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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " Shame your profile is private | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " I was, it sucked balls and I’m glad it ended | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? I was, it sucked balls and I’m glad it ended" Actually there wasn’t any ball-sucking… no sexual intimacy at all | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat "yes discussed and been told that there's not mojo ! | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat "Don't be silly....its not cheating if their relationship is good in every other way or they still love/respect their partner  | |||
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"What’s the point !" Because there is more to a relationship/marriage than sex 🤷♂️ Some people go off/don't want/can't have sex for many reasons. If my partner turned around and said she doesn't want to have sex anymore, I'd still want to spend the rest of my life with them... I'll just get my sex from other people. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " Me 🙋🏻♀️ "what’s the point" There’s more to marriage than physical sex. There are other ways to be intimate together. Perhaps your view is that I should just leave my best friend, best companion and biggest ally just because he’s poorly? Get fucked. "More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat "I’m here with my husbands full blessing, consent and knowledge. We’ve never had a closed relationship. | |||
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"What’s the point ! Because there is more to a relationship/marriage than sex 🤷♂️ Some people go off/don't want/can't have sex for many reasons. If my partner turned around and said she doesn't want to have sex anymore, I'd still want to spend the rest of my life with them... I'll just get my sex from other people." This!! | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? Me 🙋🏻♀️ what’s the point There’s more to marriage than physical sex. There are other ways to be intimate together. Perhaps your view is that I should just leave my best friend, best companion and biggest ally just because he’s poorly? Get fucked. More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
I’m here with my husbands full blessing, consent and knowledge. We’ve never had a closed relationship.
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Don't be silly....its not cheating if their relationship is good in every other way or they still love/respect their partner "😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 | |||
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"You can count me in! It's been nearly 4 years but I've stopped counting,seperat rooms too ! " 12 years here!! | |||
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality ." I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating  | |||
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"My wife announced quite a few years ago that ‘we’re too old for sex’. I’m 83, she’s 74. " Did she also say "but you feel free to join a swingers site and fuck whoever you want"? | |||
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality . I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating "Guess that's me then, my profile is upfront and clearly states I'm in a sexless marriage. So I'm a cheater without consent. | |||
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality . I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating
Guess that's me then, my profile is upfront and clearly states I'm in a sexless marriage. So I'm a cheater without consent."Nobody knows your circumstances but yourself, OP. Let people think whatever they like. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " Sexless can probably be managed lack of intimacy is a bigger problem. Speaking from experience. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? Sexless can probably be managed lack of intimacy is a bigger problem. Speaking from experience." That's so true. I was in a sexless marriage too, but I was the one who didn't want sex for reasons I won't go into. I told my ex-husband he had my blessing to find sex elsewhere since I knew he was unhappy and seeing that caused me pain, but he refused. There was always love, but ultimately, that wasn’t enough. Over time, the lack of sex led to a lack of all intimacy because every touch started feeling like pressure for it to lead to sex, and when I said no, it often ended in sulking or arguments. After two years of no sex at all, we agreed to separate then divorce. It was really hard. Unentangling lives is complicated and difficult, especially when there are children, but we're both much happier for it now. | |||
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"Why stay????" Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict | |||
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"Why stay???? Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict" Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. | |||
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"Why stay???? Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. " It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together. | |||
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"Why stay???? Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together." I agree with the above reasons and I left the family home as I no longer fancied or loved the wife and the home was not a happy one where I wanted my kids to grow up. I offered many options early on for us to e plots our sexual parameters but she didn’t want to explore. A few months after I left she had several men in a short space of time then found one to remarry once we had divorced. | |||
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"Why stay???? Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict Agree with all of that. Would guess the children are major reason in a lot of cases, definitely was in mine. It might work for some families, but it wouldn't have worked for us. My ex remarried and the kids have grown up seeing what a mutually affectionate, respectful, and loving relationship looks like. They'd have not seen that had we stayed together." I agree with the above reasons and I left the family home as I no longer fancied or loved the wife and the home was not a happy one where I wanted my kids to grow up. I offered many options early on for us to e plots our sexual parameters but she didn’t want to explore. A few months after I left she had several men in a short space of time then found one to remarry once we had divorced. | |||
