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Men not giving oral sex: Dealbreaker?

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker?

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By *effdelightMan
4 weeks ago

Grimsby

Fucking love licking clit. Fuck him off 🤣

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.

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By *issBehavexxxWoman
4 weeks ago

essex

Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
4 weeks ago

Wherever

Yes. A dealbreaker.

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By *luebell888Woman
4 weeks ago

Lanzarote

Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me.

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By *ife NinjaMan
4 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I love giving oral. Conversely I'm not that fussed about getting a BJ

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By *rT25Man
4 weeks ago

South Yorkshire

I can't get enough of going down on a woman. Surprised some people don't like doing it?🤔

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By *xperiencing-newCouple
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

N will clarify, I am a giver and thus have evolved gills so as not to come up for air lol

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess "

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

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By *he ShivsCouple
4 weeks ago

Fife

It wouldn’t be a deal breaker unless it was for selfish reasons.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

Because I’m Jamaican.

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By *ife NinjaMan
4 weeks ago

Dunfermline


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?"."

The wet feeling on my face turns me on

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
4 weeks ago

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I always thought it was a urban myth about Men not going down on Women, "I Do it sometimes" or "I'd rather do something else" but I'm still yet to hear any Man say he won't do it,

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By *ire-runner-82Man
4 weeks ago

Rg27


"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me. "

A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do

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By *ire_thornMan
4 weeks ago

no comment

I'm here to see the poor excuses haha

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By *ackformore100Man
4 weeks ago

Tin town


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?"."

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

It's not a deal breaker for me as long as they are not being selfish.

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By *effdelightMan
4 weeks ago

Grimsby


"I love giving oral. Conversely I'm not that fussed about getting a BJ "
haha I'm the same. Think that's rare

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By *ussexsexyfunMan
4 weeks ago

lewes

I love going down on a woman, it's such a turn on. I can't imagine not being interested in this....

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.

A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do "

Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you.

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

I know guys who consider cunnilingus as "disgusting".

Myself I do perform it, because it's a bit rude to demand & not be willing to return the favour. When younger I didn't do it, but began in middle age.

Having realised that this is what gets a woman absolutely dripping wet, and willing to take almost anything afterwards. It's actually an Aphrodisiac, to get from hot kissing to her egging me on to penetrate her.

Gentleman take your positions.

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By *vaRose43Woman
4 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

It depends on why.

If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.

If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.

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By *uri00620Woman
4 weeks ago

Croydon

Whilst I'm really indifferent to it myself it would be interesting to know why they didn't like it.

If it was a yuk factor that would be a deal breaker for sure.

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By *elfguy0404Man
4 weeks ago

Telford

I much prefer to have my face between a women’s legs than have my cock in her mouth. Much more of a turn on and satisfying feeling her getting wet and hopefully cuming on my tongue and face

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
4 weeks ago

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Sounds like my ideal man, seriously

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depends. I'm not a fan of receiving oral and will happily give.

If the lack of giving is because I've told him and he's understood, it's fine (even preferable). Straight up entitlement, even if it results in the same sexual activity, is a hard no

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester

Depends on the reason. I'd be disappointed but I know someone for who it was a sensory issue, and I think that I could work with that as long as they were still willing to do other things to please me/arouse me/make me cum too. If it was a case of them just wanting their dick sucked, fuck me til they cum and then done I'd be telling him to do one.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

No guy is going to admit to not liking giving oral on the forums 😜 The forums is awash with guys who can breathe through their ears 😋

It wouldn’t be a deal breaker if someone doesn’t give oral but kind of stops the natural flow. Much prefer when you don’t have to remember do’s and dont’s when playing!

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By *ustcallMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Unacceptable behaviour show him the door

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By *TRAY-CATMan
4 weeks ago

dundee

I thought it was a given that foreplay always included going down on a woman.. if you're not going down then you ain't getting anything else..

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester

I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it.

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By *ornyHertsMan
4 weeks ago

Goffs Oak

Also, ladies seem to like a kiss when you've been down on them

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By *aramel.desiresMan
4 weeks ago

Heathrow


"Because I’m Jamaican. "

Don't use that as an excuse to not give your partner oral pleasure.

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By *ouple49Couple
4 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

Once played with a lady at a party that didn’t care for it at all, I had a great time with her but it was a bit of letdown not getting to pleasure her pussy orally. Pretty much a rare occurrence and I’ve never been stopped from licking a pussy at any other time. You’ve never seen it all have you ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nope I don't like receiving so it's absolutely fine by me

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading


"It depends on why.

