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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel..."

I dont think its the trust issue, if I meet him for sex, Ill see him put the condom on its mainly me, but if hes genuine wanting to meet me and not going to cancel, then thats a bonus and I can take it from there cant I. yes gutfeeling like you say. thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have meet with bi guys and the best way if you feel afterwards that he has lied is to go get checked but I've always had more fun with bi lad than straight lol

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel...

I dont think its the trust issue, if I meet him for sex, Ill see him put the condom on its mainly me, but if hes genuine wanting to meet me and not going to cancel, then thats a bonus and I can take it from there cant I. yes gutfeeling like you say. thank you"

Just make sure that he doesn't take the condom off before be careful xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel...

I dont think its the trust issue, if I meet him for sex, Ill see him put the condom on its mainly me, but if hes genuine wanting to meet me and not going to cancel, then thats a bonus and I can take it from there cant I. yes gutfeeling like you say. thank you"

Not sure what the problem is then. If you aren't worried about him using condoms, is it because you don't think he'll turn up? Sounds like you've chatted with him a while so you probably know him better than us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel...

I dont think its the trust issue, if I meet him for sex, Ill see him put the condom on its mainly me, but if hes genuine wanting to meet me and not going to cancel, then thats a bonus and I can take it from there cant I. yes gutfeeling like you say. thank you

Just make sure that he doesn't take the condom off before be careful xx "

I will. He hasnt met any women off here but am taking stuff anyone says to me with pinch of salt from now on. thank you

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"he may be no more trustworthy or risky than a guy who states he is straight..

gut feel...

I dont think its the trust issue, if I meet him for sex, Ill see him put the condom on its mainly me, but if hes genuine wanting to meet me and not going to cancel, then thats a bonus and I can take it from there cant I. yes gutfeeling like you say. thank you

Just make sure that he doesn't take the condom off before be careful xx "
Thats not just for Bi guys though...it goes for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the fact that he is Bi more likely to make him a liar?

Do you think that he may have similar apprehensions about you OP and that you have, in fact, told him the truth?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is the fact that he is Bi more likely to make him a liar?

Do you think that he may have similar apprehensions about you OP and that you have, in fact, told him the truth?

"

I never said he was a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the fact that he is Bi more likely to make him a liar?

Do you think that he may have similar apprehensions about you OP and that you have, in fact, told him the truth?

I never said he was a liar"

Apoliogies, the first part was a more general question for the ongoing thread, not directly directed at yourself (if you follow my meaning)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me? "

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is the fact that he is Bi more likely to make him a liar?

Do you think that he may have similar apprehensions about you OP and that you have, in fact, told him the truth?

I never said he was a liar

Apoliogies, the first part was a more general question for the ongoing thread, not directly directed at yourself (if you follow my meaning)

"

Apology accepted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy "

Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me"

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

There are lots of guys on here claiming to be straight who have been with guys, I am sure.

If the sex is safe you are at no more risk than with a straight guy

But..if he meets guys..he may understand better what it feels like to have a guy not turn up on him.....so perhaps more likely to actually turn up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure if hes had noshows or not. Its not a nice feeling when you get cancelled on, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy

Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me"

I'm still a bit confused as to what you're scared of. Do you mean you're a bit worried he won't fancy you because you're a woman, because he likes guys too? I'm scared that everyone I meet won't fancy me, so if that's what is bothering you then I understand!

If it's the possible std thing, bi guys are no less safe than anyone else. Anyone can have an std.

If you like him, meet him. Or maybe just have a drink and a chat and go from there? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy

Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me

I'm still a bit confused as to what you're scared of. Do you mean you're a bit worried he won't fancy you because you're a woman, because he likes guys too? I'm scared that everyone I meet won't fancy me, so if that's what is bothering you then I understand!

If it's the possible std thing, bi guys are no less safe than anyone else. Anyone can have an std.

If you like him, meet him. Or maybe just have a drink and a chat and go from there? x"

This is the perfect answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy

Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me

I'm still a bit confused as to what you're scared of. Do you mean you're a bit worried he won't fancy you because you're a woman, because he likes guys too? I'm scared that everyone I meet won't fancy me, so if that's what is bothering you then I understand!

If it's the possible std thing, bi guys are no less safe than anyone else. Anyone can have an std.

If you like him, meet him. Or maybe just have a drink and a chat and go from there? x"

Its not the std thing. I didnt consider that stupidly I should have done. yes anyone can have one. I dont know him, first time I spoke to him tonight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really fail to see what the problem is.

Bi-guys aren't dirty creatureswith two heads and full of disease, they're no less trustworthy than 'straight' guys! Why do I sense a homophobic undercurrent in the original post?