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"I have a sexless marriage but it's a happy one, he's aware I'm on here, we have an ethical non monogamous relationship, he's more asexual so has very little to no interest, we love each other and have been together 24 years so far. Honest open communication and an open mind are the way forward in my opinion xx" Excellent way forwards. I never understand why partners are here cheating, and not just talking to their own partners prior to looking elsewhere for sex. Isn't total honesty and respect what we sign up for in a relationship?? | |||
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality ." I second that! | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ " did you ever think that maybe the guy loves you that much he is willing to allow you to do whatever you want just to keep you in his life? | |||
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"Why stay???? Love Companionship Shared history Family stability Maintaining a lifestyle you're used to Hope for change Fear of change Fear of loneliness Habit Fear of conflict" Agree; all of the above. | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ did you ever think that maybe the guy loves you that much he is willing to allow you to do whatever you want just to keep you in his life? " We love each other immensely. There is no sex (I am suspecting ED but he won’t discuss it) but there is lots of intimacy- touching, caressing, snuggling watching TV, etc. The proof is in the pudding. I had a horrific accident 2 months ago in which genuinely I thought I was going to die. I was in hospital for 2 weeks and was completely immobile/dependant for 6. The way he cared for me, 24 hours a day, with such love and compassion… that surpasses whatever sex need there is. I’ll take love like this anytime over sex. ❤️🩹 Having said that, I don’t think I would cope if there weren’t any sort of physical touch/intimacy at all. That must be soul destroying and can see why people leave. | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ did you ever think that maybe the guy loves you that much he is willing to allow you to do whatever you want just to keep you in his life? We love each other immensely. There is no sex (I am suspecting ED but he won’t discuss it) but there is lots of intimacy- touching, caressing, snuggling watching TV, etc. The proof is in the pudding. I had a horrific accident 2 months ago in which genuinely I thought I was going to die. I was in hospital for 2 weeks and was completely immobile/dependant for 6. The way he cared for me, 24 hours a day, with such love and compassion… that surpasses whatever sex need there is. I’ll take love like this anytime over sex. ❤️🩹 Having said that, I don’t think I would cope if there weren’t any sort of physical touch/intimacy at all. That must be soul destroying and can see why people leave. " I have the same deep love for my wife but when the sex stopped and my wife made it clear (from many candid discussions) that my life had to also be sexless, I started to resent here for it. Being on Fab allows me to have the intimacy / physical touch that I desire whilst not falling out of love with my wife (yes, I know it sounds messed up but it works). Of course I'd lose everything if I was to be found out but I'm not cavalier about being on here and I meet very few people. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " So why are you here OP Is your marriage not worth saving? | |||
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"Some of us understand Amylou." Indeed we do... But little did we realise that responding to amylou's simple and unambiguous question would be seen by some as a request for a moral judgement... If I wanted that I'd have signed up to fabcatholics.  | |||
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Worst feeling in the world if one half of a relationship unilaterally decides that both parties will have no more sex! | |||
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"My wife announced quite a few years ago that ‘we’re too old for sex’. I’m 83, she’s 74. · Did she also say "but you feel free to join a swingers site and fuck whoever you want"?" • Don't just stop there: I think you should also ask that (loaded) question to the women on this thread who have 'outed' themselves. 😘 | |||
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Worst feeling in the world if one half of a relationship unilaterally decides that both parties will have no more sex!"I think it's selfish to be honest and one of the reason why I walked away from my relationship. There was no way at 50 I could live a sexless life and did not want to cheat. | |||
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"My wife announced quite a few years ago that ‘we’re too old for sex’. I’m 83, she’s 74. Did she also say "but you feel free to join a swingers site and fuck whoever you want"?" __ Just trying to prove her wrong | |||
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"My wife announced quite a few years ago that ‘we’re too old for sex’. I’m 83, she’s 74. " 83 & still can get it up 😮 I’ve seen other threads where men younger than you struggle to get an erection | |||
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"I honestly believe that being sexless us the norm . Whether single or married. You get a few couples who are active but those are 8n the minority. Also , being on fab distorts reality . I think thats age related as well, once over 40, mental/physical health starts deteriorating. There are a ton of sexless with consent marriage/partnership on here, but they are far outweighed by the ones who dishonestly use people, to enable their cheating
Guess that's me then, my profile is upfront and clearly states I'm in a sexless marriage. So I'm a cheater without consent.
Nobody knows your circumstances but yourself, OP. Let people think whatever they like. "Indeed nobody knows people’s circumstances etc so don’t immediately judge without talking to them | |||
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"Sexless marriage for me as well "Sad times, but you must make yourself and as long as it works in your relationship then no harm done | |||
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Worst feeling in the world if one half of a relationship unilaterally decides that both parties will have no more sex!