If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.

If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.

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Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I thought it was a given that foreplay always included going down on a woman.. if you're not going down then you ain't getting anything else.. "

Men do assume that. We've noted on our profile that I don't like it for that reason

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By *ouple49Couple
4 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Because I’m Jamaican. "

So if she didn’t do it willingly, did Jamaica?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
4 weeks ago

cardiff

No

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It depends on why.

If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.

If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.

Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it?"

I do (to a point - I get jaw cramps, and also I have sensory sensitivity about the texture of cum, so not in my mouth).

You can feel up close what you're doing to someone (hardening, twitches), drive them even wilder. It's intimate and vulnerable in all the right ways

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester

I enjoy giving blowjobs very much, I've never done it because I feel I have to. If I don't want to do something I won't do it. It is usually me who instigates it.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance? "

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

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By *upersonic SamMan
4 weeks ago

wigan

I think this works both ways.

I once (many years ago) had a partner who wouldn't let me go down on her, not even once. She never explained why but for me it was a deal breaker.

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."

The lack of communication and reciprocity would be a problem for me.

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By *ackformore100Man
4 weeks ago

Tin town


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."

I know the feeling... Mine used to... And loved it... Hasn't done for about 5 years now. Makes you feel shit doesnt it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking

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By *ire-runner-82Man
4 weeks ago

Rg27


"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.

A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do

Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you. "

Always been happy with that scenario. Plus the more turned on the woman is through good oral, surely that leads to more effort and a better bj back too? Win win

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ because people's actions speak louder than their words

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."

Having checked out your profile, I'd do it for you

DM me

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By *end1Man
4 weeks ago

southend on sea

If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it. "

I know what you mean. I want him to want to do it. I can't and don't want to force it. Would just put my mind at rest knowing why he doesn't want to.

Right now it feels like I'm the problem.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!"

That is a ridiculous statement

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By *naswingdressWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!

That is a ridiculous statement "

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4 weeks ago

Depends on the dynamic. I certainly wouldn't want to go without!

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester


"I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it.

I know what you mean. I want him to want to do it. I can't and don't want to force it. Would just put my mind at rest knowing why he doesn't want to.

Right now it feels like I'm the problem. "

Its difficult when they haven't given you a reason and you feel like it's something about you ❤️ sounds like it's probably just something he doesn't enjoy doing and you'll have to accept it or if it's something you can't get past and it is causing you heartache think about whether to carry on

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking "

It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!

That is a ridiculous statement

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By *heHornyWandererMan
4 weeks ago

glasgow

Each to their own, but personally I’d be disappointed if I didn’t get to give a good amount of oral to a lady I was playing with, since I absolutely love to do so 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on."

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.

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4 weeks ago


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "

Did you draw him a diagram?!

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
4 weeks ago

Staines

I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?

I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted.

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By *.hrisMan
4 weeks ago

Bath

I bloody love receiving a blow job 🤩

But I think I'm starting to enjoy going down on a women even more at the moment 😈

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.

Did you draw him a diagram?!"

I think my withering look when he said it was diagram enough. He is an ex for a reason!

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "

What??

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "

He probably wouldn't have been keen on me doing 69 with my last woman, as my nose was right up rubbing her bum hole

I still got a stiffy

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "

🤣🤣🤣

If this turns out to be his reason he's definitely getting put in the bin! 🤣

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By *oughmanMan
4 weeks ago

Sunderland

It's almost like Christmas, it's better to give than receive. Love going down on a women. Those chups don't know what they are missing.

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By *aprica2Couple
4 weeks ago

Chertsey

We've never understood why not, defo best way of making a ladies legs shake like a shitting dog 😂

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nothing a 69 can't fix and if you're not happy bite it 🤣

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4 weeks ago


"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.

My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.

Did you draw him a diagram?!

I think my withering look when he said it was diagram enough. He is an ex for a reason! "

Well rid

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking

It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me. "

You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.

If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that?

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By *otuseater11Man
4 weeks ago

kilwinning

I always give oral.and love doing so

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends


"Because I’m Jamaican.

Don't use that as an excuse to not give your partner oral pleasure. "

I ain’t no bowcat

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't see sex as a tit for tat activity, so in an ongoing sexual relationship, I wouldn't expect us both to receive oral every time.

