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"Not really no, then I don’t have sex in clubs or at parties or any kind of encounter with people that I don’t know. For me sex is beyond the physical." Exactly this  | |||
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"For a one off…….i doubt I’d be discovering their beliefs, etc. It’d be all about doing the sex. " I think you can have a feel of someone on here by how they present themselves, on the forum, for example? | |||
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"Yes - I doubt any of us are 100% aligned in everything with any person we have sex with. The question is how far out does it have to go before I say enough is enough? Someone’s political views don’t matter to me - they are legally held and I like diversity of thought. " I’m not interested in politics and I’m very interested in diverse thinking & beliefs, but values & mindset are important. If they are self-centred, bitchy or gossipy, talking negatively about others etc, it’s a huge turn off. | |||
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"I don't have one night stands, NSA etc so that's a very easy no. I know that's quite rare on here but... I'm okay with that. I also know people will/are fib(bing) because they don't want to say they do which is weird. There's nothing wrong with NSA if that's your thing. " Because on the forums many people aren’t actual swingers and see NSA or one offs as being too promiscuous or indiscriminate | |||
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"As a one off pure sexual pleasure type thing it is doable, just keep the conversation and focus on the sexual side of things and don’t get into a conversation about politics etc. Unless they are totally against red wine or coffee and the it could be a deal breaker 😂" Red wine is the sacred blood of Jesus Christ our saviour | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." No | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." That would likely kill the moment. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." That's not enough for me to not sleep with them if they've given me the horn at that moment but it is enough for me to talk about it afterwards. Kinda post coital conversation. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." No. Cuntish behaviour to others, will destroy any attraction I ever had to them. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." I can only have sex with people I like so... no. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." That’s a hard line and the kind of moral separation that would rule it out | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." As much as I hate that kinda behaviour. I could be down for some angry sex if they were that hot. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." It would be a no at that point. Similarly if they started on about 'migrants' used words like 'convid ' 'sheeple ' or 'liebour ' or told me to 'do your own research '. | |||
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"Hmm, that's a tough one. Somebody being absolutely heinous can turn the most attractive person to a very unpleasant person.. " No. They could be the hottest person alive,but if they turned out to be a Nazi sympathizer I'd be gone | |||
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"Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜" What I was wanting to say in just 5 words. Amazing. | |||
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 . The main thing is in this environment with regards NSA we're here to fulfil our sexual desires not scrutinise the morals and opinions of others.
Yet all that said we are very fickle and we tend to get into a bedroom situation after building some chemistry. So most of the time good looks walk and passions die when someone gives us the ick. It's happened a few times. However it is a matter to what extent, we're tolerant of different ideas, the worlds a broad church and most people are decent. We can find spark and connection with people of some difference in background and politics. I think what really kills it for us is people who are disrespectful of other or kick down on others and people who are particularly dull.
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing." This happened to me many years ago when meeting someone for the first time. She was doing a returns at Argos and was, I thought, unnecessary rude to the staff member trying to help her. When we left I gently pointed out how rude she was and that the staff member was doing all in their power to help. She was actually mortified when her behaviour was highlighted and turned out to be one of the nicest people you could meet who was going through her own heavy shit. | |||
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"Could, yes. Would, not knowingly 💜" Perfectly put. | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing. It would be a no at that point. Similarly if they started on about 'migrants' used words like 'convid ' 'sheeple ' or 'liebour ' or told me to 'do your own research '. " You missed 'snowflake' for a fab bingo full house. But yep. I agree with that. | |||
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"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are. Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no. I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general." I'd have sex with kai | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" No I couldn't Even if it was a 1 time thing you can almost guarantee at some point they would say something that would make you think  | |||
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"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are. Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no. I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general. I'd have sex with kai" Id watch | |||
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"Ok, an example, again - purely hypothetical. Let’s say you’re having a coffee social, the chemistry is insane. All you can think of is having sex with them. Then you see them being not so nice to the staff, or rude to the people on the parking lot. Do you still progress to sex or it’s a no? This kind of thing. This happened to me many years ago when meeting someone for the first time. She was doing a returns at Argos and was, I thought, unnecessary rude to the staff member trying to help her. When we left I gently pointed out how rude she was and that the staff member was doing all in their power to help. She was actually mortified when her behaviour was highlighted and turned out to be one of the nicest people you could meet who was going through her own heavy shit. " Interesting that. Makes me wonder how easily people can judge someone without knowing the full context behind their actions. | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" Yes, to me those things only apply to relationships and long term friendships. | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" No problem at all | |||
