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By *ringItOnBaby! OP   Man
27 weeks ago

Wigan

So think I came accross this site about a year ago now, rejoined recently and still finding it hard work! Haha

Like how on earth has any guy who's not a 10/10 met someone 🤷

Women get 100s of messages so even getting a reply is a slim chance. Decent idea for a site/app, but in reality I wonder how effective it is...

I predict less then 10% of people meet, what we thinking? 🤔

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

In previous incarnations on here I met women, went to socials etc etc and I'm nowhere near a 10. Yes, being more attractive will help - obviously but it isn't the be all and end all.

If you have very few expectations, so don't run around like a horny puppy messaging everyone, and just be yourself you should be OK. Unless being yourself is being a cunt

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By *ringItOnBaby! OP   Man
27 weeks ago

Wigan


"In previous incarnations on here I met women, went to socials etc etc and I'm nowhere near a 10. Yes, being more attractive will help - obviously but it isn't the be all and end all.

If you have very few expectations, so don't run around like a horny puppy messaging everyone, and just be yourself you should be OK. Unless being yourself is being a cunt "

Hahaha love that! First rule in life, dont be a c*nt 🤣

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Be good looking

Have a hot body

Be funny

If you have 1 of them you stand a chance. 2 of them, better. 3 and you'll be beating them off.

Unless you're a cunt. But there is a market for that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Bro I’ll be so real with you,

I think I’m attractive, like I’m confident that I’m not ugly to most people even if I’m not their type, but I’m so far from a 10/10 it’s a joke and meeting people has been fine. I don’t meet new people constantly. And I only meet people that I WANT to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I hate to be that guy but genuinely just go to a social or hang about in the chat rooms and forums and try and develop connections that way.

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By *illan-KillashMan
27 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"So think I came accross this site about a year ago now, rejoined recently and still finding it hard work! Haha

Like how on earth has any guy who's not a 10/10 met someone 🤷

Women get 100s of messages so even getting a reply is a slim chance. Decent idea for a site/app, but in reality I wonder how effective it is...

I predict less then 10% of people meet, what we thinking? 🤔"

I'm thinking, I'm nowhere near a 10/10, but I've always been pleased with how many people I've met.

I also seem to do OK with getting replies to messages.

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By *ealitybitesMan
27 weeks ago

Belfast

The minute you start seeing it as a competition or bring up the lame old trope about ratios and percentages or even ratings you have backed a loser.

You don't have to be a 10/10 because no such person exists and it's all subjective anyway.

One person's 8 is another person's 1.

Stop following the herd and start grazing on your own patch and see what a different experience that is.

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By *urry BlokeMan
27 weeks ago


"

Like how on earth has any guy who's not a 10/10 met someone 🤷

"

By getting off his arse and doing something about it

I don't believe that many meets start from the comfort of your settee

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
27 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"So think I came accross this site about a year ago now, rejoined recently and still finding it hard work! Haha

Like how on earth has any guy who's not a 10/10 met someone 🤷

Women get 100s of messages so even getting a reply is a slim chance. Decent idea for a site/app, but in reality I wonder how effective it is...

I predict less then 10% of people meet, what we thinking? 🤔"

I've been here 17 years now. I'm definitely closer to a 5 than a 10.

In that time I've met lots of people, both for socials and sex. I've found FB's, FWB's, a wife and am currently very, very happy with two partners.

None of it happened just because I set up a profile and posted a few photos. 🤷‍♂️

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By *PMGMan
27 weeks ago

Surrey

Perseverance, be polite, honest, open and have no expectations!

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By *2000ManMan
27 weeks ago

Worthing

Join in with forum/cam room chat op. Make friends. Anything else is a bonus.

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By *ony MannMan
27 weeks ago

South Newton

1 be nice

2 don't complain, not a good image

3 chat without expectation, not everyone is after you because they are after someone

4 treat everyone with respect

5 try a club to get your first Veri

6 be yourself

I'm told there should always be 10 rules but I've run out of ideas so make do with 6

7 there is no garente in life

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

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By *hil most chillMan
27 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

Yeah I can't imagine what it's like to not be a 10 on here

But really, looks aren't everything, a little personality goes a long way

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By *rtyIanMan
27 weeks ago

Gateway to the Beacons


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

"

Fuck I got none of that I’m doomed

I still say my gravy beats yours

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

Fuck I got none of that I’m doomed

I still say my gravy beats yours "

See… humour 🤣🤣🤣

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By *hunky GentMan
27 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

"

Damn.

I'll get me coat

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
27 weeks ago

Reading

Very few of the men I havve met would people categorise as a 10/10 physically so we all look for something different. Personality and location are more important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"So think I came accross this site about a year ago now, rejoined recently and still finding it hard work! Haha

Like how on earth has any guy who's not a 10/10 met someone 🤷

Women get 100s of messages so even getting a reply is a slim chance. Decent idea for a site/app, but in reality I wonder how effective it is...

I predict less then 10% of people meet, what we thinking? 🤔

I've been here 17 years now. I'm definitely closer to a 5 than a 10.

In that time I've met lots of people, both for socials and sex. I've found FB's, FWB's, a wife and am currently very, very happy with two partners.

None of it happened just because I set up a profile and posted a few photos. 🤷‍♂️

"

You’re a solid 7.5 and I’d round that up. So you’re closer to 10 ❤️😂

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

"

But are any of them fit?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

"

I think I am 'the one' aren't I?

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
27 weeks ago

Sussex

My thoughts are:

Get yourself to a social in your area.

If there are no regular socials in your area, then start one yourself. Invite everyone, rather than just single women or whoever you are wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

But are any of them fit? "

To me - all of them are fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

I think I am 'the one' aren't I?"

That’s partly your problem, my little fenac fox. You always think you’re “the one” 🤣

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

"

Agreed

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
27 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

I think I am 'the one' aren't I?

That’s partly your problem, my little fenac fox. You always think you’re “the one” 🤣"

And I thought it was the 'standards' part that I slipped up on with you 😉

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

But are any of them fit?

To me - all of them are fit. "

Well OP, there you go, women go for fitties.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

Agreed"

You are weird though

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The men I’ve met (or currently want to meet) have had

* interesting profiles

* interesting conversation

* respect (with the exception of one

)

* humour

* standards

* wit

Very little to do with someone else’s idea of aesthetics.

Agreed

You are weird though "

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

I think yout need time and patience. I've had 4 meets from here over the last 4 years that I've been on / off this site.

I don't really put much effort in trying to meet to be honest, 2 times I just happened to be online when people have used the 'nearby' function when they, the other 2 have been local women that I've ended uo chatting to.

I guess not being desperate and pushy has helped.

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By *rHotNottsMan
27 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You’re probably best not concerning yourself how successful others are,,how many messages women get etc it’s all irrelevant to how you do.

I’m definitely not 10/10 and have never had a problem meeting people.

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