FabSwingers.com forum: men and women who have had some success on fab, what is your secret?

By *rrrMannnn122 OP Man
1 week ago

Walsall

what are your secrets to having success on here?

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
1 week ago

Mid Glamorgan

Having a big pair of boobs joke

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

My initial success was a well written profile. The thing I mocked up in five minutes - convinced two people that I was worth engaging with, as a faceless brand new profile. I don't think I would have gotten very far without good contacts early on.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
1 week ago

The Continental

Simply asking someone to glaze my face like a donut.

Works every time.

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By *ealitybitesMan
1 week ago

Belfast

What's your definition of success?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West

Don't be pushy, if you get no reply you move on. Just have a normal conversation like you would in a pub or anywhere public. And most importantly don't be a twat on here.

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By *andadbodMan
1 week ago

Liverpool

Attend social events, be polite, avoid being negative no matter the situation, if you don’t get replies or a no thanks, respect it and move on.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

I’m here for the advice tbh.

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By *ndateable700Man
1 week ago

Shropshire

I will let you know , when I find out , but suspect that depends on stars aligning and finding and meeting somebody wanting similar to you. Lots of different characters here all wanting someone or something slightly different, so I don’t think there is a secret recipe for success , luck is as much a factor as it is in the real world

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By *ealitybitesMan
1 week ago

Belfast

Self respect, sticking to my principles, not ticking boxes just to please others, not competing with anyone and not taking it too seriously.

You could probably say it has been as much about what I haven't done as what I have done.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
1 week ago

The Town by The Cross

I have a foof

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By *nesCouple
1 week ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams

Tits and ass are absolute 🔥

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
1 week ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Having a good sense of wit.

That and perfectly reasonable sized boobs

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By *ou345Woman
1 week ago

Derby

"Simply asking someone to glaze my face like a donut.

Works every time. "

I like this one. I might pinch it. 😉

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
1 week ago

Staffordshire

A beautiful penis and a beautiful wife.

Simples.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
1 week ago

On Holibobs

I met men at socials and they wanted to get in my pants

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

"I met men at socials and they wanted to get in my pants

I offered you a pickle at my picnic

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By *oiluvfunMan
1 week ago

Camden

"what are your secrets to having success on here?"

No pretensions, just be myself, and respect others.

For solo guys in here, there’s a huge amount of luck involved. As you’re bi curious, you’ll never be short of guys to hook up with. I am totally straight, yet receive offers of blowjobs from men daily. 12 years of using Fab, I’m still waiting for the first bj offer from a woman in here……

Always bear in mind; you will meet more women in real life, than you will in Fab, or any swinger club (as many will recommend you to “Just go to a club”

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

Having boobs and vag would help.

Failing that, talk to people like people and learn to recognise the dreamers and the keepers.

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
1 week ago

Cumbria

I just noticed you can send yourself messages on here finally I've found someone who understands me

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
1 week ago

Glasgow / London

"what are your secrets to having success on here?"

Being chatty.

Not being a dick.

Having a beard.

(And having a nice dick.)

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
1 week ago

The Continental

"Simply asking someone to glaze my face like a donut.

Works every time.

I like this one. I might pinch it. 😉"

Try it out.

I’ll let you know if it’s worked…

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By *oppet22TV/TS
1 week ago

huddersfield

Never be pushy take no for anser without getting nasty be respectful at all times

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
1 week ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"what are your secrets to having success on here?

Being chatty.

Not being a dick.

Having a beard.

(And having a nice dick.)"

I don’t have a beard. This explains everything.

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By *ony MannMan
1 week ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Andover

The first verification started my success, but it could be the fact that I'm incredibly rich and internationally famous.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
1 week ago

On Holibobs

"I met men at socials and they wanted to get in my pants

I offered you a pickle at my picnic "

I snaffled your cheese... the pickle was too girthy

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By *rHotNottsMan
1 week ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Never be pushy take no for anser without getting nasty be respectful at all times"

That’s hardly the secret of success though is it ? that’s being a decent person 101….

Good conversation & humour, confidence, honesty, a filthy glint in your eye and a lovely cock!

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 week ago

Cheltenham

Being myself and just treating others as humans. Behave as you would in real life.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
1 week ago

The last house on the left…

*Only message women when they’re online. That way you’ll be on the top of the pile & not lost in the shuffle.

*A profile pic that shows teeth

*Stay local. Or give a reeeeaaally good reason why travelling to meet would be a good idea.

