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By *uxurybubbles OP   Couple
2 weeks ago

by the sea

Just went to an event and there was a single guy there that just kept lurking in door ways and was giving us the creeps after being told by us and another couple in the room we were not interested he just stayed blocking the doorway.

Is there a polite way to tell guys like this to fuck off that we are not aware of

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
2 weeks ago

the moon

The polite way is “fuck off “ 😀

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By *orthern StarsCouple
2 weeks ago

Durham

Some people you just need to be blunt with unfortunately, which isn't always easy to do.

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By *eacupsbearCouple
2 weeks ago

York

Seeing as this "gentleman" is not being polite himself. No need to be polite either.

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By *r TriomanMan
2 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

In a club or at a party, if a polite request to behave is ignored, I just bring such things to the attention of the organisers - this tends to work well.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Aka wanking dead

I find the correct procedure is "no thank you" - "I'm not comfortable with you being here, do you mind moving?" - "I don't like that I have to tell you again" - shove past him and find a member of staff to deal with him.

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By *arley QuimWoman
2 weeks ago

Somewhere

I believed open doors are an invite to watch? Close the door if not

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By *ornucopiaMan
2 weeks ago

Bexley

There is no simple, answer to this one.

Lurkers want sex just as much as social butterflies do, perhaps even more.

They see clubs as a better hope for pulling than, say going to a pub or newspaper dating.

I can't help believing that a more relaxed approach, in the real world, to prostitution/'massage'as an easy source of nookie which one finds in some other cultures would take a lot of the pressure off lurkers and their target clientele. Some of them are just painfully shy and know no other approach. Others overdo it with creepiness. Different folks, different strokes..

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I believed open doors are an invite to watch? Close the door if not "

True. My advice stands if there's no door to close (if it's a doorway)

If not, close the door and cover any windows. If he continues to bother you, ask staff

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