FabSwingers.com forum: do you get annoyed when your messages arent replied to straight away?

By (user no longer on site) OP
27 weeks ago

do you get annoyed? Or just take a step back?

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By *exxyyDy11Man
27 weeks ago

North West

Why would I get annoyed? People have lives you know. Reply when you like.

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By *avexxMan
27 weeks ago

cheshire

step back always

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By *all me FlikWoman
27 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Why would that annoy anyone?

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By *ife NinjaMan
27 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Nope. Expect absolutely nothing

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By *iss KinkWoman
27 weeks ago

Up North

"do you get annoyed? Or just take a step back?"

No do you op?

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By *upersonic SamMan
27 weeks ago

wigan

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Why would it annoy you?

If it does then I would say it’s a huge red flag of what the person may be like off here if something like that annoys them

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By *exxyyDy11Man
27 weeks ago

North West

"Why would it annoy you?

If it does then I would say it’s a huge red flag of what the person may be like off here if something like that annoys them "

Comes across as very needy or possessive in my eyes.

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By *otuseater11Man
27 weeks ago

kilwinning

Definitely doesn't bother me as we all have busy lives and can't always get online for days at a time .

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I never even check if they have been read, so no.

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By *iss DevilWoman
27 weeks ago

Bedford

"Why would I get annoyed? People have lives you know. Reply when you like. "

This! It's not an instant messaging service. Even on other apps, I don't reply instantly, I'm allowed to be busy, and so are people I am chatting with.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
27 weeks ago

Leeds

Definitely doesn’t annoy me. The only exception to that rule is if we have a meet planned and they’re due to arrive when suddenly the messages stop coming.

Only time I get annoyed. Though it’s lets to do with the timing and more to do with leaving me hanging when I could be doing something (or someone) else

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By *eliable guyMan
27 weeks ago

Biggleswade

Of course not. Do you then?

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By *iss DevilWoman
27 weeks ago

Bedford

If I ever get a barrage of messages from anyone I chat to, because I didn't reply straight away, I just block them. It shows me they have zero patience and we wouldn't be compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks

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By *WBiOnlyCoupleCouple
27 weeks ago

St Helens

"Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks "

To be fair, we do this if one of us has read the message and wants the other to remember to read it.

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By *andadbodMan
27 weeks ago

Liverpool

nope

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
27 weeks ago

Reading

No but it would raise a red flag for me if they did.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
27 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends who it is. My kids yes!! Seeing as they don’t go 10 minutes without looking at their phone.

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By *wimmingbadgerMan
27 weeks ago

Leicester

A guy blocked me for not replying quick enough; his loss

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

I'm sensing a theme by Oliver McQueen aka......

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
27 weeks ago

Swansea

In all honesty I don't want instant replies, that indicates eagerness and neither of us are big conversationalists or in any urgent need for a meet.

Mrs

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By *ou only live onceMan
27 weeks ago

London

No, I don't.

I can be slow to reply so I'd also be a massive hypocrite if I did!

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By *parkle1974Woman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

No. Once sent, delete and forget about.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I usually give 5 to 10 minutes before attempting to rip up a phone book.

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By *ineapplePixie69!Couple
27 weeks ago

Neverland/Wales

Nope, not bothered on the slightest 🙃

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By *eekyTattsCoupleCouple
27 weeks ago

Tyne and Wear

No, I expect others, like us have better things to do than be on here 24/7.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
27 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks "

We do this especially if it’s Alex that has read it. He will mark it as unread so I can read it and decide how I want to proceed

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By *tanXXXMan
27 weeks ago

North east

Replies are a bonus

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27 weeks ago

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By *oughmanMan
27 weeks ago

Sunderland

Hell no. I consider myself lucky if they are even read and I've never had a reply. But then I don't send many anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

No. That indicates a serious issue on your part if u do.

I don’t even get annoyed when someone reads my message and doesn’t reply. Just block them & keep it moving

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I also hardly send msgs on here because women get bombarded with so many messages it seems worthless to msg so i just meet at clubs

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By *bitofaslutWoman
27 weeks ago

Cannock

I get annoyed when they've clearly been deleted unread. Like, am I really so horrendous you can't even bear to read what I've written?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
27 weeks ago

London

I get absolutely furious. When I send a message I set a timer. I expect a response in less than 5.3 seconds. I mean, what else can people be doing?

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By *parkle1974Woman
27 weeks ago

Leeds

"I get annoyed when they've clearly been deleted unread. Like, am I really so horrendous you can't even bear to read what I've written?"

To be honest I do that. I'm not going to open a message from a 20 year old something.

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By *saac2145Man
27 weeks ago

London

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By *urvelover87Man
27 weeks ago

London

I immediately delete sent messages so I don't know if they have been read/deleted etc. No point in obsessing over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"I immediately delete sent messages so I don't know if they have been read/deleted etc. No point in obsessing over it."

Doesn’t this show up that u deleted your message? Could that possibly send the wrong impression?

