FabSwingers.com forum: Do you feel any guilt cheating on your partner?

By *ottom4topx OP Man
4 weeks ago

Derry

I know I would. I wouldn't even. Be on this site but each to there own

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nope, because id never do it so I'd live a life with a healthy conscience

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By *ichelleCDTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Stratford upon Avon

No. It's not like she is demanding sex every day and I'm turning it down while chasing cock on here

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

NEVER CHEATED NEVER WILL

AM GUY. WILL GAVE

100%

IN A RELATIONSHIP

having said my X wife

Cheated on me

With a police man

Can you believe

That

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By *erfHerder74Man
4 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Never cheated, I give my attention to one man at a time

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By *usie pTV/TS
4 weeks ago

taunton

Yes Normster I believe it, although we guys have trouble understanding that wives have needs that a husband can't fulfil no matter how hard he tries.

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
4 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I've never cheated, it's not in my nature. If I'm in a relationship it's 100% focus on him.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
4 weeks ago

Wales

"No. It's not like she is demanding sex every day and I'm turning it down while chasing cock on here "

She's pretty much giving you full consent to go and get your fill

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By *essaMayWoman
4 weeks ago

Fairytale Wood

Nah you just blame it all on your partner, it's because of them and you sleep well at night.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

"Nah you just blame it all on your partner, it's because of them and you sleep well at night.

That's what my ex husband did. Worked for him.

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By *ony MannMan
4 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

If I did cheat I would, but Lisa and I talk about our naughty games in bed... no cheating just fun, and more fun.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

If I loved someone I wouldn't be able to cheat. I wouldn't want to. I'd try to fix whatever problem we had, then make a decision as to whether I stay or go.

Having sex with someone else would only add to my stress.

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By *uddenly See MoreMan
4 weeks ago

Thornaby

I have cheated on a partner before, and I still live with the guilt to this day, almost 10 years later.

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By *uckurcumMan
4 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?

People get hurt through being cheated on ..

It creates serious trust issues in some people....

Weak men cheat ...

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By *dz69247Man
4 weeks ago

Manchester

I was very close to cheating, but managed to stop it before it got beyond the point of no return. Managed to kick me into having a proper discussion with my ex, and agreed the relationship wasn’t working.

If you cheat then so be it, it is what it is, but be honest with it, a lot of people don’t want to play with people in a relationship, some don’t mind, don’t let someone else be involved in something they want nothing to do with. I see a lot of people say in their profile they are attached and that’s sound.

I personally do get involved with people that are attached, I had a lot of success on an affairs website (especially as I am single and makes the logistics easier), I kind of like the excitement of it, I know this makes me a bit of a cunt, but it was a kink of mine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

Interesting question op. Why do you ask?

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh. "

I will.

There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
4 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Each to there own

But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman

though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others

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By *dz69247Man
4 weeks ago

Manchester

"Each to there own

But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman

though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others"

It’s definitely not cheating if you and your partner are in agreements with what’s occurring and are able to discuss things openly. It’s only cheating if you do anything behind someone back, and keep secrets, if your partner wouldn’t like it if they knew then it’s cheating.

I’ve known swinging couples actually cheat on their partner. I’ve met the lady of a couple a few times without her partner knowing, they only use to play together, so this was definitely cheating (I.e she didn’t tell him that I was fucking her).

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh.

I will.

There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings."

Thanks for answering that RTG.

It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen.

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By *oxy-RedWoman
4 weeks ago

pink panther territory

"Each to there own

But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman

though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others

Exactly my thinking to

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By *odgerandherMan
4 weeks ago

marske

My cock has no ethics

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By *igNick1381Man
4 weeks ago

BRIDGEND

" NEVER CHEATED NEVER WILL

AM GUY. WILL GAVE

100%

IN A RELATIONSHIP

having said my X wife

Cheated on me

With a police man

Can you believe

That "

Why do you write like it's a haiku

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen. "

Yeah, and that doesn’t sit well with me. It’s cowardice, isn’t it? Refusal to take responsibility for their own actions. I decide if I’m going to cheat. Me. I’m the only person to blame.

