FabSwingers.com forum: Regarding rude people on here. Do you usually give it back or just block without responding?

By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
2 weeks ago

North West

Just asking as I took a little break from here, and some woman in my messages said I'm a timewaster and gave all sorts of abuse because I didn't reply. Even though I stated on profile I will be away for a bit.

Ages ago I would have responded back in kind, but I just blocked back. Not worth it.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
2 weeks ago

The Continental

I just delete it.

Life’s tough enough without drama here too.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
2 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Just move on, leave them to their tantrums

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
2 weeks ago

Chippenham

Just block and delete, don't give them the attention.

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By *avexxMan
2 weeks ago

cheshire

"Just block and delete, don't give them the attention. "
,,, this

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By *izandpaulCouple
2 weeks ago

merseyside

Just move on leave the drama queens, angst merchants, delusional and sad people to their little world, there's a fabulous, exciting, happy world just around the corner.

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
2 weeks ago

Durham

"Just asking as I took a little break from here, and some woman in my messages said I'm a timewaster and gave all sorts of abuse because I didn't reply. Even though I stated on profile I will be away for a bit.

Ages ago I would have responded back in kind, but I just blocked back. Not worth it. "

It depends. We got a random message from a man one day clearly trying to get off on trolling people, it just said "There's such a thing as Weight watchers you know, fat *@#!"

He got a reply along the lines of "Oh bless, if you're gonna troll as least TRY and be original. Anyway, enjoy loving in your parents' spare room whilst crying as you're wanking in to a sock cos your god awful personality can't get you laid"

Think it struck a nerve, he went UNLOS 2 mins after reading that reply 🤣🤣

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

I never block the women who are rude to me. They are the ones I wish to keep the closest, for they are the ones who will periodically ogle at my profile and then one day come across a verification from another woman that they are friendly with and exclaim "Good heavens! How comes she was able to get on with him and I wasn't??!!".

It gives them a complex and an element of self doubt that they missed out.

The level of skulduggery on this site knows no bounds.

Thankfully, very few women are rude to me. The ladies less so. 😉❣️

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Just block op there's really no need for abuse

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
2 weeks ago

stanley

It’s hard not to respond sometimes, but it really is our choice how bothered we allow ourselves to be, if someone is being rude, are they really worth a single second of your time?

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By *esthetic21Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Neeext

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

This is why I hate seeing timewaster as clearly it has very different meetings from person to person.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

"It’s hard not to respond sometimes, but it really is our choice how bothered we allow ourselves to be, if someone is being rude, are they really worth a single second of your time?"

Agree so much with this.

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By *eckard2019Man
2 weeks ago

North West Durham

Depends on how rude. Might give some back if they are just a little obnoxious but if they are complete twats I'll just block them

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By *imples24Man
2 weeks ago

tamworth

Don’t waste time and energy on people that have no significance in your life!

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By *rrrMannnn122Man
2 weeks ago

Walsall

welcome back. i usually block, and go about my business

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
2 weeks ago

North West

"It’s hard not to respond sometimes, but it really is our choice how bothered we allow ourselves to be, if someone is being rude, are they really worth a single second of your time?"

I agree with this

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By *unnesscoupleMan
2 weeks ago

Inverness

"Just block and delete, don't give them the attention. "

Exactly this

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By *unthum62Man
2 weeks ago

Benidorm

Block and spend your energy on positive things.

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I do both, depending on my mood that day

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By *hipdaleCouple
2 weeks ago

Greenhithe

Never rude always answer a message if they not for us just politely say so

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends. If it’s someone I’d met or been chatting to for ages I probably wouldn’t leave it, but I’d have them on WhatsApp if that was the case. Someone I’d shared a few messages with I wouldn’t be arsed. Just ignore

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By *uffsandkinkCouple
2 weeks ago

leeds

El would probably reply rude then block

I'd either block or give a sarcastic reply

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I've had introductory messages from women and couples that just contain instructions who then get annoyed and rude when I say no so it's straight to the block button.

Lose the beard or you have no chance of fucking the missus.

Stop pretending to be straight and agree to play bi and we will add to to our to-do list for future events.

Book an hotel room for a night and then leave after the wife gives you a BJ.

Drive 5 hours each way on a Sunday night and help us get into a club event night. This one was particularly funny as clubs over here are by invitation only and I've never been invited to one.

Each of these called me a timewaster even though they had contacted me and not the other way around and they all used their many verifications as a way of telling me it was my loss and they would make sure my name was mud in their social circles.

