FabSwingers.com forum: Is sex always better with feelings?

By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

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Is it even generally better with feelings?

Or do we just like it more because of the feelings?

Or what?

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By *uck NorrisMan
2 weeks ago

st helens

No, I spunk off far too quickly when feelings are involved

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By *anonfire96Man
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

There has to be a modicum of feelings, otherwise you may as well just have a wank to porn. Just my thoughts on it.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

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"There has to be a modicum of feelings, otherwise you may as well just have a wank to porn. Just my thoughts on it.

Your thoughts are appreciated. X

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"No, I spunk off far too quickly when feelings are involved "

But then again easier to stay hard when feeling are involved

Making love with someone who loves you back is just great.

Best feeling in the world

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By *ansoffateMan
2 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I think most human interactions are better when there's some feelings involved.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
2 weeks ago

North West

I think feelings make it better.

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By *idlandiaMan
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Sex or making love?

Iv had some amazing sex with women where we both had 0 feelings for each other.

Whereas if feelings are involved even a cuddle and enjoying each other before sleep feels great.

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By *ornycougaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I've had some phenomenal sex without any feelings but on the whole yes - it's consistently better

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

She ^ has sex with robots, androids, automatons and cyborgs.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
2 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Oh yes! For me at least, the intensity and passion and in turn, the subsequent enjoyment derived thereof from said lovemaking is augmented tenfold when one holds deeper feelings for a partner.

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By *mf123Man
2 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Yes but its also the most dangerous sex for that reason too

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By *iguy8919Man
2 weeks ago

Thetford

Some of the best sex I've had has been with women I don't like. You treat them rougher than you would with someone you have feelings for.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

It always feels better, but I have to have some feelings to have sex with someone, at least a strong like. But is it the feelings that make the sex great. Once the feelings are gone is the sex actually as good as you felt at the time?

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By *nomeforyourboneWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Are they feelings or is it just lust? Unless you connect on more levels than that, the feelings are just surface level.

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By *emidemiWoman
2 weeks ago

basingstoke

Oh it’s so much better with feelings.

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
2 weeks ago

furnace

Connection on all levels makes it much better

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By *ad NannaWoman
2 weeks ago

East London

Not feelings, but a feeling of closeness and comfort, for me.

I don't look for one off hook ups or boots call friends, as the sex does nothing for me.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
2 weeks ago

Naughty Lane

There definitely has to be connection and that crazy animal attraction...🥵

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
2 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

What feelings are you talking about, OP?

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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No... feelings are for losers

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

Erm... most of the time, yes it is for me. At the very least I like a good connection. The kind of intensity that comes about from those.

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By *emma200Woman
2 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Of course it is.. it’s more passionate

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By *elshwizzard 500Man
2 weeks ago

neath

Definitely it is much better with feelings more intimate

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

I don't have to be in love with them. But some level of connection is needed before the sex happens. And it's always better.

The times I've had sex without that bare minimum connection/feelings and I wish I'd just wanked at home.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
2 weeks ago

The Continental

Of course it’s better.

No feelings…….may as well be a hands free wank.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

Ends

"What feelings are you talking about, OP? "

Friendship.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

Ends

"No... feelings are for losers "

About time you started being real on here

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By *oubleSwingCouple
2 weeks ago

N. Wales

I think always having been friends first, made it better. I'd feel more comfortable, so I guess that helps it feel better for me.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Call it what you like, define the levels how you want. Like, Lust, crush, Limerance, affection, Love.

There has to be a need for mutual pleasure for sex to be really good and I couldn’t do that with someone I don’t like.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

No, as long as there is intimacy feelings aren't necessary.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

It's statistically unlikely, for all people, all of the time. But you make your own choices and preferences.

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I've had some great sex without feelings, however, with feelings would be my preference

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

Feelings manifest themselves in a variety of ways, no matter how superficial or intense. I won't engage in sex if there isn't anything resembling a modicum of that.

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By *he ShivsCouple
2 weeks ago

Fife

Yes.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
2 weeks ago

Essex

Feelings…

I think I had one of those once.

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By *midnight-Woman
2 weeks ago

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"No... feelings are for losers

About time you started being real on here "

I'll never have feelings for someone I fuck from here ever again. I've learnt the hard way.

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By *illy IdolMan
2 weeks ago

Midlands

"Yes."

⬆️This⬆️

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By *arbourfoxMan
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

Yes it is better when there's feelings.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
2 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

No. It's just different

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

"No... feelings are for losers

About time you started being real on here

I'll never have feelings for someone I fuck from here ever again. I've learnt the hard way."

