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By *wist my nipples OP Couple
7 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x

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By *atte Lover 82Man
7 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Usually take myself away to a cafe . Get a seat by the window. Listening to music, whilst writing in a journal and people watching.

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By *IXEN200Woman
7 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I tend to shut myself away or engrossed in my crafting

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
7 weeks ago

St Georges tower

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

I find having a Dog for these moments is such a great distraction.

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By *ustAnotherMan
7 weeks ago

Mids

Try and have something to look forward to all the time however small.

Be realistic about what you're getting done. Little things

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By *iHung50Man
7 weeks ago

Near You

Long walk. Always makes me feel better and clarified anything stressing or upsetting me

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By *rHotNottsMan
7 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

For me a very real belief that things will eventually get better, much better, and that there’s learning/growth in the tough times - it comes from faith. Knowing that’s enough to push on through

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By *obilebottomMan
7 weeks ago

All over

Distract myself with something else, go for a walk, cuddle a dog, do some cooking. Yes, eat cake.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
7 weeks ago

stanley

I live in quite a rural area so I’ll go on a long walk with my dog, enjoying the countryside and her unconditional love is a great way to cheer myself up.

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By *oughmanMan
7 weeks ago

Sunderland

I try to stumble through it the best I can. Probably not the healthiest solution but I've got no one else I can burden with my problems.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
7 weeks ago

stanley

Important to remember it’s also ok to feel a bit flat, it’s not a sign of weakness or failure. It can be a sign that you’ve expended all of your emotional energy on other people.

Whatever the cause OP big hugs and hope you feel a bit better soon

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By *he.Jungle.VIPMan
7 weeks ago

London

Honestly.....a few beers, bit of a cry...then get on with it.

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By *obilebottomMan
7 weeks ago

All over

Also not wanting to sound strange, coming on here and chatting with some people, also provides an escape. Hoping all turns out ok for you.

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By *avexxMan
7 weeks ago

cheshire

walk in the country side with the dog,, good workout,,, out for a drink and a nice meal

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
7 weeks ago

Reading

Depending on what’s shit: sit in a room on my own with music, curl up in bed with my dog and a book, rewatch of my favourite period dramas, long walk, a hard run, call my best friend, eat all the food.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I remind myself I can’t control what needs to be done or gotten through, but I can control how it affects me. Keeping the stress and grind in perspective keeps its its proper place.

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By *oeBeansMan
7 weeks ago

Derby

I look at ways I can try and improve at least one thing in my life to show I'm actually making an effort to change things, and if it's something out of my control, I'll just distract myself with other things until the feeling passes without trying to overthink.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
7 weeks ago

your head

Rant to my friends, take a bit of time out if possible to do something fun.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
7 weeks ago

Bliss

I go for a swim and meditate

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By *ools and the brainCouple
7 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Well give one of our cat's a cuddle and strokes, give the wife a hug.

Recently we've started hiking,so finding a nice quiet route and take in the fresh air.

However my go to is the bath, it's my safe space chillax,relax and enjoy.

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By *emorefridaCouple
7 weeks ago

La la land

Today has been one of those days. Absolutely had a guts full of work. I listened to break stuff by Limp Bitkit extremely loudly whilst singing at full pelt on the way home. I've spoken to my work colleague to vent. And now I'm sat down trying to decompress, which may take a while but getting there.

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By *ivilised matureMan
7 weeks ago

Barnes sometimes Dulwich Village

Think about or contact one of my kids or grandchildren. Always reminds my of a positive thing in my life.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
7 weeks ago

Reading

Cuddle my cats and listen to my favourite music or some fluff on the tv.

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Go for a walk.

Mind you that is also my answer to what do I do when things are going well. And any other question I am likely to be given.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Ignore it and hope it goes away

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

Eat chocolate. Visit my babies.

Take my medication.

Depends how shit I feel.

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

Sometimes I wish I had a big chest to melt into, with big, strong arms around me.

Just to breathe together.

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By *enelope2UWoman
7 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I go get a tantric massage and let myself relax and get taken care of..if only temporary it just feels good knowing no matter what I'm going to rely on myself

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By *ansoffateMan
7 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I tend to avoid new things, until I've got whatever is a bit shit sorted.

Which is generally a good strategy, not running away from problems etc. It can have it's drawbacks though, not everything can be fixed easily and then all work and no makes Hans a dull boy.

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By *enuine MikeMan
7 weeks ago

Guildford

Listen to LBC or watch Sky News. Why you might say?

Well the local and global news seems to be full of gloom. It sought of puts things into perspective. You think you might be having a bad day, until you hear the news that some others are having a really bad day.

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By *stellaWoman
7 weeks ago

London

Have a coffee. Or a wank. Or a wee dance break to a favourite tune. Maybe a weep. Vent to a bestie. Hide in my duvet. Windy walk. Eat cheese.

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By *rSircumsizedMan
7 weeks ago

Newport area.

I'm up and down like a yo-yo lately. Yesterday I felt great, positive, and full of energy then today I've felt lower than a snakes waistcoat. Just got back from 5-a-side and I'm still not feeling myself. I'm back in work tomorrow and that's not helping the situation.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
7 weeks ago

West Dublin

Had plenty of shit moments.

I cry, I wollow a bit. Stay in that zone for a while.

