FabSwingers.com forum: Social Meet before sex?

By *asper1987 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Does anyone here still meets for a coffee or pint before sex? Or is it all a now or never? Accom or Park situation. Can still casual sex be courteous? Might be me but for me a prelude is a nice chat not just spit on your hand and rub it for 30 seconds.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

I prefer socials first. But the best person I’ve ever met on fab, the first time we met was in a hotel.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

Always have a sex free social first.

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By *ouple4naughtyplayCouple
2 weeks ago

York

Social first always x

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By *aybeLadyWoman
2 weeks ago

West Dublin

Always a social first, regardless of what I am looking for. And nothing happens at this social. The amount of guys who think they will get sth at it is unreal 😡

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
2 weeks ago

London.

Yes, absolutely a social first. I am not walking into a room to someone I have never met.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

100% socials first.

Even in a club there's plenty of chat before getting physical.

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By *orphia2003Woman
2 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Social first.

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By *he Flat CapsCouple
2 weeks ago

Pontypool

Always a social first for us.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
2 weeks ago

furnace

Absolutely as connection is so important

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By *cedGemWoman
2 weeks ago

your dreams

Social first

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By *teff33TV/TS
2 weeks ago

midlands

Na..not always… as long as find them attractive and pref hung.. want to fuck em not marrry em

. #slag

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By *riar BelisseWoman
2 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

Both

Sometimes at clubs all a woman wants to do, is sidle up to the fit guy and whisper in his ear 'Fancy a Fuck'

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

Yeah, I like a social first most of the time. See if there's a connection/attraction with the person.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
2 weeks ago

furnace

"Both

Sometimes at clubs all a woman wants to do, is sidle up to the fit guy and whisper in his ear 'Fancy a Fuck'

Some don’t ask and just have a feel

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By *haiababeWoman
2 weeks ago

North devon

Depends on how our interactions have gone, how long we have been chatting etc.

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

Yep. I much prefer to. And bar kissing/a bit of dryhumping, it's very rare (like one hand rare) that it goes any further on the day of the social.

I like getting to know someone, obviously we'd talk a lot beforehand but even then... I like pressure free, relaxed on both sides. Building that in person chemistry.

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By *anonfire96Man
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

In all honesty, never had a social as such. Had a few minutes chat to break the ice then straight to it.

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By *ilva69Man
2 weeks ago

stockport

Had a couple but usually couples want sex straight away I’ve found

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By *ouple4naughtyplayCouple
2 weeks ago

York

"Na..not always… as long as find them attractive and pref hung.. want to fuck em not marrry em

. #slag"

Hah xx made me lol xx

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By *evonrobMan
2 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

I quite like a social….especially one that develops!

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By *teff33TV/TS
2 weeks ago

midlands

"Na..not always… as long as find them attractive and pref hung.. want to fuck em not marrry em

. #slag

Hah xx made me lol xx"

😂😂

Well to be fair it’s true, I’ve met guys in the past have been fit and great fuck but have the personality of a trainspotter

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

I've gone straight into the sex first but found that didn't really work for me. So now, always a social first.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always social first but if the social goes well we can book a room during the social, we’ve done this a few times

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By *endalshaggersCouple
2 weeks ago

Lake District

We'd rather have a social first

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By *weetiepie99Woman
2 weeks ago

cardiff

I'd rather a 'date' first

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

"I'd rather a 'date' first

I like dates.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
2 weeks ago

cardiff

"I'd rather a 'date' first

I like dates. "

Me too. I don't really like 'socials'

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By *uriousscouserWoman
2 weeks ago

Wirral

I almost always have a social first. Sometimes everything seems great over messages but you meet up and there's nothing there.

I'd rather establish that when neither of us are feeling any pressure to have sex.

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By *enk15Man
2 weeks ago

Evesham

Nah, sex before social.

Let me see how good the shagging is before we chat the shit over coffee.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Done both. Still scarred from not having a social first.

Once bitten...Always a social

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By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Always a social first.

It's like a people filter....those just wanting the sex and often a one off meet.

Knowing a little about someone always makes the sex better.

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By *dc1Man
2 weeks ago

essex and all over the south

I sort of have socials first as 95% of my fun is in clubs. I normally strike up somesort of a conversation before going further so suppose thats a social.

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By *ornym66Man
2 weeks ago

Col /ips

It has to be a social first I think

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yes I like a social first to get a vibe from that person. Endless messaging isn't for me, sometimes people are better at messaging than communicating in person. I like to meet and see what they're like face to face and take it from there. It breaks the ice and takes away any awkwardness or uncertainty there may be.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I get you, but it's getting trickier in Starbucks nowadays.

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By *othwaysnudeMan
2 weeks ago

chesterfield

No just sex for me

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By *Silver-Man
2 weeks ago

Mold

I do prefer a social first

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By *hunky GentMan
2 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Social first, because I'm shy.

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By *hunky GentMan
2 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Social first, because I'm shy.

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By *oobaaMan
2 weeks ago

South Shields

When we play as a couple its social 1st every time and that means both the M and F must be there.

On my own I can only really do short notice meets so just have to take the risk

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By *ananabrumMan
2 weeks ago

castle bromwich

I don't like socials, ironically i find them more terrifying than turning up to a strangers house to fuck them lol

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By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I get you, but it's getting trickier in Starbucks nowadays."

Where there's a will and all that...

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes.when i'm meeting, it's a social only first.

The best meets I've had here over the years have had a good social first.

