FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong??

By *ing8435 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

So, fairly new to this stuff, had an account for a while, but dusted the cobwebs off last week.

How do I interact with people? I look who's close, who's online and drop them a message, I never copy and paste, it's always a tailored response to the information on the bio, face pic is always attached to the message.

And yet, few respond in any way.

I get that people are inundated, I get I may not be their type, I get that I have no verifications (apart from photo verification).

But is there a specific etiquette that im missing? Is there a magic word that should be in the bio?

What advice is there? (Even if it's stay out of DMs and engage in the forums.... Which I don't do).

Thoughts?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
2 weeks ago

London

Doesn't sound as if you are doing anything wrong.

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
2 weeks ago

neath

It's not what your doing wrong it's the fact there's thousands of people using this site and people get hit with so many messages that some are missed or looked over cos it didn't catch them

It's hard being new and the best thing you can do is get yourself out to organised socials and interact that way , you'll get verified by doing so and will make people more likely to engage with you

It takes time

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By *ing8435 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

But no one messages me 😭😭😭,🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I get all that, just don't think I'm ready to go to a social by myself just yet.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
2 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

I always read profiles before considering replying. If that profile basically says I am a man looking to meet, contact me. I would not engage.

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By *ndyp81Man
2 weeks ago

essex

"But no one messages me 😭😭😭,🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I get all that, just don't think I'm ready to go to a social by myself just yet."

This is the life of a single man on fab, it’s not your fault just way more men on here than ladies, and the ladies get overwhelmed with 100’s of messages

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
2 weeks ago

Home

It's hard on here your doing nothing wrong

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

I cannot believe nobody told you the secret word is flamingo.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

How do you decide who to message?

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"I cannot believe nobody told you the secret word is flamingo. "

That's where I'm going wrong....I always thought it was aubergine 🍆

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By *ndyp81Man
2 weeks ago

essex

"I cannot believe nobody told you the secret word is flamingo.

That's where I'm going wrong....I always thought it was aubergine 🍆

No its supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

"I cannot believe nobody told you the secret word is flamingo.

That's where I'm going wrong....I always thought it was aubergine 🍆

Girl, shhhh 😉

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
2 weeks ago

Newport

"But no one messages me 😭😭😭,🤣🤣🤣🤣.

Without wishing to be rude, it would need to be you that needs to make the effort. It needs to be significant in most cases, you need to sell yourself above all the others.

Being unable to accommodate doesn't help your cause.

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By *ing8435 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *haveanicevoiceMan
2 weeks ago

Soggy Middle-Earth (Cumbria)

Maybe because you're facing the wrong way in the pic?

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

Your profile is pretty empty. So there's nothing to respond to if you think about it.

No one knows what you look like...

Your bio doesn't paint any kind of picture of you at all...

People say your profile is your shop window but the process of building it up is more like marketing campaign if you ask me.

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By *ing8435 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

80% of the time, I choose people who appear online, normally using "who's online close to me" and then I go further a field by searching women online.

I've tried the old search and looking at people who have an account close to me, but not online.

Some messages are read, some aren't, some are deleted very quickly.

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By *enk15Man
2 weeks ago

Evesham

"But no one messages me 😭😭😭,🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I get all that, just don't think I'm ready to go to a social by myself just yet."

Neither was I until I realised it was fear holding me back, not that I didn’t want to go.

I had a great time and was well worth going.

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By *ffervescentMan
2 weeks ago

winfrith

"So, fairly new to this stuff, had an account for a while, but dusted the cobwebs off last week.

And yet, few respond in any way.

I get that people are inundated, I get I may not be their type, I get that I have no verifications (apart from photo verification).

But is there a specific etiquette that im missing? Is there a magic word that should be in the bio?

What advice is there? (Even if it's stay out of DMs and engage in the forums.... Which I don't do).

Thoughts?"
you have one pic is that on slapton sands by any chance ?Very little text and you're tailoring your messages to target profiles, I'd say you need to give them more info about you but you're not doing anything wrong, just keep plugging away .

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By *exxyyDy11Man
2 weeks ago

north west

It isn't your fault, there are so many single guys on here, that is why. One tip I'd recommend to any guys, is don't take the site too seriously.

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
2 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Maybe get yourself to the Gloucester social to start making connections

If you want to send messages keep them upbeat polite respectful and if it's to a couple address them both

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By *reggSausageMan
2 weeks ago

derby

Expect nothing and then you aren’t disappointed

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
2 weeks ago

Durham

"So, fairly new to this stuff, had an account for a while, but dusted the cobwebs off last week.

And yet, few respond in any way.

I get that people are inundated, I get I may not be their type, I get that I have no verifications (apart from photo verification).

But is there a specific etiquette that im missing? Is there a magic word that should be in the bio?

What advice is there? (Even if it's stay out of DMs and engage in the forums.... Which I don't do).

Thoughts?"

Can't speak for anyone else, but we check profiles out before opening any messages. There's a couple of things on yours which, when combined, would lose our interest straight away.

Very few pics that show who you are and limited profile text, cannot accommodate and have been on here over a year with no meet or cam veris. It may not be the case for you, but this sort of profile is quite often a married guy who is wanting to play away.

If you're having no luck with what you're doing at the moment, try freshening up your profile and pics. Maybe get yourself in cam in the chat rooms, talk to people in there and get yourself at least cam verified

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By *aboy1Man
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I have face pic on my profile, I’m nice to those I message, basically match everything they ask for in there profiles yet still nothing

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
2 weeks ago

Norwichish

Nothing in the text.

Don’t believe the “don’t know what to write here crowd” or the “fill in later”

Your profile is your chance to let people know a bit about you.

Think about it this way…..message a couple/lady, you’ve read their profile and you have tailored your message to fit there wants/needs. They look at your profile and it’s blank. Could appear that you would say anything for a bit of fun.

Looking at profiles near you and online as a search option is not going to gobe you what you want, they aren’t generally online looking for fun now, could be hubby or wife on their lunch break, or while sitting in car waiting for a food delivery and killing time/checking in.

Most people we know who are on here meet at clubs and are looking as much for the liberated social side as much as looking to have fun with others.

The chances of meeting someone off here as a single guy is low. Much better chance to walk into a club or a social. And to be honest saying that you are not brave enough for a social doesn’t exactly fill anyone with confidence that you would show up for an arranhed meet.

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By *im le2Man
2 weeks ago

AYLESTONE

Wow a fully clothed face pic and a hard shaft that's really showing what's on offer.

Try showing a soft cock n balls with the caption (if you want to see it hard it's upto you to get me hard)

I know you're not looking for men but Evan we want to see everything . Like many ppl have already said there's more men than women on this site so you need to show them why they should pick you. And have some fun.

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