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By *ear in the chairMan
4 weeks ago

yeah there

"Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?

People get hurt through being cheated on ..

It creates serious trust issues in some people....

Weak men cheat ..."

But not women obviously?

I suppose they are strong women for being able to express themselves in your eyes?

Maybe not a gender appropriate line to add?

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By *ornycougaWoman
4 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"Why be in any form of relationship or understanding with someone if your going to cheat ?

People get hurt through being cheated on ..

It creates serious trust issues in some people....

Weak men cheat ...

But not women obviously?

I suppose they are strong women for being able to express themselves in your eyes?

Maybe not a gender appropriate line to add?"

Indeed. Here's one who will admit to it. Being 100pc honest, I felt guilty after I was caught and dealing with trying to rebuild a relationship seeing just how much it had hurt him. I never did it again even though our relationship was unhappy and toxic for many years after that. The guilt would have been too much for me.

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By *elboy1978Man
4 weeks ago

Jarrow

I am single but when I was married I never cheated on my wife but it depends what situation someone is in

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By *ertcoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Hatfield

Wouldn't do it, she's what keeps me sane ❤

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By *ilverfox for youMan
4 weeks ago

Hull

So is wanking classed as cheating ?when she doesn’t know about it ?

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By *aitonelMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

"So is wanking classed as cheating ?when she doesn’t know about it ?"

To some it will be. Because psychopaths

But no, it's simple self pleasure.

The one exception I will say is if it is wanking in the presence of another man or woman and they are the basis for that pleasure. The other person (or persons) is key to it all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

"So is wanking classed as cheating ?when she doesn’t know about it ?"

Nope.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Yeah, ‘cheating’ is all about there being another person. Or people.

It doesn’t even need to be consummated - I’m sure we’ve all heard of ‘emotional affairs’.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Yeah, ‘cheating’ is all about there being another person. Or people.

It doesn’t even need to be consummated - I’m sure we’ve all heard of ‘emotional affairs’."

Yep. I've seen loads of those going on especially at work. Work husband or wife.

Personally I find emotional affairs almost worse than physical.

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By *ornLordMan
4 weeks ago

Wiltshire and London

Not guilt, but a sense of sadness. Several years ago I was told that it "didn't work" any more and that I could play away as long as I went home afterwards.

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By *rilingualMan
4 weeks ago

Guildford

Isn't the whole idea of this swinging lark to be able to have multiple sexual encounters as a lifestyle choice so you don't have to sneak around behind someones back?

or have I got this wrong.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"So is wanking classed as cheating ?when she doesn’t know about it ?"

Wanking alone isn't, no.

But if you're doing it for others on here, but your wife is unaware, then yes, it's cheating.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen.

Yeah, and that doesn’t sit well with me. It’s cowardice, isn’t it? Refusal to take responsibility for their own actions. I decide if I’m going to cheat. Me. I’m the only person to blame."

I've never seen you say anything derogatory about your wife on the forums or blame anyone.

I do get annoyed when I see men and women slate their partners or refer to them as prides or boring etc.

I also think there's another side to the story that we never hear about too.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I haven't cheated but she has cheated on me on multiple occasions and admitted so, and therefore I am not cheating I have permission to do what I deem necessary for me!

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By *issBehavexxxWoman
4 weeks ago

essex

I cheated on my ex many years ago. Did I feel guilty, not really, maybe a little sad that I crossed that line but the love had gone long before. I am a true believer if you love someone then you just can’t cheat on them no matter what.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
4 weeks ago

Loughborough

I (M) cheated on my partner many moons ago. I feel differently about it to how I do now. I wasn't really ever guilty about it until after we actually split up and it being one of the 'hidden' reasons for the break up.

I was very bored and unfulfilled in life and the excitement made things fun. But I know it was a poor thing to do and it shows the lack of maturity and control I had at that moment in time.

