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By *lamdaddy OP   Man
1 week ago

London

So obviously post 18.

Or is it never creepy?!

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By *innamon_flameWoman
1 week ago

london

If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that..

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By *eggy8574Man
1 week ago

WANTAGE


"So obviously post 18.

Or is it never creepy?!"

As long as there is constant I don't see age as a problem!

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By *lamdaddy OP   Man
1 week ago

London


"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.."

I agree!

...

Faf?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️.

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds

Anything more than a 25 year gap

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By *lamdaddy OP   Man
1 week ago

London


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️. "

Would our age gap be creepy?

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By *ony MannMan
1 week ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover


"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.."

Fully agree Cin

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By *eoBloomsMan
1 week ago

Springfield

I think creepy is too strong for any legal and consensual relationship/liason. I do think that large age gaps are more prone to questionable power dynamics. The men my age who go for much younger women are often not the most admirable sort of person.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️.

Would our age gap be creepy?"

The creepiest

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️. "

Agreed

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By *ony MannMan
1 week ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover


"Anything more than a 25 year gap"

Dam, I'm creepy

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"Anything more than a 25 year gap

Dam, I'm creepy"

Someone has to be

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 week ago

little house on the praire

Two people over the age of 18 is perfectly fine as long as consential

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By *ucka39Man
1 week ago

Newcastle

If the person is 18 and other is over 25/30 or over odd

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts

Nobody’s saying it isn’t consensual 🤣. Thats not the question

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds

And legally the age of consent is 16

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By *rowley616Man
1 week ago

Scarborough

18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory. 18 may legally be an adult but mentally and biologically they are still late adolescent. The prefrontal cortex does not develop until 25. So rational cognitive function is not yet developed even in later teens.

If you are a 60 year old man dating an 18 year old, no matter how you justify it. Your are with them because you can control or manipulate them in a way you couldn't with a grown ass woman.

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By *orny PTMan
1 week ago

Peterborough


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️.

Would our age gap be creepy?

The creepiest "

Bill Wyman never got that memo did he?

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

If they’re a teenager then I don’t really think anyone over the age of 21 should be getting wi to them. That’s my personal feelings.

But 21+ I think you can get with whoever you love.

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By *ellinever70Woman
1 week ago

Ayrshire

I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old

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By *ellinever70Woman
1 week ago

Ayrshire

^^^as a 20 year old and a 40 year old

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
1 week ago

Chichester


"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.."

This

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By *orny PTMan
1 week ago

Peterborough

Don't read the qoran. The age gap in there will...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 week ago

little house on the praire

When my sister was 18 she was with a 48 year old. Took my mum a long time to come to terms with it but he idolised her. They where together 7 years before he died

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By *ungfunfellaMan
1 week ago

Lincoln

I agree with most people here as long as it’s over 18 consenting adults age difference shouldn’t matter and doesn’t to me though it’s usually other people who find it creepy….I’ve had an age gap of nearly 50 years when I was 20 and it was amazing

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By *riar BelisseWoman
1 week ago

On Holibobs

Never creepy

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales

My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

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By *eoBloomsMan
1 week ago

Springfield


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down "

It's strange how age changes our perspective. At your age I would definitely have found that creepy. At my age it gives me something to look forward to.

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down "

With things like that I think "sugar daddy"

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

It's strange how age changes our perspective. At your age I would definitely have found that creepy. At my age it gives me something to look forward to. "

silver linings and all that

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

With things like that I think "sugar daddy" "

Yes.. I thought the same

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By *vaRose43Woman
1 week ago

Forest of Dean

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By *vaRose43Woman
1 week ago

Forest of Dean

When there’s a motive from the older party to prey on a vulnerable young adult.

Or

When there’s a motive from a younger developed adult to prey on an elderly person

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By *innamon_flameWoman
1 week ago

london

So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things.

As someone who has dated much older and younger it has always been about the individual and our mutual enjoyment.