I wouldn't want to get into a regular thing with a man who didn't want to go down there ever

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends


"Because I’m Jamaican.

So if she didn’t do it willingly, did Jamaica? "

Also I could leave a bj happily. Very few are actually good at it.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
4 weeks ago

Wolvo


"I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?

I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted."

Agreed! Bring up any anal activity though, Oral sex then becomes the lesser issue. Pmsl.

Sexual activity should be fair or at least discussed and agreed. If one side thinks its dirty etc then they shouldn't be expecting either.

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading

OP just out of interest, have you ever received oral, I mean apart from your current partner?

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By *elfguy0404Man
4 weeks ago

Telford


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking

It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me. "

I do think he should be honest and upfront about why he won’t. I actually don’t like receiving oral and there is reasons. I wouldn’t put them on a forum but I do make anyone I’m planning on having fun with aware and tell them why.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking

It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me.

You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.

If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that? "

Maybe if he'd said that in the beginning I'd have accepted it and dropped it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess

I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".

Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?

I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.

I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.

He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking

It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me.

You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.

If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that?

Maybe if he'd said that in the beginning I'd have accepted it and dropped it. "

Well I hope you sort it out it's clearly bothering you.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends


"I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?

I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted."

My friends called me a bowcat for ages when they found out I go down on women.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"OP just out of interest, have you ever received oral, I mean apart from your current partner?"

Of course I have.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair


"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?"

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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?

·

Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks."

Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?

·

Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks."

My guess Nero is that it's one of three reasons.

1. They don't like it.

2. The particular woman they're with has something that stops them doing it.

3. They are unsure of how to go about it so choose not to.

But as you say nobody has said outright so we will like the op, have to guess

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By *orny 70Man
4 weeks ago

everywhere

Love licking pussy and don’t like coming up for air

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair


"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?

·

Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks.

Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻‍♀️"

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By *unnyandthebookkeeperCouple
4 weeks ago

bristol

Totally with you. Very happy giving, not that many good bjs.

That said bunny is phenomenal and I do love it. But would hate to be without giving oral

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By *ast Lothian couple 888Couple
4 weeks ago

east lothian

Mr here I actually prefer giving oral more than anything else if I could only do one sexual act for the rest of my life it would be giving her oral

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker?

I know guys who consider cunnilingus as "disgusting".

Myself I do perform it, because it's a bit rude to demand & not be willing to return the favour. When younger I didn't do it, but began in middle age.

Having realised that this is what gets a woman absolutely dripping wet, and willing to take almost anything afterwards. It's actually an Aphrodisiac, to get from hot kissing to her egging me on to penetrate her.

Gentleman take your positions."

I know women who think the same about bjs.

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By *cLovin2Man
4 weeks ago

Reading


"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?

·

Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks.

Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻‍♀️"

I wouldn't say that I love doing it admittedly, but I do it to get her going. That turns me on, when she's turned on. I don't enjoy per se, it's a means to an end

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By *eorgesdad69Man
4 weeks ago

Long Eaton

I will eat a nice pussy and suck a clean cock without a shadow of doubt 🤪

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
4 weeks ago

rochdale


"Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me."

This. A selfish lover of any gender is not acceptable.

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By *ildatheart30Couple
4 weeks ago

Gorebridge

If I never received oral again for the rest of my life I wouldn't care but I won't put up with selfishness

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By *attGentMan
4 weeks ago

Br

I love going down on a woman. my favourite thing to do

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple
4 weeks ago

west london

Ricky loves licking,sucking pussy....

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By *ustysailorMan
4 weeks ago

lowestoft

I love going down on a pussy so much I have learnt to breath through my ears

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By *abandfreeMan
4 weeks ago

Stockport

I like doing it on most women

If she likes it then I will always do it - I like to give

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By *hank you sirMan
4 weeks ago

colchester

Double standards! I wouldn't have that if I were you. If he don't eat pussy then he can't expect a blowjob.

Although that's easy for me to say because I love going down

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By *riar BelisseWoman
4 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Dealbreaker

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By *ripfillMan
4 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant


"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me. "

Quite right too … absolutely, love giving oral it’s so satisfying and having that connection is so powerful but being able to ‘orally‘ give is delicious

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan
4 weeks ago

Madrid

It would be extremely rude not to give a lady oral sex before receiving a Bj surely

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By *aitonelMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

Don't mind me, I'm just here to read the pandering comments, and the extreme comments void of context consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Love licking pussy

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By *atinaChica54Woman
4 weeks ago

Marlborough

Yup!