I think it's selfish to be honest and one of the reason why I walked away from my relationship. There was no way at 50 I could live a sexless life and did not want to cheat."I must admit I left my wife for same reason - I couldn’t live in a sexless marriage so I called it and much happier now plus free to do what I like. | |||
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Worst feeling in the world if one half of a relationship unilaterally decides that both parties will have no more sex!
I think it's selfish to be honest and one of the reason why I walked away from my relationship. There was no way at 50 I could live a sexless life and did not want to cheat.
I must admit I left my wife for same reason - I couldn’t live in a sexless marriage so I called it and much happier now plus free to do what I like. "I am much happier now too. | |||
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Worst feeling in the world if one half of a relationship unilaterally decides that both parties will have no more sex!
I think it's selfish to be honest and one of the reason why I walked away from my relationship. There was no way at 50 I could live a sexless life and did not want to cheat.
I must admit I left my wife for same reason - I couldn’t live in a sexless marriage so I called it and much happier now plus free to do what I like.
I am much happier now too."That’s good, life to be enjoyed!! Shame I can’t message you! | |||
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"Do you think, on average, it’s women that stop the sex in a marriage more than men? I might be wrong but I guess it is? " It varies a lot on the individual. I know many married women who are completely averse to sexual contact from their spouses- they’ve just gone off it. Something they have told me they hate is that there can’t be any hint of affection towards their partner as they will always see it as a way to try and get sex and that puts them off even more so they withdraw sex and affection altogether. It’s never been my case- the affection I get/offer is quite sweet and -innocent, for lack of a better word. I’ve never felt accosted. My sex drive was always higher than my husband’s. I think right now we are levelling up, which is making life easier in all honesty. | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat "Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated "We have tried counselling and lots and lots of talking but just not on the same page anymore | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated "However, if one party no longer wants to have sex and cannot understand why they should have to, I don't see how an adult conversation will help. | |||
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"I wonder how many men (or women) on here who say that their wives (or husbands) don’t know what they do or wouldn’t tolerate it actually have spouses who either know or at least suspect what they get up but prefer to turn a blind eye to it as they prefer it like that, or don’t want to separate or divorce either?" Quite a few I would imagine. | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated "None of us know what goes on behind closed doors. Most people are just trying to do their best | |||
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"We’ve had sex all day, dildos, aromas, porn, role plays, dressing up. Mr did the shopping in a pink Victoria’s Secret metallic thong and matching butt plug. I’ve only just showered and poured the wine we are utterly in love and a bit kinky. Keeps us young xx " I don't think that was the OP's question! | |||
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"We’ve had sex all day, dildos, aromas, porn, role plays, dressing up. Mr did the shopping in a pink Victoria’s Secret metallic thong and matching butt plug. I’ve only just showered and poured the wine we are utterly in love and a bit kinky. Keeps us young xx I don't think that was the OP's question!" We’ve been together 5 years and we’re in boring relationships so we got out and starters afresh apologies for any offence xxx | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated
None of us know what goes on behind closed doors.
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"Is it fair if one party has gone of sex, to not want their partner to have sex with anyone else?" I don't think so, which is why I put the suggestion to my ex husband that he seek sex elsewhere. He refused, and I think he was quite hurt about it. | |||
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"Sexless marriage for me as well "I wouldn’t be able to keep my hands off you | |||
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"I was in a marriage devoid of sex and intimacy of any kind. It broke me. So I ended it and now I’m slowly putting myself back together again and reclaiming the person I used to be. " good on you girl | |||
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"I was in a sexless relationship, separate rooms too & in the end I had to call it a day, it was very sad though. Out of interest, are there ladies on here that aren't getting any at home? Genuinely interested to see if it's a similar amount as it seems to be mostly guys in that situation. " I am not in a sexless marriage, but my husband definitely has a far lower sex drive than me. I have tried to discuss the situation, but he just claims up and won't talk. Our marriage in all other ways is a very happy one. I have cheated on him before - something I'm definitely not proud of. Fab has kind of been my saving grace. I can cam and perv, express my intimate desires and fantasies. Most people are the other side of the world to me, so I can't be tempted to meet. I will just keep working on the sexual side of my relationship with my husband and hope that will be enough. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " My husband is! | |||
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"More to the point how many have actually tried to discuss their needs with their partner.. or is it easier to just cheat
Easier for many to just cheat rather than have an adult conversation, yes some cases could make things worse but could also make things better if people communicated "It might possibly improve things, or it could mean facing up to the end of the relationship. That's terrifying, and usually takes many years of being dissatisfied or even miserable before being able to do that. | |||
