FabSwingers.com forum: As an Indian bloke I'm fed up

By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

More of a rant

I'm fed up of seeing requests where women just want a tall hung BBC OR BWC and Indian men are always at the bottom of the pecking order

Doesn't help being Indian as naturally our dicks are not as large as the rest of the demographics (generally speaking)

Also many Indians on here bring a bad reputation which makes it harder for the good ones to sell themselfes.

I've come on here just to find a simple girl to have a regular fwb with... but just feels like I've messaged half the fab community near London and no one seems interested/lack of interest in my profile.

It's not as if I'm super fat and don't take care of myself,I genuinely want to have some fun with the right lady I.e. a regular fwb but competition is sky high.

I've tried setting up an Asian social as well but no luck in getting enough interest from a mix of couples, this was an attempt just to do something different.

So there you go

Not sure if you guys can suggest any solutions/options?

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By *ampireLoveMan
3 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

I suggest not worrying about race. Go to a social near you, be yourself and enjoy without any expectation. Let your personality shine!

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

If a profile has requirements that you don’t fit, just scroll on. It would seem counterproductive to message people who have those sorts of exclusions…. Especially those who exclude based on race. Why would you want to meet a lady or couple that is prejudiced against Asian people?

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
3 weeks ago

the moon

Maybe it’s your veris pal 🤷‍♂️

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By *old MemberMan
3 weeks ago

Worcester

You maybe should read your profile, there is at least one word that I think does quite a lot of damage to your personality. Also a level of understanding that the ladies on the forum receive hundreds of emails a week, they can afford to be picky. Your best option would be to go to a club and introduce yourself that way.

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By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

Thanks for the input guys... I probably will have to go to a social then

What socials are out there in South East and London?

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By *batMan
3 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

You're a young guy and I think the profile may be lacking in maturity for some readers.

I wonder how many "chicks" are going to actually read it?

And really, what legal action are you going to take? That stuff is just drivel and a sign of gullibility. Which solicitor's office are you going to go into and show them your swinging website content that's been nicked? And how will they take legal action against me, sitting here in Spain?

And are you really straight? Honesty is the best policy here, even if that closes some doors to you.

I'm sorry that you have to consider your race may be a factor here. That's a difficult thing to deal with for you. But regardless of your race, the profile doesn't read too well in my opinion and it may be that which is the problem.

Get to a social or a club.

Best of luck.

Gbat

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By *am87Man
3 weeks ago

currently near you

Take it easy, try a club. You all find people who want to fuck you

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

I've really dithered about how to reply to this but @Gbat summed it up perfectly. It's 'sort of' true that being Asian ·can· be a hindrance, however there are some glaring anomalies in your profile that need fixing in the first instance; being Asian is the least of your worries. Redux your profile immediately. 🌈

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By *parkle1974Woman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

For a start...you have said you're straight on your profile but have been verified by TV's.....

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By *onkeynutWoman
3 weeks ago

somewhere

Or maybe it’s nothing to do with race.

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By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

Just sorted my profile now and matured it up... hopefully that should be sorted

What socials are going on in the south east?

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By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

What clubs would you recommend? I'm not after the extreme ones I.e. torture garden lol

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By *929Man
3 weeks ago

bedlington

Don’t worry mate I’m sure on fab India the pecking order is reversed and Indian fellas are at the top

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By *batMan
3 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

"Don’t worry mate I’m sure on fab India the pecking order is reversed and Indian fellas are at the top "

How's that going to help him in the UK?

Gbat

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Just sorted my profile now and matured it up... hopefully that should be sorted

What socials are going on in the south east?"

OP...it still needs work. Lots of it. 🩶

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By *ampireLoveMan
3 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

"If a profile has requirements that you don’t fit, just scroll on. It would seem counterproductive to message people who have those sorts of exclusions…. Especially those who exclude based on race. Why would you want to meet a lady or couple that is prejudiced against Asian people?

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

Who’s Viking?!? 😂😂😂

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By *naswingdressWoman
3 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's hard for everyone here. And not everyone is looking for a big dick of any persuasion.

Remove the disclaimers, they're nonsense.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
3 weeks ago

the moon

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

Who’s Viking?!? 😂😂😂"

Has to be YOU 😂

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By *929Man
3 weeks ago

bedlington

"Don’t worry mate I’m sure on fab India the pecking order is reversed and Indian fellas are at the top

How's that going to help him in the UK?