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By *urry BlokeMan
1 week ago

Stalybridge

Treating other members as humans and not as sexual objects

Being myself and not bigging myself up

Being understanding and acceptable of circumstances - and the fact they may change

Being available

Understanding that rejection is more commonplace than success

Being realistic about what this site can offer me

It's not all about being something special

Good looks only get you so far

Success has more to do with common sense and common decency

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
1 week ago

Manchester

Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
1 week ago

Glasgow / London

"I don’t have a beard. This explains everything. "

It doesn’t explain string theory but it does distract female physicists for long enough to change the subject.

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By *urry BlokeMan
1 week ago

Stalybridge

Also OP, what are you regarding as 'success'?

If it's walls dripping with an unending procession of willing sexual partners, you may find your vision of 'success' varies from that of many other members

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

Buy a LOT of drinks

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By *weetiepie99Woman
1 week ago

cardiff

"Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here. "

That's true if you don't care who you meet, but not if you do

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
1 week ago

N. Wales

Filters on, and finding gems in the forums

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
1 week ago

Manchester

"Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here.

That's true if you don't care who you meet, but not if you do

I was just being facetious

You are entirely correct

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By *weetiepie99Woman
1 week ago

cardiff

"Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here.

That's true if you don't care who you meet, but not if you do

I was just being facetious

You are entirely correct "

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By *usty kayCouple
1 week ago

Burnham

Having holes seems to be all that's required

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 week ago

little house on the praire

Well written profile goes along way. Decent photos doesnt have to be face ones and a decent first message

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here. "

I would have been wildly intimidated and run away if not for my early mentors

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By *eyond PurityCouple
1 week ago

Lincolnshire

For a higher chance of finding your type of person, have a decent profile write-up, good intriguing pics that suggest you’ve put some effort in and be honest with what you want.

Do FAB your way - don’t change for others and stick to you principles.

Oh and grow boobs or have a partner with boobs

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

"*Only message women when they’re online. That way you’ll be on the top of the pile & not lost in the shuffle.

This is why my filters are pretty much always on. The deluge of messages when I just want to dick around on the forums.

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By *oopy FroodMan
1 week ago

Orbiting Planet Rupert

To not kiss and tell

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
1 week ago

North West

For me it's been a combination of being gorgeous and awesome 😘😂

The actual thing that works really well for me is going to socials and club events where there's a pre-event or ongoing chat. You get a real feel for compatibility and who you want to say hello to. If there's in-person chemistry then hurrah, success is yours!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
1 week ago

Essex

Self confidence without being cocky (I don’t have this)

Being a decent human (I mostly have this)

Flirting (hit and miss)

Tits (I definitely have these)

Socials are brilliant - but you have to socialise. I know it sounds obvious.

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By * and M lookingCouple
1 week ago

Worcester

We just use Fab as a window into this world.

In the 10 plus years that we have been on here, we have probably only met 10 people.

We prefer to see what's in front of us and although put off at first by the clubs, in this scene, it's the only way to make connections with genuine people, who are real and into the scene.

99% of folk on Fab are just chances trying to find a way in.

Mr M.

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By *im le2Man
1 week ago

AYLESTONE

Fill in your profile.

Add some photos.

Update your status when your looking to meet.

Be funny.

Tell ppl what your willing to do be honest.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
1 week ago

Carlisle usually

Be an attractive woman 💜

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
1 week ago

North West

"what are your secrets to having success on here?"

Fuck only knows tbh

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

"Be an attractive woman 💜"

I’m attractive. So close.

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By *londie8399Couple
1 week ago

blackpool

Go to clubs and socials

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

"what are your secrets to having success on here?"

Be an average height Sikh, with a mediocre fatherly-bod, an average phallus with a poisoned chalice

(without any malice), an edifying charm to beguile the impressionable women on here.

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By *alcon2Man
1 week ago

North

Grow your hair.

Or something that makes you different/ can serve as an ice breaker.

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By *ucka39Man
1 week ago

Newcastle

Just being normal if that counts

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By *alcon2Man
1 week ago

North

Smiles are attractive too.

-Even if you have no teeth.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
1 week ago

Ilfracombe

A half decent bio and some pictures, and being a woman.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

"A half decent bio and some pictures, and being a woman. "

Omg you’re a woman

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By *bitofaslutWoman
1 week ago

Cannock

I've had a lot more quality messages since I followed advice about making my profile better and since getting verified.

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By *asterfulsoulMan
1 week ago

Manchester

Knowing what you want, then going and finding it, and then striking up a conversation with it.