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By *atinaChica54Woman
4 weeks ago

Marlborough


"It depends on why.

If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.

If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.

Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it?"

Fucking love it I do!

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By *osseffMan
4 weeks ago

All over devon, I love a road trip!

My aim is that they're to exhausted from my efforts to return the favour

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By *ilk_TrayMan
4 weeks ago

South


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

Is this still a thing in 2025?

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By *uzzieboyMan
4 weeks ago

taunton


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

Seriously that’s the best part for me love good eating 👅👅👅💦💦💦💦💦

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By *anny_stevensMan
4 weeks ago

holytown

Seriously love giving woman oral

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Love giving oral.

Heaven is 69WASS

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I prefer to give oral than receive, although i definitely won't refuse it either.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I’ve never had this happen but as I chat for bloody ages before I meet someone I’m sure it would come up in conversation at some stage so unlikely to happen.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

It's not a deal breaker,but I've decided to not be a convenient cock sucker for men who "Only do it to women they trust/know/in a relationship with" but expect me to give them oral.

It's my preference.

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By *ich_8000Man
4 weeks ago

Witney

Much prefer to give than receive 😉

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By *allWithTatsMan
4 weeks ago

Hyrule

Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.

My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you?

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By *entlemanG8orgeMan
4 weeks ago

Near by

Personally I love swirling my tongue through a woman and it's all part of the foreplay, culminating in face riding. I maintain it's the best way to warm up, for both partners that is. I haven't met a woman who doesn't enjoy it yet, and it equally arouses me too. So on that basis everyone is a winner!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.

My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you? "

I always find that a bit of a strange question. I just don't like the sensation that much.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

This "no cunnilingus" mindset is alien to me.

I'm like a bulldog eating hot chips given half a chance.

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By *ympho6969Woman
4 weeks ago

glasgow

Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.

I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point

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By *allWithTatsMan
4 weeks ago

Hyrule


"Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.

My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you?

I always find that a bit of a strange question. I just don't like the sensation that much. "

Just curiosity! But obviously I’m not familiar with the sensation at all so it’s more intrigue than anything. 100% understandable!

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By *hunky GentMan
4 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Are you kidding???

It's one of my favourite parts of sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I love giving oral but it's gotta look appetising. The same must apply to anyone give a BJ

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.

I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point "

Agreed. But what's making me uncomfortable is not knowing why he doesn't want to with me when I know he's done it with others. Even after asking, I never get a straight answer.

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
4 weeks ago

wild west lothian

Total dealbreaker for me

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By *allipygousMan
4 weeks ago

Leicester


"Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.

I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point

Agreed. But what's making me uncomfortable is not knowing why he doesn't want to with me when I know he's done it with others. Even after asking, I never get a straight answer. "

Maybe it's because he doesn't like your smell. I love giving oral to women but there are some I won't because their smell isn't to my liking but I know other men will dive in there. I don't tell these women why I'm not going down on them, they just assume it's something I don't like.

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By *ojangles69Woman
4 weeks ago

Milton Keynes


"Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me."

💯💯 love being eaten out....

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By *ot so needyMan
4 weeks ago

Galway


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

Maybe give it a quick rince before you meet him the next time🤣

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
4 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yes it's a deal-breaker, unfortunately I've had a couple of meets on my previous profile where the guys don't like giving oral. One guy gave 2 licks then he was done. I'd rather not have oral than receive bad oral. At least be open and tell me at the social meet oral is a no go for him, then I wouldn't go any further. Fortunately for me I have a fwb now that loves it

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker?

Maybe give it a quick rince before you meet him the next time🤣"

Pleasant 🙄

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By *ichardHereMan
4 weeks ago

London

I don't provide oral and dont expect to receive it. Of the things that would make a guy unattractive I think an unwillingness to provide oral sex is right at the bottom of that list. Facial appearance? Body? Confidence? Would you rather meet an ugly guy who gives head or a handsome one who doesn't? Wouls you rather meet an obese guy who loves licking pussy or an athletic guy who doesn't?

Straighten out your priorities, and you'll have more fun swinging.

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By *dfabMan
4 weeks ago

Dunboyne

Absolutely love going down. Better if woman goes down first until completion. Then I can enjoy her and be ready for fucking after she cums orally.

Logic and pleasure for both.