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By *innamon_flameWoman
1 week ago

london


"When there’s a motive from the older party to prey on a vulnerable young adult.

Or

When there’s a motive from a younger developed adult to prey on an elderly person

"

My comment was not in response to yours BTW - it was based on the thread in general. Didn't see yours until I.posted mine

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things.

As someone who has dated much older and younger it has always been about the individual and our mutual enjoyment. "

Sadly it is usually the case these days.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down "

Shot down? 19 and 70?! Anyone who thought that wasn’t odd I’d find odd!

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By *end1Man
1 week ago

southend on sea


"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things.

As someone who has dated much older and younger it has always been about the individual and our mutual enjoyment. "

couldn't of put it any better myself 👍

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By *innamon_flameWoman
1 week ago

london


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

Shot down? 19 and 70?! Anyone who thought that wasn’t odd I’d find odd!"

Billy Bob Thornton is 69 and totally hot.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

Shot down? 19 and 70?! Anyone who thought that wasn’t odd I’d find odd!"

There'll be someone Nora, there always is

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By *Silver-Man
1 week ago

Mold

As long as your both consenting adults its not creepy

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By *oobaaMan
1 week ago

South Shields

I was 48 and got into a relationship with a 25 yr old.

We had a child 2 years later and were together for just over 4 years.

Various things forced us apart but we are still civil and meet as a family once a month for a day out.

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By *uri00620Woman
1 week ago

Croydon

I don't know I find it uncomfortable and and can often be exploitative when the gap is too large. Not sure what a 50 year old wants from a 20 year old to be honest (apart from the obvious) in a relationship.

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By *oeBeansMan
1 week ago

Derby

I feel like I'm a bit of a hypocrite in this regard because I regularly find the age gap between myself and an older woman quite hot but think it would be creepy if I was the older man in that scenario. I do think it depends on the ages too. I'll find a 20 year old and 40 year old creepy but wouldn't bat an eye at 30 and 50.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down

Shot down? 19 and 70?! Anyone who thought that wasn’t odd I’d find odd!

There'll be someone Nora, there always is "

Oh yeah 🤣.

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By *andynecklaceWoman
1 week ago

Someplace


"If they’re a teenager then I don’t really think anyone over the age of 21 should be getting wi to them. That’s my personal feelings.

But 21+ I think you can get with whoever you love. "

I agree with this

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales

To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

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By *weetiepie99Woman
1 week ago

cardiff

I am in my 50's. My children are in their 20's so that's a no go for me, and that much of an age gap is a no no. Maybe not creepy, but just no.

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By *orny PTMan
1 week ago

Peterborough


"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things.

"

Those are the default responses.

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By *inglenottsMan
1 week ago

derby


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd "

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?"

No because neither of you were still in your teens

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By *inglenottsMan
1 week ago

derby


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?

No because neither of you were still in your teens "

Ok just to play devils advocate, lets say a 19 year old girl plays with a 57 year old guy in a club… is that creepy?

Or is it creepy if they’re in a relationship?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?"

That’s not even comparable to 19 and 70

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?

No because neither of you were still in your teens

Ok just to play devils advocate, lets say a 19 year old girl plays with a 57 year old guy in a club… is that creepy?

Or is it creepy if they’re in a relationship?"

Think creepy is the wrong word tbf....I wouldn't think it was creepy,, I'd just think the elder was a perv

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By *ndisMan
1 week ago

Liverpool

Half your age plus 7.

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By *vonne5exMan
1 week ago

Doncaster

All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young.

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By *inglenottsMan
1 week ago

derby


"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young."

I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice.

I could only date a 25+ woman

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young.

I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice.

I could only date a 25+ woman"

If they are good enough for a "fuck" ....why not good enough to date??

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By *inglenottsMan
1 week ago

derby


"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young.

I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice.

I could only date a 25+ woman

If they are good enough for a "fuck" ....why not good enough to date??"

Because sex doesn’t necessarily need an emotional long term commitment. I don’t feel a 18 year old and I would be in the same place for the long term, and even if she said she was I’d feel guilty for robbing her of things young people do.