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By *ony MannMan
4 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I can't cheat on my dear Lady, she has made it impossible. "Do what you want with who you want, I will." That is our agreement, but it is far more fun when we are all in the same bed.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
4 weeks ago

East Mids

That would depend on whether they were cheating on me I guess !

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

While I wouldn't be the one cheating, I do have empathy for some situations that people find themselves in.

I've spoken to a few people (and met some) over the years, who have resorted to looking elsewhere for attention and affection. Not everything is as black and white as one might think.

Sometimes people find they are in a situation where they are afraid to let go or can't leave, for various reasons (i.e. children, financial stability, illnesses, afraid of what the future might bring and so on).

The conversations I've had have been very eye-opening about the things that couples can go through.

I've actually helped quite a few out of shit situations (some without meeting). My ex-girlfriend was with someone when we first met. That relationship was incredibly toxic and she had no self esteem whatsoever, for someone absolutely wonderful and gorgeous.

She was looking for a way out, but wasn't sure of how to go about it, until she met me. Even though we eventually broke up, she still maintains that I saved her.

So yeah, not every cheater is the classic "greedy and wanting more" person that one might think. Sometimes it's not always as easy as just leaving.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
4 weeks ago

Swansea

"I doubt the ones who are cheating will answer this op tbh.

I will.

There’s always guilt. There has to be. To avoid guilt completely you’d need to be an actual sociopath, not comprehending that other people have feelings.

Thanks for answering that RTG.

It tends to be people blaming their other halves for why they're here, on many threads I've seen. "

I think they're is difference between blaming and explaining.

"I have to cheat because my spouse isn't interested" is blaming

"My spouse isn't interested so I've chosen to look else where" is an explanation.

I suspect there are people who get no guilt - as someone else said, sociopaths do exist. For everyone else they're will be a range of guilt levels.

For me, it caused me to realise my relationship couldn't be saved (she flat out refused to even go to counselling for many years before I left), caused huge feelings of guilt, feelings of not being good enough etc and resulted in a breakdown that has left scars ever since.

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By *ark742024Man
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

Judge not, lest ye be judged

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By *ure_and_InnocentWoman
4 weeks ago

Knaresborough

Nope none whatsoever because I know I’ve given it all I can to try rectify the situation. Not everything is as cut and dried as people like to make out ‘oh if you love him how could you do it!’ Sometimes it’s just not about love or love just isn’t enough!

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By *andC1000Couple
4 weeks ago

Ashford

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By *andC1000Couple
4 weeks ago

Ashford

"Each to there own

But no I've never cheated,im strictly a one man woman

though swinging couples don't class it as cheating if they both agree to play with others

Exactly this. If open and agreed nothing wrong with it but communication is key.

Shame so many still take the easy option and cheat rather than actually have a conversation that could potentially lead to better things especially when it comes to bi or experimenting men cheating behinds wives and partners back. The signs are always there - too tired for sex, cum filled boxers front and back, always secretive and defensive if asked anything

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By *elix SightedMan
4 weeks ago

Cloud 8

I can’t even seem to cheat on the cold, empty space on the other side of my bed.

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By *urves and HeelsWoman
4 weeks ago

Dumbarton

My boyfriend loves me cheating on him and then telling him about it a few days later

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By *loomy GirlWoman
4 weeks ago

leicester

I cheated on my ex and didn’t feel any guilt.

We had 3 kids together but his friends and a bottle of vodka were more important than his family.

That was 19 years ago. Stayed single ever since mostly.

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By *dz69247Man
4 weeks ago

Manchester

"My boyfriend loves me cheating on him and then telling him about it a few days later "

Whilst that is very hot, that isn’t cheating really though, if your partner is fine with it once they find out then it’s just normal fun.

Cheating is, if your partner found out what you did, they would be hurt and feel betrayed.

Whilst what you are doing is very kinky, it’s definitely not cheating.

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