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"I think a lot of people are here because they are lonely, a lot is boredom browsing but I do think some people seek out people for a simple conversation as they have no one else. " You're better with words than I am but that's exactly what I meant! | |||
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"I think a lot of people are here because they are lonely, a lot is boredom browsing but I do think some people seek out people for a simple conversation as they have no one else. " I think you are correct, lots are here for lots of reasons, that disappoints others | |||
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"Both, truth be told. I like the forum as I can read people’s voices and they can read mine. They get to hopefully see there’s a human behind the profile, and a feel for my personality." And it's a lovely personality.  | |||
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"I am feeling called out with this thread. I was just messaging a fab friend the other day to say that I'm not hugely interested in setting up more sex meets in the near future. Not when I really want is physical affection and a good conversation." You're not alone  I've recently come out of a relationship and have sort some comfort in conversations with people. | |||
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"I am feeling called out with this thread. I was just messaging a fab friend the other day to say that I'm not hugely interested in setting up more sex meets in the near future. Not when I really want is physical affection and a good conversation." There’s something really nice about just having a friend, (yes with benefits would be nice), but who you’re so comfortable with that you can just melt into each other’s arms while having just a nice intelligent conversation and intimacy. I take a long time to rev up, so spontaneous stick it in there sex is out of the question as much as I’d want it to be otherwise, I’m truth I don’t think I was doing rutting and revolving door sex even in my prime- I just ended up chatting and massaging before I went in. So for me a connection with her is important, and so is all the kissing, touching, stroking, massaging, foreplay and sensuality that builds up to the sex. Some people do panda really well (eats roots, shoots and leaves). I just can’t. I just love the chatting and enjoying the company of a lovely mind and personality of a sensual woman, I could lose myself for hours in that alone. And now I’m rambling, sorry 
Having taken them all down, I really should get my arse in gear and put up a new set of profile pics up shouldn’t I !?! | |||
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"I’m probably only on here because I don’t get out much and my dogs don’t chat back to me. Not lonely but a bit of company albeit virtual as it were now and then." Dogs are better than people!! | |||
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"I'm having a lovely chat on here to a really nice couple and it got me thinking back to an encounter I had ages ago. How many people are on here possibly because they are lonely rather than lacking Maybe my wording is incorrect but I hope you get my drift "Never lonely although sometimes bored. I come on fab for many reasons. I don't watch much television but i do enjoy looking at photos and reading the forums. | |||
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"I think a lot of people are on here are looking for intimacy and hope to find it through sex. " I think this is very true. It can be difficult to find intimacy with friends, especially for fellas, and intimacy is typically linked to sex through experience. Even though sex wasn't the purpose of the intimacy, a man's body often reacts and his partner might then desire to go to the next stage. However, the intimacy is then withdrawn if the partner doesn't want it to progress thinking that intimacy is the doorway to sex, when it actually isn't. Thus, reinforcing the thoughts that intimacy is inextricably linked to sex. | |||
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"I am feeling called out with this thread. I was just messaging a fab friend the other day to say that I'm not hugely interested in setting up more sex meets in the near future. Not when I really want is physical affection and a good conversation." You'll be surprised how many men actually want the same... A couple of hours curled up on the sofa, lots of affection and close contact... And whilst our bodies will react, that doesn't mean that's what we're doing it for. But, we don't get the chance because it's believed that when a man gets hard due to intimacy that was his intention all along...  | |||
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"I'm here out of loneliness. It's not often I talk to people in the real world. Spent all Christmas and new years alone. Dating apps don't work" Oh! I'm sorry. | |||
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"Definitely because of loneliness,wouldn't be on the forums if my wife was still alive" This must be very difficult. I'm sending hugs. I'm wondering if there's something nearby with others who are in a similar position. | |||
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"I'm here out of loneliness. It's not often I talk to people in the real world. Spent all Christmas and new years alone. Dating apps don't work" It's the same for myself. I've even been told that I'm not good enough to have a convo with apparently. | |||
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"I am feeling called out with this thread. I was just messaging a fab friend the other day to say that I'm not hugely interested in setting up more sex meets in the near future. Not when I really want is physical affection and a good conversation. You'll be surprised how many men actually want the same... A couple of hours curled up on the sofa, lots of affection and close contact... And whilst our bodies will react, that doesn't mean that's what we're doing it for. But, we don't get the chance because it's believed that when a man gets hard due to intimacy that was his intention all along... "Couldn't agree more its not just bout sex although sex is great being intimate cuddled up pillow talking engaging in decent convo is what a lot of men want but they feel they have to portray something different on this site id love to meet a long term partner who's into this scene although I don't go hunting it as it is a swingers site and what will be will be but alot of men including myself thrive for intimacy but won't admit it x | |||