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By *mf123Man
2 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I like to bend them over the maccies counter before putting my hand in her bum

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By *erfHerder74Man
2 weeks ago

Inverclyde

I used to like to meet somewhere nice for a chat by the river or a coffee in a park. Was nice but men don’t want that near me they just want to cum

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By *ripfillMan
2 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

I really like a social meet first it’s important to me

Also it’s lovely to learn about someone in a bit of detail which is lovely to listen snd contribute

Definitely a meet first in my view

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By *emma200Woman
2 weeks ago

Warwickshire

I’ve probably only done 2/3 social meets where is was soley a social.. every other time my knickers are round my ankles pretty quick 😂🙈

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By *tsJustKateWoman
2 weeks ago

London

Think I've only ever had one social and that ended up with sex.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
2 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Does anyone here still meets for a coffee or pint before sex? Or is it all a now or never? Accom or Park situation. Can still casual sex be courteous? Might be me but for me a prelude is a nice chat not just spit on your hand and rub it for 30 seconds."

I'm still having socials first.

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always have a social first

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By *alico_KittyWoman
2 weeks ago

Kittys Lane

It's always a social first x

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I’ve probably only done 2/3 social meets where is was soley a social.. every other time my knickers are round my ankles pretty quick 😂🙈"

Hahaha absolutely pmsl.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
2 weeks ago

Salford

Swinging wise, only ever done a social before sex. Most of the time it's just been sex when we meet and either back at mine, hers or hotel/rented places.

For me the socials come after we have fucked

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By *ggdrasil66Man
2 weeks ago

Saltdean

I’ve had good experiences meeting couples without a social first. But wouldn’t want to make a single female uncomfortable by even suggesting it. A nice public place for a coffee, or a popular pub if that is preferred.

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

For me it's a social first, typically tea/coffee with cake in a quaint and quirky coffee shop, however most often it's a more elaborate affair: luncheons, a walk around an art gallery, museum or some other cultural emporium. If we wish to take things further then... • 𝕄𝕒𝕘𝕚𝕔 • happens in some joyously joyful way.

(Admittedly, there have been a couple of exceptions where there's been a preordained 'date' and a social on the same day, but this has been on the back of established chemistry and sexual frission through protracted messaging and phone calls over weeks or months)

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By *imples24Man
2 weeks ago

tamworth

Meet first for a Pint and a packet of crips 🤷‍♂️

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By *cLovin2Man
2 weeks ago

Reading

"I’ve probably only done 2/3 social meets where is was soley a social.. every other time my knickers are round my ankles pretty quick 😂🙈"

Damn, Jemma. Fancy a drink?

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By *ergus1622Man
2 weeks ago

Dundee

I prefer a social as you can meet and get along and build some chemistry up before the fun.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Always a social or some chat in person. I couldn't have sex with someone I didn't have any chemistry with. And some flirty messages leading up to a meet make it all the better

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By *ady LickWoman
2 weeks ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think it's very wise for women meeting on their own to have a social somewhere first.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I’ve probably only done 2/3 social meets where is was soley a social.. every other time my knickers are round my ankles pretty quick 😂🙈

Damn, Jemma. Fancy a drink?

Make sure you get the full mechanics of what she means. As hot as she is, I wouldn't wish to walk down the street with her walking with her knickers round her ankles. It will look weird and you may get embarrassed.

I know exactly how hard the 3 legged race is. I came 3rd with my mate at primary school despite being hot favourites to win.

* I made up for it in the egg and spoon race.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I think it's very wise for women meeting on their own to have a social somewhere first."

Although to be fair madam, your 23 October 2023 pic would mean I would piggy back with me naked save only for stilettos for 8 miles for a social. Uphill.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
2 weeks ago

City Centre

I prefer to meet socially first. It's actually surprising how many people that I talk to, works perfectly on paper, but just doesn't translate in real life. The chemistry and or attraction just isn't there. I'd hate for us to be building up to some fiery sex and to be left feeling meh about taking if further. A social, whether a quick coffee or a an hour or so over a beverage is important for me.

There's also the safety aspect.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
2 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Does anyone actually video chat for authenticity and see that as a half way house to a social?

Admittedly it can be a little awkward first time if you have a quiet personality.

*Or if drowned out by my incessant ramblings 😂

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By *unthum62Man
2 weeks ago

Benidorm

Now it is always a social first. See if there is any connection, if we can be chat and conversation flows then that is usually a good sign.

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By *cLovin2Man
2 weeks ago

Reading

"Does anyone actually video chat for authenticity and see that as a half way house to a social?

Admittedly it can be a little awkward first time if you have a quiet personality.

*Or if drowned out by my incessant ramblings 😂"

I've tried it but like online dating, it doesn't really work. I need to be on an actual date face to face to get a sense of the person.

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By *ortyairCouple
2 weeks ago

Wallasey

"I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction. "
That's exactly us, drink to suss out each other and tge nerves and then if there's a consensual spark it's hame v on, Mrs x

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By *ortyairCouple
2 weeks ago

Wallasey

Bloody hell the spelling mistakes above, you'd think I was on the lash already haha, Mrs x

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
2 weeks ago

Ends

"Bloody hell the spelling mistakes above, you'd think I was on the lash already haha, Mrs x"
have you pulled

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By *angero3aMan
2 weeks ago

swords

like to meet the married couple first

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

"I'd rather a 'date' first

Oh, I like that angle better. It just sounds nicer.

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
2 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

Yes for us social then play. Play can happen just after the social on the same night. We often meet couples in clubs, few drinks then straight into the playroom

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By *im le2Man
2 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

If it's a blind date I will meet in a local pub about two minutes walk from my place.

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