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"So obviously post 18. Or is it never creepy?!" As long as there is constant I don't see age as a problem! | |||
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"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.." I agree! ... Faf? | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷♀️. " Would our age gap be creepy? | |||
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"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.." Fully agree Cin | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷♀️. Would our age gap be creepy?" The creepiest | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷♀️. " Agreed ![]() | |||
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"Anything more than a 25 year gap" Dam, I'm creepy | |||
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"Anything more than a 25 year gap Dam, I'm creepy" Someone has to be ![]() | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷♀️. Would our age gap be creepy? The creepiest " Bill Wyman never got that memo did he? | |||
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"If you're post 18 then it shouldn't matter. Consenting adults and all that.." This ![]() | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() It's strange how age changes our perspective. At your age I would definitely have found that creepy. At my age it gives me something to look forward to. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() With things like that I think "sugar daddy" | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() Yes.. I thought the same | |||
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"When there’s a motive from the older party to prey on a vulnerable young adult. Or When there’s a motive from a younger developed adult to prey on an elderly person " My comment was not in response to yours BTW - it was based on the thread in general. Didn't see yours until I.posted mine | |||
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"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things. As someone who has dated much older and younger it has always been about the individual and our mutual enjoyment. " Sadly it is usually the case these days. | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() Shot down? 19 and 70?! Anyone who thought that wasn’t odd I’d find odd! | |||
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"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things. As someone who has dated much older and younger it has always been about the individual and our mutual enjoyment. " couldn't of put it any better myself 👍 | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() Billy Bob Thornton is 69 and totally hot. | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() There'll be someone Nora, there always is ![]() | |||
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"My then 70 year old next door neighbour often had a then 19 year old girl stay at his house. Judging by the noises through the bedroom window, they were definitely intimate. I found that.. let's just say odd.. before I get shot down ![]() ![]() Oh yeah 🤣. | |||
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"If they’re a teenager then I don’t really think anyone over the age of 21 should be getting wi to them. That’s my personal feelings. But 21+ I think you can get with whoever you love. " I agree with this | |||
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"So if a younger female is with a much older man she's either being taken advantage of or she's fleecing him for cash? That's quote a jaded way of looking at things. " Those are the default responses. | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() Ok, so I’m 39 and recently had a play with a 63 year old in a club. Would that be creepy? Because to me it’s consensual, she had beautiful eyes and it was hot how much she wanted me. Or is it different if a play and if a relationship? | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() No because neither of you were still in your teens ![]() | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() ![]() Ok just to play devils advocate, lets say a 19 year old girl plays with a 57 year old guy in a club… is that creepy? Or is it creepy if they’re in a relationship? | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() That’s not even comparable to 19 and 70 | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() ![]() Think creepy is the wrong word tbf....I wouldn't think it was creepy,, I'd just think the elder was a perv | |||
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"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young." I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice. I could only date a 25+ woman | |||
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"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young. I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice. I could only date a 25+ woman" If they are good enough for a "fuck" ....why not good enough to date?? | |||
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"All to do with the individual, I bat for the it doesn't matter once everyone is over 18, however I wouldn't dream of dating a lady that young. I think along these lines. I could (if it ever happens) fuck an 18-25 year old and not think twice. I could only date a 25+ woman If they are good enough for a "fuck" ....why not good enough to date??" Because sex doesn’t necessarily need an emotional long term commitment. I don’t feel a 18 year old and I would be in the same place for the long term, and even if she said she was I’d feel guilty for robbing her of things young people do. As a sidenote I had a friend at uni who was 19 dating a 42 year old woman. We talk about it now 20 years on, and although he said he’s grateful for the memories, he was too young to settle down | |||
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"To answer the whingers messaging me, yes, I'd also find a 19 year old boy and 70 year old woman odd ![]() ![]() Both, she's a teen 🤷♀️ yes it's consensual and legal but I still find it odd ![]() | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me. " I'd be surprised if such a relationship worked, but if it does, good luck to them. Just being the Devil's advocate, is 18 and 59 creepy? What about 58? 57? 56? You can fill the rest in. For me, it's about the people, not their ages, but as I said, I'd be surprised if a 42 year gap actually worked. Gbat | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me. I'd be surprised if such a relationship worked, but if it does, good luck to them. Just being the Devil's advocate, is 18 and 59 creepy? What about 58? 57? 56? You can fill the rest in. For me, it's about the people, not their ages, but as I said, I'd be surprised if a 42 year gap actually worked. Gbat" Yes. It is. I’m 54 and the thought of me or anyone my age with an 18 year old makes me feel sick to be honest. I accept not everyone will agree but the op asked ![]() | |||
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"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old " I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”. He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46 | |||
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"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”. He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46" I'm 34, meet me! | |||
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"If they’re a teenager then I don’t really think anyone over the age of 21 should be getting wi to them. That’s my personal feelings. But 21+ I think you can get with whoever you love. " I absolutely agree | |||
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"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”. He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46 I'm 34, meet me!" You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩 | |||
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"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”. He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46 I'm 34, meet me! You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩" I may be wrong but I'm guessing your not meeting 😂😂 | |||
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"I think it depends on their respective actual ages...a 40 year old and a 60 year old doesn't seem as wide as gap as a year old and a 40 year old I know exactly what you mean. I’ve been out this evening to meet a “friend”. He’s 30, I’m 55. That gap doesn’t seem quite as large as it did when we first met when he was 21 and I was 46 I'm 34, meet me! You’re too old for me Clamdaddy. 🙈 fucking hell did I really just call you that. Please change it soon 😩 I may be wrong but I'm guessing your not meeting 😂😂" I’m not. I just revisit old friends | |||