As a sidenote I had a friend at uni who was 19 dating a 42 year old woman. We talk about it now 20 years on, and although he said he’s grateful for the memories, he was too young to settle down

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By *iss.BellaWoman
1 week ago

Wales


"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd

Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy?

Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me.

Or is it different if a play and if a relationship?

No because neither of you were still in your teens

Ok just to play devils advocate, lets say a 19 year old girl plays with a 57 year old guy in a club… is that creepy?

Or is it creepy if they’re in a relationship?"

Both, she's a teen 🤷‍♀️ yes it's consensual and legal but I still find it odd

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By *batMan
1 week ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me. "

I'd be surprised if such a relationship worked, but if it does, good luck to them.

Just being the Devil's advocate, is 18 and 59 creepy?

What about 58?

57?

56?

You can fill the rest in.

For me, it's about the people, not their ages, but as I said, I'd be surprised if a 42 year gap actually worked.

Gbat

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By *ora the explorerWoman
1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me.

I'd be surprised if such a relationship worked, but if it does, good luck to them.

Just being the Devil's advocate, is 18 and 59 creepy?

What about 58?

57?

56?

You can fill the rest in.

For me, it's about the people, not their ages, but as I said, I'd be surprised if a 42 year gap actually worked.

Gbat"

Yes. It is. I’m 54 and the thought of me or anyone my age with an 18 year old makes me feel sick to be honest. I accept not everyone will agree but the op asked

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By *inger_SnapWoman
1 week ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'd say more than 25 years is verging on creepy, especially for anyone in their early 20s. Majority of the time it isn't about love or attraction.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
1 week ago

Staffordshire

Hugh Hefner famously loved an age gap.

He was also famous.

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By *rincipessaWoman
1 week ago

your wildest dreams,


"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old "

I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”.

He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46

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By *end1Man
1 week ago

southend on sea

I met a 27 year old woman who was also 7 months pregnant on fab last year. Also have a daughter with a ex who's 20+ years younger than me. Plus a couple of fwb in the past where there's been a big age gap. All over the age of consent don't see the big deal age is a number.

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By *lamdaddy OP   Man
1 week ago

London


"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old

I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”.

He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46"

I'm 34, meet me!

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West


"If they’re a teenager then I don’t really think anyone over the age of 21 should be getting wi to them. That’s my personal feelings.

But 21+ I think you can get with whoever you love. "

I absolutely agree

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By *urry BlokeMan
1 week ago

Stalybridge

As someone in an age gap relationship, I am always intrigued that it's always strangers that have the issues with relationships that have nothing at all to do with them.

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By *rincipessaWoman
1 week ago

your wildest dreams,


"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old

I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”.

He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46

I'm 34, meet me!"

You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩

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By *end1Man
1 week ago

southend on sea


"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old

I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”.

He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46

I'm 34, meet me!

You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩"

I may be wrong but I'm guessing your not meeting 😂😂

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
1 week ago

Canary Wharf

There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x

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By *rincipessaWoman
1 week ago

your wildest dreams,


"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old

I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”.

He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46

I'm 34, meet me!

You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩 I may be wrong but I'm guessing your not meeting 😂😂"

I’m not. I just revisit old friends

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West


"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x"

How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
1 week ago

Canary Wharf


"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x

How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference "

We’ve been with ages 50+ and sometimes they set profiles to ages 30+ which he qualifies for but I don’t, it’s more I’m below the limit for some but once they meet us they realise I appear older mentally so it’s not a problem lol x

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By *exxyyDy11Man
1 week ago

North West


"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x

How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference

We’ve been with ages 50+ and sometimes they set profiles to ages 30+ which he qualifies for but I don’t, it’s more I’m below the limit for some but once they meet us they realise I appear older mentally so it’s not a problem lol x"

Ah fair enough. You can't please everyone I suppose haha x

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By *njoi_cjay1992Man
1 week ago

Northumberland


"18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory. 18 may legally be an adult but mentally and biologically they are still late adolescent. The prefrontal cortex does not develop until 25. So rational cognitive function is not yet developed even in later teens.

