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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London

you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)

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By *lue Eyed JokerMan
29 weeks ago

Always on the move

Hmm, that's a tough one. Somebody being absolutely heinous can turn the most attractive person to a very unpleasant person..

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By *rHotNottsMan
29 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not really no, then I don’t have sex in clubs or at parties or any kind of encounter with people that I don’t know. For me sex is beyond the physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

For a one off…….i doubt I’d be discovering their beliefs, etc.

It’d be all about doing the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Id be able to

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By *moothdickMan
29 weeks ago

stoke

No

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By *ellhungvweMan
29 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Yes - I doubt any of us are 100% aligned in everything with any person we have sex with. The question is how far out does it have to go before I say enough is enough?

Someone’s political views don’t matter to me - they are legally held and I like diversity of thought.

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By *vaRoseWoman
29 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

No not at all

Attraction may start with physical appearance but a person quickly becomes ugly if they are ugly on the inside

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By *oxy-RedWoman
29 weeks ago

pink panther territory


"Not really no, then I don’t have sex in clubs or at parties or any kind of encounter with people that I don’t know. For me sex is beyond the physical."

Exactly this

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman
29 weeks ago

Reading

No I couldn't. But I also don't see attraction in purely physical ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Depends on what the values and beliefs are....political, religious, sexual, racial???? Be a boring world if we all agreed on everything wouldn't it

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London


"For a one off…….i doubt I’d be discovering their beliefs, etc.

It’d be all about doing the sex. "

I think you can have a feel of someone on here by how they present themselves, on the forum, for example?

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By *oughmanMan
29 weeks ago

Sunderland

I have to say no. I've known some woman like that and just couldn't stand to be around them.

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29 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

If I don't agree with who they are as a person, I doubt I'd even get to the talking stage but people only usually show their true colours after knowing them a while. They can be on their best behaviour up until the one off so I guess you wouldn't know if you're only looking to bang them once.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

It would depend what those beliefs were.

Politics, religion, I could let it go.

Vegan? Fuck off.

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By *eliWoman
29 weeks ago

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I don't have one night stands, NSA etc so that's a very easy no.

I know that's quite rare on here but... I'm okay with that. I also know people will/are fib(bing) because they don't want to say they do which is weird. There's nothing wrong with NSA if that's your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

If I found them physically attractive, then 100% we'd be having sex

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By *riar BelisseWoman
29 weeks ago

Holibobs

Yes

In clubs and parties we fuck as a one off, purely based on attraction

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By *ea monkeyMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that I could if there were differences of beliefs, so long as we’re not talking about extremism. If someone had a different moral compass though, that’s a different thing

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By *unxxx9911Man
29 weeks ago

Redhill

As a one off pure sexual pleasure type thing it is doable, just keep the conversation and focus on the sexual side of things and don’t get into a conversation about politics etc.

Unless they are totally against red wine or coffee and the it could be a deal breaker 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I think it would have to depend on where the disconnect was...

If they were a Utd fan then it's a flat no... I've had to block Rachel Riley who just doesn't get that.

In all seriousness, if it was a value I thought important then it could put me off having sex. Smoking for example, that's a no. But if they were more relaxed about recreational drugs than me then it's not been an issue in the past.

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By *rHotNottsMan
29 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Yes - I doubt any of us are 100% aligned in everything with any person we have sex with. The question is how far out does it have to go before I say enough is enough?

Someone’s political views don’t matter to me - they are legally held and I like diversity of thought. "

I’m not interested in politics and I’m very interested in diverse thinking & beliefs, but values & mindset are important. If they are self-centred, bitchy or gossipy, talking negatively about others etc, it’s a huge turn off.

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By *ea monkeyMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't have one night stands, NSA etc so that's a very easy no.

I know that's quite rare on here but... I'm okay with that. I also know people will/are fib(bing) because they don't want to say they do which is weird. There's nothing wrong with NSA if that's your thing. "

Because on the forums many people aren’t actual swingers and see NSA or one offs as being too promiscuous or indiscriminate

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
29 weeks ago

Buckingham

The thing is in club situations you don't really " get to know someone " so if you play at clubs then yes most of us have done it.

But if we had met and I had gotten to know of the negative side, then it's a hard no. No matter how physically attractive they are only thing I'd see is the ugly part I dislike and that will be a turn off. Hard no from me .

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By *ea monkeyMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"As a one off pure sexual pleasure type thing it is doable, just keep the conversation and focus on the sexual side of things and don’t get into a conversation about politics etc.

