FabSwingers.com forum: Forgetting

By *IXEN200 OP Woman
1 week ago

newcastle upon tyne

Is there a way of forgetting someone you've really cared about and move on with life without the thought of that person popping into your head when you hear something or see something that reminds you of them.

I just want the world to stop and let me off........

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
1 week ago

little house on the praire

It's the old cliche that time heals. It will be raw at first but with time it will get better

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By *enk15Man
1 week ago

Evesham

I have no advice but sending love and hugs ❤️

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By *naswingdressWoman
1 week ago

Manchester (she/her)

Completely? No.

As others say, time helps. Being busy helps too. Throw yourself into things that affirm you

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By *ustme34Man
1 week ago

Bingley

Time heels & memories fade.

Keep busy and Find something or someone else Occupy your mind and have fun with. Or family friends etc x

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By *obilebottomMan
1 week ago

All over

Not very nice and the time it will take varies from person to person. The intensity will go an eventually only very occasional things will trigger the memory. In these situations the best coping mechanism is distraction and some good friends.

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
1 week ago

newcastle upon tyne

"I have no advice but sending love and hugs ❤️"

Thank you so much

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By *oodo222Man
1 week ago

WIGAN

No but in time you may come to appreciate the memories more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
1 week ago

East Sussex

I don't know if it's bereavement or separation but in a way they're similar.

There isn't a way to forget. I think acceptance if or when you can achieve that makes it easier. You can think about the person without it consuming you when that happens.

Sometimes you just need to sit with something for as long as it takes.

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
1 week ago

N. Wales

I wish I could say yes. I hope whatever you're going through eases in time. 🫂

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
1 week ago

Wherever

Allow yourself time to grieve, and I mean really take your time.

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
1 week ago

newcastle upon tyne

Thank you for all your responses, I feel overwhelmed by things so much at times it's tough to deal with.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
1 week ago

the moon

Trust me 🙄… it just heavier but you find a way to carry it …..

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By *ucka39Man
1 week ago

Newcastle

Isn't a way to forget them but are things that can be done that later it's easier to manage.... Takes time

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 week ago

Reading

Given the choice would you go for something like in the film the eternal sunshine of the spotless mind?

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By *ony MannMan
1 week ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I've never found away to forget someone I've cared for. I think I have seven that pop into my head from time to time. some i still chat to.

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By *ansoffateMan
1 week ago

Sagittarius A

You know, whilst I can totally relate to your words. At times now, I miss the memories and how vivid they were, of my wife.

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By *punk n gushCouple
1 week ago

deal

As others have said you never forget them you learn to live with the memories which can be hard at first and will break your heart so many times but as time goes on you will smile again at the memories I've learnt that so much over the last 2 years

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By *osseffMan
1 week ago

All over devon, I love a road trip!

This too shall pass.

When things are bad, remember.

It won't always be this way.

Take one day at a time.

When things are good, remember.

It won't always be this way.

Enjoy every great moment

Hope things get better for you...

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By *a LunaWoman
1 week ago

South Wales

Time. It can take YEARS mind you, but you’ll reach a point where you think of them and it won’t hurt.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
1 week ago

pink panther territory

It takes time OP

It's a true saying that time is a great healer though you may not think so right now,but it is

Sending love

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By *issBehavexxxWoman
1 week ago

essex

They say times a great healer 2.5 years later I’m still trying to get over someone who was really special to me, maybe harder cos we’re still in touch. Wish I had advice for you but I don’t sorry. Keeping yourself busy maybe, book things to look forward to. Anything that can occupy your mind. Take care of yourself x

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By *usty kayCouple
1 week ago

Burnham

I really wish there was. Sending hugs 🫂 🤗

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

Memories will always be there which isn't a bad thing, it's the reaction to it that causes the effect. As time passes, your emotions detach and those memories are a passing thought rather than overwhelming feeling. Give it time, give yourself a break and feel what you need to feel. We aren't meant to forget people but we can take the life lessons that come with them.

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By *IXEN200 OP Woman
1 week ago

newcastle upon tyne

Thank you everyone, just reading your comments makes me feel less alone than I actually am.

I appreciate it very much

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
1 week ago

Wales

No.

And ironically the more you try not to think about them the more you will think about them.

Annoying isn't it.

Try to let the thoughts come and go without forcing anything might help

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
1 week ago

Reading

It’s been 11 months since things ended and today I heard a song that reminds me of him and what we were. I burst into tears. But having said that, it does get easier and the length of time between those reminders gets longer.

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By *929Man
1 week ago

bedlington

As others already said it just takes time

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By *eavilMan
1 week ago

Stalybridge

You think that it might go away and you don't think about them for ages and then something simple like a smell or tune or even a phrase can bring back a really strong memory. It can be both a blessing and a curse but I wouldn't want to lose that ability to remember good or bad.

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