If you are a 60 year old man dating an 18 year old, no matter how you justify it. Your are with them because you can control or manipulate them in a way you couldn't with a grown ass woman. "

Yeah, older men with young adult women often seem to be exercising a power that they couldn't with someone their own age. Likewise, they may seem mature to someone young but like a loser to someone their own age.

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By *arren and AliciaCouple
1 week ago

Glasgow

when they are old enough to be their parent

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By *0sfunMan
1 week ago

cannock

It is a difficult one because maturity of the person comes in to it too. I definitely find the 18 with 50 an odd situation but we all find different things attractive now it’s not something I’d be keen on with such a gap but as some of you’ve stated that gap at different ages doesn’t make such a difference, purely for the fact that at 18 your not really life hardened or I guess mentally in that place

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By *limt loverMan
1 week ago

Brighton

If they both over age of consent and enjoying themselves and not doing any harm then it is there choice and people should just accept or mind their own business.

Charlie Chaplin was 73 when he last fathered a kid and Des O'Connor was 72 so clearly they was with a younger woman and in loving relationship.

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By *limt loverMan
1 week ago

Brighton

Al Pacino was also 83 and his partner was 29

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By *ister_EMan
1 week ago

Hayling Island

I find that the power dynamics and discrepancies creep me out more than the actual ages. When someone is at risk of being taken advantage of it begins to make me uncomfortable.

That's more about the individual than the age though....

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By *limt loverMan
1 week ago

Brighton


"I find that the power dynamics and discrepancies creep me out more than the actual ages. When someone is at risk of being taken advantage of it begins to make me uncomfortable.

That's more about the individual than the age though...."

Agree as a guy or woman could be say 51 and 52, the behaviour of one of them could be creepy and yet age gap is only a year so being creepy is to do with personality and behaviour not age gap

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By *midnight-Woman
1 week ago

...

I'm not so keen on the word creepy -my observations are that people find it uncomfortable if the other party is the same age, or younger than their own children.

I don't have children so only my mum to judge me... She would flip if I bought home a youngster or someone her age.

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By *atchedhardMan
1 week ago

Peterborough

Who’s cares about age !

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

She is 35, prefers guys 65+

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By *rowley616Man
1 week ago

Scarborough

Thank god my child hood trauma turned into a healthy preference for adult women. When I was 18 I was in to older women. At 42 they are just age appropriate.

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By *hallasMan
1 week ago

in a skip

Caroline Flack + Harry Styles.

Creepy or healthy?

If I remember rightly wasn't he under 18 when they started dating she was in her 30's.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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1 week ago

East Sussex

An adult age gap is creepy when it's creepy.

That's a flippant response but the only answer I can give. I've known several women in relationships with much older men, over 30 years in one case. There was nothing at all creepy, everyone was happy.

I know of one couple where the woman was 18 and the guy in his fifties. He behaved oddly and from the start was defensive and almost aggressive about their relationship before anyone even mentioned it. I got weird vibes from that.

As with every other relationship in the world it's down to the individuals within it rather than just their age.

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By *lusherCouple
1 week ago

bodmin


"So obviously post 18.

Or is it never creepy?!"

More maturity and power dynamics I think. There are vulnerable 50 year olds and a few mature 18 year olds. I think the later is rare though! In terms of age difference, for attraction and sex it makes little difference but I dont think an 18 year old with 50 year old makes for a lasting relationship

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By *ove2LurveCouple
1 week ago

Dartford

I'm not sure we would meet a couple with a huge age gap. But if we did, if was an equitable relationship, we would probably be OK. Other posters have mentioned potential power dynamic issues in old/young pairings, but with one older couple we met who were pretty much the same age, it became clear during our meet that the man was exercising coercive control over the woman. Obviously, that was the end of that meet.