Posted by a confused bi-guy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me? "

Not really sure why you would be scared of meeting a bi curious male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had some of my very best meets with bi guys ... Oh the memories amazing

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

just go for it .... you might be pleasantly surprised ... if it all goes tits up or he no shows that could happen just as easily with a straight guy ... you must have appealed to him to get the meet in the first place xxx good luck

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over a year ago

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By *incs-cpl1Couple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We've been looking for bi-playful playmates for some time now and 95% of all enquiries have come from "straight" males.

We understand the social pressures of guys admitting their bi sides, so we wouldn't wish to judge.

Like all the others, your gent could've quite easily concealled this from you, the fact he's been so honest would suggest he's a good find.

In our opinion, take all necessary precautions and enjoy yourself !!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me?

I'm a bit confused as to what you're scared about. A lot of men on here have straight on their profile but I've seen them leave veris on other men's profiles so at least he's been honest with you. Go with your gut instinct and if you meet, enjoy

Yes ive seen that too, among other things. the scared (well more nervous if im honest) thing is that hes been with men, sorry guys, just being honest with my feelings, but yes will take your advice and try to enjoy myself if he wants to meet me

I'm still a bit confused as to what you're scared of. Do you mean you're a bit worried he won't fancy you because you're a woman, because he likes guys too? I'm scared that everyone I meet won't fancy me, so if that's what is bothering you then I understand!

If it's the possible std thing, bi guys are no less safe than anyone else. Anyone can have an std.

If you like him, meet him. Or maybe just have a drink and a chat and go from there? x

Its not the std thing. I didnt consider that stupidly I should have done. yes anyone can have one. I dont know him, first time I spoke to him tonight"

Is it that you don't find 'guy on guy' a turn on? That doesn't mean that you are homophobic, just that you don't like it.

I understand that too. (I'm not bi-phobic or homophobic, I just understand why someone wouldn't want to meet a bi guy.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get what the problem is. If it's causing you issues, don't meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also don't understand the problem. Meeting a bi guy won't be any different from meeting any other type of guy. You would have sex, he wears a condom just the same as any other guy if safe sex is a must for you and that's it.

Do you think he will behave in a different way to a straight guy, are you scared he'll be effeminate, I doubt very much that he'll turn up doing ballet pirouettes like Louis Spence. It's just a guy and I wouldn't say bi guys are more likely to turn up than any other guy. You go with your instincts and the vibe you get when you exchange messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with the other forumites, I wouldn't be anymore nervous if he was straight or bi.

If you like him then meet for a drink. Sound advice for any meet.

Then you could chat about what is making you nervous about him?

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Yeah I'm not getting it either. So he's bi and honest about it. Wound you be questioning the meet if he was straight? For the record my fb is bi and we have the most amazing times together. Just go for it and take a chance!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I really fail to see what the problem is.

Bi-guys aren't dirty creatureswith two heads and full of disease, they're no less trustworthy than 'straight' guys! Why do I sense a homophobic undercurrent in the original post?

Posted by a confused bi-guy..."

Just because someone doesn't want to play with bi guys doesn't make them homophobic any more than not wanting to play with black guys make you racist for crying out loud!

I'm not sure what the op is scared off either. Personally ANYTHING about a person that makes me question meeting them results in no meet! There are too many people to meet to waste time humming and aahing from the outset: what's that about?

I don't meet bi/curious men as they don't suit my play needs, neither do black, Asian or married men.

As for "safe sex"...let's not forget where we are...a site for people to meet others for erm sex! I assume everyone I meet partakes in bare back gangbangs and take precautions to protect myself accordingly.

People lie. I'm always amused at how many men who claim to practice safe sex "wilt" immediately you produce a condom!

If in doubt about anything op move on!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Don't get what the problem is. If it's causing you issues, don't meet him."

In a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it wouldn't bother me at all, its fun watching guys sucking cock what bothers me more though is when the verifications are all from guys as I wonder whether they do really want to meet women as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a bit embarrassed here. Ive been talking to a guy who is bi-curious and has met men but on his own. He was totally honest and answered my questions, Id quite like to meet him but am a bit scared about the bi-cur, he has assured me re safe sex. Am I being silly/scared stupid female? My profile says I wont meet them but we had a good chat in se room. Any women who have done this - were you scared/apprehensive or is it me? "

Take the chance meet him , I presume you do a social in a nuetral place with lots of other people around and have an escape route. Eg the back door is by the toilets .

We will meet bi guys socially , but won't let them in the bed, as to proper straight men I am one it does happen really really

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