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 ), what is it ? And think of of the whole experience whatever and wherever that might be and not just literally in bed. Not my usual sort of thread but there you go. As always, this is an inclusive thread so open to all  | |||
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"Never been with one so couldn't tell you" Self reflection? | |||
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"Erm... I'll have a think and try and condense those thoughts down. " Looking forward to the synopsis | |||
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"As I’m quite submissive I love a confident man who is happy to kind of take control "Let's call this one being aware of preferences and assume clearly defined roles then | |||
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"If he dosent snore that's great " Is that the same as not falling asleep on the job? | |||
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"As I’m quite submissive I love a confident man who is happy to kind of take control
Let's call this one being aware of preferences and assume clearly defined roles then "Yes! | |||
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"Not snoring and making the bed in the morning…. Apparently "Sore subject? | |||
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"Confidence, kissing, eye contact and the subtle reassurance that your insecurities are just that "That reassurance is key, isn't it. | |||
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"A man who after sex, has cake stashed in the side table "Now you are talking | |||
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"When he’s asleep, maybe!" Oh | |||
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"Someone who’s laid back, and allows you to be yourself, feel relaxed and comfortable in their company. Someone who’s interesting, funny and passionate. Someone who’s understanding and respectful, non judgemental and open to new ideas. Someone who’s generous with their time, likes to please but also enjoys the pleasure themself too. Someone who likes kissing, is good at kissing and yeah I’m with minxy on the thighs. I’m sure there’s more. I may come back to this" Excellent list of desirabkes so dar and further contributions of course welcome | |||
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"Interesting. So all it takes for a woman to be good (based on the other thread) is enthusiasm. Not once has that been the centre of focus for this one. 🤔" Must be they think that all are enthusiastic . Good observation though. | |||
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"Compatibility. " | |||
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"Respect, connection, and some decent moves. Just like on the dancefloor." My belly dance is legendary and my argentine tango could put Ramon to shame | |||
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"A man who has the lights down low.... Nice music, electric blanket on. A good book for her to read...... Any woman disagree.... State your reasons here. " Is that before, during or after? | |||
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"Connection and passion 😈" | |||
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"Confidence, kissing, eye contact and the subtle reassurance that your insecurities are just that "Ooft, that last part! *swoon* | |||
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"Confidence, kissing, eye contact and the subtle reassurance that your insecurities are just that
Ooft, that last part! *swoon*"Often forgotten in asdumptoons made | |||
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"This is highly subjective obviously as every person has different needs and wants. For me personally:- *Makes me feel desired and sexy, so I feel confident and relaxed to let go and be in the moment *Enthusiastic and giving, but open to feedback and happy to take pointers on what feels good for me/doesn't get offended or take it as an insult if I ask them to change things up a bit *Open minded and experimental And not deal breakers but... *I do prefer someone who is more experienced, especially with the kink side of things as I want to explore more *someone who can repeat perform, as I enjoy a couple of rounds in a session 🫣" That's a great list | |||
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"I'm naturally submissive so a guy taking control is a huge turn on" Another one of being aware of preferences then | |||
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"The want and need to take your coat off " In a hurry or slowly? | |||
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"Respect, connection, and some decent moves. Just like on the dancefloor. My belly dance is legendary and my argentine tango could put Ramon to shame "I'm reminded of the belly dancer's quote from The Man with the Golden Gun. "Oh, I've lost my charm!" | |||
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"Respect, connection, and some decent moves. Just like on the dancefloor. My belly dance is legendary and my argentine tango could put Ramon to shame
I'm reminded of the belly dancer's quote from The Man with the Golden Gun. "Oh, I've lost my charm!""Does it. I never take any notice.  | |||
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"Did someone say thighs?? x"I knew you will surface soon | |||
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"Did someone say thighs?? x
I knew you will surface soon "have you missed me?! x | |||
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"Did someone say thighs?? x
I knew you will surface soon have you missed me?! x"Of course, but did reference thighs of course | |||
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"Did someone say thighs?? x
I knew you will surface soon have you missed me?! x
Of course, but did reference thighs of course "xx | |||
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"Instinct." There is definately that | |||
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"Probably using their fav dildo after you've shagged your best shag. "  | |||