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By *rowley616Man
1 week ago

Scarborough

OK how is this for a hypothetical. A man in his late 30s or 40s. Babysits a girl of 13 (friends with girl's mother). By the time she is 19 they are in a sexual relationship. Creepy or not creepy?

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By *parkle1974Woman
1 week ago

Leeds


"OK how is this for a hypothetical. A man in his late 30s or 40s. Babysits a girl of 13 (friends with girl's mother). By the time she is 19 they are in a sexual relationship. Creepy or not creepy?"

Definitely creepy because the 1st thing that springs to mind is "grooming"

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By *on_departCouple
1 week ago

West Midlands

The rule of “half your age plus 7” as the lowest you should go seems to work quite well

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By *ortyairCouple
1 week ago

Wallasey

Just watched Olivia Atwoods new show and apparently the biggest number of search engines queries in porn are MILF, followed by GILf.

These terms have seen an over a 700% increase recently.

So there must be something in this age gap thing,

Mrs x

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By *all_Dark_DirtyMan
1 week ago

all over


"18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory. 18 may legally be an adult but mentally and biologically they are still late adolescent. The prefrontal cortex does not develop until 25. So rational cognitive function is not yet developed even in later teens.

If you are a 60 year old man dating an 18 year old, no matter how you justify it. Your are with them because you can control or manipulate them in a way you couldn't with a grown ass woman. "

Your profile says you would like to meet women aged 18-60! At 42 is that acceptable as you’ve stated above “18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory” I may have misunderstood what you wrote though.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 week ago

Reading

Ooh bring on those 119 year olds

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
1 week ago

Ends

18 and 19 is too young for you. Let it go.

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By *ansoffateMan
1 week ago

Sagittarius A

I don't think it can be quantified as whilst it may be a factor in potential exploitative dynamics, it isn't essential or intrinsic to them.

It simply isn't a reliable determining factor.

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By *rpeggioCouple
1 week ago

Baughurst

Who said swingers are open minded people?

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By *eoBloomsMan
1 week ago

Springfield


"Just watched Olivia Atwoods new show and apparently the biggest number of search engines queries in porn are MILF, followed by GILf.

These terms have seen an over a 700% increase recently.

So there must be something in this age gap thing,

Mrs x"

I'm investing in GGILF porn shares, has to be the next trend

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By *ove2LurveCouple
7 days ago

Dartford


"Just watched Olivia Atwoods new show and apparently the biggest number of search engines queries in porn are MILF, followed by GILf.

These terms have seen an over a 700% increase recently.

So there must be something in this age gap thing,

Mrs x"

Or maybe it's just older blokes searching for a woman in their own age range. IMO a mature woman is likely to have a more interesting bod than one of the younger 'carbon copy' female porn stars.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

7 days ago

East Sussex


"Who said swingers are open minded people?"

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By *rStamina88Man
7 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell.

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 days ago

Leeds

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By *ools and the brainCouple
7 days ago

couple, us we him her.


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old billionaire man.

You see alot of it aswell. "

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By *ellinever70Woman
7 days ago

Ayrshire


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell. "

How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle

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By *ingle49Man
7 days ago

rural

Age should never matter

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
7 days ago

M20

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By *ab FunstersCouple
7 days ago

Midlands

We dont meet people the same age as our children 27 and 30 it would just be weird.

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By *rummy21Man
7 days ago

colchester

You’re right, it shouldn’t matter

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By *rummy21Man
7 days ago

colchester


"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷‍♀️. "

But why? It maybe the 18 year old that wants it

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
7 days ago

M20


"Don't read the qoran. The age gap in there will..."

The Talmud is no better. Can’t be more specific. I’ve already been on the naughty step for sharing the age I lost my virginity with an older woman.

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By *ripfillMan
7 days ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant


"We dont meet people the same age as our children 27 and 30 it would just be weird."

Absolutely …. Could not agree more!

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By *andora2Woman
7 days ago

South somewhere

Surely it’s simply down to preference?