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"Im almost 60 and my wife is 59. But what ive read shocked me, how many couples sleep in seperate rooms and beds. Been married for 35 years and we still have sex once a month if not more. I put this down to cuddles and kisses when in bed. Giving compliments on how good she looks. Bed times are the one place, for being close and ending with sex. So why sleep apart. " My partner and I have had separate bedrooms for years and it hasn't affected our intimacy at all, I love it! There are a lot of reasons why some couples choose to sleep separately, including medical, and it doesn't have to equal the death of a sex life. | |||
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"Im almost 60 and my wife is 59. But what ive read shocked me, how many couples sleep in seperate rooms and beds. Been married for 35 years and we still have sex once a month if not more. I put this down to cuddles and kisses when in bed. Giving compliments on how good she looks. Bed times are the one place, for being close and ending with sex. So why sleep apart. My partner and I have had separate bedrooms for years and it hasn't affected our intimacy at all, I love it! There are a lot of reasons why some couples choose to sleep separately, including medical, and it doesn't have to equal the death of a sex life. " Thats fine and im pleased you both are happy. But a lot on here are saying that they are in a sexless marriage that ended up sleeping in different beds. They are the ones im refuring to | |||
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"Not in a sex less marriage but is vanilla I have tried to get her into the lifestyle but no her thing So like so many others I’m here to have fun when that sexual tension gets the better off me " Why is vanilla sex with your wife not enough to satisfy you? | |||
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"I have a sexless marriage but it's a happy one, he's aware I'm on here, we have an ethical non monogamous relationship, he's more asexual so has very little to no interest, we love each other and have been together 24 years so far. Honest open communication and an open mind are the way forward in my opinion xx Excellent way forwards. I never understand why partners are here cheating, and not just talking to their own partners prior to looking elsewhere for sex. Isn't total honesty and respect what we sign up for in a relationship??" It is for me for sure, | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ " It will be interesting to see this same scenario reversed. The man allowed to have lovers and sex when the wife can’t or doesn’t want to. I am not being a misogynist, I am just honestly curious. | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ It will be interesting to see this same scenario reversed. The man allowed to have lovers and sex when the wife can’t or doesn’t want to. I am not being a misogynist, I am just honestly curious. " It does happen. I met one of my best friends due to this sort of arrangement. She couldn't have sex for various reasons, but didn't see why her fiancé shouldn't still have sex. I met him through fab, then I met her through him. They're no longer together, but she and I are close friends 10 years on. I also told my ex husband he could seek sex with others when I was unable to fulfill that side of our relationship, but he didn't want to. | |||
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"10 years? Blimey ...." Yep, I got good at entertaining myself | |||
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"10 years? Blimey .... Yep, I got good at entertaining myself "Well we all get good at that | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ It will be interesting to see this same scenario reversed. The man allowed to have lovers and sex when the wife can’t or doesn’t want to. I am not being a misogynist, I am just honestly curious. " I have never *not* been interested in sex. Quite the opposite! And my husband is the least jealous, most confident and secure man I know. He knows I will always come back home to him. He never asks me for any details and I don’t give them either. He has very high functioning Asperger’s and he has never been that interested in sex, to be fair. What other people do or think about “what would happen if the tables were turned” is of no concern to me as I don’t have that situation going on. | |||
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"How many are on here that are in a sexless marriage? " Here M’am | |||
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"Lol. I am a man apparently 🥸🥸🥸 Sexless does not mean cheating. In mine he knows, he even met a FWB of mine yesterday as he picked me up for a much-needed coffee. I am allowed freedom and… sex. It wasn’t overnight though and if took time to get here. And as someone said, a marriage is so, so much more than sex. So much more. I have been shown so much more love and devotion in this last 2 months and I am grateful for that. ❤️ It will be interesting to see this same scenario reversed. The man allowed to have lovers and sex when the wife can’t or doesn’t want to. I am not being a misogynist, I am just honestly curious. " I can also answer this one. I had a very serious illness which meant for a long time I couldn’t have sex. My husband did as he always had, he saw his girlfriends. So yes, through illness we’ve had both sides of the coin and we are still happily married. | |||
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"Am in this to no sex life in 10 years " Damnnnnn | |||
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"Me. We are 7 years married and for 2024 we had sex just 6 time she is not up for this. I'm very active and I have her permission "Fair enough, but your profile says that you are single? | |||
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"I was in a sexless relationship, separate rooms too & in the end I had to call it a day, it was very sad though. Out of interest, are there ladies on here that aren't getting any at home? Genuinely interested to see if it's a similar amount as it seems to be mostly guys in that situation. No sex here, he's not interested, nor will he discuss if the subject is brought up.... " | |||
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