FabSwingers.com forum: What’s your ideal first message

By *hatsWhatCouple OP Couple
1 day ago

Northampton

Ok, let’s flip it on its head. Loads of posts of “my message ignored”.

For you personally, what would the perfect first message look like?

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
1 day ago

The Continental

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By *hatsWhatCouple OP Couple
1 day ago

Northampton

For us:

Hi , I am / we are.

Been around the LS for xy years.

I’m / we’re into this kind of stuff.

I am going to the same club as you on whatever date and would love to have a drink.

Attached face pics and full body (clothed)

That would pique our interest

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
1 day ago

The Continental

I genuinely don’t think there’s any such thing.

So many people seek so many different things in a first received message, that a person will never find a one size fits all approach.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
1 day ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘Salutations good sir; Would’st thou care to partake of my lady garden?’

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
1 day ago

Staffordshire

It has face pictures of faces we fancy and it’s got some kind of personality in the message that we can respond too.

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By *hatsWhatCouple OP Couple
1 day ago

Northampton

"I genuinely don’t think there’s any such thing.

So many people seek so many different things in a first received message, that a person will never find a one size fits all approach. "

Great!

You don’t have an ideal first message that if landed in your inbox would make you go, Yep, that’s got me interested

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
1 day ago

The Continental

"I genuinely don’t think there’s any such thing.

So many people seek so many different things in a first received message, that a person will never find a one size fits all approach.

Great!

You don’t have an ideal first message that if landed in your inbox would make you go, Yep, that’s got me interested

No.

I’ve had my interest piqued from a simple hello. And I’ve been bored to tears by an essay full of waffle.

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 day ago

Cheltenham

For me it would be something that showed a genuine intent to meet. Too much preamble can be boring and a “how r u?” tells me nothing (other than you didn’t pay attention in English classes at school)

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By *otcplmidsCouple
1 day ago

Warwick

Not sure about the perfect first message. What I absolutely hate is filthy dirty one liners, when it's clear he is wanking...automatically deleted

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
1 day ago

Reading

One that references something we have in common. My profile makes that easy.

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By *a LunaWoman
1 day ago

South Wales

“Yo Sugartits, how goes it?”

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
1 day ago

Maidstone

"“Yo Sugartits, how goes it?”"

Chuck a "what's occurring?" In there and it's perfect!!

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By *eroLondonMan
1 day ago

Mayfair

I don't have an ideal first message. I don't think there is such as a thing for me.

The introductory messages that I receive tend to offer a wide gamut of uniqueness, individuality and interest that simply cannot be boilerplated.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
1 day ago

Brum - ish

Something that shows a spark of personality, something to reply to and photos of both if not on the profile (doesn’t have to be face!).

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By *ustBoWoman
1 day ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

For me there is no perfect message. I will look at the profile before I even open a message if it doesn't pique my interest then it's highly unlikely that the message will.

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By *hatsWhatCouple OP Couple
1 day ago

Northampton

Mixed bag so far

1. Perfect message doesn’t exist

2. Face pics

3. Show personality

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By *rT25Man
1 day ago

South Yorkshire

FAF? 🤣

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
1 day ago

Ends

It has been a long time since a woman messaged me first (not from the forums)

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By *ighRes88Man
1 day ago

Warrington

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By *rivervaderMan
1 day ago

bolton

Would just be glad I got a message or even one returned to be honest

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By *mf123Man
1 day ago

with one foot out the door

Hey you

I know its been a while i hope your doing smashing

Im doing well just wanted to reach out to let you know and have a catch up natter if thats ok

From your friend of old in the west

Something along those lines would be perfect

It will never ever ever happen i gave up hoping for something like that long ago but thats the ideal message id like to get kind of

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By *he ShivsCouple
1 day ago

Fife

Something simple that shows a little personality from a good profile.

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By *ustus5555Woman
1 day ago

Mansfield

If there's a funny one liner it can sometimes make me have a look.🤷

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By *host63Man
1 day ago

Bedfont Feltham

Lol just getting s hello from someone is good enough.

See i am easily pleased andvthe simplest things can get the conversion started.

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By *innamon_flameWoman
1 day ago

london

Someone who has read my profile and matches what I seek to start with rather than the "I know I'm not what you're looking for but" I tend to get.

Someone who can message and sound like a sane human being rather than someone who is expecting me to fall onto their dick because "they are what I am looking for" after all.

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By *olinOfBathMan
1 day ago

Corsham

Something like this might get my attention:

"Hello. I saw you at {club} on Saturday, but didn't get a chance to talk. I've sent a Friend invitation, hoping that you'll recognise my face. Please call me on {number} so that we can arrange something. I'm single and live on my own, so you can call at any time."

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By *enelope2UWoman
1 day ago

Fife

They'd express their REAL intentions and address what it is they are after and why they sent a message. It would be respectful just as I'd hope they'd be when it is real and non virtual. I love confidence and character.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
1 day ago

Lake District

A nice, friendly, opening message along the lines of

"Hi, we're X and Y, we've seen your profile and like the look of you guys! We're into A B C. Based in D.If you like the look of us would love to chat some more, see where it leads?"

Being grammatically correct is always a bonus, hate text speak or "hey wot u up 2" type messages.

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