human being and you get a verification. Something a lot of men say is impossible to get. Is it possible to meet without clubs and socials? Yes. Of course it is. But it's much, much harder. Apologies for saying about clubs and socials. I , like yourself are on forums and post . One thing see a lot . When a male asks about profile getting meets. Apart from sort out profile is going to clubs or social's. I admit being single male my age . Even more difficult . I am getting interest though . Messages . Will I get to meet . Who know’s ? . " I just see it as easier. Will I meet you if you send me a smiling picture and say hi? Probably not. (Not a personal comment) Will I have a chat if you show up at a social or in a club? Sure. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. My nearest club is an hour and a half down the motorway. And I don't drive. My favourite club is 3 hours drive away from me. If you want to go experience a thing then you can organise it. If you don't want to, you'll find excuses. Yes, as a female I don't have any issues getting in whenever. But most clubs will have guestlists you can ask to be on to avoid a wasted journey for a particular evening or event, or newbie specific nights so people can go just to see what it's like." I refer to my previous post. This was about numbers of males. In my area looking. All or even 50%. Went on waiting list ? How many could be or on a waiting list . Odds are stacked against. I do understand why clubs do this. As males would outnumber on ‘open ‘ nights females and couples. Plus again on specific nights for newbies , club will still limit male numbers ? | |||
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"I refer to my previous post. This was about numbers of males. In my area looking. All or even 50%. Went on waiting list ? How many could be or on a waiting list . Odds are stacked against. I do understand why clubs do this. As males would outnumber on ‘open ‘ nights females and couples. Plus again on specific nights for newbies , club will still limit male numbers ? " ... Which is why you make sure you're on the guestlist, not the waiting list, before making a potentially wasted journey. Some clubs do guestlists. Some sell tickets with limited numbers available for single males in both cases usually. But that doesn't mean every single male in the vicinity is clamouring for them and making it impossible. Some places do only operate a waiting list, I don't go near those, as I'd be getting someone else to drive an at least 3 hour round trip to possibly not get in. If you want to go then plan ahead and look for when events are announced so you can make sure you can attend. Or if you don't want to bother, just don't bother. But claiming it's impossible with the odds stacked against you isn't really a true representation. The odds aren't stacked against me when I choose not to apply for a job I want, I'm just choosing not to deal with the hassle. It's a valid choice for whatever reasons I decide not to bother. But it's a choice. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. My nearest club is an hour and a half down the motorway. And I don't drive. My favourite club is 3 hours drive away from me. If you want to go experience a thing then you can organise it. If you don't want to, you'll find excuses. Yes, as a female I don't have any issues getting in whenever. But most clubs will have guestlists you can ask to be on to avoid a wasted journey for a particular evening or event, or newbie specific nights so people can go just to see what it's like. I refer to my previous post. This was about numbers of males. In my area looking. All or even 50%. Went on waiting list ? How many could be or on a waiting list . Odds are stacked against. I do understand why clubs do this. As males would outnumber on ‘open ‘ nights females and couples. Plus again on specific nights for newbies , club will still limit male numbers ? " “Fantastic! Another single male!”……….said no club ever….. 
I’ve been to 9 clubs in total, up and down the country, and my best piece of advice would be; never go as a single guy.
My inbox is open to all, and I’m happy to share my ‘experiences’ as a solo guy in clubs honestly, and without bias 
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. My nearest club is an hour and a half down the motorway. And I don't drive. My favourite club is 3 hours drive away from me. If you want to go experience a thing then you can organise it. If you don't want to, you'll find excuses. Yes, as a female I don't have any issues getting in whenever. But most clubs will have guestlists you can ask to be on to avoid a wasted journey for a particular evening or event, or newbie specific nights so people can go just to see what it's like. I refer to my previous post. This was about numbers of males. In my area looking. All or even 50%. Went on waiting list ? How many could be or on a waiting list . Odds are stacked against. I do understand why clubs do this. As males would outnumber on ‘open ‘ nights females and couples. Plus again on specific nights for newbies , club will still limit male numbers ? “Fantastic! Another single male!”……….said no club ever…..
I’ve been to 9 clubs in total, up and down the country, and my best piece of advice would be; never go as a single guy.
My inbox is open to all, and I’m happy to share my ‘experiences’ as a solo guy in clubs honestly, and without bias
Fab is far less effort to meet likeminded, friendly people than the club scene "Just read this post. Your statement never go as a single guy ? To me means going with someone. Perhaps offer to take ? Would that not mean two single guys wanting entrance . ? Male numbers being restricted. | |||
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"To assume that you'd potentially get even 2 match out of 10, suggests that potentially your expectations are a little too optimistic. Likely very unrealistic. 1% is perhaps unrealistic too. Get to clubs and socials 1% is probably at the optimistic end with good messages and a decent profile. I see this a lot . Go to clubs , socials. My point are there any within a reasonable distance ? Socials and clubs from seen on Fab have restricted numbers. My nearest club is approx thirty miles away. That is if can get in as single male.? Socials not seen locally for a while. Could be wrong . Last I saw was over one hours drive for me. Plus limited number of males admitted. My nearest club is an hour and a half down the motorway. And I don't drive. My favourite club is 3 hours drive away from me. If you want to go experience a thing then you can organise it. If you don't want to, you'll find excuses. Yes, as a female I don't have any issues getting in whenever. But most clubs will have guestlists you can ask to be on to avoid a wasted journey for a particular evening or event, or newbie specific nights so people can go just to see what it's like. I refer to my previous post. This was about numbers of males. In my area looking. All or even 50%. Went on waiting list ? How many could be or on a waiting list . Odds are stacked against. I do understand why clubs do this. As males would outnumber on ‘open ‘ nights females and couples. Plus again on specific nights for newbies , club will still limit male numbers ? “Fantastic! Another single male!”……….said no club ever…..
I’ve been to 9 clubs in total, up and down the country, and my best piece of advice would be; never go as a single guy.
My inbox is open to all, and I’m happy to share my ‘experiences’ as a solo guy in clubs honestly, and without bias
Fab is far less effort to meet likeminded, friendly people than the club scene
Just read this post. Your statement never go as a single guy ? To me means going with someone. Perhaps offer to take ? Would that not mean two single guys wanting entrance . ? Male numbers being restricted. "Absolutely. I would never recommend to a mate to visit a club as a solo guy. I’ve been to 3 clubs as a couple, and the difference of how I was welcomed, as the male half of a couple to a guy on his own, was as striking as it was disappointing to experience. I’m the same person either way….. A note about guest lists too, as some have mentioned; they can work like ‘click bait’ to get the numbers up. Watch who chips in early on, keen for a place, but then drops out last minute because the cat died etc….. Also; why are single guy places limited to events? Come on……..that’s the ‘break even’ point…… | |||
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"Also; why are single guy places limited to events? Come on……..that’s the ‘break even’ point……" If I go somewhere and it's an overwhelming sausagefest, I don't go back 💜 | |||
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