FabSwingers.com forum: Do you care what you look like?

By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 weeks ago

Ends

When you leave the house I mean

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I do

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By *orthern StarsCouple
3 weeks ago

Durham

Most definitely. Those who leave the house in pyjamas to go shopping, do the school run is just wrong. Height of laziness.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
3 weeks ago

North West

Yep I do care what I look like.

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By *onkeynutWoman
3 weeks ago

somewhere

I wouldn’t say I don’t care, I mostly make an effort but I have no problem leaving the house in a hoodie/leggings etc with no makeup on and my hair swept back without even looking in the mirror.

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By *sWyldWoman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes I do.

Some days I go out to walk the dog looking like death but she loves me anyway.

However I spend so much of my time never feeling good enough and hating how I look that, I have to try to look ok.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
3 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

It depends on what I’m leaving the house for, if it’s going out going out then I ensure I’m presentable ( although my parameters for this may be different to others) if it’s just going to work or the shops then I’m not bothered what I look like.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
3 weeks ago

cardiff

Yes!!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I can’t lie, yes.

Even in work mode I like to look good but like it’s an effortless good, ruffled hair and an irresistible smile.

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By *hesblokeMan
3 weeks ago

Derbyshire village

Kind of, I don't go about in shorts, don't ever go shirtless and that sort of thing, but day to day I don't dress to impress others or anything.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

Yes. It gives me a feeling of reassurance within my fragility.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

In glam mode, most definitely. I owe it to those who meet me to look as good as I can

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By *herrybakewellCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Absolutely.

My mental health occasionally isn't great, and something I've been told is that to feel good in yourself you need to start off by looking good.

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Yes

Although it depends on why I’m leaving the house. If I’m heading out to pick up bales of straw for the chickens I care a lot less than if I was going into town

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By *octor WhenMan
3 weeks ago

GLASGOW

Yes absolutely.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
3 weeks ago

The Continental

Not always.

If I’m meeting people, I’ll make some effort. If not, then I’ll bung on my comfies and to hell with strangers opinions.

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By *oughmanMan
3 weeks ago

Sunderland

I'm starting too again. Never really bothered in the past.

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By *urry BlokeMan
3 weeks ago

Stalybridge

In the words of Rita Rudner...

"In front of the man I love, I can look my worst. In front of people I will never see again, I need to look my best"

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By *.hrisMan
3 weeks ago

Nearby

Well I'm always showered and dressed appropriately when I leave the house. But apart from that I don't really care

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

Southampton

Not really, but it depends what I'm leaving the house for lol...

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By *obilebottomMan
3 weeks ago

All over

I think most people will do and as someone said will differ depending on where you are going. Certainly not with hair rollers on (not that I use them) as some people do. Each to their own but my norm is smart casual unless going somewhere thar requires different atire.

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By *ad NannaWoman
3 weeks ago

East London

No. I dress for comfort. I brush my hair if I go out, though.

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By *ustcallMan
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always look your best, you never know who you’re going to meet

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By *imon_hydeMan
3 weeks ago

Stockport

I do and I don't. I like to feel good about myself and I dress in clothes that I like. I'm not that bothered what other people think of me though. Age is a liberating thing!

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
3 weeks ago

Reading

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By *heLeadbettersCouple
3 weeks ago

Reading

"When you leave the house I mean"

Going to work, yes.

Going out for the evening, yes.

Lazing about at home, no fucks given.

Jerry

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Depends on what I'm doing. I wear similar clothes most of the time, regardless of plans, so that's not too much hassle. If I'm exercising, then I don't really care too much, as I end up a sweaty mess anyway lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes.

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By *lder budweiserMan
3 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

Can't do anything about the ugly mug but I'm never dressed like a scruff if I'm out and about

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do you Mr P? I bet you do.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
3 weeks ago

Swansea

I used to be far too concerned and very self conscious. I wouldn't put the bins out without make-up on. Now I don't care, I dress and present myself appropriately for the occasion. Although I do put minimum make-up on to go to the gym, yet I don't when I go outdoors for a run. I'm getting more comfortable now to go out and about without make-up on.

Mrs

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 weeks ago

Ends

"Do you Mr P? I bet you do. "

I really do. I hate going out looking like, as my mum and nan might say, a raggamuffin.

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By *rtyIanMan
3 weeks ago

Gateway to the Beacons

Being an eq squaddie it’s habit

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By *a LunaWoman
3 weeks ago

South Wales

I put effort in when I need to, but I’m happiest when I look like I’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 weeks ago

Ends

"I put effort in when I need to, but I’m happiest when I look like I’ve been shagged through a hedge backwards.

