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"How do you deal with it? Get highly stressed Stay calm and confront heads on Burry head under the carpet Other(explain) " It's a very wide scope and definition, is the word "adversity". . If it's a person being adversarial, then I'll seek to understand what is driving their adversity. It's typically only 1 of 3 common denominators. Once I identify the source of their adversity, I can then help them overcome it, and move them in to an non-adversarial position. A lot of listening, de-escalation, empathising and then practical work. And that includes work on myself too, because if someone reacts to me adversarially , I need to identify that stressor so I can modify it myself. It might be me giving off the wrong vibe, and I can easily change that. . If it's some thing being adversarial, then I look at what it's supposed to do, and look for why it's not doing it. Hard logic and analysis, essentially. . I enjoy both challenges considerably because I am an architect in terms of people, processes and things. | |||
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"How do you deal with it? Get highly stressed Stay calm and confront heads on Burry head under the carpet Other(explain) " Just keep plodding on. No other choice really. | |||
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"How do you deal with it? Get highly stressed Stay calm and confront heads on Burry head under the carpet Other(explain) " Shit happens But yeah, the stress happens, it’s frustrating, then needs a plan to sort it out and get past it. Some days, no fucks given, some days a lot of swearing. There’s no higher ground, do the possible first, try and fix it, if it can’t be fixed then look to be a bit more philosophical on what’s not in my direct control or influence. But ultimately it’s all temporary and will pass. | |||
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"How about you MB? How do you deal with adversity?" Depends on the situation but often a mix of things. Try to mininise stress and can be pragmatic and know that stressing will not resolve anything so pull myself up and get on with it. I am also a strong believer in prevention so try to do as much of that if possible. If it is about others, I try to be a rock and support and minimise the impact on them but sometimes sadly at the expense of my own well being. There has also been the odd occasion of burying the head for a period to recoup the strength to tackle something. Lastly, of I can, I take breaks, little holidays, eat lovely food and cake, talk to or meet with people and of course pop on here too for some escape. Phew, this was catharctic Mrs NC. Ever thought of doing therapy sessions?  | |||
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