Gbat"

I think it was perfectly clear the post wasn’t intended to be helpful

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By *assy LassieWoman
3 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

All that 'good' advice. He's now sanitised his profile. Hidden his veris and any red flags are gone. Wish folk would stop telling others how to nice up their profile. Let their own personality shine through.... it's normally a great filter. 🤷‍♀️

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By *ampireLoveMan
3 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

Who’s Viking?!? 😂😂😂

Has to be YOU 😂"

I so want a beard like one but can’t get past the itching stage in week 2! 😂🤦🏽‍♂️

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I bet it's more to do with your height rather than looks or background.

Men who are smaller than average will generally have more difficulties standing out

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By *igad999Man
3 weeks ago

wolverhampton

"More of a rant

I'm fed up of seeing requests where women just want a tall hung BBC OR BWC and Indian men are always at the bottom of the pecking order

Doesn't help being Indian as naturally our dicks are not as large as the rest of the demographics (generally speaking)

Also many Indians on here bring a bad reputation which makes it harder for the good ones to sell themselfes.

It's not as if I'm super fat and don't take care of myself,I genuinely want to have some fun with the right lady I.e. a regular fwb but competition is sky high.

I've tried setting up an Asian social as well but no luck in getting enough interest from a mix of couples, this was an attempt just to do something different.

So there you go

Not sure if you guys can suggest any solutions/options?

Tbf mate you say about size.

We are all different big / small no matter what race I’ve seen big and small on everyone

Hopefully you’ve took advice on the profile here and something works out

Whilst on the Indian subject can’t hide the fact Indian women are super hot 🔥

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By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

Fair play... indian girls are the hottest in my opinion

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

Who’s Viking?!? 😂😂😂"

autocorrect I’m sorry

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By *uck NorrisMan
3 weeks ago

st helens

"All that 'good' advice. He's now sanitised his profile. Hidden his veris and any red flags are gone. Wish folk would stop telling others how to nice up their profile. Let their own personality shine through.... it's normally a great filter. 🤷‍♀️"

This 👆🏻

If a grown man can’t work out how to be honest and write a brief bit about them I’m not going to help them.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

This! I always say this.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
3 weeks ago

Southampton

"Just sorted my profile now and matured it up... hopefully that should be sorted

What socials are going on in the south east?"

Have a look in the meet request thread on the forum, there's bound to be something going on. good luck

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By *armandwet50Couple
3 weeks ago

Far far away

This

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I got hammered on here a few years ago for saying I refused to give profile advice for these reasons.

I was told that not everyone had a way with words or were good at presenting themselves in the best light and I should be more understanding.

My thinking was that they had done a perfect job of presenting their true selves right up to the point where the advisory committee stepped in.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

London has its own forum so check it for socials.

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I got hammered on here a few years ago for saying I refused to give profile advice for these reasons.

I was told that not everyone had a way with words or were good at presenting themselves in the best light and I should be more understanding.

My thinking was that they had done a perfect job of presenting their true selves right up to the point where the advisory committee stepped in. "

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By *reative-mindMan
3 weeks ago

Exeter

Ah man, you're profile and pics are great! You're not going to be to everyone liking, it took me ages to realise that it's not worth caring.

You be you and you do you (so to speak).

I'm Irish with an Anxiety issue so I assume being Indian is probably well above me on people's list of things they are looking for!

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By *entlemanrogueMan
3 weeks ago

Motherwell

"More of a rant

I'm fed up of seeing requests where women just want a tall hung BBC OR BWC and Indian men are always at the bottom of the pecking order

Doesn't help being Indian as naturally our dicks are not as large as the rest of the demographics (generally speaking)

Also many Indians on here bring a bad reputation which makes it harder for the good ones to sell themselfes.

It's not as if I'm super fat and don't take care of myself,I genuinely want to have some fun with the right lady I.e. a regular fwb but competition is sky high.

I've tried setting up an Asian social as well but no luck in getting enough interest from a mix of couples, this was an attempt just to do something different.

So there you go

Not sure if you guys can suggest any solutions/options?

Go to swingers clubs/events and socials. meet people in the real world.

also I think posts like this would put many women off as well.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
3 weeks ago

North West

Your profile and pics seem fine to me. If is difficult on here as a single guy. So don't take it to heart. Not all women or couples are after BWC or BBC, only a select few.