Unless they are totally against red wine or coffee and the it could be a deal breaker 😂"

Red wine is the sacred blood of Jesus Christ our saviour

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London

Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing.

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By *vaRoseWoman
29 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

No

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By *ellhungvweMan
29 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

That would likely kill the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Depends how hot they are, and how much I wanna go on ‘em.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

That's not enough for me to not sleep with them if they've given me the horn at that moment but it is enough for me to talk about it afterwards. Kinda post coital conversation.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
29 weeks ago

Holibobs


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

No. Cuntish behaviour to others, will destroy any attraction I ever had to them.

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By *atty CoramWoman
29 weeks ago

Wimbledon


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

I can only have sex with people I like so... no.

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By *ea monkeyMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

That’s a hard line and the kind of moral separation that would rule it out

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

As much as I hate that kinda behaviour. I could be down for some angry sex if they were that hot.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
29 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

It would be a no at that point. Similarly if they started on about 'migrants' used words like 'convid ' 'sheeple ' or 'liebour ' or told me to 'do your own research '.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
29 weeks ago

A place where others reside (West Oxfordshire)

As a few people have already said, it comes down to the context. Diversity is natural, you're not always going to agree. Voted for a particular party, think xx is the best music artist of all time, believes in the death penalty etc, then each to their own and we'll keep talking.

Cheating in a relationship/marriage, rude to staff, rude about people based on appearance or money then we probably won't even give you the courtesy of a goodbye if we had got so far as a coffee or a chat

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By *icky KlungespeareMan
29 weeks ago

St Leonards

I've thought 15 different ways to answer this, partly because it's never happened for a one-off (it's happened a couple of times for more traditional "coupling", and I've stopped things progressing).

I honestly don't know what I'd do - to be with someone who sexually excites you, be 98% of the way back to the bedroom in both your minds....and then she starts revealing things that turn me inside out. I think I'd just be too confused for a few minutes.

If we did end up fucking, I don't think I'd enjoy it much.

I don't like imagining the scenario if I'm really honest.

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By *r TriomanMan
29 weeks ago

Malmesbury

Good morning OP, when I meet and play with people at a club, although I may chat to them prior any fun being had, the conversation is rarely that deep that I get to know their views on things that matter to me therefore, yes, I may have had sex with people that, if I was to get to know them more, I probably wouldn't associate with.

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By *riveinsaturdayXXXMan
29 weeks ago

Bristol

My F partner and I met up with a woman in 2018 - beautiful, sexy, smart. As we were having a drink & chat before the potential fun, she revealed she was something of an aspiring trad-wife - felt women had been too pushy in the world of men, etc. Killed my horn & my partner just looked depressed. Fizzled out right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Absolutely not. I enjoy being attracted to the person as a whole, not just their physical and/or sexual attributes.

If we wouldn't get along, I don't see the point, just to have sex. I'm eager, not desperate. 😄

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By *ools and the brainCouple
29 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.


"Hmm, that's a tough one. Somebody being absolutely heinous can turn the most attractive person to a very unpleasant person..

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No.

They could be the hottest person alive,but if they turned out to be a Nazi sympathizer I'd be gone

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
29 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
29 weeks ago

North West


"Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜"

What I was wanting to say in just 5 words. Amazing.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
29 weeks ago

Coventry

Yes and no, depending on situation and the level at which you find their point of veiw egregious. Just to add its more spark for us than purely good looks. Someone can be a perfect specimen but still no good without any spark in their eye.

First example of a yes from us is perfectly simple, we've not talked to them. Sometimes in group/orgy situations your eyes meet with someone else in the sex puddle, they look good, they have a wicked smile and it's awesome. Then later on you chat to them and think I probably wouldn't have gone with them if I've talked to them first. In the same vain we had sex with a hot foreign couple once that just joined in with us. They hardly spoke any English so who knows what their outlook on life and politics was . The main thing is in this environment with regards NSA we're here to fulfil our sexual desires not scrutinise the morals and opinions of others.

Yet all that said we are very fickle and we tend to get into a bedroom situation after building some chemistry. So most of the time good looks walk and passions die when someone gives us the ick. It's happened a few times. However it is a matter to what extent, we're tolerant of different ideas, the worlds a broad church and most people are decent. We can find spark and connection with people of some difference in background and politics. I think what really kills it for us is people who are disrespectful of other or kick down on others and people who are particularly dull.

