FabSwingers.com forum: Male and female attraction

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

During the course of their swinging, has anyone else come to the conclusion, that women are typically a lot more diverse and individual than males when it comes to sexual attraction, particularly physical? Often, it seems to me that if you were to show a group of guys a picture of a supposedly beautiful woman, most of them would probably agree that she was, whereas show a group of women a picture of a thought to be handsome man, the overall opinion would be a lot more divided?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because the male and female work differently when it comes to sexual attraction!

For me ( Lucy ) they have to stimulate my mind to get my juices flowing.... Then their personality plays a part to!

Looks do come into it but only if the first bit applies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, physical attraction first, mental attraction second.

However, nothing will happen if one or the other is missing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me ( Lucy ) they have to stimulate my mind to get my juices flowing.... Then their personality plays a part to!

Looks do come into it but only if the first bit applies

Ah but you see the first part isn't particularly difficult, I often find however its building up the intangible sexual attraction that can be a lot trickier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During the course of their swinging, has anyone else come to the conclusion, that women are typically a lot more diverse and individual than males when it comes to sexual attraction, particularly physical? Often, it seems to me that if you were to show a group of guys a picture of a supposedly beautiful woman, most of them would probably agree that she was, whereas show a group of women a picture of a thought to be handsome man, the overall opinion would be a lot more divided?"

As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!"

But at what point does the 'he's a really nice guy and easy to chat to' become 'I'm really attracted to him want us to have sex'?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!

But at what point does the 'he's a really nice guy and easy to chat to' become 'I'm really attracted to him want us to have sex'?"

just before it becomes 'ah he's a mate - wouldnt feel right shagging him'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!

But at what point does the 'he's a really nice guy and easy to chat to' become 'I'm really attracted to him want us to have sex'?"

When I start thinking about sexual things about him

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

I have a very narrow field of what I find attractive. Not sure if that's a female thing or just how I am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!

But at what point does the 'he's a really nice guy and easy to chat to' become 'I'm really attracted to him want us to have sex'?

just before it becomes 'ah he's a mate - wouldnt feel right shagging him'....

So the key to successful swinging as a male would be to come across 'very nice and with a subtle hint of prick'

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I have a very narrow field of what I find attractive. Not sure if that's a female thing or just how I am.

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Us women do look for different things and probably have more criteria and I really dont mean that in a horirble way.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"As said much more for women and connection mentally is not easy!

But at what point does the 'he's a really nice guy and easy to chat to' become 'I'm really attracted to him want us to have sex'?

just before it becomes 'ah he's a mate - wouldnt feel right shagging him'....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a very narrow field of what I find attractive. Not sure if that's a female thing or just how I am.

Us women do look for different things and probably have more criteria and I really dont mean that in a horirble way.

I'm sure you don't, but I'm sure you can understand the resulting frustration from a male perspective?

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