👀

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Do you Mr P? I bet you do.

I really do. I hate going out looking like, as my mum and nan might say, a raggamuffin. "

. A ragamuffin I haven't heard that for a while. Your mum and nan are legends

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By *ell GwynnWoman
3 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Yes, I like to be fairly presentable, yet comfortable.

In the past I had real problems with being self-conscious about my appearance as a parent said many unkind things. It took years to realise they were just a douche bag, and that not everyone was looking at me with the same thoughts running through their heads.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
3 weeks ago

furnace

"Yes, I like to be fairly presentable, yet comfortable.

I always like

To look presentable guess I’m old fashioned in that way

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
3 weeks ago

Essex

Yes. Very much.

I’m not vain as such.

And not traditionally pretty. But I have my own unique style, which I spend time on.

I like to look **my** personal brand of best.

My best version of me.

And I also think if you’re meeting someone - it’s polite to show them that you think they deserve your effort.

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By *ickshawedCouple
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Absolutely. And may I just say that I rock the jogging bottoms and hoodie look on the school run

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
3 weeks ago

hexham

"When you leave the house I mean"

I am embarrassed to say, yes I do!

I never used to think I was vain but Rachaelmay has pointed out to me that I am… and I have to say, I think she is right … I am not proud of myself !

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By *aybeLadyWoman
3 weeks ago

West Dublin

To a point yes. I wont go out scruffy but I dont go out in full make up and done up.

No one is looking at me & Im just normally getting food etc. If I'm out for longer or meeting someone, I will of course make an effort.

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By *he ShivsCouple
3 weeks ago

Fife

Since the people who work at my local shop can’t see my answer, yes I do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do you care what you look like to yourself more than what you look like to others?

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By *nya NeesWoman
3 weeks ago

Brum

Today..no

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By *rincipessaWoman
3 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

Well I don’t wear make up anyway and I have been known to pin up my hair without brushing it. So I guess I don’t give a fuck. Although I’ve never gone out in pjs, but I don’t wear those either 😆

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By *nnCeeWoman
3 weeks ago

East of Eden, West of Hell

"Do you Mr P? I bet you do.

I really do. I hate going out looking like, as my mum and nan might say, a raggamuffin. "

I don't think you'd ever look like a raggamuffin, Pickle.

I wouldn't ever go out (apart from to the bin) in jammies; but if I'm out of milk, for instance, and need to whip to the shop, I'll throw on trackie bums and a hoodie.

For work, it's always smart casual; otherwise it depends where I'm off to.

But always washed and brushed (unless previous point applies)

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
3 weeks ago

your head

Depends why I'm leaving the house.

I never have and never will go outside in my PJs but I don't tart myself up to do the school run. It's rare I dress up nowadays anyway. I'm usually knocking around in leggings or jeans and trainers. I don't wear make up and I rarely do my hair other than tie it up. I don't particularly care what people think about how I look, the scarier the better then they will leave me alone.

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By *outhlondondudeMan
3 weeks ago

london

I like looking smart, it is like my armour out in the World. If I am to be judged on how I look then I want to look good!

I tend to be quite conservative in my dress, with mainly greys and blues. I envy men who are able to carry of style statements with say a shaven head and full beard.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

I tend to always wear shorts and a hoody. What i lack in effort pinky makes up for. An let's be honest it's the women that we like to look at.

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By *ony MannMan
3 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I go out comfortable, if you don't like that don't shagg me.

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By *ife NinjaMan
3 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Indeed I do

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
3 weeks ago

Ends

"I go out comfortable, if you don't like that don't shagg me."

I like this comment very much

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By *iss DevilWoman
3 weeks ago

Bedford

Yes, I do, not extensively though. I stopped wearing make up, even for club visits, a year or so ago (never did the "wallpaper style" make up anyway), so what you see is what you get. Clothes- when I'm working, I need to be comfortable and it needs to be something that it's not going to be a huge issue if it gets dirty.

As I live in jeans/leggings and trainers during the week, I do like to dress up a little bit at the weekends.

If I'm clubbing, then my attire will depend on whether it's a dress down club or not, but will still not be just jeans/leggings and a T-shirt or jumper.

My hair- most of the time, I don't care as long as it's tidy and not in my face all the time.

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By *xperiencing-newCouple
3 weeks ago

Nottingham

Care based on my own opinion or that of others? If it's my opinion the only worry is am I comfortable. (Warm, comfortable clothing etc) other than that no, I'll happily wear black blue and brown together of I'm comfortable lol.