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"Definitely because of loneliness,wouldn't be on the forums if my wife was still alive" Sending love 💘 its good that the forums can help people in all different ways | |||
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"I'm here out of loneliness. It's not often I talk to people in the real world. Spent all Christmas and new years alone. Dating apps don't work It's the same for myself. I've even been told that I'm not good enough to have a convo with apparently." That is unkind and unnecessary. | |||
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"Definitely because of loneliness,wouldn't be on the forums if my wife was still alive" I'm really sorry you lost your wife  | |||
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"At this moment I’ve never felt more alone " I hate sadness in any form and sorry you're feeling alone. But with us lot, you aren't alone x | |||
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"At this moment I’ve never felt more alone " This is extremely sad to read. But like someone else has said at least you can reach out on here. | |||
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"To all of you who are feeling lonely.... you're not alone, we may only be people on a screen but behind every screen is a real person that will read your comment and even for a brief moment will be thinking of you. Stay strong, things do get better." This is so sweet and very true!! | |||
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"To all of you who are feeling lonely.... you're not alone, we may only be people on a screen but behind every screen is a real person that will read your comment and even for a brief moment will be thinking of you. Stay strong, things do get better. This is so sweet and very true!!" I'm local to you if you ever need a chat or socialise know one deserves to feel lonely x | |||
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"I think a lot of people are on here are looking for intimacy and hope to find it through sex. I think this is very true. It can be difficult to find intimacy with friends, especially for fellas, and intimacy is typically linked to sex through experience. Even though sex wasn't the purpose of the intimacy, a man's body often reacts and his partner might then desire to go to the next stage. However, the intimacy is then withdrawn if the partner doesn't want it to progress thinking that intimacy is the doorway to sex, when it actually isn't. Thus, reinforcing the thoughts that intimacy is inextricably linked to sex." Personally I feel it's a mistake to seek emotional intimacy via casual sex. Physical intimacy is different obviously. | |||
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"At this moment I’ve never felt more alone " Let's feel lonely together added bonus of staying warm lol xx | |||
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"I recon there's alot here I don't mind being sociable with anyone personally" Giving people the time of day is a courtesy that we can all afford  | |||
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"Lost my partner in September, Christmas just hasn't been the same this year, spent all Christmas and new year indoors, not seen anyone, don't think I'll ever get over it, it's nice to post an occasional message on here and feel a part of something." Mate take it from me,I lost my wife over 2yrs ago you don't stop missing them,but it does get easier. If you ever want a chat I'm more than happy to chat with you x | |||
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"Lost my partner in September, Christmas just hasn't been the same this year, spent all Christmas and new year indoors, not seen anyone, don't think I'll ever get over it, it's nice to post an occasional message on here and feel a part of something. Mate take it from me,I lost my wife over 2yrs ago you don't stop missing them,but it does get easier. If you ever want a chat I'm more than happy to chat with you x" Thanks I appreciate that | |||
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"I'm having a lovely chat on here to a really nice couple and it got me thinking back to an encounter I had ages ago. How many people are on here possibly because they are lonely rather than lacking sex? Maybe my wording is incorrect but I hope you get my drift "I do get lonely and have turned men down who just want to cum n go or suck n go. I’m a man who likes to be sensual, to cuddle, to kiss, to build something regular. Finding a real cuddle buddy for company, chat is very difficult where I live. | |||
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"Personally I feel it's a mistake to seek emotional intimacy via casual sex. Physical intimacy is different obviously. " Absolutely, and I think there's a place and a need for both, and you're absolutely right in saying that problems arise when one is confused with or for the other. It's been just over a year since I lost my partner, There isn't a day I don't miss her, but all the crying in the world isn't going to bring her back. All the while she was ill I never strayed, I owed her that in order to show my commitment and to keep a promise made. Yes, I want to have sex, lots of it, I've so much catching up to do. I'm still human, have a pulse, desires, wants and needs. I don't wan't a relationship where we're picking out curtains, certainly not, but I probably like many on this thread also want to find a fwb who I can just be intimate with and have a giggle with and just hold once in a while. As lovely lady in the post above said, sometimes it's more than just zipping up and buggering off - and there are those times when time just flies because you're doing nothing more than making someone feel wanted. | |||
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