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Can you explain what sapiosexual means?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago

I’m a little confused

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By *mf123Man
27 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Likes golf

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
27 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

It means you smart innit

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By *my-blackTV/TS
27 weeks ago

Poole

It means you fancy Einstein

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By *oeBeansMan
27 weeks ago

Derby

Tease the mind and body will follow or some pretentious bollocks like that

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Doesn't it mean you're turned on by intelligence.....?

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Are we defining things based on what they mean? Or their common usage?

In common usage, I'd say it means pretentiousness. People who weren't out the back smoking during their GCSEs and thinking that means they're a professor in something. Looking for people who have similarly crawled up their own arses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"It means you fancy Einstein "

I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"Tease the mind and body will follow or some pretentious bollocks like that "

Eat pray love

Or

Live laugh love

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By *my-blackTV/TS
27 weeks ago

Poole


"It means you fancy Einstein

I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein "

Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box .

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By *estructionDollyWoman
27 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

You read books and get ideas above your station 😉

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By *WANDTGCouple
27 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

People who love intelligence over physical attraction

On that assumption, they should choose; Stephen Hawking , Albert Einstein or Rowan Atkinson over Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp or Steve McQueen.

Obviously there are handsome clever men out there as well.

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By *eliWoman
27 weeks ago

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It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.

You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
27 weeks ago

West Dublin

An intellect turns you on.

I can be like this tbh. An intelligent conversation/guy makes him more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.

You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."

Literally my favourite thing is that people say they’re sapio but the person still has to be hot. I’m attracted to intelligent hot people. I’m not attracted to intelligence.

No but seriously I’m interested to know what it means to different people

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

A word people use to think they’re better than others

Define intelligence?

A degree. A doctorate. Or no formal education but is outstanding in what they do

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

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By *eroLondonMan
27 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.

You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."

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I agree with this.

It's a boilerplate of pretentiousness, sometimes found on profiles as an inference to erudition for no purpose whatsoever. It's like having a product that's made in China but festooned with a badge that says "Designed in Paris".

I've spoken to women who had sapiosexual on their profiles but after a little dialogue it was clear they were more sap and a lot less sexual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"People who love intelligence over physical attraction

On that assumption, they should choose; Stephen Hawking , Albert Einstein or Rowan Atkinson over Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp or Steve McQueen.

Obviously there are handsome clever men out there as well. "

I’ve definitely found myself attracted to not traditionally attractive people because of their intelligence. But I’m definitely not sapiosexual. I am a shallow shallow man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo""

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

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By *eroLondonMan
27 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo""

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I'm metrosexual and proud of it. I can prove it too: the price tag far exceeds the quality of (some) of my skincare products. 😘

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising. "

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

·

I'm metrosexual and proud of it. I can prove it too: the price tag far exceeds the quality of (some) of my skincare products. 😘"

you're just posh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO"

Pause.

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause. "

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic

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By *oeBeansMan
27 weeks ago

Derby


"Tease the mind and body will follow or some pretentious bollocks like that

Eat pray love

Or

Live laugh love "

Whatever looks better hanging over the mantelpiece

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause.

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic "

Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think

Well my brother’s generation did anyway

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By *mf123Man
27 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

People who dont speak cave man like me

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By *olinOfBathMan
27 weeks ago

Corsham

Once upon a long ago, I gave in to a colleague's regular pleas and accompanied her to a barbecue. So? So, it was the monthly social of the local branch of Mensa, of which she was a member.

I have had business meetings with a manufacturer of traffic cones - yes, literally true - which were more interesting.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
27 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

I believe the number of genuinely sapiosexual people is significantly smaller than those who claim to be. Just liking your date to have an IQ higher than 100 and be able to hold a conversation, as one of many attributes, doesn't mean make you sapiosexual. It's just become a trendy/fashionable buzzword.

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By *vaRoseWoman
27 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

I think it’s a term misappropriated by those who think that not wanting to fuck someone who is vain and shallow makes them sapiosexual. I’ve also seen it used by those who will exclude anyone without a degree. Sadly that misappropriation means if I see it used I roll my eyes and think pretentious twat…. Despite me being very attracted to people’s minds.

It really depends on what people define as intelligence.

Academic qualifications are one thing but intelligence to me is so much more than that. Their career is irrelevant.

A sharp inquisitive mind that’s always questioning and examining (including challenging themselves and others), a lust for learning (I don’t care if it’s a new recipe, a knitting pattern or you’re completing your masters in neuroscience), a clever wit that doesn’t punch down and finally emotional intelligence and maturity count for a lot.

Does that exclude physical attraction? No of course not. It means I want both.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
27 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think it’s a term misappropriated by those who think that not wanting to fuck someone who is vain and shallow makes them sapiosexual. I’ve also seen it used by those who will exclude anyone without a degree. Sadly that misappropriation means if I see it used I roll my eyes and think pretentious twat…. Despite me being very attracted to people’s minds.

It really depends on what people define as intelligence.

Academic qualifications are one thing but intelligence to me is so much more than that. Their career is irrelevant.

A sharp inquisitive mind that’s always questioning and examining (including challenging themselves and others), a lust for learning (I don’t care if it’s a new recipe, a knitting pattern or you’re completing your masters in neuroscience), a clever wit that doesn’t punch down and finally emotional intelligence and maturity count for a lot.

Does that exclude physical attraction? No of course not. It means I want both.