Depends on the feelings but definitely this 👌

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

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"No... feelings are for losers

About time you started being real on here

I'll never have feelings for someone I fuck from here ever again. I've learnt the hard way."

Good.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
2 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘I've got that feeling,

That beat boy feeling……’

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By *ookie46Woman
2 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

It’s a different kind of sex when there’s feelings

I’ve also had amazing sex without the feels

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By *arvin69Man
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"Are they feelings or is it just lust? Unless you connect on more levels than that, the feelings are just surface level. "

Well put, fuelled mostly by lust

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Not when it's a threesome

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
2 weeks ago

chichester

"Is it even generally better with feelings?

Or do we just like it more because of the feelings?

Or what? "

Nope not for me. I love sex just for sex with randoms. In a relationship then it’s different as you are invested committed

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By *itygamesMan
2 weeks ago

is it a shag , or making love , always respect the lady i say.....

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By *xperiencing-newCouple
2 weeks ago

Nottingham

Best feeling in the world having sex with my R 😈

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By *4rkk1ttenWoman
2 weeks ago

East Mids

It's just different, both can be amazing or crap lol

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By *ellhungvweMan
2 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Sex is different with different types of feelings. Not better. Not worse. Just different.

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By *attooedskinzMan
2 weeks ago

Tayside

Definitely. Sex is amazing when you are totally in love with someone

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By *ell GwynnWoman
2 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Generally, yes. Although I've had some disappointing sex with someone I loved in the past. We just weren't compatible in the sack. Sad, really.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
2 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Sex is sex,when you have feelings I call it making love

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By *IXEN200Woman
2 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

There has to be some attraction, but feelings do make it that much better. I think anyway

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
2 weeks ago

Some of the best sex I've ever had has never been with someone I loved

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By *dam1971Man
2 weeks ago

Bedford

"Feelings…

I think I had one of those once."

Can I be your funny feeling?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
2 weeks ago

Lyndhurst

No its not.

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By *irlWithTheHazelEyesWoman
2 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

I think it can depend on the kind of sex. For example, slow and sensual (one-on-one, not in a threesome or group), I think I'd feel really awkward and uncomfortable if no feelings were involved. But being head-over-heels for someone... That makes it mind-blowing!

Hot, lusty and rough on the otherhand - I don't think you need feelings for it to be better. Just chemistry.

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By *andynecklaceWoman
2 weeks ago

Someplace

If it's someone I'm with then, yes

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By *sWyldWoman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Define feelings.

There's always some kind of feelings when I have sex. Lust, care, desire.

Unfortunately the only time I've cried the whole way through sex was because I was deeply in love and broken hearted.

Feelings happen and I don't fear them. So yes it's better otherwise I'd just have a wank

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By *lueLotusWoman
2 weeks ago

the wilderness

Yes I have to feel like I really want to fuck their brains out, feel I want them inside me, feel their bare skin against mine and feel like we're pleasuring the fuck out if each other in every possible way without effort, simply instinct, that's how I love to have sex with feelings 😈

Can I order one to go, thanks

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By *tsJustKateWoman
2 weeks ago

London

Sex without 'feelings' is fine and I've had some fantastic nsa fun.

A lot of guys here just want somewhere to cum, and again, that's fine by me.

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By *ab FunstersCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands

Feelings are only ever for Mr FF, for me its just sex with others.

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By *othwaysnudeMan
2 weeks ago

chesterfield

Sex without feelings is so much better

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By *stellaWoman
2 weeks ago

London

Is it better if you’re the one with the feelings, or if they have feelings for you, or is it only good if the feelings are reciprocated?

Is it the balance of feelings or non feelings that makes sex work?

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By *KOTGMan
2 weeks ago

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Pros on cons to both in my opinion. I do feel I fuck better with no emotions though.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Ryde

Depends on the moment and the person.

Some guys can fuck me into oblivion, and it's great not to let feelings get in the way of a mega-ploughing.

We have another guy who comes to visit stuck in a loveless, sexless marriage. He comes to unload both sexually and emotionally, and the extra dimension of being mother confessor and soothing his mind makes for incredible sex.

Horses for courses, if you will.

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By *urves and HeelsWoman
2 weeks ago

Dumbarton

"Depends on the moment and the person.

Some guys can fuck me into oblivion, and it's great not to let feelings get in the way of a mega-ploughing.