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By *allipygousMan
29 weeks ago

Leicester


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing."

This happened to me many years ago when meeting someone for the first time. She was doing a returns at Argos and was, I thought, unnecessary rude to the staff member trying to help her. When we left I gently pointed out how rude she was and that the staff member was doing all in their power to help. She was actually mortified when her behaviour was highlighted and turned out to be one of the nicest people you could meet who was going through her own heavy shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Nope

Wouldn't interest me at all.

I don't do one off's either but in that situation I'd prefer to not even bother with the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Do you mean like shagging a Tory or a UKIP-er?

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By *dam1971Man
29 weeks ago

Bedford

If I don’t think they’re someone I want to be with, I wouldn’t. If we’re getting naked, I want to really enjoy it.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London


"Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜"

Perfectly put.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
29 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing.

It would be a no at that point. Similarly if they started on about 'migrants' used words like 'convid ' 'sheeple ' or 'liebour ' or told me to 'do your own research '. "

You missed 'snowflake' for a fab bingo full house.

But yep. I agree with that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Central

It depends and if too much was said, I'd probably not continue

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Horsham

No, I had this happen to me. She wanted to meet up with me, she liked how I looked and dressed. She was so racist, that hings never progressed very far after that.

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By *aitonelMan
29 weeks ago

Liverpool

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By *aitonelMan
29 weeks ago

Liverpool

Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are.

Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no.

I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general.

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By *ruceyyMan
29 weeks ago

London


"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are.

Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no.

I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general."

I'd have sex with kai

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
29 weeks ago

London

Most of the time we'd say no, but we have had a few occasions actually where we both disliked the guy for some of these kinds of reasons and we still went ahead and if we're honest we'd say it added to the sex in some weird way.

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By *essTTWoman
29 weeks ago

Birmingham


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

No I couldn't

Even if it was a 1 time thing you can almost guarantee at some point they would say something that would make you think

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By *eordieJeansCouple
29 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It would depend on the beliefs. Could I have sex with someone who voted Tory? Probably. Could I have sex with a far right extremist? Absolutely not.

I don’t think I could have sex with a full on conspiracy theorist either.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are.

Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no.

I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general.

I'd have sex with kai"

Id watch

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London


"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing.

This happened to me many years ago when meeting someone for the first time. She was doing a returns at Argos and was, I thought, unnecessary rude to the staff member trying to help her. When we left I gently pointed out how rude she was and that the staff member was doing all in their power to help. She was actually mortified when her behaviour was highlighted and turned out to be one of the nicest people you could meet who was going through her own heavy shit. "

Interesting that. Makes me wonder how easily people can judge someone without knowing the full context behind their actions.

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By *midnight-Woman
29 weeks ago

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Hmmm I mean I'm vegan, so I guess I do this every time??

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By *inceIlkestonMan
29 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

Yes, to me those things only apply to relationships and long term friendships.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I’d love to say it’s just about the physical, but if they’re being rude to staff or acting like a prat, it’s game over for me. It’s like 'Cheers for killing the mood’.

Even for a one-off, I reckon a bit of basic decency isn’t too much to ask.Otherwise, I’d spend the whole time wondering if they’d be critiquing everything else, like some sort of Michelin judge.

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By *omeone212Man
29 weeks ago

deeside

Yeah i could. A one off is a one off, so why not. some people are completely different people in the bedroom to who they are in the street. I also cant see them bringing up there beliefs while were at it. If they did id be questioning my performance haha.

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By *ou only live onceMan
29 weeks ago

London

Not on an ongoing basis, no - their views would likely make them unattractive to me (assuming we're getting to know each other better over time).

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By *attooedskinzMan
29 weeks ago

Tayside


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

No problem at all

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By *iscotti32Woman
29 weeks ago

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Yes

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By *ony MannMan
29 weeks ago

South Newton

A certain Jewish actor bedded a woman from his school who was anti Jewish.

After he fucked her he asked 'what was it like having a circumcised cock in you.' He never recorded her response.

For myself I would not wish to fuck anyone I disagreed with on matters of ethics.

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By *aitonelMan
29 weeks ago

Liverpool


"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are.

Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no.

I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general.

I'd have sex with kai"

We can't! Em said it can't happen

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By *erfHerder74Man
29 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Nope, they can try

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By *host63Man
29 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

Most would it's about sex after all

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"It would depend what those beliefs were.

Politics, religion, I could let it go.

Vegan? Fuck off.

