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By (user no longer on site) OP
26 weeks ago

Do you ever sit there on your own in a quiet room reflecting on your life and the decisions you have made, both good and bad, and does it make you wish you could go back and live it all again.

I know life is what we make of it and things happen for a reason, however if I could relive mine I'd change so much without any hesitation.

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By *usty kayWoman
26 weeks ago

Burnham on Sea

There really isn't much of anything I would change because I like who I am and where I am now.

I have learned from my past mistakes.

Obviously there are things I wish could be different but changing those wouldn't be worth not being here now

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By *adbod11Man
26 weeks ago

wantage

I used to, but then I realised that some of the best things in my life came as a result of some of the bad decisions that I had made. We can only do what is right in the moment and with hindsight, that can often feel like a mistake. You get one chance on this earth. Make the best of it. If you make a poor decision, make a second one to reap the best results from it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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26 weeks ago

East Sussex

I do reflect quite often. It's pointless wishing I could change certain things though because it would make my life turn out completely differently to how it has. I wouldn't want that

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
26 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes, but no I wouldn't go back.

Mrs

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By *riSiMan
26 weeks ago

Nottingham

I do. I'm quite fatalistic about life, I've missed opportunities and made mistakes in the past and could have done 'better', however you define that.

I'm one of the happiest people I know, a great network of friends and currently content being single and slightly hedonistic.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
26 weeks ago

in Lancashire

Reflection is fine,living in the past and reliving past mistakes isn't..

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By *luebell888Woman
26 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I made a few mistakes but those mistakes made me a stronger person so don't complain.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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26 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Reflection is fine,living in the past and reliving past mistakes isn't..

I agree.

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By *eoBloomsMan
26 weeks ago

Springfield

"Reflection is fine,living in the past and reliving past mistakes isn't..

Perfectly put.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
26 weeks ago

Swansea

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
26 weeks ago

Swansea

Well said

Mrs

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By *uriousscouserWoman
26 weeks ago

Wirral

I use my past mistakes and missed opportunities to inform decision making now, but I wouldn't change my past decisions even if I could.

I'm OK with where I am now, and I wouldn't want to jeopardise that by reaching for tenuous "better" that maybe I could've reached had I done things differently.

I also don't want to waste my current happiness dwelling on what could've been. I'd rather live in the now.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
26 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Marmalade - Reflections Of My Life

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By *exyScientistsCouple
26 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Do you ever sit there on your own in a quiet room reflecting on your life and the decisions you have made, both good and bad, and does it make you wish you could go back and live it all again.

I know life is what we make of it and things happen for a reason, however if I could relive mine I'd change so much without any hesitation. "

I don't regret anything but I'm an overthinker so I definitely think about them to understand what I'd do differently next time.

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By *2000ManMan
26 weeks ago

Worthing

Most of my life I would relive. Some good memories.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
26 weeks ago

Holibobs

I often sit and reflect and maybe have a little tear shed as I process some more of what I have survived and lived through. Sad tears that I was chosen to endure it. I look on my friends and see how it could of been. But as Andie said 'Its not what you've got, it's what you make of what you've got' that's important

Would I live through it again... fuck no, once is enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Often yes I certainly didn’t intend to end up single at 41 doubting that will ever find anyone, it’s hard to regret though as I hate that I gave 15 years of my life to someone but to undo it I wouldn’t have my 2 wonderful kids one of which lives with me full time with the other one planning too as well if I could somehow get those years back but still have my kids would be ideal haha

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By *parkle1974Woman
26 weeks ago

Leeds

I've had a wake up call this past week which has made me look long and hard at things. I've realised that I owe nothing to anyone and the only person I have to please is me x

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By *ceKweenWoman
26 weeks ago

Bolton

Career, I may change but everything else I’m happy with… the good, the bad and the ugly

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By *obilebottomMan
26 weeks ago

All over

Sadly none of us can change the past but can have input in shaping the future. I do reflect but make sure that stop before any self pity as that is unhealthy. Tbh, I try to count my blessings as when you look around there are so many people who had and having it so much worse than any of us. Learn from the past, live in the present, plan for the future

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By *ad NannaWoman
26 weeks ago

East London

Quite a lot.

I often wonder what my life would be like if only I'd walked away, or we hadn't moved from Essex to East London when I was a child.

I wonder if I'd left my husband just after my son was born would I have not got so unwell, and met someone decent after him.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
26 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I'm happy with where I've got to.

Would i love to go back and make huge changes, yeah absolutely.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
26 weeks ago

West Dublin

I would yes. But then I wouldnt have my 2 kids. So no...

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I wouldn't change anything, it's made me who I am today and I'm damn proud of me

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By *moothdickMan
26 weeks ago

stoke

I’m pretty happy where a I am and tbh I wouldn’t change much of it, had some great times and few rough times, but don’t we all…

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I find that kinda reflection a bit pointless. Can’t change the past, not much use in lamenting it. You can change your future, energy better focused there.

Look forward, not back.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
26 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

Unfortunately possibly spend too much time looking at the past and it's not as easy as some say to stop doing that

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By *acLe0dMan
26 weeks ago

Preston

Sure you think about the road not taken, but I try and dwell too much on what ifs.

And who knows what opportunities might present themselves in the future that you might not have taken or should have taken in the past.

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By *rookedsmileMan
26 weeks ago

Derbyshire

I'm at where I'm at, I can move forward if I want to, its in my hands.

Ultimately, past versions of myself did what felt right at the time and thats ok.

Its all learning and good to reflect.

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By *a1970Man
26 weeks ago

East cork

I sometimes think... Maybe I should have done something but hey if I did I'd be in jail for ever and ever so I have to accept the fact that the law protest a lot of gobshites and move on.

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By *bitofaslutWoman
26 weeks ago

Cannock

Apart from changing the gender I was born as, everything I did has led to the person I am now and I'm pretty happy with who I am now so I pay much have to accept the past.

It happened, it's done, now I've got my new beginning and the future is looking ok.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
26 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

I do reflect all the time. I’m overly nostalgic for no reason. Luckily I’ve had a mostly good life and have ticked off my bucket list decades before I thought I would, so I’m very thankful for that.

It does often leave me wondering, what now?

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By *layfullsamMan
26 weeks ago

Solihull

Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.

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By *rdenites2Couple
26 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Marmalade, Reflections of My Life.

Take a listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

One thing I'd have done differently but I wouldn't have this life now

Would the other have been better who knows.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
26 weeks ago

Colchester

"Do you ever sit there on your own in a quiet room reflecting on your life and the decisions you have made, both good and bad, and does it make you wish you could go back and live it all again.. "

Yes and no.

Decisions I have made that did not turn out as I intended ? Nope. I do not regret past decisions. They are gone, done, dusted.

But I do use them as cues to analyse why they didn't pan out the way they were intended to. I don't beat myself up over them, but I do critically analyse some to see how I could have reframed a better outcome, so that I am more informed or prepared for next time.

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By *rHotNottsMan
26 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not really, but I often sit on a quiet balcony or on the decking before the sunrise and reflect forward I think carefully about the decisions that I will make.

Everyone fails, makes mistakes and bad choices , it’s part of living. I tend to do it for less the older I get!

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