FabSwingers.com forum: Public swearing

By *obilebottom OP Man
3 weeks ago

All over

Does it bother you? I am talking when other people can hear like on the train, in a cafe, in a shop or other such public spaces. I will declare from the start that it does bother me. I have no issue what anyone does in private but I think it is disrespectful to hear all that swearing in public these days. Many years ago one of the neighbours was swearing so much when in his garden that everyone could hear him. The lady on the other side complained to the authorities as she did not want her kids hearing that all the time. Surely swearing in public is bad manners at best. My opinion of course but yours may differ.

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By *avexxMan
3 weeks ago

cheshire

im a bit old school mb,,, and i dont like it

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By *aryportmeatMan
3 weeks ago

Whitehaven

Yes it bothers me, I always got told off,

My dad always said it shows lack of intelligence and vocabulary.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

I don’t like it. In public or in private.

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 weeks ago

London

Context is king, obviously, but can't say it bothers me that much.

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By *orbidden eastMan
3 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s slightly disrespectful, but I think if it’s done in a manner of not being too loud, it’s okay

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By *elloIntrigueMan
3 weeks ago

North West UK

It's sometimes just part of someones normal vocabulary... It doesn't bother me too much.

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By *obilebottom OP Man
3 weeks ago

All over

"im a bit old school mb,,, and i dont like it"

Glad I am not the only one. Old school or not

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 weeks ago

London

"Context is king, obviously, but can't say it bothers me that much."

Side note: but anyone speaking so loudly that the whole bus/train can hear their side of the conversation is a first rate twat, swearing or not.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
3 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

It doesn't bother me tbh, the kids pick up most of their swear words at school from peers, not on the street from Joe public.

I enjoy educating mine to use different words, change "fuck off" to "hotdog". It's not offensive unless you take the tone In which it is said as offensive, which most Joe public won't.

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By *ony MannMan
3 weeks ago

Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura

I don't like the miss use of the Saxon language.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
3 weeks ago

your head

No, doesn't bother me. People having a loud public argument or walking around with their phones on loudspeaker for everyone to hear their conversation bothers me more. My children have been taught not to repeat what they hear others say.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
3 weeks ago

Ashbourne

I don’t swear myself but it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I was walking past a school at playtime and there were road workers swearing to each other from opposite sides of the street loudly. Nobody said anything. I do believe there is a time and a place.

I’m a parent and won’t berate my child for swearing so long as it’s in the right context.

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By *ansoffateMan
3 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I honestly don't find swearing publicly offensive, unless in conjunction with offensive behaviour e.g. threatening someone.

It can be hard to ascertain the meaning of a sentence, if every other word is an expletive; seemingly, grammatically chaotic. At times I am tempted to point out the various different formulations of meaning their words could represent back to them, for a little humour.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't like it.

I have to say though that I swear more now than I ever have but never in public.

Growing up I only heard my dad swear once. He said "bloody" when my brothers did something really, really dangerous.

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By *ilyandronCouple
3 weeks ago

Bristol

I often make citizen arrests

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By *mf123Man
3 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

As a perminant public spongbob swear pants i dont care

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By *aughty driverMan
3 weeks ago

Romford

Avoid swearing myself. Although been around it my whole life always within Nearshot doesnt really bother me. I dislike people swearing at each other though

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By *aughty driverMan
3 weeks ago

Romford

"I often make citizen arrests"

I have never seen someone make a citizens arrest

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By *oxy-RedWoman
3 weeks ago

pink panther territory

Yes I think that publicly swearing is offensive,I've often been on the bus with my Grandson when all you can hear is bad language and he even repeated so to say I was mortified was an understatement

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By *enk15Man
3 weeks ago

Evesham

I don’t find swearing offensive at all.