Then I dust myself off and go do something nice for myself. Or buy something small as a pick me up.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan
7 weeks ago

Ends

Go and lay on my partner’s chest and chat shit

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By *r TriomanMan
7 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I take the little wins and make my day all about them - picks me up a treat.

Find a parking space at work - Win.

Get a load of questions right on House of Games - Win.

Pick the fast queue in the Supermarket - Win...

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By *batMan
7 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Exercise and or music. They usually do the job.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Normally go for a walk. Either by myself, for around 12 miles or so, or with my mate and her dogs (my boys 🥰) for a wander in the woods.

Nothing like just getting away from the rat race and losing yourself surrounded by trees and good company.

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By *aldyreynoldsMan
7 weeks ago

Oldbury

Pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Long cycle ride ,40 miles , mountain bike ,off Rd, clears my head ,makes me feel good,

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
7 weeks ago

Wales

I pretend it's not happening and get d*unk. Like a normal person.

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
7 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

melancholy music 🎶🎵

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By *cLovin2Man
7 weeks ago

Reading

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

Go for a walk, with my headphones, classical music helps relieve stress.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Pretend it’s not happening until it becomes a bigger problem, then spiral.

The usual healthy coping mechanisms.

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By *rdere OpusCouple
7 weeks ago

Brum - ish

I rarely find myself in this situation.

Hearing music, exercise or a bit of gaming always helps to cheer me up and improve mood.

Sex definitely helps 😁

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By *tsJustKateWoman
7 weeks ago

London

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

Try and find a guy to meet

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By *parkle1974Woman
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Hide myself away from everyone...safer that way x

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By *oxy-RedWoman
7 weeks ago

pink panther territory

From July of last year and still ongoing things haven't been great,I just trust in the power of prayers

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By *ripfillMan
7 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

"From July of last year and still ongoing things haven't been great,I just trust in the power of prayers "

Or confession !

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By *hegreatcornholioMan
7 weeks ago

Redditch

Focus on something else completely different. I myself have a Mountain bike and a few nice downhill trails. Get the adrenaline pumping abit! Too focused on not giving my self a serious injury to worry about anything else.

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By *iviTV/TS
7 weeks ago

London

Pure escapism usually, either through writing, walks, media, or heavily partying.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Running and walk with the dogs. Fresh air really doesn’t help to clarify things in my head x

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By *pontaneous_coupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Hoddesdon

If based on a relationship, we buy a £100-£150 sex shop order haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"If based on a relationship, we buy a £100-£150 sex shop order haha x"

Alternatively, 30 seconds with you guys would cheer me right up!

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By *museBouche31Woman
7 weeks ago

Reigate

Have you tried having a REALLY big scream? Like not just for a couple of seconds, but the biggest, loudest, longest you can manage? And then refill your lungs halfway through and keep going. . . Until you stop thinking about absolutely anything, other than how weird the scream sounds?

Try it.

It’s a good brain reset.

And it will keep the neighbours on their toes . . .

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By *iviTV/TS
7 weeks ago

London

A big scream is great, 100%. Even into a pillow or something can be quite freeing

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By *ivpoolmanMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Have you tried having a REALLY big scream? Like not just for a couple of seconds, but the biggest, loudest, longest you can manage? And then refill your lungs halfway through and keep going. . . Until you stop thinking about absolutely anything, other than how weird the scream sounds?

Try it.

It’s a good brain reset.

And it will keep the neighbours on their toes . . .

A good idea… sounds like a great release

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By *avid 50Man
7 weeks ago

kendal

Been to 4 funerals since Christmas of close friends, how do I cope I just rejoice in the fact that I woke up this morning and enjoyed my Nescafe and toast, I'm still here

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By *assy69Man
7 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

I pack a rucksack and head into the hills for a few days R and R

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By *oelMan
7 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

Walk, travel, sit, reflect, touch grass

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By *vaRose43Woman
7 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

It really depends on how shit

If it’s really rough I’ll disappear and isolate until I’m feeling strong enough

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
7 weeks ago

furnace

Sounds like your in the wrong hole

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By *mf123Man
7 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I rage at the universe until im too tired to care

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By *r TriomanMan
7 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Try it.

It’s a good brain reset.

And it will keep the neighbours on their toes . . .

I accidentally did this when I was out cycling down a quiet country lane that was shrouded by trees; a massive bird of prey swooped down out of nowhere, it's talons stretched out towards my face. I let out a scream but not one of terror, one designed to scare and intimidated, a very primal scream, I'd never heard it before and I had no idea that I could even make such a sound; the bird turned away and flu off and I was left feeling empowered and reconnected with nature.

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
7 weeks ago

Sussex

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

Think:

If Britney Spears made it through 2007, I can make it through today.

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By *phrodisiac2000Man
7 weeks ago

diggle

"…how do you get through it? Not like an absolute disaster, just a bit of a grind or a stress. What do you do?

Mrs TMN x"

I usually face it workout how big a problem it is decide how it’s going to affect me and for how long then take whatever I think is the appropriate action which might be so nothing

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By *oxy-RedWoman
7 weeks ago

pink panther territory

"From July of last year and still ongoing things haven't been great,I just trust in the power of prayers

Or confession !

I have nothing to confess

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