"

Haha.. my girl! 🤣

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By *ai Hard 2 - Dai HarderMan
29 weeks ago

Manchester / Cardiff

I'm very much with the 'it depends' crowd. It would ultimately be down to, did whatever said person do make them become less attractive as a human being? If it was enough to change my view of them (to their detriment), then no. But if it was just some momentary irksome comment/action that raised an eyebrow then I'd probably be able to overlook it.

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By *andb69Couple
29 weeks ago

leeds


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

We play predominantly in clubs and there I don't necessarily ask for a guy's name, let alone his political or religious views. As long as there is a mutual physical attraction that's enough for good sex.

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By *parkle1974Woman
29 weeks ago

Leeds

No I couldn't but that has nothing to do with their "values/beliefs"...more to do with who they are as a person.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London

Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?"

Ghosting or blocking feels a bit harsh unless something really bad happened. If it’s a one-off, I’d at least say a quick ‘thanks for the night’ or something polite before moving on.

At the end of the day, we’re all here for fun, and a bit of respect goes a long way,even if it’s not going anywhere after that.

What about you,do you think there’s a ‘right’ way to handle it, or is it all situational?.

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By *attooedskinzMan
29 weeks ago

Tayside


"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?"

It’s a one off thing like you said and I’m sure if it was arranged through this site our objective would be common, good sex. Therefore, I personally wouldn’t care about their views or who they voted for and if they were values I didn’t agree with then that’s ok, they’re entitled to those, it wouldn’t make a difference to what I thought.

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By *ustincider888Man
29 weeks ago

Preston Ish

Probably yes.

I'm not the type of person who let's other people's views get in the way of any type of relationship.

So one off shagging isn't going to make any difference

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By *enuine MikeMan
29 weeks ago

Guildford

The 3 things at the top of my list of absolutely No No's are:

Anyone that is Antivax.

Anyone that is a Trump supporter.

Anyone that is a Max Vestappen or Redbull fan.

I would not have sex with anyone that endorses the above

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By *tevenTellyCouple
29 weeks ago

Newmarket

The "who they are as a person" would be our reason for no.

We are fine with different views if you can have a conversation and respect eachother.

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By *eeliciouschaos OP   Woman
29 weeks ago

London


"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?

Ghosting or blocking feels a bit harsh unless something really bad happened. If it’s a one-off, I’d at least say a quick ‘thanks for the night’ or something polite before moving on.

At the end of the day, we’re all here for fun, and a bit of respect goes a long way,even if it’s not going anywhere after that.

What about you,do you think there’s a ‘right’ way to handle it, or is it all situational?."

I most likely wouldn’t proceed further if I had any doubts but although situational, it’s about the respect but also emotional intelligence and maturity how people will handle the situation.

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By *ealitybitesMan
29 weeks ago

Belfast

I've met people through fab who had amazing pics on their profile and initially appeared to be generous human beings and were complimented daily on the forums.

Then covid lockdown arrived and over a period of a few months continued chat they revealed their true self full of hatred for people they pretended to be fab friends with in public and very comfortable sharing other people's personal details.

Thankfully my relationship with them had never gone beyond a social but to answer the original question, any attraction I have for others will always be tempered by how they speak to or about others and how they conduct themselves.

I've never been attracted to those who turn ugly as soon as they open their mouths so it doesn't matter how they present themselves physically if they don't have a personality to match.

It's one of the reasons I'm extremely fussy who I meet on here and even more so when it comes to having sex

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By *ikeC81Man
29 weeks ago

harrow

Tbh I would probably have it the other way around….personality for me is important.

Yeah there has to be some sexual attraction but rather have a person who is not a knob lol

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By *viatrixWoman
29 weeks ago

Redhill

It depends on what those beliefs are…

If they like pineapple on pizza, or prefer vanilla over chocolate ice cream, I can let it slide.

If they are in any way racist, misogynistic, ignorant or downright stupid I just can’t. No matter how good they look or how good they are at the sex. I wouldn’t know the latter anyway because that is why I spend a lot of time talking on here followed by a social.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
29 weeks ago

Hull

Yes I’m a man ! As would most men if she was stood in front of you naked and asking you to fuck her !!!! But I do understand where you are coming from .I don’t think guys on here are looking for the connection you are asking .

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By *sWyldWoman
29 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yea. I had a date with a Tory recently and despite his views I still would have. He was pretty and I got the impression he would have been a lot of fun. However he quickly ruined his chances in other ways.