Horses for courses, if you will."

Fantastic reply

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By *allWithTatsMan
2 weeks ago

Hyrule

Call me weird, there has to be some level of ‘feeling’ to have sex with someone anyways surely, whatever you call it? Attraction is a feeling, so if you do agree feelings don’t matter, would you shag anyone? Just for the sake of a shag?

Not criticising, genuine question.

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

My first thought was yes, then no and I've settled with there has to be some kind of feelings as we're not emotionless robots.

Even if that feeling is lust rather than love.

I've had sex so good I thought I was in love...

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By *parkle1974Woman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

When I have that "connection" with someone, I feel my orgasms are more intense as I can completely let myself go....I guess that's why I've never done random shags...just not my style x

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Some of the best sex I've had has been with women I don't like. You treat them rougher than you would with someone you have feelings for."

Wtaf 😬

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

I would say it's more chemistry than feelings that makes sex good. It's not so much about feeling of romance or attachment or love or care beyond that space and time that makes sex good. Thoses feelings you can do without and still enjoy awesome sex (as most of us on this scene recognise as a sort of basic tenant).

However chemistry and spark is important. Attraction, communication, team work and feeling comfortable around that person or people is important. You are sharing something very intimate with someone and of course with good sex its normal to feel some emotions and bond in that time and space (its partly what makes it hot). You should be totally in that moment with them and feel desired by them. But I wouldn't say it's feelings as such more chemistry. Obviously it's awesome having sex with those you have feeling for too, but those feelings (in terms of what people think when you say feeling) are not required.

I think understanding yourself, human nature and feelings is a big part of swinging. I think many of us can have really great sex and chemistry with others and yet still have the ability to compartmentalise it on a NSA basis. And looking beyond NSA there is a spectrum too. I love my freinds, I may have sex with my non vanilla freinds and of course I have some feelings towards them. Doesn't mean I want to romance them or marry them, its not that kind of love, its somewhere else on that friendship love spectrum. So its is important to recognise there is a spectrum. But I can likewise find great chemistry with someone who I may never meet again or think of beyond that time and space.

I have no intrest in sex with a human sex doll. I'm sharing something hot and intimate so there needs to be chemistry or its not hot. But that doesn't mean there is feelings towards that person beyond the act and the time and space. I don't even need to know their name to be fair (which has happened in some spontaneous situations). There just has to be chemistry.

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By *iguy8919Man
2 weeks ago

Thetford

"Some of the best sex I've had has been with women I don't like. You treat them rougher than you would with someone you have feelings for.

Wtaf 😬"

I know it sounds weird, I've found myself in some mad places in the past. When I say rougher I don't mean in a violent manner.

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By *ophgavCouple
2 weeks ago

Guildford

Get a bag of mocha, fill holes with it and do unspeakable things to each other all night

You free minute boys are being home had dinner and going to bed then get up in the morning and we’re still going. That’s how you do it. lol

3 minutes you should be ashamed to yourself lol

If that happens, anybody, please take it down, but that’s how you do it

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By *imiTheSweetMan
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I consider myself a passionate lover and I expect my playmates to be the same, it makes the interaction so much better! I buss so hard when we're on the same vibe

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
2 weeks ago

London.

I am demi, so I just can't play without feelings. Which is why I am not a swinger, but definitely into kink.

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By *eltic connectionCouple
2 weeks ago

Manningtree

For us, if there is no connection we simply say no thanks irrespective of how attractive they are! We've turned down some stunning ladies and good looking men because they have just not clicked with us.

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By *teff33TV/TS
2 weeks ago

midlands

Does sitting on your arm for 10 mins before a wank count as no feelings?

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By *moothdickMan
2 weeks ago

stoke

If there’s no connection, then pop the loo..

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlong OP Man
2 weeks ago

Ends

"I am demi, so I just can't play without feelings. Which is why I am not a swinger, but definitely into kink.

Hi Demi. I am groot.

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By *ab FunstersCouple
2 weeks ago

Midlands

"Call me weird, there has to be some level of ‘feeling’ to have sex with someone anyways surely, whatever you call it? Attraction is a feeling, so if you do agree feelings don’t matter, would you shag anyone? Just for the sake of a shag?

Not criticising, genuine question.

Just because emotions are not involved doesn't mean the filters are off. Absolutely would not have sex with just anyone.

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By *Vbi47Man
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

There has to be some connection and just picking a random to satisfy an urge isn’t for me

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