Judging from what the forums and women I've interacted with, most are just after someone they have chemistry with.

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By *othwaysnudeMan
3 weeks ago

chesterfield

Happy to chat mate you and stout cock are one but two separate things

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By *r TriomanMan
3 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Hello OP,

I wouldn't normally look at a guys profile (as I only interested in women and MF couples) but as this thread invites people to do so I took a peak.

From your pictures you come across as a good looking fun person; the best way to monopolise on this would be ,as others have said, to get yourself to a club or a social.

I've never been to it (I hope to some day) but there a Swingers spa / club near Heathrow that gets great reviews; maybe consider going there in the daytime, chill out and make connections. Good luck.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, your profile is much improved. 🌈🌈

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By *egasus NobMan
3 weeks ago

Wandsworth

The best place to meet is either club or social 80/20%

Online is usually one off

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By *urry BlokeMan
3 weeks ago

Stalybridge

OP, you can't change who you are - at least physically

I'm never going to be in my 30's again or have a full head of hair. I'm never going to be any taller and my balls go a bit further south every day

In terms of 'pecking orders' I am kinda down the bottom

I can't change who I am though, so why sweat it?

I am loved, I give love, I am happy. I am settled, I take enjoyment from the simplest things in life

So what if there are more people out there who won't meet me, than there are who will?

Beating yourself up is just that, you are the only one that suffers

Also, "woe is me" posts are rarely a good look

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By *ists003 OP Man
3 weeks ago

London

Appreciate all the messages guys and girls as its helped a lot.... just need to get down to a club or social in london

Can anyone recommend any good places though?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I didn’t read your original, pre-sanitised, profile. I don’t give profile advice. I’m just not invested in this site enough to even give my own a fresh lick of bland as possible paint.

But trying not to put anyone off will just put everyone off. You don’t have to be Motörhead, but don’t go all Val Doonican cos a few people want it quieter. Be yourself, as you are. A lot of people won’t be into it, that’s just how life is. But sone will and those are the ones you want to meet.

That’s it. I was gonna put this is my mums birthday card but you seem more in need of it.

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By *iking_WitchWoman
3 weeks ago

Hinckley

As Viking said, get along to some of the socials. Let your personality shine.

Who’s Viking?!? 😂😂😂"

Me.... 😄 but I didn't write anything until now. 🤣

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By *anted by NightMan
3 weeks ago

Shangri-La

This

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 weeks ago

The West

Hiding your verifications will be just as much of a red flag for some as having ones that contradict your profile.

Just be honest dude. Anyone that wants to meet you is very likely to ask why your versis are hidden anyway.

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By *henzeMan
2 weeks ago

Oxford

As someone pointed here about your height, that's not necessarily true. I am 6ft all and been told have a decent size down there yet I find it difficult to meet people. I think it is difficult for all the single males despite their ethnicities unless someone is exceptionally handsome or big (not everyone cares about the biggest dick though).

Also, I don't think it's about size (unless someone is exceptionally huge). Anyways average penis size in India is bigger than that in the UK(check any reliable statistics).

It's just that it is extreme difficulty to get meets as a single male here. Just like dating apps, a large proportion of fab is single males so couples and women are generally overwhelmed with messages.

I was talking to a couple last week during a meet who mentioned how many messages they get and they often miss genuine guys as they don't bother reading/replying to hundreds of messages.

If you are an extrovert who likes socials, then going for a social swingers party/meet would be a great option. I am a confident but an introvert guy so I find it draining to have a conversation if there are too many people however I enjoy the social part as well if there are 2-3 people involved. I have been lucky enough to meet some amazing people on and off of fab.

If you are someone who does enjoys socials, my advise would be just be yourself. You may not attract the a large number of people but you will attract the right ones.

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By *ympho6969Woman
2 weeks ago

glasgow

I've never let something like race affect whether I chat to someone. I've had bad meets with white men and Indians, and a few others. A few bad apples doesn't mean the whole lot are bad.

If you're struggling I wouldn't blame race

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By *ackformore100Man
2 weeks ago

Tin town

Looks like being yourself hasn't worked so well. It's the reality. Sad but true. Set your expectations very low and you might be surprised. But madness is doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. So forget fab for a while and go old skool and actually meet face to face. Socials on here or probably better still off of here. Above all try not stressing about it. It Will just make you unhappy.

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