Win Win

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By *hongmanMan
4 weeks ago

Thorne & Milton Keynes

For me it's the best thing giving women oral.i love the taste the smell everything about it. In fact it turns me on turning the women on. It's not about me at all it's all about the women.

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

You could have stopped at expecting, instant turn off.

If I want to give someone oral then it isn't about what I will get in return

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By *ags73Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

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By *oeBeansMan
4 weeks ago

Derby


"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.

Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.

A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do

Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you. "

Jeez, I didn't realise sex was a competition between two people to see who gets their way first. Here I thought we were both there because we found each other hot enough to have sex with 🤨

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By *ags73Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"[Removed by poster at 24/01/25 23:11:19]"

Was just saying that if you expect to get it you gotta give it.

Personally love having a lick and finger at a pussy but can’t quite understand where the man the OPs mentioned is coming from.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
4 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
nope.. I'm happy to just give.. in fact in most play situations I prefer it with guys

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By *ony MannMan
4 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Andover

I nearly always give oral first, no taste of condom and

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By *ags73Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"I nearly always give oral first, no taste of condom and "

Actually that’s a point and I’ve unknowingly done that

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By *0ng0 furyMan
4 weeks ago

Birkenhead

i couldn't imagine not going down

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By *aitonelMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

😂

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends


"😂"

Allow the people. They’re horny.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
4 weeks ago

London

Not a deal breaker, but I would expect it of a guy.

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By *ivpoolmanMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Not a deal breaker, but I would expect it of a guy."

I might be in the minority… but I love giving oral to a lady x

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By *cottish guy 555Man
4 weeks ago

London

As the good book says, it is always better to give than to receive.

Either that or I read it on a bog door.

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By *akingtheplungeMan
4 weeks ago

kent

I love it also, i would happily do it with nothing in return, lick an go service available,

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By *3rial Thr1LL3rMan
4 weeks ago

scotland

I don’t because it’s long been reported that oral sex is the leading cause of mouth and throat cancers and I don’t want to get anything like that. ……Ahh no wait, I don’t care

I certainly don’t give to receive though, I’m with the contingent that can take a bj or leave it, I can count the amount of great ones I’ve had in my life on one hand probably.

Can the ladies that don’t care for receiving explain to me why though (I realise everyone’s reasons may be different) but understanding more about a certain subject might ultimately help make me even better at it. I can’t breath through my ears though, nobody can

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By *carlettsWoman
4 weeks ago

Harpenden

What's good for the goose is good for the gander

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
4 weeks ago

Ipswich

Perusing for future Reference

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By *ershamMan
4 weeks ago

_ersham

Wife doesn't like it so I don't do it but my ex loved it and I love doing it

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By *ranky Howard 1Man
4 weeks ago

Ipswich

Love eating pussy

Must be clean! That puts guys off

My cock is always clean! Like a peach

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By *otuseater11Man
4 weeks ago

kilwinning

Yes I give oral first it's all about the woman at the time.and if she didn't give me oral back so be it not the end of the world

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By *umagain58Man
4 weeks ago

London

I always like to discuss what like or not in advance of a meet. I find end results so much better. I like going down and receiving

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Redhill

I’ve not had any meets in a loooooooong while now, but ai am thinking if I do have ones in future, I won’t be giving BJs. I just can’t be arsed 😂😂😂😂😂

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By *eoBloomsMan
4 weeks ago

Springfield

Transactional sex ain't hot.

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I’ve not had any meets in a loooooooong while now, but ai am thinking if I do have ones in future, I won’t be giving BJs. I just can’t be arsed 😂😂😂😂😂"

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My darling, "BJs" involve the phallus, not the anus. This is where we went wrong last time. 💙

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
4 weeks ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

If a guy is not willing to put his face on my bottom lips then I’m not interested

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By *hePleasurerMan
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

I can't imagine having sex without plenty of oral action first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I don’t because it’s long been reported that oral sex is the leading cause of mouth and throat cancers and I don’t want to get anything like that. ……Ahh no wait, I don’t care

I certainly don’t give to receive though, I’m with the contingent that can take a bj or leave it, I can count the amount of great ones I’ve had in my life on one hand probably.

Can the ladies that don’t care for receiving explain to me why though (I realise everyone’s reasons may be different) but understanding more about a certain subject might ultimately help make me even better at it. I can’t breath through my ears though, nobody can "

Not sure how explaining why someone doesn't like something will make you better at it but I just don't like the sensation much. Its not that I actually hate it but there are things I'd much rather do and get more pleasure from.