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By *urvelover87Man
27 weeks ago

London

Doesn’t this show up that u deleted your message? Could that possibly send the wrong impression? "

I don't think it shows, not with silver or free accounts.

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

"I immediately delete sent messages so I don't know if they have been read/deleted etc. No point in obsessing over it.

Doesn’t this show up that u deleted your message? Could that possibly send the wrong impression? "

You can't see that someone deleted a message they have sent. You can only see if the recipient deletes it.

Send and delete is always the best advice in a situation like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

"I immediately delete sent messages so I don't know if they have been read/deleted etc. No point in obsessing over it.

Doesn’t this show up that u deleted your message? Could that possibly send the wrong impression?

You can't see that someone deleted a message they have sent. You can only see if the recipient deletes it.

Send and delete is always the best advice in a situation like this."

I didn’t realise that u know.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
27 weeks ago

London

"do you get annoyed? Or just take a step back?"

I don't, but lots of guys do!

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
27 weeks ago

No, why would I?

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
27 weeks ago

Durham

"Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks "

Why on earth would this annoy you? Us reading a message then marking it as unread simply means that one of us has read it, is potentially interested in the sender, and has marked it as unread again for the other one to see when they log in.

Getting annoyed that someone has flagged your message to potentially reply to later, when they've both seen it and they have the time to give it the attention it deserves, is just weird

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By *JCRoseWoman
27 weeks ago

Caversham

"Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks "

I do this if I want to reply but don't have time at that moment

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By *JCRoseWoman
27 weeks ago

Caversham

People have lives but also some women will have so many messages they can't keep up!! I have suddenly been inundated with 100s of messages within the last 48hour and I reply to some and more have come through. Ladies are out numbered and can be a headache to try and reply to every one.

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By *r not quite virginMan
27 weeks ago

rochdale

When they message me and we are actively arrange a meet that is supposed to be happening within an hour or 2. Very much so. I can't arrange anything if they don't get back to me. Then they take 15 mins to reply then get inpatient when I haven't replied within 1 min.

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By *JB1954Man
27 weeks ago

Reading

On Fab only . Exchange messages. Then say I am asked question or more info. I reply .

Then wait for a reply. Even if see profile online say in couple days . Do not send another message. I move on . Their choice if want to reply or not. ?

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
27 weeks ago

lanson

Never even thought about it....

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By *ucka39Man
27 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nope never annoyed, I find myself at times unable to respond straight away

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By *upanovaMan
27 weeks ago

Sheffield

No not at all, that's quite a controlling thought. People are busy!

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By *ittlechick77Couple
27 weeks ago

Staines

OP - looks like your on your own with that view and a red flag to alot of people

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
27 weeks ago

Waterford city

"Why would it annoy you?

If it does then I would say it’s a huge red flag of what the person may be like off here if something like that annoys them "

Absolutely. I end the chat straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I probably would t even notice or think about it. Then probably forget I’d ever sent one.

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By *ife NinjaMan
27 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Sent. Forget. Happy if I get a reply, if not, no sweat

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By *edSirenWoman
27 weeks ago

magic mountain

Screams needy attention seeker. Do not engage

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By *haringisCaring1208Couple
27 weeks ago

Lurgan

We only reply when we are together, and both work shifts, so sometimes it can take a few days/week for us to reply even if we are on seperately having a perv

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
27 weeks ago

from mars

No reply .. no probs .. 👋

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I only message when the lady is 'online'. Else it gets washed out by the tide and gulped by the sea with the hundreds of others.

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By *an8iMan
27 weeks ago

Bilston

Not at all, if I don't get a reply I take it as a polite no thanks

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By *im le2Man
26 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

I never log out so I can look online and not be back until tomorrow.

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By *partharmonyCouple
26 weeks ago

Ruislip

"do you get annoyed? Or just take a step back?"

I'll tell you in a few days.

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By *vaRoseWoman
26 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"Not at the only thing miffs me is when message been read but they mark as unread I'd rather see deleted or a no thanks

I do this if I want to reply but don't have time at that moment "

I do this too

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

No give someone a break females are inundated so why get all hot under the collar

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"I never even check if they have been read, so no."
So how do you make progress by not reading if you had a response?

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By *un guy300Man
26 weeks ago

Swansea

I find people do return quite quickly even if not interested but are still polite and say no thanks but still happy to chat generally

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By *anonfire96Man
26 weeks ago

Mansfield

Nope not at all, leave them for two weeks then have a clear out. Move on.

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By *ornycracksMan
26 weeks ago

Limerick and around clare alot

Hardly as women are harass to the heavens here. But I do laugh wen women complain about rude messages but don't have manners to reply to a polite chatty message I've sent. Manners costs nothing at all.goes both ways

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Central

I don't generally think about it unless an arranged meeting is imminent

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
26 weeks ago

Midlothian

"do you get annoyed? Or just take a step back?

I'll tell you in a few days. "

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By *riar BelisseWoman
26 weeks ago

Holibobs

Only when I am messaging 'where are you'...

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Only if the conversation has been flowing and when you get to the part about meeting....radio silence. Bore off haha.

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