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
29 weeks ago

Hatfield

Not sure I could … the sexual attraction stakes are important for course but if someone had values and ethics that could slide under a slug I’ll lose the attraction in the chat before sexual liaison could commence .. and I include Salam Hayek in that ..

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
29 weeks ago

Hatfield


"Not sure I could … the sexual attraction stakes are important for course but if someone had values and ethics that could slide under a slug I’ll lose the attraction in the chat before sexual liaison could commence .. and I include Salam Hayek in that ..

"

Not that SH has poor ethics or values… I just fancy the pants off her …

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By *ags73Man
29 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜"

This

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By *dam1971Man
29 weeks ago

Bedford


"Yes I’m a man ! As would most men if she was stood in front of you naked and asking you to fuck her !!!! But I do understand where you are coming from .I don’t think guys on here are looking for the connection you are asking ."

You’re assuming that most men are the same as you; look at the replies and you’ll find it’s very different.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
29 weeks ago

Reading

No because their views would be more a turn off than their looks could ever be.

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
29 weeks ago

Hounslow


"It would depend what those beliefs were.

Politics, religion, I could let it go.

Vegan? Fuck off.

"
haha

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By *eddy004Man
29 weeks ago

Toy Town

That would be a no from me. Beauty is skin deep and very superficial, true characters show through quickly and end up leaving lasting impressions.

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By *mf123Man
29 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Yes i dont care peoples values or politics im in it for making orgasms if i were in it to begin with

But saying that if shes dull as a dead fish now thats a different story i cant get a hardon for boring people who dont laugh

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By *irty-pairCouple
29 weeks ago

Essex

It depends on how hot they are, and how much I disagreed with them

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By *mf123Man
29 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I do love forum bullshit answers to questions like this tho it does make this place

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
29 weeks ago

Hounslow

Depends on how radical their views were. But not meeting someone because they voted remain or because they voted conservative is pathetic!

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Yes, unless their views are exceptionally extreme. The "never fuck a Tory" brigade is a good example of self-righteousness gone wonky. If we can't accept that other people have different beliefs (and that their beliefs are equally valid to ours) we are missing the point of humanity.

Besides, there are some hot young Tory women...

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By *tsJustKateWoman
29 weeks ago

London

As a one-off meet, I really couldn't care less what their values or beliefs were. Also couldn't care if they were physically attractive or not.

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By *egoMan
29 weeks ago

Preston

Sure.

Mindless f..u..n

Doesn’t require the mind.

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By *atthewandjane.1984Couple
29 weeks ago

northampton

yes jane can just enjoy the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them.

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By *partharmonyCouple
29 weeks ago

Ruislip

I think we'd have difficulty getting it on with Trumpist no matter how hot they were.

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By *riel13Woman
29 weeks ago

Northampton

A personality I dislike can put me off very quickly... I would probably not get to know many of their views but that's probably not a bad thing sometimes

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
29 weeks ago

Hounslow


"I think we'd have difficulty getting it on with Trumpist no matter how hot they were. "
I find it difficult to see how it would affect you and having a meet with someone or a couple.

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By *oandstephMan
29 weeks ago

Bradford

Surely thats similar to hate sex? Someone can annoy you so much you fuck it out of them?

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By *ertcoupleCouple
29 weeks ago

Hatfield

Erm my Mrs sleeps with me!!! I'm pretty sure she hates me 😁😁😁

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By *entlemanrogueMan
29 weeks ago

Motherwell


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

I could, I'd love to hate fuck a Tory.

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By *ruceyyMan
29 weeks ago

London

Yes, I don't really give a shit as long as they don't start shouting nonsense

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By *BWmetalcouple666Couple
29 weeks ago

houghton

It depends on their beliefs

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By *ellinever70Woman
29 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Why do men want to use sex as a punishment towards someone they don't like

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By *erdyEstLdner 82Man
29 weeks ago

Ilford

If it is a one off and you're not likely to see them again why not? A lot of women have only got with me purely to tick a box off of their "Fuck-it" List, which stings for a bit but if I know that it is only sex and isn't going anywhere further then you get on with it and move on.

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By *hunky GentMan
29 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Yeah, no problem.

I'll just gag her.

That'll keep her quiet.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Someone has to be exactly what I'm looking for, otherwise it doesn't happen.

I don't feel the need to compromise.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
29 weeks ago

ilkley and Stockport

In principle, if the only thing I'm doing with them is having sex, then I won't even be aware of anything about them that I disagree with. However as in practice it seems that the only way I get to have sex with someone is after a long period of talking and social interaction (anything from 6 months to ten years), if we're going to disagree on important matters then we'll never even get as far as shagging...

