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By *ensual Desires OP   Man
30 weeks ago

Teesside/North Yorkshire

Why do people ghost each other. IF your not longer interested just tell the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Maybe they’re too embarrassed to say anything.

Maybe they’re playing games.

They changed their mind and decided that ghosting saves a lot of return messages asking “but why not?”

They don’t want abusive comeback from the rejected.

Many other reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

It's the easy way out, people would rather ghost than communicate. I find ghosting to be a blessing in disguise, at least you know where you stand for when they come back.. and they always do.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Happened to me this week😫

I thought we was getting on so well, we was about to plan meeting up then total silence. I can see her online on here and WhatsApp but no response?

I'd rather them tell me to go away and they aren't interested. Maybe life has got in the way? Maybe it's someone else? Maybe they lost interest? That all happens and I can respect that.

Like the Sterophonics said ' It's the not knowing that kills you' 😫

It kinda hurts in a weird way. Just hope they are okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Happens a lot on here you just move on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Happened to me this week😫

I thought we was getting on so well, we was about to plan meeting up then total silence. I can see her online on here and WhatsApp but no response?

I'd rather them tell me to go away and they aren't interested. Maybe life has got in the way? Maybe it's someone else? Maybe they lost interest? That all happens and I can respect that.

Like the Sterophonics said ' It's the not knowing that kills you' 😫

It kinda hurts in a weird way. Just hope they are okay."

I think you can take it that They aren't interested any longer if they've stopped replying. It does make you wonder why but even if they'd told you they no longer wanted to meet they might not have given you a reason .

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By *eigh2019TV/TS
25 weeks ago

Chingford

Once you realize that 98% of people on sites like this are dreamers then when the 2% comes along it kinda makes up for it.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
25 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Remember the old days?

When you had to break-up with someone & how hard it was?

Well we don’t have to do that anymore.

If you weren’t serious or exclusive, nobody owes you anything. Not even an explanation.

It sucks, I know 🤷🏽‍♂️ But everyone has the right to be an asshole

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By *ildTimes.Man
25 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam


"But everyone has the right to be an asshole"

Indeed, I revel in it 😂

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
25 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also it's not ghosting if you haven't met them.

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By * and R cple4Couple
25 weeks ago

swansea


"Also it's not ghosting if you haven't met them. "
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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"Also it's not ghosting if you haven't met them. "

I think the same, ghosting is if you've had some sort of real life interactions I'd say.

People here have lives that get in the way, or they get bored of chatting and move on to someone else.

Ideally people would tell you they've changed their mind etc, but some may worry they'll get abuse for it etc

Try not to dwell on it op.

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By *ympho6969Woman
25 weeks ago

glasgow

Here's my take on ghosting from both sides.

If I'm ghosted I tend to think they've either changed their mind or were never really interested in the first place (only looking for wank material)

If I ghost, it's only after I've explained to someone that in not interested and they simply don't listen. Or, they've never even had a reply from me and consider that ghosting

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Central

Fab's guidance is very clear on this. No written reply = no thanks.

Most of this ghosting is just the natural attrition of interest as people discover that they are in the vast majority of people who are not mutually compatible.

Make realistic expectations that includes this

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By *wingingphil69Man
25 weeks ago

castleford

😂😂don’t know if anyone ghosted me they just didn’t reply

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By *midnight-Woman
25 weeks ago

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There are only so many wuu2 type questions that I can reply to.

Conversation naturally peters out -when it does think of a fun way to reengage... 'How are you' inevitably leads to 'fine', 'what you doing' 'not much'.. end of convo

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By *ealitybitesMan
25 weeks ago

Belfast

I've only ever ghosted twice in my life and one of those was fab related.

Both followed similar patterns of being obsessed with what others were doing and stalking them on social media and fab and sharing their personal details with others.

I had tried the reasonable approach and when that failed I just adopted radio silence which then put a target on my back.

I have no regrets.

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By * WillisMan
25 weeks ago

London

Because they’re rude self centred and don’t have to see you in person there I said the awkward thing

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