I’m not interested in people who are younger/similar age to my children but if I was I wouldn’t describe it as creepy.

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By *rStamina88Man
7 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell.

How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle "

I didn't put billionaire.

Just 30 Yr old nice women going with an 80 Yr old man

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By *awpleasureMan
7 days ago

Sutton Coldfield

I couldn't care less about age gaps but I do question why a person chooses to meet a man of 45 but not 46.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
7 days ago

Loughborough


"I couldn't care less about age gaps but I do question why a person chooses to meet a man of 45 but not 46. "

Then why not 47? Then 48 too?

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
7 days ago

Loughborough


"The rule of “half your age plus 7” as the lowest you should go seems to work quite well"

Safe rule, never steered wrong of this! 👍🏼 It works for engaging people at similar stages of life, conversations and a magnitude of other things

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
7 days ago

Wales

I just don't think I could get jiggy with a 70 year old...maybe in 15 years I'll feel different.

Doubtful though.

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By *ellinever70Woman
7 days ago

Ayrshire


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell.

How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle

I didn't put billionaire.

Just 30 Yr old nice women going with an 80 Yr old man "

Yeah, just noticed somebody else sneaked that in.

But I'll ask, how many 30 year old women are knocking around with 80 year old men in Newcastle?

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By *rStamina88Man
7 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell.

How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle

I didn't put billionaire.

Just 30 Yr old nice women going with an 80 Yr old man

Yeah, just noticed somebody else sneaked that in.

But I'll ask, how many 30 year old women are knocking around with 80 year old men in Newcastle?"

Not in Newcastle but on here I have.

Of course you see 30 yr old women with 50 yr old men quite alot.

On here you get really big age gaps, but everyone have different preferences.

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By *eoBloomsMan
7 days ago

Springfield


"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man.

You see alot of it aswell.

How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle

I didn't put billionaire.

Just 30 Yr old nice women going with an 80 Yr old man

Yeah, just noticed somebody else sneaked that in.

But I'll ask, how many 30 year old women are knocking around with 80 year old men in Newcastle?"

You can still get a good Toon out of an old piano.

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By *oyeurmaxMan
7 days ago

Plymouth

Without the involvement of money, would there be a gap?

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By *ilverfox for youMan
7 days ago

Hull

So long as both parties are happy it’s not a problem .we all have kinks !

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 days ago

Leeds


"Without the involvement of money, would there be a gap?"

Probably not...some of these young ones (men and women) would rather rely on much older ones to spend money on them so they don't need to get off their arses.

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
7 days ago

M20


"Without the involvement of money, would there be a gap?

Probably not...some of these young ones (men and women) would rather rely on much older ones to spend money on them so they don't need to get off their arses."

Without the money it might have to be a kink or fetish. Reversing the roles can help show the logic. Imagine a rich young woman in to older guys with no money. What would those motives be?

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By *innamon_flameWoman
7 days ago

london


"We dont meet people the same age as our children 27 and 30 it would just be weird."

But at some point your kids will be 50. Should you stop seeing people in their 50s then?

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By *usie pTV/TS
7 days ago

taunton

This thread made me remember the time a car tipped over outside my house so we rush out and get a young girl out and an old bloke she looked about 18 and he looked 70 plus, they were both Ok my wife new who the girl was and she aske the girl, is this your grandad the girl replies no he is my boyfriend, I very nearly wet myself laughing.

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By *awpleasureMan
5 days ago

Sutton Coldfield


"I couldn't care less about age gaps but I do question why a person chooses to meet a man of 45 but not 46.

Then why not 47? Then 48 too? "

I see you have an age thing set up but at least people can still message you, that way although you prefer under 45, you can see if at 46 they tick all your boxes.

But there are many others who block people messaging who are outside of their age range.

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By *arkus1812Man
5 days ago

Finedon ,

I must be ultra creepy as I am having occasional meets - outside of Fab - with a 37 yr old woman.

How old am I? only 85

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