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Chichester


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

Sure as I would only looking to fuck / cum and then bounce out. In effect I’d see them merely as toy thing to use and discard once finished

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By *midnight-Woman
29 weeks ago

...


"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them."

What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style

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By *ruceyyMan
29 weeks ago

London


"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them.

What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style "

Obvs he likes horses! Bucking bronco him up!

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By *midnight-Woman
29 weeks ago

...


"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them.

What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style

Obvs he likes horses! Bucking bronco him up!"

Oh I didn't think that through 🤣🤣🤣

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By *a LunaWoman
29 weeks ago

o o OO o o

If I could gaffer tape their mouth shut then yeah, probably

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By *Silver-Man
29 weeks ago

North Wales

Depends what her fanny beliefs are

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By *uenevereWoman
29 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

In a club I don't doubt that I have. In some cases I didn't even get a name

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Same my cock is solid

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By *aughtylist DuoCouple
29 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

If we're in a club and it's a one off thing then yeah. We're there for fun

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By *cflirtyMan
29 weeks ago

Hampshire

I think my realisation of there beliefs would come after the deed was done

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By *orthern StarsCouple
29 weeks ago

Durham

Absolutely we could. When we meet in a club we don't even discuss beliefs and serious stuff. We are there for light-hearted conversation, fun, laughter and sex if it happens.

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By *edagainMan
29 weeks ago

Newcastle

I’ve never had sex with a woman who thought women are better drivers than men! I just couldn’t let the lads down

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By *idnightMischiefMan
29 weeks ago

London

I'm vegan, so I disagree with the actions and beliefs of 98% of the population - so, if I ever want to get laid then I need to compromise.

(never in a relationship though)

But, if someone was a fox hunter, fur hag, vivisector or consciously involved in animal abuse that would be an entirely different matter.

There are a few other issues I wouldn't like to compromise on, but at the end of the day, it all depends on how blue my balls are.

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By *sjrcMan
29 weeks ago

Glasgow

Yeah, to a limit anyway. Don’t think could shag a raging facist or racist, but yeah it good to mix, shag, talk… to folk with different perspectives and beliefs. Especially yes if it purely fucking

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By *luttTV/TS
29 weeks ago

Duns


"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person?

I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing.

(Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)"

It’s simply a question of how far really, along I suppose with how much talking is involved!

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By *apio51Man
29 weeks ago

airport

Really depends on the level of fuckery they were operating at and/or how vocal they were about it.

I’m all for differences of opinion, even discussions about them but narrow mindedness or the inability to accept that someone else happens to have a difference of opinion is more likely to turn me off someone than a different belief system.

Homophobia is probably a red line, as is transphobia. But, I guess, they have to speak about it for me to know, and I don’t think that subject would come up in casual conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago


"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them.

What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style "

I love cowgirl style

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By *ad NannaWoman
29 weeks ago

East London

If they didn't talk about any of it, and they weren't racist, homophobic, animal haters etc.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
29 weeks ago

Durham

Ah, the classic "hot but not so hot on their beliefs" dilemma! It’s like finding a perfect piece of chocolate cake only to discover it’s been baked with a side of questionable politics. 🍰🤔

So, here’s my take. If it’s just a one-off, and you’re equipped with a strong moral compass (and a really good sense of humour), you could probably navigate those waters. I mean, if you can keep it light and fun, who says you can’t enjoy dessert without having to eat the whole meal? Just remember to keep your brain in gear while your heart (and other things) are getting all googly-eyed!

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By *issalignedTV/TS
29 weeks ago

London

When Elon Musk makes a move , I’ll not say no

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By *partharmonyCouple
29 weeks ago

Ruislip


"I think we'd have difficulty getting it on with Trumpist no matter how hot they were. I find it difficult to see how it would affect you and having a meet with someone or a couple. "

It would affect us because we don't just turn up and gace sex with people and go home. We want to have a bit of banter. We want to like the person, not just find them physically attractive. We're likely to talk about things that matter to us and them.

If we find that somebody has views and values that are diametrically opposed to ours, we're not really going to like them. If we don't lijetgem, we're not going to want to have sex with them.

Liking different music, food, films etc. won't make much difference. Having a fundamentally different view of decency and reality (which we find in Trump-supporters) is something that would put us off intimacy with them.

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