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By *asterfulsoulMan
4 weeks ago

Manchester

I've always found this topic really fucking weird tbh.

If a man doesn't want to give oral sex, that seems fine? If a woman wants to receive oral sex, that also seems fine? You're just not sexually compatible.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I've always found this topic really fucking weird tbh.

If a man doesn't want to give oral sex, that seems fine? If a woman wants to receive oral sex, that also seems fine? You're just not sexually compatible."

Yep!

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By *ornycougaWoman
4 weeks ago

MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat

I don't give to receive. I just bloody love oral sex - both ways (and am scrupulous about my personal hygiene because of this). So yes it is a deal breaker. I have turned down a guy for a second meet solely on the basis that he didn't go down on me first time around.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.

OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.

Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker.

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By *usie pTV/TS
4 weeks ago

taunton

Yes that about sums it up, this guy may get to regret his reluctance when this lady has to go and find what she desires.

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By *ickawitchCouple
4 weeks ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨

So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?

For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "

It should definitely be a deal breaker. Any man who expects oral but isn’t man enough to give it isn’t a real man . He needs to grow the fuck up and be a man .

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By *xfordNoirMan
4 weeks ago

South Oxon

Is this a thing?

Getting to taste pussy is pretty much a must for me

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.

OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.

Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker. "

Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.

It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue.

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By *eoBloomsMan
4 weeks ago

Springfield


"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.

OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.

Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker.

Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.

It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue."

OP, whatever the reason it doesn't seem likely to change, or if he did give you oral it doesn't sound like it would be with much enthusiasm. I think you should make your relationship decisions on that basis rather than posing a question that may never be honesty answered. 🤷‍♂️

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

What will you do op?

Quite often men are advised to dump their partner if they aren't getting the sex they want. Is it a deal breaker for you or is the lack of an answer the straw that's breaking he camels back? Is he reluctant to communicate on any topic or just this one, is this a symptom of a bigger issue?

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.

OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.

Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker.

Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.

It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue.

OP, whatever the reason it doesn't seem likely to change, or if he did give you oral it doesn't sound like it would be with much enthusiasm. I think you should make your relationship decisions on that basis rather than posing a question that may never be honesty answered. 🤷‍♂️"

I haven't been bothered by it in such a long time. It just happened to come up in conversation, I was expecting a different answer this time, and I've been triggered. Hate that damn word, but it is what it is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Putting a question to a forum of strangers without them knowing the full background this guys and my relationship was clearly a bad idea.

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By *ron100Man
4 weeks ago

preston

I enjoy giveing oral more than anything else in the world.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyes OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire


"What will you do op?

Quite often men are advised to dump their partner if they aren't getting the sex they want. Is it a deal breaker for you or is the lack of an answer the straw that's breaking he camels back? Is he reluctant to communicate on any topic or just this one, is this a symptom of a bigger issue? "

There's lots of things he doesn't want to talk about. This oral issue is just today's problem. The sex is too good and there are other things stopping me from walking away from him.

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By *anted by NightMan
4 weeks ago

Shangri-La

Licking pussy is a good way to make ladies smile

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
4 weeks ago

North West


". Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.

It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue."

I don't know exactly what your relationship is. If he's a FB/FWB and there's no expectation of exclusivity then if the rest of the sex was spectacular I would personally be ok with that. I could find other partners who do enjoy oral.

I wouldn't be able to cope if I was romantically involved. I need honest answers (even if I might not like them). I can totally understand why this has left you feeling insecure.

Feel free to DM if you want as this thread will fill soon. I'll wink you so you can message as my filters are on.

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By *asterfulsoulMan
4 weeks ago

Manchester

If you want to receive oral sex then find a partner who is into it. There's probably not anything wrong with you (there probably isn't anything "wrong").

If you want the relationship more then make peace with it.

If you can't just accept no for an answer, however non-committal, then that does seem like a you problem.

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By *atnipOreillyMan
4 weeks ago

Herts

I love giving oral and consider it important to demonstrate I want to give my lady pleasure. It’s also like an aphrodisiac to me in that feeling her responses to my tongue turn me on. The best feelings come when she’s holding your head in position yet appears to be twisting her legs sideways to get it to stop. Kissing afterwards is a big turn on, as is immediate penetration. That’s a hot night.

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