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By *lison tvTV/TS
3 weeks ago

near Pontefract

It is classed a a public offensive if a police officer is there

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By *elly72Woman
3 weeks ago

glasgow

I try not to in front of kids. But I swear a whole fn lot so it’s hard

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By *ivpoolmanMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

"I try not to in front of kids. But I swear a whole fn lot so it’s hard

Same x

I try not to at home but swear like a trooper in the pub x

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I'm afraid I dislike it as well. Swearing is the illiterate's substitute for eloquence, my dad used to say. As I've got older, I tend to agree.

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By *apio51Man
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh ish

I hate it.

I'm glad others do too. It's become more and more ubiquitous and it's vile.

I do swear, but I keep it in context. For the record I have worked my entire life in heavy industry with almost exclusively males who are a bit sweary. I dont mind it in that context, but if I'm out doing some shopping I don't want to hear some Jakey effing and jeffing.

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By *nomeforyourboneWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Bothers is a strong word, I'm not going to lose sleep over it but sometimes excessive swearing is unnecessary. Some environments don't need it especially in public spaces. There is a trend though where some people think swearing and being vulgar is a personality so wouldn't say it's authentic swearing either.

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By *idnight RamblerMan
3 weeks ago

Pershore

It can be funny and effective for occasional emphasis, but overused is just vulgar and crass.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
3 weeks ago

St Leonards

I'm an enormous fan of swearing in many circumstances.

And it makes me wince in others.

The descriptions of circumstances you've given OP I would consistently file under "wince".

It's a very useful tool I deploy when people are giving themselves too many airs and graces though.

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By *ir tootMan
3 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Bothers is a strong word, I'm not going to lose sleep over it but sometimes excessive swearing is unnecessary. Some environments don't need it especially in public spaces. There is a trend though where some people think swearing and being vulgar is a personality so wouldn't say it's authentic swearing either."

Had a guy arguing in Starbucks recently over the phone, airing his dirty laundry..

Maybe she found out he was wiping his knob on the curtains again.

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By *nomeforyourboneWoman
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

Had a guy arguing in Starbucks recently over the phone, airing his dirty laundry..

Maybe she found out he was wiping his knob on the curtains again."

Well if you're going to be waving your curtains around, people will come to that conclusion.

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By *ir tootMan
3 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Had a guy arguing in Starbucks recently over the phone, airing his dirty laundry..

Maybe she found out he was wiping his knob on the curtains again.

Well if you're going to be waving your curtains around, people will come to that conclusion."

True true 🤣

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I think people who swear all the time in public are fucking gobshites.

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Couldn’t give a fuck about swearing

Do care when people are having loud conversations over their phone airing all their laundry

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By *annibal_LickedherMan
3 weeks ago

The Side of the Mersey

I love swearing but I am careful about my audience. Hate people who swear in front of kids. My mum hates it so I don’t swear in front of her.

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By *coobyABCMan
3 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I worked with a guy who learned English while working in a Glasgow ship yard. He was asked to describe the English language and his answer was. Swearing, then constructing a sentence around it.

People who can't hold their phones to their ear and chat, are far more annoying.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

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By *oomlMan
3 weeks ago

Fareham

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?"

Just before Christmas when I picked my grandchildren up from school one of them sold me that a Christmas song has swearing in it. I said which one and he said Mary's boy child "Jesus Christ"

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By *inkygentkentMan
3 weeks ago

Maidstone

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?"

Actually I do wince when someone blasphemes, more than when someone swears

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

Just before Christmas when I picked my grandchildren up from school one of them sold me that a Christmas song has swearing in it. I said which one and he said Mary's boy child "Jesus Christ""

I don't think of blasphemy in the same way as swearing. I say "oh my god" a lot and "bloody" sometimes. I'm not sure if 'hell' and 'damn ' is blasphemy but I use those words too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

Actually I do wince when someone blasphemes, more than when someone swears"

My mum used to say she'd rather someone swore than blasphemed. She was quite religious

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By *eordieJeansCouple
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I don’t personally swear loudly in public but I couldn’t give a shit if others do. I’ve got bigger problems than strangers using a few four letter words.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
3 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

Actually I do wince when someone blasphemes, more than when someone swears

My mum used to say she'd rather someone swore than blasphemed. She was quite religious"

Bang goes my "God's a cunt" thread then

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

Actually I do wince when someone blasphemes, more than when someone swears

My mum used to say she'd rather someone swore than blasphemed. She was quite religious

Bang goes my "God's a cunt" thread then

It's fine she's not in fab...