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"Yes, to a point. It would depend on how far and extreme those beliefs are. Disagree is one thing, but when something greatly conflicts with views I feel strongly about or it's a very extreme take on their part, then no. I may not know every single little detail and their views on everything but for me to be at the point of wanting to get with them, I'll have a pretty good idea on the person they are and their views in general. I'd have sex with kai" We can't! Em said it can't happen | |||
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"It would depend what those beliefs were. Politics, religion, I could let it go. Vegan? Fuck off. " Haha.. my girl! 🤣 | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" We play predominantly in clubs and there I don't necessarily ask for a guy's name, let alone his political or religious views. As long as there is a mutual physical attraction that's enough for good sex. | |||
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"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?" Ghosting or blocking feels a bit harsh unless something really bad happened. If it’s a one-off, I’d at least say a quick ‘thanks for the night’ or something polite before moving on. At the end of the day, we’re all here for fun, and a bit of respect goes a long way,even if it’s not going anywhere after that. What about you,do you think there’s a ‘right’ way to handle it, or is it all situational?. | |||
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"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here?" It’s a one off thing like you said and I’m sure if it was arranged through this site our objective would be common, good sex. Therefore, I personally wouldn’t care about their views or who they voted for and if they were values I didn’t agree with then that’s ok, they’re entitled to those, it wouldn’t make a difference to what I thought. | |||
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"Ok, so for those who said they would - clubs aside - what would you do or say after, if anything? Or just ghost/block if it was from here? Ghosting or blocking feels a bit harsh unless something really bad happened. If it’s a one-off, I’d at least say a quick ‘thanks for the night’ or something polite before moving on. At the end of the day, we’re all here for fun, and a bit of respect goes a long way,even if it’s not going anywhere after that. What about you,do you think there’s a ‘right’ way to handle it, or is it all situational?." I most likely wouldn’t proceed further if I had any doubts but although situational, it’s about the respect but also emotional intelligence and maturity how people will handle the situation. | |||
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"Not sure I could … the sexual attraction stakes are important for course but if someone had values and ethics that could slide under a slug I’ll lose the attraction in the chat before sexual liaison could commence .. and I include Salam Hayek in that .. " Not that SH has poor ethics or values… I just fancy the pants off her … | |||
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"Yes I’m a man ! As would most men if she was stood in front of you naked and asking you to fuck her !!!! But I do understand where you are coming from .I don’t think guys on here are looking for the connection you are asking ." You’re assuming that most men are the same as you; look at the replies and you’ll find it’s very different. | |||
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"It would depend what those beliefs were. Politics, religion, I could let it go. Vegan? Fuck off. " haha | |||
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"I think we'd have difficulty getting it on with Trumpist no matter how hot they were. " I find it difficult to see how it would affect you and having a meet with someone or a couple. | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" I could, I'd love to hate fuck a Tory. | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" Sure as I would only looking to fuck / cum and then bounce out. In effect I’d see them merely as toy thing to use and discard once finished | |||
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"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them." What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style | |||
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"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them. What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style "Obvs he likes horses! Bucking bronco him up! | |||
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"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them. What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style
Obvs he likes horses! Bucking bronco him up!"Oh I didn't think that through 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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(never in a relationship though)
But, if someone was a fox hunter, fur hag, vivisector or consciously involved in animal abuse that would be an entirely different matter.
There are a few other issues I wouldn't like to compromise on, but at the end of the day, it all depends on how blue my balls are.  | |||
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"you find physically attractive and they tick all your boxes sexually wise but you don’t necessarily agree with their values and beliefs, or even with who they are as a person? I’m talking one off type of situation, not an ongoing thing. (Purely hypothetical question of course, for entertainment and research purposes only.)" It’s simply a question of how far really, along I suppose with how much talking is involved! | |||
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"Say for instance, they love to eat horse meet; I'll still fuck them, but I'll never kiss them. What about if they wanted to ride you? Cowgirl style "I love cowgirl style | |||
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"I think we'd have difficulty getting it on with Trumpist no matter how hot they were. I find it difficult to see how it would affect you and having a meet with someone or a couple. " It would affect us because we don't just turn up and gace sex with people and go home. We want to have a bit of banter. We want to like the person, not just find them physically attractive. We're likely to talk about things that matter to us and them. If we find that somebody has views and values that are diametrically opposed to ours, we're not really going to like them. If we don't lijetgem, we're not going to want to have sex with them. Liking different music, food, films etc. won't make much difference. Having a fundamentally different view of decency and reality (which we find in Trump-supporters) is something that would put us off intimacy with them. | |||
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