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"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x" How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference | |||
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"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference " We’ve been with ages 50+ and sometimes they set profiles to ages 30+ which he qualifies for but I don’t, it’s more I’m below the limit for some but once they meet us they realise I appear older mentally so it’s not a problem lol x | |||
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"There’s 10 years between me and my partner and age doesn’t bother me or us, but we find older couples are cautious about meeting us at first x How come they're cautious? I mean it isn't like you both have a massive age gap difference We’ve been with ages 50+ and sometimes they set profiles to ages 30+ which he qualifies for but I don’t, it’s more I’m below the limit for some but once they meet us they realise I appear older mentally so it’s not a problem lol x" Ah fair enough. You can't please everyone I suppose haha x | |||
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"18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory. 18 may legally be an adult but mentally and biologically they are still late adolescent. The prefrontal cortex does not develop until 25. So rational cognitive function is not yet developed even in later teens. If you are a 60 year old man dating an 18 year old, no matter how you justify it. Your are with them because you can control or manipulate them in a way you couldn't with a grown ass woman. " Yeah, older men with young adult women often seem to be exercising a power that they couldn't with someone their own age. Likewise, they may seem mature to someone young but like a loser to someone their own age. | |||
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"I find that the power dynamics and discrepancies creep me out more than the actual ages. When someone is at risk of being taken advantage of it begins to make me uncomfortable. That's more about the individual than the age though...." Agree as a guy or woman could be say 51 and 52, the behaviour of one of them could be creepy and yet age gap is only a year so being creepy is to do with personality and behaviour not age gap | |||
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"So obviously post 18. Or is it never creepy?!" More maturity and power dynamics I think. There are vulnerable 50 year olds and a few mature 18 year olds. I think the later is rare though! In terms of age difference, for attraction and sex it makes little difference but I dont think an 18 year old with 50 year old makes for a lasting relationship | |||
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"OK how is this for a hypothetical. A man in his late 30s or 40s. Babysits a girl of 13 (friends with girl's mother). By the time she is 19 they are in a sexual relationship. Creepy or not creepy?" Definitely creepy because the 1st thing that springs to mind is "grooming" | |||
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"18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory. 18 may legally be an adult but mentally and biologically they are still late adolescent. The prefrontal cortex does not develop until 25. So rational cognitive function is not yet developed even in later teens. If you are a 60 year old man dating an 18 year old, no matter how you justify it. Your are with them because you can control or manipulate them in a way you couldn't with a grown ass woman. " Your profile says you would like to meet women aged 18-60! At 42 is that acceptable as you’ve stated above “18 is too young for any developed adult but clearly the men in the chat who think it isn't are predatory” I may have misunderstood what you wrote though. | |||
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"Just watched Olivia Atwoods new show and apparently the biggest number of search engines queries in porn are MILF, followed by GILf. These terms have seen an over a 700% increase recently. So there must be something in this age gap thing, Mrs x" I'm investing in GGILF porn shares, has to be the next trend ![]() | |||
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"Just watched Olivia Atwoods new show and apparently the biggest number of search engines queries in porn are MILF, followed by GILf. These terms have seen an over a 700% increase recently. So there must be something in this age gap thing, Mrs x" Or maybe it's just older blokes searching for a woman in their own age range. IMO a mature woman is likely to have a more interesting bod than one of the younger 'carbon copy' female porn stars. | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old billionaire man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() How many 80 year old billionaires live in Newcastle | |||
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"I’d find an 18 year old and someone over 60 very odd and creepy. It’s legal I know but still weird to me 🤷♀️. " But why? It maybe the 18 year old that wants it | |||
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"Don't read the qoran. The age gap in there will..." The Talmud is no better. Can’t be more specific. I’ve already been on the naughty step for sharing the age I lost my virginity with an older woman. | |||
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"We dont meet people the same age as our children 27 and 30 it would just be weird." Absolutely …. Could not agree more! | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() I didn't put billionaire. Just 30 Yr old nice women going with an 80 Yr old man | |||
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"I couldn't care less about age gaps but I do question why a person chooses to meet a man of 45 but not 46. " Then why not 47? Then 48 too? | |||
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"The rule of “half your age plus 7” as the lowest you should go seems to work quite well" Safe rule, never steered wrong of this! 👍🏼 It works for engaging people at similar stages of life, conversations and a magnitude of other things | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() Yeah, just noticed somebody else sneaked that in. But I'll ask, how many 30 year old women are knocking around with 80 year old men in Newcastle? | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() Not in Newcastle but on here I have. Of course you see 30 yr old women with 50 yr old men quite alot. On here you get really big age gaps, but everyone have different preferences. | |||
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"A 30 Yr old very good looking women going with a 80 year old man. You see alot of it aswell. ![]() You can still get a good Toon out of an old piano. ![]() | |||
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"Without the involvement of money, would there be a gap?" Probably not...some of these young ones (men and women) would rather rely on much older ones to spend money on them so they don't need to get off their arses. | |||
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"Without the involvement of money, would there be a gap? Probably not...some of these young ones (men and women) would rather rely on much older ones to spend money on them so they don't need to get off their arses." Without the money it might have to be a kink or fetish. Reversing the roles can help show the logic. Imagine a rich young woman in to older guys with no money. What would those motives be? | |||
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"We dont meet people the same age as our children 27 and 30 it would just be weird." But at some point your kids will be 50. Should you stop seeing people in their 50s then? | |||
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"I couldn't care less about age gaps but I do question why a person chooses to meet a man of 45 but not 46. Then why not 47? Then 48 too? " I see you have an age thing set up but at least people can still message you, that way although you prefer under 45, you can see if at 46 they tick all your boxes. But there are many others who block people messaging who are outside of their age range. | |||
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