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By (user no longer on site) OP   
4 weeks ago

Alone of with someone?

I don't mean on a tactical or day-to-day basis.

But in life, do you find you're happier when you have your person to connect with and it's worth the downsides.

Or do you value the peace and solitude over any compromise being in a relationship would require?

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan
4 weeks ago

St Leonards

I think I just like close to 100% of me close to 100% of the time.

And when I see other people I like them close to 100% too, but only need to see them 10% of the time, whether that's friends, family, or intimacy and sex.

So when I'm with them, I still like close to 100% of me.

It's just the me I like shared with the them I like.

They think I'm a cunt though, so maybe that throws my reasoning out a tad .

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

What downsides are you referring to?

I love my own space. I also love spending time with the people who matter to me. I have a nice balance of both in my life 💜

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By *agerMorganMan
4 weeks ago

Canvey Island

This is why I don’t do great in relationships, I’ve been single for so long that i now value my own space and independence too much for someone to disturb that.

In the past I’ve made compromises in relationships, but often I’ve found that I’ve made all the compromises and got little back.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
4 weeks ago

Wirral

I'm much happier solo. I love having guests stay over but also love closing the door behind them when they leave.

I'm not cut out for relationships as I need too much alone time and headspace.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
4 weeks ago

North West

I don't know what it's like to live alone because we've been together 21yrs almost, since late teens and living together since we were 19yrs old. I don't feel any downsides to it at all. I can't imagine what life would be like without him in my life every day and pretty much all the time.

We live together, we work together, we generally hang out together. COVID lockdown and WFH for the same organisation was actually pretty decent, we didn't annoy each other at all and quite enjoyed being together all the time. We know this is weird but meh.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
4 weeks ago

Wirral


"I don't know what it's like to live alone because we've been together 21yrs almost, since late teens and living together since we were 19yrs old. I don't feel any downsides to it at all. I can't imagine what life would be like without him in my life every day and pretty much all the time.

We live together, we work together, we generally hang out together. COVID lockdown and WFH for the same organisation was actually pretty decent, we didn't annoy each other at all and quite enjoyed being together all the time. We know this is weird but meh."

I don't think that's weird, I think it's lovely!❤️

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By *opeyXWoman
4 weeks ago

Dundee


"Alone of with someone?

I don't mean on a tactical or day-to-day basis.

But in life, do you find you're happier when you have your person to connect with and it's worth the downsides.

Or do you value the peace and solitude over any compromise being in a relationship would require?"

I value peace and solitude in all realtionships with friends, family and realtionships. I crave solo time. But I also love being around my best friends my connection with them has been over 30 years of friendship, they've been around through everything and we are always there for one another. Its strange how people just focus on realtionships with partners and not friends or family.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
4 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Half and half for me

It took me awhile to get used to living alone ,but I love the freedom it gives me

I do miss the company especially in the ling winter nights though

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By *ortney CocksWoman
4 weeks ago

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Alone imagine having to talk with someone all the time I like my own company

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By *arialoueWoman
4 weeks ago

bradford

I love being on my own now I can't stand being around ppl for 2 long

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By *over of ladiesMan
4 weeks ago

cannock

Definitely happier as a couple.

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By *orny PTMan
4 weeks ago

Peterborough

5 days as a singleton: 2 as a couple. works for us

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By *edhead72Man
4 weeks ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

I love my own company but love her more

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By *ust want fun 888Man
4 weeks ago

nearby

I’ve been single for so long, I actually like living alone, no one to answer to, I come and go as I please but often miss the sexual side of stuff

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By *entleman JayMan
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

I love living alone. I’m not changing it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

The single life suits me very well. Family, friends and fwbs all my needs are met.

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By *over of ladiesMan
4 weeks ago

cannock

Cant bear not having someone lying next to me in bed,was a couple for over 30yrs before she passed away.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What downsides are you referring to?

I love my own space. I also love spending time with the people who matter to me. I have a nice balance of both in my life 💜"

This. 💯

The only real downside for me in regard to living alone is having to pay all the bills by myself. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ickedtiesWoman
4 weeks ago

limerick


"What downsides are you referring to?

I love my own space. I also love spending time with the people who matter to me. I have a nice balance of both in my life 💜"

This ❤️

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

I cannot imagine my like without my partners or my daughter. God forbiddddddd

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
4 weeks ago


"What downsides are you referring to?

I love my own space. I also love spending time with the people who matter to me. I have a nice balance of both in my life 💜"

There are pros and cons for both options.

With a partner the downside is a lack of freedom/independence/own space, the need to compromise more, rows and flashpoints, etc.

Being single the downside is lack of someone who gets you, not always someone to do stuff with, lack of intimacy-on-tap, all your own bills.

I think I'm newly single so miss certain aspects of the last relationship and haven't settled into Singledom yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
4 weeks ago


"I’ve been single for so long, I actually like living alone, no one to answer to, I come and go as I please but often miss the sexual side of stuff"

It's not even sex for me, it's the kisses and cuddles I miss more.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
4 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Alone, been single nearly 9 years, love it

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By *riar BelisseWoman
4 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

I'm happiest solo with fwb's.

I'm just not built to cope in a relationship, my need to wander and seek adventure is too strong, for me to be in a full time relationship.

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By *orny PTMan
4 weeks ago

Peterborough


"What downsides are you referring to?

I love my own space. I also love spending time with the people who matter to me. I have a nice balance of both in my life 💜

This ❤️"

yup!

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