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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
5 weeks ago

Ends

When did you stop caring what others think about you? Around what age?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

The first time I articulated it I was 18, on a bus and a guy in our group offered to tell each if us his honest thoughts about us. I was the only one who said no, because I didn't care.

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By *vaRose43Woman
5 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

When I hit 40 and realised there was a lot I wanted to try when I was younger that I’d never done and it was all because of fears about what others may have thought

I decided to live with a “fuck it” attitude ever since

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
5 weeks ago

Cheshire

Once I realised a person’s could have a motive for asking me a question. You can be asked something because that person is interested and empathetic so they want to garner knowledge.

However on the flip side it could be because they want you to provide the stick to beat you with.

I think I came to this conclusion quite early so around my 30’s.

So until I know their motives I couldn’t give a fuck what they think of me or what I do.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
5 weeks ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
5 weeks ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

"When I hit 40 and realised there was a lot I wanted to try when I was younger that I’d never done and it was all because of fears about what others may have thought

I decided to live with a “fuck it” attitude ever since "

I quite like my 40s fuck it attitude too!

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By *enk15Man
5 weeks ago

Evesham

People around me seem to think that I don't care what other people think of me. But that's not true, I care very much... I care so much that I completely stay away from them for fear of saying something stupid.

A random person on the street or internet? No, I don't really care.

But people in a community or group I want to be apart of? yes, I do care.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

I don't think I've fully gotten there but I definitely started after therapy a few years ago. When I started realising that other people's expectations of me didn't align with what I wanted or needed.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
5 weeks ago

Ipswich

When I hit 50 don’t really care what other people think anymore as you get older like water off ducks back

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

I care what my loved ones think about me though.

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By *ruceyyMan
5 weeks ago

London

"When did you stop caring what others think about you? Around what age? "

Definitely around 30.

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By *mf123Man
5 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Are we talking strangers or people we know if its strangers probly about 6 but saying that im one of those blessed people with a disconected filter and a general lack of morality or humanity people i like i care a little cos i get mad at myself if im the cause of pain

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By *ongandharderMan
5 weeks ago

Rotherham

About 18

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By *oeBeansMan
5 weeks ago

Derby

I'll let you know when I get there

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By *he ShivsCouple
5 weeks ago

Fife

30.

I think 30 is a good age to stop giving a shit about what other people think. I still have a wobble every now and then. For the most part though, I no longer care.

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By *anonfire96Man
5 weeks ago

Mansfield

To a certain extent I still do care.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
5 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Honestly for me it was when I hit 60,I just thought why worry about what others think about me

Life really it to short to waste time on things that really arnt important at all

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple
5 weeks ago

N. Wales

36! I'll be 37 next week, so it took until last year. I do care what people I love/like think about me. I can't see that changing, but I do have a more "fuck it" approach now, and it feels so good!

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By *empest2KMan
5 weeks ago

Derby

"When did you stop caring what others think about you? Around what age? "

I've not really stopped caring, but I do care less what others think of me, especially once I hit my mid-forties.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
5 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I care. I’ve always cared what people close to me think. Strangers, I’m not sure I’ve ever really cared. Ive never really been one to conform, even when I was young.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I care. I’ve always cared what people close to me think. Strangers, I’m not sure I’ve ever really cared. Ive never really been one to conform, even when I was young. "

I think everyone except people with personality disorders cares what their loved ones and close friends think.

Whenever someone asks me if I care what others think of me I automatically assume probably wrongly they mean strangers and acquaintances.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
5 weeks ago

Durham

We always will care to a certain extent, and it's especially important what our family and friends think about us.

We care to how we comes across to strangers in a club for example, so we always dress well as first impressions matter.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
5 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I care. I’ve always cared what people close to me think. Strangers, I’m not sure I’ve ever really cared. Ive never really been one to conform, even when I was young.

I think everyone except people with personality disorders cares what their loved ones and close friends think.

Whenever someone asks me if I care what others think of me I automatically assume probably wrongly they mean strangers and acquaintances. "

True. I do find as I’ve got older that I really do care less and less though. And my tolerance levels are nothing like they were, also my confidence is much better. I wonder why this happens when we’re older when it would have been handy earlier on 🤣

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By *icecouple561Couple
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5 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I care. I’ve always cared what people close to me think. Strangers, I’m not sure I’ve ever really cared. Ive never really been one to conform, even when I was young.

I think everyone except people with personality disorders cares what their loved ones and close friends think.

Whenever someone asks me if I care what others think of me I automatically assume probably wrongly they mean strangers and acquaintances.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

Im not sure one ever does. You care less as you grown older.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 weeks ago

Castlebar

Sometimes I care, sometimes I don't.

Depends on who it is and whether it's someone I care about, and probably on my mood too 🙄

I do care much less now about what random people think than I did 10 years ago..

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By *oughmanMan
5 weeks ago

Sunderland

About 15. I was never very popular or fit in anywhere anyway.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenic OP Man
5 weeks ago

Ends

"I'll let you know when I get there

My guy.

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By *hank you sirMan
5 weeks ago

colchester

15 I suddenly became desensitised to the bullying and came back to school for my last year not giving a fuck.

That attitude seemed to work because the bullying suddenly stopped and I've not given a shit what people think of me ever since

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By *ad NannaWoman
5 weeks ago

East London

Apart from one time I can remember when there was a Christmas dance at the local club where all my friends and neighbours were going, where I only had an awful outdated dress to wear, and all my friends had the latest outfits, I don't remember caring about what people thought of me.

I got over the embarrassment of wearing a terrible, drab dress quickly as no one else cared. My friends and schoolmates all had better clothes than me, until I could borrow my sister's stuff without her knowing.

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By *ad NannaWoman
5 weeks ago

East London

I've always wanted to please my parents and let them down badly as a teenager.

They didn't show it, though, and it didn't really affect me enough for me to worry after them finding out.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
5 weeks ago

On Holibobs

Aged 18 when I moved out of the abusive family home. I was reborn that day and have never looked back

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By *an8iMan
5 weeks ago

Bilston

Apart from family and friends I don't think I've ever cared what people think of me, im friendly with everyone till they give me a reason not to be.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
5 weeks ago

cardiff

I do care I'm afraid

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

I never gave a fuck if I'm honest. Still don't.

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