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By *ildatheart30Couple
3 weeks ago

Gorebridge

Yes but sometimes you wouldn't think so

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By *innamon_flameWoman
3 weeks ago

london

I do but I still leave anyway.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Naaaah, I know I can't improve on perfection.

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By *ucka39Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle

Sure I do, it helps with confidence within oneself and a I always bump into someone I seem to know. Plus shopping I never where it takes me, swingers do go shopping 😂🤣

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By *avexxMan
3 weeks ago

cheshire

when going out for the evening always casual smart..

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By *orphia2003Woman
3 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Depends the purpose of leaving house. If I'm just going to corner shop, I don't care

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By *emorefridaCouple
3 weeks ago

La la land

Yes I care, I wouldn't go out with a food stained top for example. I'm more than happy to go out minus make up, but I do like wearing it also, depends on here I am going.

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By *ojangles69Woman
3 weeks ago

Milton Keynes

"Not always.

If I’m meeting people, I’ll make some effort. If not, then I’ll bung on my comfies and to hell with strangers opinions. "

This for sure!! Hair slept back hat on make up what's that then??

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By *ray_BTWMan
3 weeks ago

Worcester

Always take pride in my appearance be it going shopping or a night out.

You'll never see me going out in trainers or trackies unless going the gym

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By *layfullsamMan
3 weeks ago

Solihull

Definitely

The overall standard of dress sense and people caring is pretty dam awful I think, especially Vs some previous generations

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By *riar BelisseWoman
3 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Nope. I'm just as happy going to maccy d's in my pjs, as wearing a very smart dress in tescos.

It all purely depends what mood I am in

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester

Even if I'm in my casuals I always make sure I look at least presentable if I leave the house. Gremlin mode is reserved for indoors only.

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By *usie pTV/TS
3 weeks ago

taunton

It's quite a shock nowadays if you are just generally out and about and you happen to notice someone smartly dresed, they look out of place lol.

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By *ansoffateMan
3 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"I wouldn’t say I don’t care, I mostly make an effort but I have no problem leaving the house in a hoodie/leggings etc with no makeup on and my hair swept back without even looking in the mirror."

That pretty much encapsulates my philosophy on the subject.

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. I'm clean. I don't smell. Leave me be.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Yeah, I care.

But I also wear lipstick and lingerie for lazing around the house days.

I like to look good for me. Whether other people see or appreciate it isn't the point 💜

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By *igglesssMan
3 weeks ago

bradford

Always make sure I am presentable even going to shop.

Can’t be looking scruffy.

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By *ansoffateMan
3 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"Yeah, I care.

But I also wear lipstick and lingerie for lazing around the house days.

I like to look good for me. Whether other people see or appreciate it isn't the point 💜"

I admire that desire to put such effort in just for oneself.

I'd do it if it was additive for me, but I am at my happiest clean and comfy in my hoodie and slippers 😆

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Yeah, I care.

But I also wear lipstick and lingerie for lazing around the house days.

I like to look good for me. Whether other people see or appreciate it isn't the point 💜

I admire that desire to put such effort in just for oneself.

I'd do it if it was additive for me, but I am at my happiest clean and comfy in my hoodie and slippers 😆"

And there's nothing wrong with that approach either. I don't care what people wear so long as they're happy and comfortable, and appropriately covered for the context 💜

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By *inkShyWoman
3 weeks ago

near Windsor

Yes, but I don't get dolled up to go to the Local shop.

I used to wear make up every day, hair done etc, but I am much more confident now and I am happy to go out with no make up on, in jeans and jumper with a messy bun. People think I'm 15-20 years younger than I am so I'll carry on as long as I can. 😆

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By *yrdsisWoman
3 weeks ago

Gleam Street

Kind of... My face... Is what it is

Hair is brushed, clothes are clean and ironed... Beyond that? Not much thought

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 weeks ago

North West

"When you leave the house I mean"

Mostly, yes. I am less concerned when just dropping off at school, though I always get properly dressed. Now I have to come home after the school run for a shower on certain days and so I'm having to tolerate the crazy hair that I'd previously have not tolerated.

I do try and make an effort to look presentable, no matter what.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

At home/local shop i'm in my comfy clothes, anywhere else i make an effort.

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By *aryportmeatMan
3 weeks ago

Maryport

Na, I just wing it, I tidy up well but if not bothering then I’m Mostly ZEF

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