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By *oubleSwingCouple
2 weeks ago

N. Wales

Block. ☮️

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I must be doing something right/wrong.

Never had a rude message. Had a weirdo, but no one rude.

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By *B69Woman
2 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Just ignore and delete, I’d rather save my energy for someone deserving

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By *vonne5exMan
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

Ages ago I would have responded back in kind, but I just blocked back. Not worth it. "
after reading many posts lately on how most (99% of males) don't get replies I think your doing exceptionally well to get a lady to even initiate a conversation.

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
2 weeks ago

rochdale

Ages ago I would have responded back in kind, but I just blocked back. Not worth it.

It depends. We got a random message from a man one day clearly trying to get off on trolling people, it just said "There's such a thing as Weight watchers you know, fat *@#!"

Think it struck a nerve, he went UNLOS 2 mins after reading that reply 🤣🤣"

With that hair, & those curves, you are STUNNING!

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By *rrrMannnn122Man
2 weeks ago

Walsall

Ages ago I would have responded back in kind, but I just blocked back. Not worth it. after reading many posts lately on how most (99% of males) don't get replies I think your doing exceptionally well to get a lady to even initiate a conversation."

it is bloody tough on here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I must be doing something right/wrong.

Never had a rude message. Had a weirdo, but no one rude."

Me neither. Not from anyone I’ve been conversing with previously. Plenty of unsolicited vile/rude ones but that’s standard here and they don’t bother me, I just delete and block those.

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
2 weeks ago

North West

I have done pretty well for a single guy, I will admit. To be honest most times I always initiate the convo. And it can be tough most times. Key tip I would always give, don't take the site too seriously and you'll do fine.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

Never engage with such ignorance, as it brings you down to their level and further reinforces such behaviour. Always report and block

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Putting aside my jocular post from earlier, seriously though, in all my years here I have only experienced a handful of rude women. It's an extremely rare occurrence, thankfully.

I don't think I've ever been called a timewaster or even come across one. The term is open to interpretation. For instance some conversations ebb and flow and perhaps even fizzle out, but I would never interpret that as time-wasting.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

You're all so polite. I had a message from a man today, based on his profile picture, where he was located and the first line of his message that I could see I made a decision that he wasn't for me so I deleted it.

He wrote back instantly to say 'Oh right another rude, entitled woman, I hope you (then described what he hoped would happen to me)'

So I wrote back 'you're everything that's wrong with this site' before I blocked him. I probably shouldn't have engaged but eh. Nobody's perfect.

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By *orphia2003Woman
2 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Depends on how bored I am and how offensive the message is.

Usually I'll call them out, then block them.

Occasionally just block,and where necessary block and make fab friends aware of behaviour.

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By *ansoffateMan
2 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

The smart thing to do is obviously ignore it etc.

Although I do think it's fair to say if one can't take it then one shouldn't go around dishing it out.

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By *atte Lover 82Man
2 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

I would just delete the message and go about my day. If it kept on happening from the same person then I would just block them.

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By *punk n gushCouple
2 weeks ago

deal

Depending on how bad the abuse we either just block and delete or if really offensive will report

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By *antam AvershiresMan
2 weeks ago

Falme

If I can think of something clever and deadly cutting to reply but if not no just block

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By *nya NeesWoman
2 weeks ago

Brum

I will just block

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By *oobaaMan
2 weeks ago

South Shields

I had a guy message ME looking to meet...I wasnt free at that time and he replied with some pretty bad stuff about my age and shape.

The more I laughed at him the worse the abuse got, until I told him in one of his pics you could see his works ID...he blocked me

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By *exxyyDy11 OP Man
2 weeks ago

North West

"I had a guy message ME looking to meet...I wasnt free at that time and he replied with some pretty bad stuff about my age and shape.

The more I laughed at him the worse the abuse got, until I told him in one of his pics you could see his works ID...he blocked me"

Oh dearrrrr

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

As hard as it might be to believe, no ones ever been rude to me , not to my face anyway

Had 2 heated exchanges with people I know, in 8 years.

If it happened in a message from a stranger I’d just hit delete and forget it.

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don't on't need the drama. I'm usually a chill person so it's water off a ducks back to me. Lifes to short as is. Just block and move on.

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By *rrrMannnn122Man
2 weeks ago

Walsall

"I don't on't need the drama. I'm usually a chill person so it's water off a ducks back to me. Lifes to short as is. Just block and move on."

Best way

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