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Is it actually possible that over 10% of ppl on here are genuine

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By *ll night schlong OP   Man
2 weeks ago

north west

I can’t be the only one getting really fed up with it all now

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Stockport

The person I met today was real. And the person I spoke to on Saturday. Oh, and the person that was here last Tuesday till Friday. Also someone I was swapping messages with the day before that. And three others the week before. Then before that there was the person who I met today again. Last time I was at a social, I'm sure that everybody there was real. And the ones at the club, they were real...

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By *inderbox10Man
2 weeks ago

Playa del Inglés and Maspalomas

Every Fabber I arrange to meet in a club or bar is real... 💃🕺😜

AI and robotics are good, but not that good... 🤖 😏

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By *viatrixWoman
2 weeks ago

Redhill

Just because someone isn’t attracted to you and won’t reply to your messages or meet you doesn’t make them unreal or not genuine.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
2 weeks ago

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"Just because someone isn’t attracted to you and won’t reply to your messages or meet you doesn’t make them unreal or not genuine. "

100% this

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Here's my approximation. Because it depends on what you mean by "genuine"

Are all the profiles on here run by genuine humans? Close to 100% yes

Are all the profiles on here roughly the age and gender(s) they say they are? I'd say 70% (this dramatically reduces if you exclude single men)

Are all the profiles on here reasonable depictions of the people who claim to be on them? Maaaybe 50%

Are all the profiles on here of people willing to meet and not just perv/wind people up? Maybe 50%

Are all the profiles on here willing to meet under the circumstances they describe? Maybe 30%

Of course, we have the other definition of genuine, which I think is only a definition on this site. Is this person willing to meet the person who complains about people here not being genuine? (I can't guess that number, but it's probably pretty low)

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By *alkingbobMan
2 weeks ago

Hamilton

It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

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By *i all300Man
2 weeks ago

crawley

Correct ..too many take it to heart

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By *i all300Man
2 weeks ago

crawley

I've been blown out more times than a windsock. Got to keep looking for that one lady

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements."

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)"

This, not to mention the time it would take to reply to every single message with a polite no thanks.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)

This, not to mention the time it would take to reply to every single message with a polite no thanks.

"

I tried when I first joined. I couldn't keep up at all

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)

This, not to mention the time it would take to reply to every single message with a polite no thanks.

I tried when I first joined. I couldn't keep up at all "

So did I. Then I tried with a copy paste no thanks… and got an automated message from fab telling me not to copy any paste (understandable).

I quickly learned that for every 10 no thanks I sent, 3 would be abusive back, 4 would message more in the hopes they could change my mind, 1 would put up a status saying all the women here were time wasters and only 2 would take the rejection with good grace.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I tried when I first joined. I couldn't keep up at all

So did I. Then I tried with a copy paste no thanks… and got an automated message from fab telling me not to copy any paste (understandable).

I quickly learned that for every 10 no thanks I sent, 3 would be abusive back, 4 would message more in the hopes they could change my mind, 1 would put up a status saying all the women here were time wasters and only 2 would take the rejection with good grace.

"

I actually did a two week experiment (later on). One week, no thank you all around. Next week, delete without reply.

I got *so much* more abuse that second week. People who'll abuse you for deleting without reply are much rarer.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"I tried when I first joined. I couldn't keep up at all

So did I. Then I tried with a copy paste no thanks… and got an automated message from fab telling me not to copy any paste (understandable).

I quickly learned that for every 10 no thanks I sent, 3 would be abusive back, 4 would message more in the hopes they could change my mind, 1 would put up a status saying all the women here were time wasters and only 2 would take the rejection with good grace.

I actually did a two week experiment (later on). One week, no thank you all around. Next week, delete without reply.

I got *so much* more abuse that second week. People who'll abuse you for deleting without reply are much rarer."

Exactly

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

Of that 10% how many will want to meet us ‘nice’ guys 🥱

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Of that 10% how many will want to meet us ‘nice’ guys 🥱"

Nice guys, or NiceGuysTM?

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By *rank FurilloMan
2 weeks ago

Coventry


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements."

What would be the point, if you had around 1000 unread messages would you go through them and send a reply?

They go into auto delete and the stack stays the same size.

Personally, I'd say mail boxes need a limit for non friends messages, say 100 unread messages, once the 100 number is reached that profile can not receive anymore messages until that profile has deleted or replied to some of the backlog.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
2 weeks ago

The Continental

I think chaps just need to get a grip on expectations.

Of the 100% of women here. The percentage of those that fit your requirements, you fitting theirs, being located ideally, actually wanting to meet, having attraction enough to want to meet and potentially have sex, then actually making the plans……are minute.

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By *alkingbobMan
2 weeks ago

Hamilton


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

What would be the point, if you had around 1000 unread messages would you go through them and send a reply?

They go into auto delete and the stack stays the same size.

Personally, I'd say mail boxes need a limit for non friends messages, say 100 unread messages, once the 100 number is reached that profile can not receive anymore messages until that profile has deleted or replied to some of the backlog."

Agree with this it would help

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

What would be the point, if you had around 1000 unread messages would you go through them and send a reply?