"

THREAD CLOSED, OP

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By *an8iMan
27 weeks ago

Bilston


"Are we defining things based on what they mean? Or their common usage?

In common usage, I'd say it means pretentiousness. People who weren't out the back smoking during their GCSEs and thinking that means they're a professor in something. Looking for people who have similarly crawled up their own arses."

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause.

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic

Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think

Well my brother’s generation did anyway"

Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause.

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic

Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think

Well my brother’s generation did anyway

Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt."

You want the belt do you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"It means you fancy Einstein

I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein

Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box ."

In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"It means you fancy Einstein

I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein

Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box .

In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man. "

Wait? Is he dead?

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"It means you fancy Einstein

I thought it just meant that I could, theoretically, fancy Einstein

Or you may or may not fancy Schrodinger but wouldn't know until you opened the box .

In all honesty I’m not likely to Schrodinger dead or alive. Because he’s a man.

Wait? Is he dead? "

You'll have to open the coffin to find out

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause.

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic

Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think

Well my brother’s generation did anyway

Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt.

You want the belt do you "

Only with an onion on it, as was the style at the time.

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By *ildTimes.Man
27 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪"
can’t justify sex with ugs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"I wonder if it's like metrosexual.

"I bathe but no homo"

"I read but no homo"

Metrosexuality has always been defined by more than that. Like moisturising.

Well yeah.

I bathe, I moisturise, I do my hair, I use products other than an all in one, I care somewhat about appearance. also NO HOMO

Pause.

I lived through it. I tell you, "no homo" was the major characteristic

Yeah but the kids started saying ‘pause’ instead I think

Well my brother’s generation did anyway

Abe Simpson, cloud, onion, belt.

You want the belt do you

Only with an onion on it, as was the style at the time."

You bet grandma

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs. "

as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough

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By *elly72Woman
27 weeks ago

glasgow

Attention seeker

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By *ruceyyMan
27 weeks ago

London

Basically they would shag Einstein. Rub it all against his brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago


"A word people use to think they’re better than others

Define intelligence?

A degree. A doctorate. Or no formal education but is outstanding in what they do "

There are different types of intelligence. My favourite is emotional intelligence!

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Probably means I won’t get on with them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd probably get on better with someone with a doctorate over someone from da skool of lief innit... but I'll pick both over a self proclaimed sapiosexual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs.

as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough"

Socks are soft and warm 😈

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By *naswingdressWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Sure thing Steve...it's a term pseudo intellectuals have coined that allow them to justify sex with Ugs as that's all they can get, and they claim they're attracted to personality rather than looks. 🥪 can’t justify sex with ugs.

as if sex with socks wasn't bad enough

Socks are soft and warm 😈"

sheepskin boots are worse!

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By *rHotNottsMan
27 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not very bright ND people attracted to people like themselves

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By *edhead72Man
27 weeks ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

If you were to replace the word ”sapiosexual“ with “homosexual” I wonder if folks would be so rude and or ignorant.

If your not sure what it means, just google it but let’s try and be nice

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By *ansoffateMan
27 weeks ago

Sagittarius A


"If you were to replace the word ”sapiosexual“ with “homosexual” I wonder if folks would be so rude and or ignorant.

If your not sure what it means, just google it but let’s try and be nice "

Don't water your energy, they wouldn't understand.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
27 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff


"It means next to nothing because it's more often than not incorrectly used.

You like people who are "intelligent"? Fantastic. If their physical features still factor in, are more important, you have a list of requirements for aesthetics and you want someone who's not stupid? You're not sapiosexual, you're just misusing a word. Wanting stimulating conversation does not make you sapio."

Well, you learn something new every day! 😳

I'm now off to re-evaluate and probably re-write my pretentious, up my own arse, profile! 🤣 In my defence, it does blatantly show my misunderstanding of the word.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
27 weeks ago

North West

Sappy old sexual? Dunno, it doesn't sound good though.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
27 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff


"Sappy old sexual? Dunno, it doesn't sound good though. "

That's it!! I'm using this!

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By *riel13Woman
27 weeks ago

Northampton

No... I can't be arsed

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By *ad NannaWoman
27 weeks ago

East London

Scientist Brian Cox would get it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"Sappy old sexual? Dunno, it doesn't sound good though. "
to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
27 weeks ago


"No... I can't be arsed "

Nice arse.

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By *ea monkeyMan
27 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s funny how there’s a lot of people that consider themselves intelligent to be punching down on this…

Yes, sapiosexual is often considered to be an ableist concept, one that is problematic and often misunderstood or misused. I’m going to give it a big old gallic shrug and just go ahead and find people that I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Think it’s a type of mammal

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By *ags73Man
27 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I couldn’t adequately explain it, in terms of what I like.

I do like intelligence but everyone has it in different ways.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
27 weeks ago

North West


"It’s funny how there’s a lot of people that consider themselves intelligent to be punching down on this…

Yes, sapiosexual is often considered to be an ableist concept, one that is problematic and often misunderstood or misused. I’m going to give it a big old gallic shrug and just go ahead and find people that I like. "

Some of us were just larking about and playing with words after the craziest day possibly ever, tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *ustincider888Man
27 weeks ago

Preston Ish

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Fucked in the head?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
27 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Sexually attracted to intelligent people.

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By *eoBloomsMan
27 weeks ago

Springfield


"Sexually attracted to intelligent people. "

Wot she sed. ^

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