FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging Ettiquete

Always on the move

So, and question for all genders on the subject of messages (yes another one).

I'm curious to see what peoples opinions are on not the context of the message. But frequency or number sent.

For example. I know and fully understand the women get BOMBARDED on here. So, if I send a message and it goes unanswered and also unread. Is it acceptable to send a follow up to "bump myself up the inbox", or is that a Fab Faux Pas?

Of course, if my message is read/unanswered or read deleted, then it's a forget it and move on. Fully appreciate and respect that. But unread messages? What says ye of Fab knowledge fountain?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Message 1: ‘Wow! You’re beautiful! Fancy a chat?’

No reply and two minutes later…

Message 2: ‘You bloody Karen!’ 😜

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By *vaRose43Woman
6 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Yes it’s acceptable especially if it’s someone you’ve been chatting with

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By *lue Eyed Joker OP Man
6 weeks ago

Always on the move

Not quite....I wait at least 3 minutes! 😂

In all seriousness though. Like 24hrs later, a cheeky little "just bumping myself up your inbox, I imagine you get a lot of admirers" or something equally as cheesey/charming

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By *eyond PurityCouple
6 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Every person will say something different.

For us though as a couple, I’d say it’s mainly me opening the message so if pics have been sent then there will be a waiting period for C to view.

That’s if the pics haven’t disappeared beforehand and then it’s me describing them 🤷🏻‍♂️

We tend to delete straight no’s - which are mainly blank/bland profiles or cock pic profiles.

If I think C may like I’ll send a reply to keep the conversation along. If I don’t think it’s worthwhile, we’ll politely decline.

There are a few times we’ve left the message but it’ll get picked up again.

I would suggest never looking at sent messages and whether they have been opened and it just be a surprise if you get a reply.

People will message if they find a profile intriguing - so make it intriguing and maximise your chances

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
6 weeks ago

Durham

"Not quite....I wait at least 3 minutes! 😂

In all seriousness though. Like 24hrs later, a cheeky little "just bumping myself up your inbox, I imagine you get a lot of admirers" or something equally as cheesey/charming"

If we've never spoken before I'd delete that immediately. It doesn't come across as charming - more needy and impatient, sorry

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If they want to talk to you they will reply no matter how many 100’s or 1000’s of messages they get. If you’re already in conversation you don’t need to worry about whose turn it is to message, just be yourself

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If anyone sends me a message, then another in a short space of time, I'd block.

It looks pushy.

I don't get loads of mail though and use a fair few filters, so I can easily keep on top of my mail.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
6 weeks ago

Bliss

As long as it contains a message pertinent to the profile with a clear recent face pic, send away OP. Sometimes messages get missed, and moods change. However 2 is enough

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By *imples24Man
6 weeks ago

tamworth

I get that women get loads of messages but if I message and it don’t get read or deleted in a massive clear out then I won’t message again their loss lol. They will find me if they want 🤷‍♂️

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

I dont get that many messages so I do try to reply to most. So if you messaged me twice I would probably block.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

I’ve had an instance recently when someone wrote a really good, relevant to me message. Then in response to an update of mine wrote another one acknowledging that I hadn’t responded to the first message but the message itself was another interesting, relevant message (more than ‘you’re hot’ which I don’t love) and in doing so I read their initial message which I’d somehow just overlooked. So in that case I liked it. But I would delete if second message said ‘ahem, you didn’t respond here’s another reminder’ or anything of the sort.

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