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By *IXEN200 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Right debate time.

You've experienced being with someone who's kinky and given you some great experiences, and some amazing times.

You then get into a relationship where it's just vanilla sex.

How easy if at all can you forget about doing or even wanting the kinky stuff again.

Can you live with just vanilla sex?

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Not every connection has to be kinky, I can enjoy sex in a variety of ways.

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By *ndyp81Man
3 weeks ago

essex

You could always make suggestions or drop hints to him

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Sounds like you mean in a monogamous relationship?

In which case I wouldn’t be able to cope with my sexual desires never being met again.

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By *IXEN200 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne


"Not every connection has to be kinky, I can enjoy sex in a variety of ways."

I get this

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By *IXEN200 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne


"Sounds like you mean in a monogamous relationship?

In which case I wouldn’t be able to cope with my sexual desires never being met again. "

Yeah in a monogamous relationship. Would you be able to talk about it with them, and what happens if they turn it down completely 🤔

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By *IXEN200 OP   Woman
3 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne


"You could always make suggestions or drop hints to him "

They fall on deaf ears

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Easy, if it matters to you. It's about the person, the connection and what it means to be in a relationship with them. Great sex doesn't have to be kinky unless both people enjoy it that way.

I was in a swinging/open relationship in my 20's and then spent the next 20 years in vanillaville with no issues. I thought about swinging and even discussed it with partners along the way but they weren't keen and it was important enough to me to pursue it as it was more about being with that person.

Every relationship requires a compromise in some way and what you desire/pursue opens and closes doors.

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Sounds like you mean in a monogamous relationship?

In which case I wouldn’t be able to cope with my sexual desires never being met again.

Yeah in a monogamous relationship. Would you be able to talk about it with them, and what happens if they turn it down completely 🤔 "

Ahh I’m not sure I could ever be monogamous. I am poly, I practice ENM. Moreover my kinky side is just as important as my vanilla side, and while having one satisfied would be great I wouldn’t be fulfilled without the other.

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

It'll be different for me because I have no fetishes that are required for sexual pleasure. But if you do, then I'd for sure be talking to your partner about them. Especially if you're monogamous. I couldn't stomach the idea of being sexually unfulfilled just because I was too afraid to bring it up or end the relationship to find something that would fulfill me.

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By *mf123Man
3 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Its about the person not the sex if lightnig sparks then satisfaction is a given

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By *ack688Man
3 weeks ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

To a certain degree I’m kinda like a kink chameleon, I can often enjoy things a partner enjoys without them necessarily being a thing I enjoy or need to look for without them, so if it’s vanilla and great and they are fun to have sex with then that’s all good!

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By *illy IdolMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands

I'm not that kinky but you may have to question how compatible you are together. If you're happy and feel you're compatible, then great. If not, there may not be longevity in the relationship.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
3 weeks ago

pink panther territory

It just wouldn't work for me,I need the kink in a sex life,all my past relationships have been vanilla and trying to get them to be even a little kinky was impossible infact an ex was terrified of me

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By *sWyldWoman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Personally I love vanilla and intimacy and romance. For me that's way more important than someone's ability to give me an orgasm in some other way.

I'm old and boring perhaps but I'm ok with that.

I no longer feel the need to chase my next thrill

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By *nkymikeyMan
3 weeks ago

Andover

From my own experience I was with someone who at the start was very kinky and sex was good.

Once I got In a relationship the sex became so boring and the juice was jot worth the squeeze in the end.

So sex is a massive part of who I am.

I have a dark side that need to be seen, for me to feel whole.

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By *ndyp81Man
3 weeks ago

essex


"You could always make suggestions or drop hints to him

They fall on deaf ears"

Question is are you happy with your life with your partner?

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