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"* confidence * connection * similar “interests” to me * makes me feel desired and that he’s actually interested in both of us having fun. * a repeater * whispers absolute filth in my ear "Oh, another good succint list | |||
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"Being tall, fit, dashingly good looking with a huge cock, great stamina, loads of of money, great personality and modest with it all. That’s what the ladies tell me." And how do you cope with rejection? | |||
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"Great kisser and good with his hands. Enthusiastic and passionate." | |||
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"Being tall, fit, dashingly good looking with a huge cock, great stamina, loads of of money, great personality and modest with it all. That’s what the ladies tell me. And how do you cope with rejection? "What’s that? | |||
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"Interesting. So all it takes for a woman to be good (based on the other thread) is enthusiasm. Not once has that been the centre of focus for this one. 🤔" Many men are pretty much always enthusiastic about putting their penis in a wet hole. Women tend to need more to get to that point, and are generally less likely to be fucking someone who is less than enthusiastic about it 💜 | |||
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"For the actual question. Compatibility, chemistry, genuine desire for the individual(s) involved 💜" Agreed that chemistry is at the centre of it all, isn't it. The rest are ingredients that achieve culminate to that | |||
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"Got to be a great kisser, passionate, a connection of coursevery attentive and enthusiastic "In a nutshell | |||
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"As well as any of the above, for me it’s being a good listener and taking direction; if something is not working for me and I guide you, listen and follow … what has worked for one woman is not necessarily going to work for me. The connection with kisses throughout and a big thing after the aftercare of cuddles/spooning is being able to have a laugh. Oh and be ready to go again not long after 😊" As you say, it's not one cap fits all | |||
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"For me, a few things Open to kissing - not eating face, sensual open mouth on open mouth kissing A submissive streak, but without it all revolving round them being sub An openness to have a laugh and not take sex too seriously Reactive to touch but not noisy - moaning is hot, letting everyone in the street know, not so much Not running off as soon as they've cum Also handy, if they have a decent gag reflex (or lack of)" Lol, some serious thinking went into that | |||
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"For me, a few things Open to kissing - not eating face, sensual open mouth on open mouth kissing A submissive streak, but without it all revolving round them being sub An openness to have a laugh and not take sex too seriously Reactive to touch but not noisy - moaning is hot, letting everyone in the street know, not so much Not running off as soon as they've cum Also handy, if they have a decent gag reflex (or lack of) Lol, some serious thinking went into that "I missed one Mustn't practice sex by numbers "You do this to me, then I do that to you" kinda shit Sex should be both organic and fluid, not scripted | |||
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"They don’t take it so seriously. It’s fun. They move about a bit, and don’t just lay there. They dick more than they lick. They don’t scream when they cum." Oh. I like them vocal 💜 | |||
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"They don’t take it so seriously. It’s fun. They move about a bit, and don’t just lay there. They dick more than they lick. They don’t scream when they cum." | |||
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"They don’t take it so seriously. It’s fun. They move about a bit, and don’t just lay there. They dick more than they lick. They don’t scream when they cum. Oh. I like them vocal 💜" Yeah so do I, grunting, sighing. But screaming Prey? Screaming! | |||
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"They don’t take it so seriously. It’s fun. They move about a bit, and don’t just lay there. They dick more than they lick. They don’t scream when they cum. Oh. I like them vocal 💜 Yeah so do I, grunting, sighing. But screaming Prey? Screaming! " | |||
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"They don’t take it so seriously. It’s fun. They move about a bit, and don’t just lay there. They dick more than they lick. They don’t scream when they cum. Oh. I like them vocal 💜 Yeah so do I, grunting, sighing. But screaming Prey? Screaming! "I’ll be honest, love it when they’re vocal. | |||
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"Chemistry first - without that you may as well not bother. Yes enthusiasm matters, it matters a lot. In fact it matters so much that I’ll say it’s a dealbreaker for me. Someone who’s observant and willing to learn the things that really make you tick. We all have things or routine moves we employ but if your partner is really observant they’ll see which of those really work for you and learn more ways to blow your mind. Following on from enthusiasm, a genuine want to please. If they don’t really care whether you are having a great time or they’re only wrapped in their own pleasure…. There is a problem. Respect is often overlooked but someone who respects your limits or boundaries is someone who cares about your comfort and pleasure. Whether someone is dominant, submissive, switch or neither is kind of a moot point without the things above…. At least for me. Nobody can fulfill those defined roles without the above. " This too 😂👆 | |||
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"For me it's been men who have communicated well both verbally and physically. Those who have made their desire and enjoyment clear. And there's been a mixture of passion, laughter and affection. This also applies to women." Agreed I should have said on my reply that it should also be mutually reciprocated too. Can’t expect one without holding myself to the same standard | |||
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