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
3 weeks ago

St Leonards

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?

Actually I do wince when someone blasphemes, more than when someone swears

My mum used to say she'd rather someone swore than blasphemed. She was quite religious

Bang goes my "God's a cunt" thread then

It's fine she's not in fab..."

💜

❤️

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Do people differentiate between swearing and blasphemy?"

God no.

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By *ommy2125Man
3 weeks ago

newport

I think it depends on context/surroundings. generally agree though op and think some people don't think about where they are, who is around them or what they are saying. And I don't like it either

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Does it bother you? I am talking when other people can hear like on the train, in a cafe, in a shop or other such public spaces. I will declare from the start that it does bother me. I have no issue what anyone does in private but I think it is disrespectful to hear all that swearing in public these days. Many years ago one of the neighbours was swearing so much when in his garden that everyone could hear him. The lady on the other side complained to the authorities as she did not want her kids hearing that all the time. Surely swearing in public is bad manners at best. My opinion of course but yours may differ.

Our current neighbours vocabulary seems to be very limited to about 4 word's all of them swearing.

I sat and counted one evening in 5 minute period he (this is not including the other person in the room,his mum) he said the F word 28 times.

I literally couldn't keep up with it.

Sad that I'm counting but when they are keeping you awake until the early hours and all you can do is sit and listen to them,what else do you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

It's hideous, and even worse when you see young kids walking along doing it too.

Plenty of other words to use

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
3 weeks ago

Coventry

We are blessed with a wide vocabulary, including a wide vocabulary of profanity. Both of us aren't precious around the use of swear words in adult company (situation granted). So if you're engaging in carefree conversation with us expect a fair few profanities causally thrown in (including some rather good ones).

On the point of situation we were at a naturist spa last night talking to a lovely lady. She mentioned (in conversation, not being judgy or condescending) that she does not like the use of swear works. Which sparked a fun conversation about them. Naturally out of respect we were careful to modify our language.

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By *icolasHidalgoDeCorazonMan
3 weeks ago

St Leonards

There's another side to this too.

Which is people who very rarely swear, but they've just been pushed too far by their boss, parent, best friend, puddle splashed on their clothes by a passing vehicle etc.

They go very tense, red-faced, and then blurt out every expletive locked inside for the previous few years. Usually in a sentence that makes no sense at all.

That's just impossibly cute.

I had/have two female relatives like this, and when it happened I couldn't stop laughing, and they didn't know whether to laugh or cry but they were damned well going to get out those 10 swear words somehow before deciding which 🥰🥰🥰.

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By *ddie1966Man
3 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I'm with you on this one MB.

Vocabular profanity in a public place is neither necessary or called for. Especially when there are young ears around.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not highly educated in English Language (CSE Grade 4), but even I can get by without using profanity even as a last resort.

I cut the tip of my finger off with a circular saw and the worst I said was "oh blast".

In fact, I have in the past and will in the future, pulled people up publicly for swearing. Their response. "Mind your own business" my response, "when you mind your language"

There really is no need for it.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I'm with you on this one MB.

Vocabular profanity in a public place is neither necessary or called for. Especially when there are young ears around.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not highly educated in English Language (CSE Grade 4), but even I can get by without using profanity even as a last resort.

I cut the tip of my finger off with a circular saw and the worst I said was "oh blast".

In fact, I have in the past and will in the future, pulled people up publicly for swearing. Their response. "Mind your own business" my response, "when you mind your language"

There really is no need for it.

I’m sure there was a study that found people who use profanity tend to be more intelligent so I don’t really get why people bring intelligence into the argument.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

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