Then accepting that almost every swing is gonna be a miss, being okay with that, and taking your time.

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By *electableicecreamMan
1 week ago

The West

Visibility. I think it all comes to that. Maximising your visibility in respect of the kind people you want to attract.

You might be great at social events

You might be a proficient word smith

You might be great at socialising online

You might be a creative photographer

Or other things or all those things

Knowing yourself and what you want and then being seen by the people you want be seen by us really all that matters in a game of attraction.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
1 week ago

Durham

"Having a vagina. I don't think women need to do much more to have an inbox full of messages on here. "

An inbox full of people that we would actually be interested in meeting is an entirely different thing though.

Success is down to, erm, I'm actually not sure. Being extremely nice people perhaps.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

Lots of good advice on here already but ill add my tuppence. Perseverance, trial and error and sharpened spidey senses.

Look to see where you might be going wrong and try things differently. If you do what you've always done then you'll get what you'll always get.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
1 week ago

Chichester

Numbers

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By *JB1954Man
1 week ago

Reading

"Lots of good advice on here already but ill add my tuppence. Perseverance, trial and error and sharpened spidey senses.

Look to see where you might be going wrong and try things differently. If you do what you've always done then you'll get what you'll always get.

I agree the above. Yes I updated my profile few weeks back. Added , changed public , friend’s photo’s and bio. Yes no meets yet. But my searching , contacting potential meets still same. I have had more interest , winks , messages etc back to sent and even messages , winks from profiles that not contacted. In say three weeks than all last year. Not sure what I have done . Hopefully works out . ?

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By *ysonfuryMan
1 week ago

Stockport

Be polite

Be respectful

Make sure you have read profiles before send a message

Accept a no is a no and don't get hung up about it if it is, you can't be everyones cup of tea

Local socials, they are a no pressure way of meeting lots of nice folks

If you do get a meet turn so be reliable

Most of all have fun if you are hopefully that come across to others

Happy fabbing everyone

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By *ysonfuryMan
1 week ago

Stockport

Oh and make sure you spell and grammar check before posting a message on the forums. Oooops

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales

Bribery, works everytime

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West

"Bribery, works everytime

And what can I bribe you with??? 🤔🤔

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds

Just me being me seems to work

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By *ea monkeyMan
1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)

It all depends on what you define as success…

It varies wildly from person to person. For some success is having a regular FWB, for others it’s a string of ongoing one offs. The approaches vary wildly

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By *oxy-RedWoman
1 week ago

pink panther territory

"Just me being me seems to work

You took the words out of my mouth

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds

"Just me being me seems to work

You took the words out of my mouth

I don't know why people think there is a reciepe for success

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales

"Bribery, works everytime

And what can I bribe you with??? 🤔🤔"

A bacon butty and brew would do it

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By *imply_SensualMan
1 week ago

Widnes

Being respectful seems to work well for me. Read the profiles and send bespoke messages rather than copy and paste ones. Stick with what you like and be honest with what you want and your situation.

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By *teffanie_RedTV/TS
1 week ago

midlands

"what are your secrets to having success on here?"

Being a tv girl and men who think with their cocks

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By *ad NannaWoman
1 week ago

East London

Big boobs, fat bum, location.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

"Big boobs, fat bum, location. "

Let’s see your bum then?

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
1 week ago

hot wife

Having a mars bar b4 login on

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
1 week ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

Enticing pictures, sarcasm (not always appreciated) and being able to sort the wheat from the chaff (95.5% of the time)

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
1 week ago

Swansea

Dunno, just being myself seemed to be enough. Could ask my wife, she agreed to meet me off here ....

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
1 week ago

Swansea

"Dunno, just being myself seemed to be enough. Could ask my wife, she agreed to meet me off here ....

I hadn't even seen a face pic of you and agreed to meet you for a social after chatting for a few weeks.

Mrs

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By *obilebottomMan
1 week ago

All over

Cake

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By *ysonfuryMan
1 week ago

Stockport

"Dunno, just being myself seemed to be enough. Could ask my wife, she agreed to meet me off here ....

I hadn't even seen a face pic of you and agreed to meet you for a social after chatting for a few weeks.

Mrs"

Awww what a great story

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
1 week ago

Swansea

"Dunno, just being myself seemed to be enough. Could ask my wife, she agreed to meet me off here ....

I hadn't even seen a face pic of you and agreed to meet you for a social after chatting for a few weeks.

Mrs

Awww what a great story

He's a great shag too 🤣🤣😅

Mrs

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