They go into auto delete and the stack stays the same size.

Personally, I'd say mail boxes need a limit for non friends messages, say 100 unread messages, once the 100 number is reached that profile can not receive anymore messages until that profile has deleted or replied to some of the backlog."

For lots of profiles here that would take less than a day

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By *heonixrising500Man
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

I had good meets and lots of wind ups take the rough with the smooth you cant win them all

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Not once in 10 years have I come across a fake profile, been stood up or ghosted. I must be doing something right 🤷‍♀️

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By *ripfillMan
2 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Obviously my in box compared to some Fab “A”. listers is no where near as full as those people ….

But

I always really if someone drops by my profile to say thank you … common curtesy and simply good manners in my view, I never cut and paste, always make the reply bespoke to the inquisitor.

But recently a lady popped into my profile to have a good rummage in there to which I was delighted about … we chatted for sometime, eventually became fab friends and it was then I realised. She had “borrowed “ someone else’s pictures!

Her right boob had a tattoo but on two later pictures it was on the left breast and the body shape was different!

Chronologically It couldn’t have worked unless it was a transfer lol but then how do you hide the original tattoo

I asked her about this magical event … then surprise surprise …. Blocked. 🚫

Has anyone found pictures that have been borrowed from someone else …

This just add to the the OP ‘s comments on falsehoods ! …. Sadly

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By *ongAndThick123Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *ongAndThick123Man
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you believe 100% of profiles should want to meet with you?

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

If anyone has a weak constitution that 'allows' them to "get fed up" on here then they really need to re-evaluate their approach and mindset.

Whilst I might be omnipresent in this place it's still a lifestyle for me - perhaps even a hobby - and not something that owes me anything.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
2 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

I must be one of the 10%, someone messaged me of the back of a thread the other day and said “You genuinely are a complete prick”, I took that as validation of me being genuine

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Stockport


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)"

I think that if you close your filters _and_ individually block the person, it removes the allowance for them to message you again. But then they'll moan about how "rude" you were to block them. It might be possible to block them to cancel their message privilege then unblock them, putting them back to the status quo of "you can look but not message me", but it's a load of faff doing that. And let's face it, they'll still be unhappy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It does make you wonder, however, when the majority of polite messages receive no reply. I get the volume bit but a quick reply would be nice. It is also discourteous to suggest a day and time for a meet and then not respond to the asked for message to make final arrangements.

It's mentioned in the FAQ why no reply should be taken as a no thank you.

I'll also point out that although *you* may not abuse someone for saying no thank you, plenty of people do. And it's not worth the risk. (Also,if I closes my filters later, my "no thank you" means that the person I wasn't interested in can still message me. It's just not a good strategy)

I think that if you close your filters _and_ individually block the person, it removes the allowance for them to message you again. But then they'll moan about how "rude" you were to block them. It might be possible to block them to cancel their message privilege then unblock them, putting them back to the status quo of "you can look but not message me", but it's a load of faff doing that. And let's face it, they'll still be unhappy."

If I lived in a way to make random people here think I'm something other than rude, I'd have found myself in some pretty bad situations

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

I mostly meet men on fab and the only lack of truth has been regarding age. But I do only meet after I have been chatting for a while and have spoken on the phone. This is when i catch the fake couples and the married.

Otherwise everyone has been who they portrayed.

Just slow your roll and ask the questions then you can get that number down.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
2 weeks ago

Hatfield

I’m genuine …

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
2 weeks ago

Hounslow


"I mostly meet men on fab and the only lack of truth has been regarding age. But I do only meet after I have been chatting for a while and have spoken on the phone. This is when i catch the fake couples and the married.

Otherwise everyone has been who they portrayed.

Just slow your roll and ask the questions then you can get that number down. "
we've had a fair bit of interest from couples lately who we've managed to sniff out as a waste of time or a single man. Either only the man is available or the woman only watches or isn't playing at the moment. So frustrating

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By *oomerangboyMan
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

There are genuine people on here, I’ve been on and off for a few years and take fabs for what it is now, there’s people who have no intention of meeting or even chatting, but you have to give the girls some slack, they get inundated with nob heads, just never expect anything and you won’t be disappointed !! it is a different place to what it once was I’ll admit, but still fun regardless x

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By *ansoffateMan
2 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think some people confuse being genuine as being consistent with their perception of a person; rather than the other person's perception of themselves.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
2 weeks ago

Hatfield

You can’t affect some one’s perception of your self unless you are genuine to yourself …

Work that one out …

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
2 weeks ago

Ends


"Of that 10% how many will want to meet us ‘nice’ guys 🥱

Nice guys, or NiceGuysTM?"

Oh I think you know

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By *naswingdressWoman
2 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Of that 10% how many will want to meet us ‘nice’ guys 🥱

Nice guys, or NiceGuysTM?

Oh I think you know "

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By *itty N CremeCouple
2 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire

It’s slim pickings for single men on here and you need to stand out amongst the crowd.

I was a single male on here and had no issues meeting and I found the holy grail with Kitty, without sounding critical I’d have a review of your profile and moan less

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